#  @loversbyshan Lovers by Shan Lovers by Shan posts on YouTube about shan, relationships, in the, kama the most. They currently have [-------] followers and [---] posts still getting attention that total [------] engagements in the last [--] hours. ### Engagements: [------] [#](/creator/youtube::UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng/interactions)  - [--] Week [-------] +85% - [--] Month [-------] +146% - [--] Months [---------] +22% - [--] Year [---------] +1,014% ### Mentions: [--] [#](/creator/youtube::UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng/posts_active)  - [--] Week [--] +9.10% - [--] Month [--] -3% - [--] Months [---] -17% - [--] Year [---] +12,750% ### Followers: [-------] [#](/creator/youtube::UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng/followers)  - [--] Week [-------] +1.10% - [--] Month [-------] +2.20% - [--] Months [-------] +18% - [--] Year [-------] +75% ### CreatorRank: [-------] [#](/creator/youtube::UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng/influencer_rank)  ### Social Influence **Social category influence** [finance](/list/finance) [stocks](/list/stocks) [technology brands](/list/technology-brands) [social networks](/list/social-networks) [countries](/list/countries) [travel destinations](/list/travel-destinations) [musicians](/list/musicians) [celebrities](/list/celebrities) **Social topic influence** [shan](/topic/shan) #82, [relationships](/topic/relationships) #720, [in the](/topic/in-the), [kama](/topic/kama), [parenting](/topic/parenting) #988, [abby](/topic/abby) #332, [de la](/topic/de-la), [how to](/topic/how-to), [health](/topic/health) #4478, [fear of](/topic/fear-of) **Top accounts mentioned or mentioned by** [@loversbyshancom](/creator/undefined) [@decisionspod](/creator/undefined) [@datingcoachanwar](/creator/undefined) [@theejessiewoo](/creator/undefined) [@seemaanandstorytelling](/creator/undefined) [@alessiacara](/creator/undefined) [@gmailcom](/creator/undefined) [@shanboody](/creator/undefined) [@ravensymone](/creator/undefined) [@kiergaines](/creator/undefined) [@kierandnoemie](/creator/undefined) [@jvn](/creator/undefined) [@higherlearning](/creator/undefined) [@rosaacosta](/creator/undefined) [@jessiereyez](/creator/undefined) [@thejessiewoo](/creator/undefined) [@mirandamaday](/creator/undefined) [@deepica](/creator/undefined) [@karamo](/creator/undefined) [@beleafinfatherhood](/creator/undefined) ### Top Social Posts Top posts by engagements in the last [--] hours "What Men Risk When They Stay Quiet ft. Kier Gaines Thank you to Arya for sponsoring this episode Interested in getting expert help spicing up your Valentines Day Learn more about Arya the couple's membership service that helps you make breaking the routine your new and exciting routine. Just go to https://www.arya.fyi/vdayshan. In this episode of Lovers therapist Kier Gaines shares a personal and professional reflection on how resentment builds when men are taught to silence their emotional truth. Kier opens up about a pivotal moment in his own relationship when he realized that his partners" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=WUuUmq7PV6Q) 2026-02-04T05:52Z 187K followers, 67.9K engagements "Someone Out There Is Praying for What You Already Have Ft. Chy Theres someone out there with everything you want and they're praying for what you already have. Two truths can exist:You can be grateful and still ache for more.You can have peace and still want partnership.You can love your life and still long for whats missing. That longing doesnt make you ungrateful it just makes you human. Were all reaching for wholeness just from different directions. But while youre reaching for whats next dont forget to celebrate the dreams youve already made real. Whats one dream youve already made real" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=ikt30Y0ulTc) 2025-10-28T18:57Z 187K followers, 11.8K engagements "Cree Summer on the Relationship Between Safety and Sex Drive In this weeks episode I sit down with the legendary Cree Summer to talk about her journey through love loss and rediscovery in her 50s. Cree opens up about losing her sex drive during her marriage due to a lack of emotional shelter and the importance of finding a partner who provides safety and calm during lifes storms. We also dive into how her sex drive has improved post-menopause and what shes looking forward to as she explores love again in her senior years. Whether youre navigating relationships rethinking intimacy or seeking" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=-jES2iT2l4o) 2025-04-30T18:50Z 187K followers, 364.7K engagements "Relationship Standards That Matter Most Ft. Abby De La Rosa Communication. Honesty. S*xual health transparency. These are Abbys non-negotiables. She explains why having the full truth mattersso she can make informed intentional choices in her life. What are your top non-negotiables 🎙The full episode is out now on YouTube and wherever you listen to your podcasts. ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=66RjwgMhRI8) 2026-02-13T15:00Z 187K followers, [----] engagements "Not Every Autistic Person Looks the Same Ft. Chrisette Michele After Chrisette told the man she was dating that shes autistic he said I have a nephew whos autistic and he doesnt act like you. It was heartbreaking but also revealing. What he saw as simple preferencesearplugs quiet rooms dim lightswere actually the ways she keeps herself regulated. Autism doesnt have one look one sound or one story. #LoversByShan #ChrisetteMichele #AutismAwareness #Neurodivergence #AutismAcceptance #LoversPodcast ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=6E1lr7G0qEw) 2025-10-31T18:30Z 187K followers, 1.2M engagements "Should Relationships be THIS Hard ft. Beleaf & Yvette Henry Are relationships supposed to be THIS Hard This week on LOVERS Shan sits down with Glen and Yvette Henry the couple behind the viral family brand Beleaf in Fatherhood. Glen known as Beleaf has a new book coming out titled Father Yourself First which challenges men to approach fatherhood as a path of healing self-awareness and personal accountability. In this conversation Glen and Yvette open up about how hard marriage can be especially after kids success and faith transitions. From getting married young to raising four children and" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=6enxB1ZEAYA) 2025-10-15T00:56Z 187K followers, 63K engagements "When Ego Gets in the Way of Co-Parenting Ft. Abby De La Rosa If everyone consented to the dynamic why is cordial co-parenting still so hard Abbys answer is: ego. She says she really tried the kumbaya and sisterhood approach and it just didnt work. So now she focuses on her family and her peace. 🎙The full episode is out now on YouTube and wherever you listen to your podcasts. ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=EBgeXKlvs5Q) 2026-02-12T22:46Z 187K followers, [----] engagements "An Uncommon Guide to the Kama Sutra (You'll Be Shocked By What We Found) feat. Seema Anand Get Seema and Shans jewelry line Kama HTTP://surmeyi.com/kama The Kama Sutra a renowned ancient Indian Sanskrit text often perceived as a guide to sexual positions and techniques is in fact a comprehensive guide to virtuous and gracious living. Written between [---] BCE and [---] CE by a sage named Vatsyayana this text covers various aspects of life including family relationships and personal conduct amongst others. The Kama Sutra is a profound ancient text that offers wisdom not only on intimacy but on" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=F-xmzRojxYc) 2023-09-15T18:57Z 187K followers, 518.6K engagements "The Kama Sutra Secret @SeemaAnandStoryTelling Wants the World to Know About In this intimate London-based episode of LOVERS Shan sits down with the legendary storyteller and pleasure educator Seema Anand the woman who transformed shame into sacred power. From being judged and silenced for her fascination with the Kama Sutra to becoming its most celebrated modern interpreter Seema shares how self-love became her act of rebellion. Together we talk about: ✨ Growing up rebelling against libertine attitudes and then discovering Tantra ✨ The link between shame sensuality and self-expression ✨ Why" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=HfrQynAqKjo) 2025-11-12T10:31Z 187K followers, 30.1K engagements "The Real Reason We Started An Open Relationship ft. My Husband Jared In this episode of Lovers Im joined by my husband Jared Brady to tell the story of the exact day we decided to call our relationship an open relationship. Want to take the Relationship Style quiz I mentioned in the episode Click HERE https://www.loversbyshan.com/quizzes In this episode Shan Boodram and Jared Brady share intimate details from the early days of their relationship that led to them choosing to label their love as an open relationship. If your first reaction to open relationship is so cheating youre not alone and" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=IvMyR1QH21o) 2026-01-21T19:53Z 187K followers, 113K engagements "Kama Sutra Secrets Every Woman Deserves to Know ft. @SeemaAnandStoryTelling What if the key to better sex isnt new but rooted in ancestral knowledge In this episode Shan sits down with storyteller mythologist and ancient erotica expert Seema Anand to explore the rich and yes deeply sexy history of sexual liberation and why it's never really been a modern idea. Together they unpack what it means to reconnect with your desire through ancestry ritual and unapologetic self-expression. We talk sex positions (yes the Kama Sutra makes an appearance) the role of storytelling in the bedroom and how" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=S2Pj2rTHLyk) 2025-06-25T15:53Z 187K followers, 267.5K engagements "Why Nick Cannon Rejects Relationship Labels Ft. Abby De La Rosa Is it polyamory or just a lot of love Abby De La Rosa opens up about why Nick Cannon doesnt identify as polyamorous even though he loves multiple partners. If you label me you disable me. Thats how he sees it. Abby shares that she understands where hes coming from even if shes had her own perspective on it. And when it comes to their children She keeps it simple: Daddy loves many people. He just has a lot of love to give. Do you think labels create clarity in relationships or limit how people love ________________________" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=X7FPOyI3jSk) 2026-02-13T00:04Z 187K followers, 13.2K engagements "Are They Your Type or Your Trauma Response ft. @DatingCoachAnwar What does it mean to date and be in relationships in a trauma-informed way Are you dating from a place of fear instead of self-worth In this powerful episode certified dating and relationship coach Anwar White opens up about his personal journey and why emotional safety is the foundation of any healthy relationship. We explore the crucial question: Can you really date men if you're scared of them or if deep down you don't even like them Whether you're recovering from toxic relationships navigating dating anxiety or looking to" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=YDXe2A4kSwk) 2025-07-16T17:00Z 187K followers, 130.9K engagements "Why Lilly Singh was Drawn to Chaos and Drama To get 10% off your first month of therapy with BetterHelp visit http://betterhelp.com/loversbyshan. Thanks to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode This week I interview Lilly Singh actor and history-making content creator with a new movie RIGHT up our alley: Doin It (yes its a movie about sex specifically what happens when a South Asian virgin is assigned to teach sex ed). In this episode Lilly opens up about growing up in a world where emotional chaos felt familiar why she kept gravitating toward toxic partners who gave her the bare minimum and" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=g45QDcdQbng) 2025-10-01T02:06Z 187K followers, 71.6K engagements "What Time Has Proven Abby De La Rosa Returns to Clarify Her Current Relationship with Nick Cannon Thank you to our sponsor Evvy https://evvy.yt.link/SVTTsvO and use code LOVERSBYSHAN10 for 10% off your first purchase (up to $25) In this episode of Lovers Abby De La Rosa returns three years after our first conversation to reflect on what time motherhood and public scrutiny have actually taught her. When Abby first joined the show she was pregnant and navigating intense speculation about her relationship with Nick Cannon who now has [--] children with multiple partners. That episode sparked" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=itzQd4dEgSU) 2026-02-10T23:27Z 187K followers, 53.6K engagements "If They Dont Give You THIS Its a No. Kennedy Ryan says ALL Women Must Raise Their Standards Now From fatphobia to racism to ageism and ableism Kennedy challenges the norms around love desirability and who gets to be the main character. This ones for anyone who's ever felt left out of the story and is ready to take the pen back. Bestselling romance author Kennedy Ryan (Before I Let Go Reel) sits down with Shan to talk about what happens when women stop shrinking themselves to be chosen. From rewriting the stories weve inherited about sex love and partnership to questioning why women with" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=jSJxZ-XzFck) 2025-06-04T17:00Z 187K followers, 84.4K engagements "My Breakup Broke Me Open. Heres Whats Inside ft Chy Fontenette Thank you to Function Health for sponsoring this video Visit https://functionhealth.yt.link/Eug9eKx or use code LOVERS100 at sign-up to own your health. The first [----] get a $100 credit toward their membership. In her mid-30s Chy Fontenette from Behind the Likes podcast finds herself facing what feels like a full-life reset: a breakup she didnt choose friendships shifting as she starts setting boundaries and a growing awareness of the pain shes carried for years. Through tears honesty and reflection Chy admits she doesnt know" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=kccBYabN3F4) 2025-10-22T17:00Z 187K followers, 74.4K engagements "@TheRealAlysonStoner On Their Introduction to Polyamory What does it really mean to build a relationship outside the rules you were taught Is it still polyamory if only one person has other lovers And most importantly what happens when that dynamic actually works for you In this honest and eye-opening conversation multi-disciplinary entertainer author and founder of Movement Genius Alyson Stoner shares their experience in their polyamorous journey. We dive into the importance of knowing your own capacity for connection and Alysons go-to communication tool: Frequency Duration and Intensity." [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=m8m53b-NR34) 2025-08-13T17:00Z 187K followers, 65.1K engagements "Am I Still Who You Want Are You Becoming Who I Need A Relationship Check In ft @MusicMondayEnjoy Watch what happens when you ask for a performance review in your relationship. Do the hard and awkward questions lead to more intimacy or new resentments In this weeks episode of Lovers Shan sits down with her husband Jared Brady for their quarterly relationship check-in on camera. Together they ask the tough but necessary questions: Am I still who you want Are you becoming who I need This raw and real conversation reveals how couples can stay aligned navigate change and keep intimacy thriving" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=s7Qu1Ie08dA) 2025-09-10T17:00Z 187K followers, 86.2K engagements "Im Afraid Im Not Wife Material ft. Miranda Rae Mayo What if the love story you were chasing was never really yours In this episode actress Miranda Rae Mayo joins Shan to explore the journey of finding love by letting go of the fantasy. Known for her role on Chicago Fire Miranda opens up about her current relationship and how she had to release the pressure to be perfect to experience a real connection. Together they explore how love doesnt always look the way we expected and why exploring non-monogamy through an open relationship challenged (and expanded) her thoughts around love security and" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=wgevcAGf8sM) 2025-07-22T23:55Z 187K followers, 47.5K engagements "Polyamory Isnt About Indulging Every Desire Ft. Alyson Stoner Some people hear polyamory and imagine a life of constant indulgence. Always chasing the next high. But Alyson says its not about acting out every desire. Its about choosing which highs and lows are actually worth experiencing. Its about staying present not getting hijacked by your nervous system. What does mindful exploration look like to you #LoversByShan #Polyamory #IntentionalRelationships #ConsciousConnection #ModernLove #HealthyLove #DatingWithIntention #AlysonStoner #RelationshipWisdom #NonMonogamy #EmotionalIntelligence" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=-Fcm-rwxMcI) 2025-08-16T19:05Z 181K followers, [----] engagements "What Parenting Taught Me About Letting Go Ft. Glen & Yvette Henry Parenthood is a constant lesson in surrender. Balancing preparation with flexibility effort with ease and learning not to take it personal when things dont go as planned. Its messy magical and the most permanent love youll ever know. Whats something parenting taught you that nothing else could #LoversByShan #ParentingJourney #Motherhood #Fatherhood #ParentingLessons #FamilyLife #EmotionalGrowth #LoversPodcast ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=0nJ0qP2JnLo) 2025-10-21T16:28Z 167K followers, [----] engagements "Understanding Intuition Through a Neurodivergent Lens Ft. Chrisette Michele He texted Do you still love me Chrisette didnt overthink explain or soften. She just said No. She says some people might call that their gutand she relates to that even if she doesnt fully understand the science of it. It was a moment where her body and her truth finally spoke the same language. #LoversByShan #ChrisetteMichele #AutismAwareness #Neurodivergence #HealingJourney #SelfDiscovery #EmotionalFreedom #Authenticity #Intuition #LoversPodcast ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries:" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=1BWTKIb3LUI) 2025-11-03T19:51Z 177K followers, 29.9K engagements "Is Marriage Supposed to Be This Hard Ft. Glen & Yvette Henry Have you ever wondered Is marriage supposed to be this hard Our guests this week are Glen and Yvette Henry the couple behind the viral family brand Beleaf in Fatherhood. In this conversation Glen and Yvette open up about how hard marriage can be especially after kids success and faith transitions. From getting married young to raising four children and growing a public platform together theyve faced nearly every challenge that tests a couples foundation. This episode is a raw and honest reminder that struggle doesnt mean failure it" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=1lO3kkpe6SE) 2025-10-15T19:57Z 183K followers, 23.2K engagements "When Conflict Turns Lovers Into Exes ft. Tour Neblett Conflict is inevitable in long-term relationships. Damage doesnt have to be. In this episode we explore what actually separates fights that bring couples closer from fights that quietly turn lovers into enemies. We talk about the moment arguments go sideways why so many conflicts feel bigger than the issue at hand and how couples can stay on the same team even when they fundamentally disagree. Our guest Tour Neblett draws on decades of navigating high-stakes contentious conversations both publicly and privately to share what hes learned" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=2yQrOIVfxCI) 2025-12-17T17:11Z 181K followers, [---] engagements "Why Swinger Parties Can Be Amazing for Couples Ft. The Pink Parley Would you ever explore a swinger party with your partner Its a space full of curiosity and respect where couples can watch learn play together or simply connect in whatever way feels right. For many its thrilling to meet fascinating people and discover new sides of their relationship. At the core its about the freedom to choose to explore or to draw boundaries. What kind of freedom would you want to explore together #LoversByShan #ThePinkParley #LoversPodcast #SwingerLife #ExploreIntimacy #RelationshipFreedom" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=7fu8IWTRkxA) 2025-08-24T20:15Z 182K followers, [----] engagements "The Truth About Living With HIV Today Ft. Jonathan Van Ness So many people still carry misconceptions about what it means to live with HIV today. Jonathan Van Ness opened up about his diagnosis and shared how thanks to modern treatment and real information his life health and joy didnt disappear. And part of reducing stigma is understanding the tools we have including PrEP which protects people of all genders and has transformed what HIV prevention looks like today. Talking about HIV openly is how we reduce stigma and increase understanding ❤ #LoversByShan #JonathanVanNess #JVN #HIVAwareness" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=918mqjzOPdU) 2025-12-09T19:34Z 181K followers, [----] engagements "Why Being Real Beats Being Perfect Ft. Chy Fontenette Chy realized shes the she might say something crazy aunt and honestly thats the energy we love. Because showing up as your real self will always be louder freer and more meaningful than pretending to be your best self. How often do you let people see the unfiltered you #LoversByShan #Authenticity #SelfAcceptance #HealingJourney #PersonalGrowth #LoversPodcast ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=A5iy2eWvbVE) 2025-10-23T20:12Z 180K followers, 24.7K engagements "Friendship Has Given Me What They Haven't ft Sabrina Claudio In this episode of LOVERS Shan sits down with singer and songwriter Sabrina Claudio for a conversation about heartbreak loneliness friendship and the lessons that shaped her new album. Sabrina talks openly about how loneliness can quietly influence decisions including staying in relationships that feel draining. She shares what it was like to feel isolated even while partnered why she struggled to speak up about what she was going through and how she eventually chose to walk away. We also explore the idea of emotional detox the" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=ApDQLHgEJrE) 2025-11-19T18:00Z 181K followers, 24K engagements "Living With HIV: Jonathan Van Ness Shares His Story Ft. JVN Did you know in [----] more than [-----] people were diagnosed with HIV in the United States and six territories with Hispanic and Black individuals each accounting for more than a third* In this weeks @loversbyshan episode Jonathan Van Ness joins us for a deeply personal conversation about receiving an HIV diagnosis living with the fear of being misunderstood and what finally allowed him to share his story publicly. We also talk about the realities of HIV today why knowing your status matters and how tools like PrEP fit into the larger" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=CavHsli5wBI) 2025-12-01T19:26Z 181K followers, [----] engagements "Tika Sumpter On Being a Late Bloomer Inner Child Meets Modern Parent: Tika Sumpter on Doing Sex Ed Different What kind of relationship with sex do we want young people to have In this episode myself and Tika Sumpter known for her multifaceted career as an actor and creator explore this question as parents and as people reparenting themselves. In this episode Tika shares her compelling personal story that shaped her approach to intimacy and education. Growing up in a Christian household discussions about sex were often avoided or framed solely around negative consequences. This instilled fear" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=CufDK873XwY) 2025-03-05T18:00Z 183K followers, 112K engagements "Sometimes your soulmate becomes your ex full episode out now" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=DJUuIsHSAnE) 2023-02-22T19:55Z 183K followers, 190.6K engagements "Whats the Emotional Tax on Casual Sex ft. @DecisionsPod In this episode Weezy and Mandii B get real about shedding the pressure to find the one and embracing what feels good instead of what looks good on paper how we need to reverse engineer the way we have casual sex and how to set yourself up for success while dating and having casual sex. WeezyWTF expands on how sexual liberation goes hand in hand with how you approach and manifest casual sex. Mandii B & Binx open up about surviving sexual assault and how that experience reshaped their relationships with men in their community. Follow" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=DKST0YOQRdo) 2025-07-08T02:00Z 179K followers, 94.8K engagements "Kama Sutra Techniques for Better Pleasure Ft. Seema Anand Lets talk about f*ngering. According to the Kama Sutra using just the index finger can actually agitate more than it pleases the magic is in the combination of fingers. Seema showed us a few techniques that bring way more sensation. Do you have a favorite #LoversByShan #SeemaAnand #KamaSutra #PleasurePositive #SexualWellness #ConsciousIntimacy #FemaleDesire #SacredSexuality #LoversPodcast ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=D_vyLPI2g1g) 2025-11-18T17:36Z 180K followers, [----] engagements "Discovering Autism as an Adult Ft. Chrisette Michele So many of us spend years trying to understand why we are the way we are. For Grammy-winning artist Chrisette Michele that clarity came later in life through an autism diagnosisand it changed everything. In this weeks episode Chrisette opens up about what that revelation taught her about rhythm relationships and what safety really means for her. Then were joined by therapist and Autism in Black Inc. founder Maria Davis-Pierre LMHC for a deeper conversation on autism neurodivergence intimacy and how we show up for those we love. Whether" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=E2_nImK0T4Q) 2025-10-29T17:49Z 176K followers, 65.9K engagements "Queer Eyes @jvn on Ending Secrecy in His Relationships Thank you ViiV Healthcare for sponsoring this episode. To learn more about PrEp visit https://hivpreventionforus.com/ Did you know in [----] more than [-----] people were diagnosed with HIV in the United States and six territories with Hispanic and Black individuals each accounting for more than a third Source. CDC In this episode of LOVERS Shan sits down with Jonathan Van Ness for a conversation about receiving an HIV diagnosis the years he kept it private and the moment he decided he wanted the story to come from him. Jonathan shares what" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=Eh-kVvHKjzI) 2025-12-01T14:57Z 181K followers, [----] engagements "Forget What You Thought You Knew About Good Sex and Start HERE Sex is at the intersection of life and humanity. For the majority of us its how we got here and for parents its how we will continue on after we are gone. We often hear the term better sex which begs two questions: what does that mean And why is the sex we are currently having not good enough In this episode we will define the goal of sex - regardless of the stage of the relationship and we will also discuss what prevents us from having sex that lives up to our desired potential. Im going to take you on a journey as we explore the" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=F_ma9MtX5pI) 2025-02-21T14:16Z 109K followers, [----] engagements "When Everything Falls Apart Start Here Ft. Chy Fontenette Breakups. Boundaries. The version of you thats learning to rebuild. In this weeks episode Chy Fontenette from Behind the Likes podcast opens up about what it feels like to lose everything familiar and still choose yourself. If youve ever felt like youre living in the fog this one will remind you that you dont have to have it all figured out. The full episode is out now on YouTube and wherever you listen to podcasts. #LoversByShan #BreakupHealing #Boundaries #LifeReset #EmotionalHealing #SelfDiscovery #HealingJourney #LoversPodcast" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=FruAJImVhoA) 2025-10-23T20:04Z 183K followers, [----] engagements "How Self-Love Became Her Act of Rebellion Ft. Seema Anand From being judged and silenced for her fascination with the Kama Sutra to becoming its most celebrated modern interpreter our guest Seema Anand shares how self-love became her act of rebellion. In this weeks episode we discuss: ✨ The link between shame sensuality and self-expression ✨ Why women still feel guilt for wanting pleasure ✨ The truth behind the Kama Sutras ancient wisdom ✨ How to fall in love with yourself unapologetically in your sixties or at any age This episode was inspired by our collaboration jewelry line KAMA created" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=IMmPv9kT02o) 2025-11-12T18:10Z 178K followers, [----] engagements "Desire Ritual and the Kama Sutra Ft. Seema Anand What if the key to better sex isnt new but rooted in ancestral knowledge This weeks guest is storyteller mythologist and ancient erotica expert @seemaanandstorytelling who joins us to explore the rich history of sexual liberation. We unpack what it means to reconnect with your desire through ancestry ritual and unapologetic self-expression. We talk sex positions (yes the Kama Sutra makes an appearance) the role of storytelling in the bedroom and how wearing your desire literally can be one of the boldest most freeing things you do. The episode" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=INvwdJvKu7s) 2025-06-25T18:22Z 166K followers, [----] engagements "What the Kama Sutra Says About Cowgirl Ft. Seema Anand Cowgirl is what its called in the West. But in the Kma Sutra the translation is the woman above and that name tells a different story. Its not about riding hard or bouncing high. Its about stillness. Control. Decadence. A throne you take not a role you play. Because when youre the woman above youre not performing. Youre leading. How would it feel to move like that #LoversByShan #SeemaAnand #Intimacy #FeminineEnergy #Cowgirl #Surmeyi #LoversPodcast" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=ITaOBNU5JaE) 2025-06-28T22:20Z 182K followers, 14K engagements "Five years of Parenting You Has Taught Us This Thank you to Function Health for sponsoring this video Visit https://functionhealth.yt.link/2k5HaJx or use code LOVERS100 at sign-up to own your health. The first [----] get a $100 credit toward their membership. ---- HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY RYU our little munchkin just turned FIVE And while Thanksgiving week is here Jared and I felt like it was the perfect moment to sit together and talk about being parents. Somewhere between the sleepless nights tiny victories meltdown moments and unexpected laughter Ryu taught us something surprising: sometimes" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=MFW-5RAgv5g) 2025-11-26T00:52Z 181K followers, 27.5K engagements "Questioning the Rules Were Taught Ft. Chrisette Michele Chrisettes parents never told her she was different. They didnt teach her to fit in they taught her to ask why. Why cant women do that Why are there rules for how were supposed to be That freedom shaped how she sees everything now. #LoversByShan #ChrisetteMichele #Neurodivergence #AutismAwareness #Authenticity #SelfDiscovery #HealingJourney #Empowerment #BreakingNorms #LoversPodcast ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=NYs7Mk_f1cs) 2025-11-05T18:59Z 176K followers, 16.1K engagements "How an Autism Diagnosis Changed Her Relationship with Herself Ft. Chrisette Michele After her autism diagnosis Chrisette started giving herself permission to do what she wantedstarting with dyeing her hair blue. She performed on stage met her fans and waited for something bad to happen but it didnt. Thats when she realized her joy her choices her self-expressionwerent offensive. She could be fully herself and still be loved. #LoversByShan #ChrisetteMichele #Neurodivergence #AutismAwareness #HealingJourney #SelfAcceptance #Authenticity #SelfExpression #LoversPodcast ________________________" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=Po57P2nPuIE) 2025-11-05T22:00Z 178K followers, 23.6K engagements "Could a Single Moment Be Controlling Your Love Story Ft Andr Holland Trigger Warning: This conversation includes a deeply personal story shared by Andr Holland including a moment when someone he had affections for used a racial slur toward him. Listener discretion is advised. What happens when a core memory rewrites the story of how we see ourselves in love In this weeks LOVERS episode Shan sits down with actor Andr Holland to explore the pivotal memory that shaped his belief that he was never good enough as himselfand that he had to become someone better to be loved. They unpack how these" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=Uy2KRjhYO2k) 2025-10-08T23:15Z 180K followers, 22.1K engagements "When You Tell Your Therapist Im Good (and Youre Not) Ft. Chy Fontenette You ever tell your therapist I think Im good and then life says actually no youre not Chy thought she could drop to twice a month but quickly realized therapy might need to be a daily subscription. Healing is humbling but at least it comes with good stories. #LoversByShan #HealingJourney #SelfAwareness #EmotionalHealth #GrowthSeason #LoversPodcast ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=X_kyE7WZpmg) 2025-10-25T18:33Z 180K followers, 13.5K engagements "Why Parenting Is the Opportunity of a Lifetime Ft. Glen Henry Being a parent is the opportunity of a lifetime. Glen shared that no matter how many people you reach the way you raise your children is what echoes through time. That belief inspired his new book Father Your-Self First available for preorder now. #LoversByShan #BeleafInFatherhood #Parenting #Fatherhood #FamilyLegacy #ParentingAdvice #LoversPodcast ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=XmH9PwYitw0) 2025-10-19T14:07Z 167K followers, [----] engagements "Sharing His HIV Story on His Own Terms Ft. Jonathan Van Ness Before Jonathan Van Ness published his book everyone around him had the same fear: If you say this publicly you cant take it back. His mom felt it. His team felt it. The worry was real not because they doubted him but because HIV stigma is still real too. They didnt want anything to limit his opportunities or change the way the world saw him. For Jonathan choosing to share was about something deeper: wanting this part of his life to be told on his own terms in his own time. #LoversByShan #JonathanVanNess #JVN #HIVAwareness" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=XpLnJ_1paZE) 2025-12-06T19:02Z 181K followers, [----] engagements "Redefining Love and Intimacy Through Autism Ft. Chrisette Michele Chrisettes story is such a reminder that not everyone experiences love or attraction in the same way. For some touch isnt comforting its overwhelming. For some intimacy doesnt start with the body it starts with safety. And that doesnt make your experience any less real. It just means your love language speaks a different dialect. ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=YloJZrqUTvc) 2025-11-03T19:33Z 176K followers, 14.8K engagements "When You Learn Youre Autistic as an Adult Ft. Chrisette Michele Imagine finding out as an adult that your brain has been running on overdrive your whole life. When Chrisettes neurologist told her she was autistic her first thought wasnt denial it was what part of me responds to this news Its a moment that changed how she saw herself her rhythm and her capacity for peace. #LoversByShan #ChrisetteMichele #AutismAwareness #Neurodivergence #SelfDiscovery #LoversPodcast ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=aPeDfiSpDeo) 2025-10-30T17:02Z 178K followers, 77.2K engagements "He Was Never Going To Commit And Here's Why ft @duckwrth Why do fuckboys fuckboy In this episode we dig into the root of it. Just ahead of the release of his new single out now Permanent Vacation genre-bending artist Duckwrth joins Shan for a raw and revealing conversation on why some men detach ghost and repeat the cycle. Together they unpack how fear of commitment cultural conditioning and childhood wounds can all contribute to the Certified Loverboy identity. Duckwrth opens up about his own evolutionfrom polyamory and emotional avoidance to developing a deeper sense of self-awareness and" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=b0SBRrJoX1s) 2025-06-18T17:00Z 184K followers, 124.7K engagements "I'm Not Betraying Myself to Be Desired. Xosha on Rejecting Desperation in Dating What kind of stories do we pass down through the way we love Actor and mom Xosha Roquemore sits down with Shan to talk about sex self-worth and how becoming a mother shifted everything. It starts with one question she asked that stopped us both: Have the kind of sex youd be proud to tell your daughter about. We talk about the early messages she got about sex how sexual coercion showed up in her past and why that experience still needs more language. She shares a fun one-night stand story and how even casual sex" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=cSRBsmOjvi8) 2025-05-28T08:20Z 182K followers, 101.5K engagements "I Didnt Fully Understand Sacred Intimacy Until This Conversation Thank you to Ro for sponsoring this video. Connect with a provider at https://ro.co/lovers to find out if prescription Ro Sparks are right for you. In collaboration with Seema Anand and Surmeyi our Kma collection celebrates womens bodies as inseparable from nature and pleasure as the invisible force balancing the universe. Get your jewelry today: https://surmeyi.com/collections/kama ----- Sacred spicy and still timeless we had to bring this one back. Shan sat down with artist Tanerlle to dive deep into the world of sacred" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=d9OwKt46snA) 2025-11-05T18:00Z 178K followers, 18.1K engagements "What It Means to Be in Tune With Your Partner Ft. Glen & Yvette Henry Love wont always be the loudest emotion in your homebut it can always be the foundation. Glen shared that his marriage is his greatest asset and that what he gives to his wife always comes back to him. He shared a story from their first home birth: when the house went quiet and even the birds outside stopped singing. In that stillness he heard God whisper it can be like this all the time. It taught him that intimacy is built in everyday alignment not just big moments. #LoversByShan #BeleafInFatherhood #MarriageAdvice" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=eIAjcQDke_U) 2025-10-16T19:05Z 166K followers, 14.8K engagements "Parenting Changed Us in Surprising Ways Ft. Shan & Jared Jared and I were talking about how five years of parenting has shaped us. He said the qualities he loved in me before becoming parents didnt change they just grew. He also said something that stayed with me: that becoming a mom has made me more gentle. Not different just softer in places that were already there. If youre a parent how has it changed the way you show up #LoversByShan #Parenthood #ModernParenting #MarriageAndFamily #Partnership #RaisingKids #LoversPodcast ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries:" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=eV9Y6uZVDNM) 2025-12-01T18:00Z 183K followers, [----] engagements "The Kind of Love That Begins With Safety Ft. Chrisette Michele For Chrisette safety has always come through understanding and being understood. Her therapist calls that demisexuality: connection that begins with emotional safety before anything else. Even as a child she didnt think about love in rules or labels. She just knew what felt warm kind and real. #LoversByShan #ChrisetteMichele #Demisexual #Neurodivergence #Authenticity #Intimacy #EmotionalSafety #SelfDiscovery #LoversPodcast ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=fvxzp1kfYJ0) 2025-11-05T20:30Z 176K followers, 10.8K engagements "No One Actually Wants the Truth Ft. Chy Fontenette Chy learned a hard truth that day: people love authenticityuntil its inconvenient. She walked into an audition told the truth about her horrible day and thought she was vibing until her agent called saying she was unprofessional. Apparently no one actually wants to know how youre really doing. #LoversByShan #Authenticity #EmotionalHonesty #SelfExpression #LoversPodcast ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=gYpQJuReHhc) 2025-10-28T18:50Z 183K followers, 21.5K engagements "Learning to Find Her Own Voice Ft. Chrisette Michele When Chrisette feels overwhelmed her first instinct is still to reach for her mom. As a child her mom was always thereshowing up protecting her speaking up when words wouldnt come easily. Now shes learning what it means to find and use her own voice. #LoversByShan #ChrisetteMichele #AutismAwareness #SelfDiscovery #LoversPodcast ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=jU60j4mrh0E) 2025-11-01T20:09Z 176K followers, 35.4K engagements "The Power of Natural Sensual Energy Ft. Seema Anand Seema says pleasure isnt something she does its something that lives in her body. She moves with excitement without trying without performing without choosing it. And sometimes that kind of natural sensuality can make others uncomfortable. Do you think people project their own discomfort onto others confidence #LoversByShan #SeemaAnand #Sensuality #PleasurePositive #ConsciousIntimacy #LoversPodcast ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=mDhWrSYqeIk) 2025-11-24T21:06Z 180K followers, [----] engagements "Masculinity and Emotional Intelligence in Men Ft. Tour Who decides whats masculine Because if masculinity is something thats constantly being policed it raises a bigger question about how men are allowed to develop emotionally. So where does the responsibility actually live Are men discouraged from emotional intelligence or just never taught how to build it Let me know what you think in the comments. 🗣👇🏼 ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=ng73e_ZlgKQ) 2025-12-22T20:20Z 182K followers, [----] engagements "Why He Ghosted You Even When It Felt Real Ft. Duckwrth You communicated. You were intentional. You didnt play games. And he still ghosted you leaving you wondering what you did wrong. Duckwrth opens up about the fear underneath it all.He shares how love can feel good even right but when it finally shows up it scares him. #LoversByShan #Intimacy #Ghosting #Love #Masculinity #Situationships #Vulnerability #ToxicMasculinity #Duckwrth #LoversPodcast" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=o8b1EtQOfok) 2025-06-23T16:45Z 182K followers, 11.9K engagements "How Self-Affirmations Helped Her Heal Ft. Tanerlle Tanerlles reminder to herself and to all of us: You can decide to be whoever you want to be. You have that power. When she wasnt sure shed make it through she recorded a message from her future self a voice saying Youre loved. Youre doing it. You got you. God got you. The universe got you. #LoversByShan #Tanerelle #SelfAffirmations #HealingJourney #SelfLove #InnerHealing #Manifestation #LoversPodcast ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=p9UYIiExBhc) 2025-11-11T19:00Z 178K followers, [----] engagements "Singer Mario Shares How Mother Wounds Impacted His Love Life In this deeply personal and transformative episode singer Mario opens up about the profound impact of unresolved trauma stemming from his relationship with his mother. He candidly shares how this pain influenced his early behavior towards women leading to patterns of manipulation and broken connections. Mario reflects on his journey of self-awareness healing and embracing his inner feminine energya transformative process that reshaped his relationships elevated his personal growth and profoundly influenced his artistry. As Mario" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=pKLYB6Vp1UM) 2025-02-26T18:00Z 175K followers, 100K engagements "Fighting Doesnt Have to Mean Damage Ft. Tour Conflict is inevitable in long-term relationships. Damage doesnt have to be. In this weeks episode we break down what separates the type of fights that actually build intimacy from the ones that slowly turn partners into adversaries. Tour Neblett joins me drawing on decades of navigating high-stakes conversations in his personal life and public work to share what hes learned about emotional regulation repair and conflict in long-term marriage. 🎙The full episode is out now wherever you listen to podcasts. ________________________ Advertising &" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=pmDh3ddOhic) 2025-12-17T18:19Z 182K followers, [----] engagements "THIS Is How Women Are Held Back Why are women expected to be desirable in private but silent in public Seema Anand speaks about the identity split many women are forced to hold expected to be expressive at home yet modest in public confident but not too much sexy but never for themselves. 👉 Watch the full episode: https://youtu.be/HfrQynAqKjo -- 💎 The entire KAMA jewelry line is now back in stock for the holidays.Shop the collection: https://surmeyi.com/kama Also Seemas brand new book Speak Easy is now available for" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=qt72PYY9o2k) 2025-11-16T15:01Z 179K followers, [----] engagements "Why People Are Happily Choosing to Be Single for Life ft. Dr @BellaDePaulo What if happily ever after starts and ends with just you In this bold and expansive episode Shan dives into The Eartha Kitt Effecta cultural and emotional awakening inspired by the legendary performer Eartha Kitt whose unapologetic views on love compromise and individuality continue to resonate decades later. This effect refers to the growing movement of people especially women who are choosing the single life on purpose not by default. Joining Shan is Dr. Bella DePaulo renowned social psychologist and author of Single" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=tDFHs_hJc6Q) 2025-08-06T17:00Z 180K followers, 42.4K engagements "The Kama Sutra on Movement and Pleasure Ft. Seema Anand Stillness can limit sensation. Seema explains that during sex micro-movements a soft rock a small arch a tiny adjustment keep pleasure flowing. And in positions like Splitting Bamboo the Kma anklet adds a rhythm that makes those movements even more delicious. Do you notice how much the small movements change things #LoversByShan #SeemaAnand #KamaSutra #PleasureEducation #ConsciousIntimacy #SexualWellness #FemaleDesire #LoversPodcast ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=tPHtVNihWNc) 2025-11-18T19:15Z 179K followers, [----] engagements "Not Monsters. Humans. And Thats the Scary Part of Sean Combs Reckoning Solo Episode In this episode I share the deeper psychological lessons inside the new Diddy documentary not to debate guilt or innocence but to understand the human systems that create cycles of power harm silence and attachment. This isnt a Hollywood story or an industry story. Its a human story. The documentary made Diddy feel more human rather than less and thats what makes it so unsettling. When you look closely at the incentives the grooming the rewards the fear the validation and the primal drives behind the behavior" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=wZ3GLci9N-E) 2025-12-10T18:00Z 181K followers, [----] engagements "What Our Daughter Taught Us About Love Ft. Ryu HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY RYU our little munchkin just turned FIVE And while Thanksgiving week is here Jared and I felt like it was the perfect moment to sit together and talk about being parents. Somewhere between the sleepless nights tiny victories meltdown moments and unexpected laughter Ryu taught us something surprising: sometimes love is giving someone your dirty socks. (Its her quote and honestly shes not wrong.) ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=yLtA8zZWxRE) 2025-11-26T18:31Z 180K followers, [----] engagements "What is love at first sight Is it real or just a romantic fantasy What is love at first sight Is it real or just a romantic fantasy On the latest episode of @loversandfriendspodcast we explore this phenomenon and its role in modern dating. Check out the full episode on our bio now" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=JY2qtsa6XhI) 2023-05-06T18:00Z 185K followers, 22K engagements "Can you be vulnerable around your partner #vulnerability #relationship" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=L9cz6nvrwCg) 2023-06-01T18:33Z 186K followers, 32.6K engagements "Rachel Lindsays Shocking Discovery About Intimacy After Divorce MasterClass Have you taken my MasterClass yet New subscribers get access to my class and hundreds of others starting at $10 per month. Right now our listeners get an additional 15% off any MasterClass annual membership at masterclass.com/lovers. In this episode of Lovers Higher Learning host and former Bachelorette Rachel Lindsay shares the deeply personal story of what it was like to experience intimacy both sexually and emotionally for the first time after divorce. After nearly a decade of being with only one partner that she" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=MAGkx7yb1OI) 2026-01-28T21:15Z 185K followers, 49.5K engagements "The Truth About Getting the Man I THOUGHT I Always Wanted ft. @rosaacosta Thank you to Function Health for sponsoring this episode Visit https://functionhealth.yt.link/prMboMD or use code LOVERS100 at sign-up to own your health. The first [----] get a $100 credit toward their membership. ----- What does it mean to choose love on your own terms How do our values self-worth and cultural expectations shape the way we show up in relationships In this conversation entrepreneur fitness model and actress Rosa Acosta shares her perspective on redefining what relationships can look like when you step" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=OkyrsI2syq8) 2025-09-17T17:00Z 186K followers, 33.5K engagements "What is the formula for success in marriages Lovers and Friends Ep. [--] out now" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=PoRzk4D_72o) 2023-04-22T04:38Z 184K followers, 18.5K engagements "@JessieReyez on Why Boundaries Are a Form of Love Jessie Reyez joins the podcast to celebrate her new album Paid in Memories and to dive into the complexities of boundaries and self-respect. Together we unpack what it means to be labeled a "villain" (by both yourself and others) for setting boundaries and standing firm in your self-worth. Jessie shares her personal journey of choosing to stay single rather than settling for less in love reflecting on the regret of taking too much accountability in her past relationship and embracing her love languagehaving her alone time respected. We also" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=UsXNpFXEX30) 2025-03-26T17:00Z 185K followers, 130K engagements "What One Valentine Taught Andr Holland About Self-Worth Award-winning actor Andr Holland shares the childhood story that changed everything. When he gave a Valentine to a girl he liked her response seemed innocent until he turned the card over. What he read next shattered his sense of love safety and belonging. In this powerful conversation Andr and Shan discuss how these deeply rooted emotional imprints steer our relationships sometimes helping us but often holding us back. Whether youre single partnered or somewhere in between this episode is a powerful guide to: - Uncovering the underlying" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=_rtoAap1tZM) 2025-10-12T07:31Z 184K followers, [----] engagements "When Your Soulmate Becomes Your Ex Lovers and Friends Ep. [--] In this episode I talk about the [--] soulmates we may encounter over the span of our lives. Thanks for being patient with me this week on this episode. Promise to do better Here are the [--] types of soulmates. The Stranger Soul Mate - unrequited love is still love. We needed them we loved them we were certain we were destined to marry them and they barely remember our last name. The black hole Soul Mate - the person that we lost ourselves and our sensibilities to (usually our first requited soul mate experience) The Almost doesnt" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=e9pnDQocKYQ) 2023-02-20T22:59Z 185K followers, 140.8K engagements "Why Love Without Depth Cant Last Ft. Chy Fontenette She loved him and thought that would be enough. Six years together and not one serious conversation. He looked perfect on paper but love without depth eventually runs out of air. When a man broke into her home and his response was youll figure it out she realized love couldnt survive where depth was missing. #LoversByShan #RelationshipTruths #SelfWorth #EmotionalSafety #HealingJourney #Boundaries #LoversPodcast ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=kkZ76NCJKHY) 2025-10-27T15:53Z 185K followers, 19.6K engagements "When Your Life Becomes a Headline Ft. Abby De La Rosa If youve ever wondered what comes after the internet forms an opinion this conversation answers that. In this episode I sat down again with Abby De La Rosa three years after our first conversation to reflect on what time motherhood and public scrutiny have actually taught her. This episode isnt about defending a headline or convincing anyone of a particular relationship model. Its about autonomy growth and what happens when a woman is given time to actually live inside the decisions she once had to justify. 🎙The full episode is out now on" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=qTaqQz-IlPo) 2026-02-11T17:55Z 186K followers, [----] engagements "What My Autism Diagnosis Taught Me About Love and Feeling Safe ft. Chrisette Michele Calm your mind. Change your life. Try Calm by heading to https://calm.yt.link/2lLJh1b. This week Shan sits down with Grammy-winning artist Chrisette Michele opens up about being diagnosed with autism as an adult and the way that revelation helped her understand her rhythm her relationships and what safety really means for her. She shares how music became one of the few places that always made sense how her mom stood by her through the unknown and how she finally began to remove the mask and meet herself." [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=saRiDqjpCvY) 2025-10-29T17:00Z 186K followers, 137.5K engagements "Who Is Lingerie Actually For Ft. Rachel Lindsay Wearing lingerie isnt always about your partner seeing it. 😏 As Esther Perel says a womans greatest turn-on is herself. Sometimes its just about feeling like a bad b*tch 💅 So what about you Is lingerie your thing or nah ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=shBjrQd9Ndg) 2026-02-02T22:55Z 185K followers, [----] engagements "How Parenting Reshapes Who You Are Ft. Shan & Jared Parenthood is beautiful but its also identity loss. To give your kids what they need you mold who you are. You adapt you shrink you edit your joy. But when does molding stop and freedom to be yourself begin #LoversByShan #Parenthood #Identity #ModernLove #Intimacy #ParentingTruths #Motherhood #Fatherhood #LoversPodcast ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=yTgwdlmHUSs) 2025-09-14T15:50Z 186K followers, [----] engagements "You Dont Have to Be Perfect to Be Loved Ft. Miranda Rae Mayo I dont fit inside the Disney princess box. Miranda opens up about the realization that love didnt transform her into some neat polished version of herself. Shes still wild. Still emotional. Still human. And shes learning that love doesnt mean changing who you are it means being embraced for it. What expectations did you carry into love that you had to let go of #LoversByShan #SelfAcceptance #EmotionalIntimacy #MessyLove #ModernLove #DatingAdvice #RelationshipAdvice #LoversPodcast #RelationshipHealing" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=-BX9a1kIlcQ) 2025-07-25T16:48Z 155K followers, [----] engagements "A Woman's Sexual Desire Deserves Respect Not Shame Ft. Seema Anand If you have sex with a woman and afterwards you look at her as dirty the next place you should look is your own hands. Weve been taught false narratives that sex makes women dirty and pleasure is shameful. But that story is over. A womans desire isnt something to fear or shame. Its beautiful and something to be honored. #LoversByShan #WomensPleasure #LoversPodcast #SeemaAnand #SacredFemininity #KamaSutra #Intimacy #AncestralHealing #EroticWisdom #FemininePower #Sensuality" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=0BxDo8CBJ8Q) 2025-06-30T17:31Z 148K followers, [----] engagements "Anhedonia and Depression: When Joy Disappears Ft. Dr. Judith Joseph You were built for joy. So what happens when it disappears When your favorite meal doesnt taste like anything. When intimacy with your partner feels empty. When laughter just doesnt land the way it used to. Thats called anhedonia a lack of joy and pleasure a sense of disconnection from the things that once lit you up. Its more common than you think and it has nothing to do with strength or willpower. Youre not broken. Your joy is worth reclaiming 🤍 #LoversByShan #DrJudithJoseph #Anhedonia #HighFunctioningDepression" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=0oXLHF5ttPs) 2025-07-07T14:51Z 150K followers, [----] engagements "Dark Days May Happen. But You Hold The Pen. ✍🏽 Some days can feel heavy. Some seasons may feel impossible. And while we cant always erase the dark moments we can write over them. We can choose how the story continues" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=1Nxwwy46dHA) 2025-03-31T18:07Z 116K followers, [----] engagements "Straight Men Often Dont Get Another Season How Can We Change This Straight men often dont get another season. No space to evolve no grace to shift no permission to even ask for something different. How many desires have gone unspoken because someones afraid of not being man enough Have you ever held back in love because of who you thought you were supposed to be" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=1OFOMJ1HzY8) 2025-04-14T19:00Z 121K followers, [----] engagements "The [--] Words That Can Transform Any Relationship Ft. Alyson Stoner Frequency. Duration. Intensity. Three simple words that can change the way you connect. How often are we checking in How much time are we giving each other And how deep are we going when we do #LoversByShan #Polyamory #HealthyRelationships #IntentionalLove #RelationshipAdvice #EmotionalConnection #RelationshipTools #AlysonStoner #ModernLove #ConsciousRelationships ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=1TsomqZiiHE) 2025-08-14T17:59Z 158K followers, [----] engagements "Stop Asking Women What They Bring to the Table Ft. Rosa Acosta First of all do you even have a table Rosa laughs at the classic question of what women bring. Because not every table is the same. Some need money some need care some need joy. You dont always bring the same thing to every table. As Shan points out assumptions about what each gender should provide create awkward joyless exchanges. Isnt love about giving whats needed not proving your worth #LoversByShan #RosaAcosta #ModernLove #RelationshipAdvice #DatingCulture #WhatDoYouBringToTheTable #GenderRoles #Partnership #LoversPodcast" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=1Ygtdjn1qUg) 2025-09-23T18:50Z 163K followers, [----] engagements ""Damn Im Tooted" and Suddenly Too Exposed Ft. Duckwrth Duckwrth says the hetero male experience can be boxed in and hes too colorful to fit inside it. For many men even intimate moments can trigger discomfort.Because being physically vulnerable in front of a woman can feel like giving up power. Its wild how deep that fear runs.Even when men feel safe seen and wanted vulnerability still feels like a risk. Why is that #LoversByShan #Duckwrth #Masculinity #Vulnerability #PowerDynamics #LoversPodcast #Intimacy" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=1gTzSQ-HuF4) 2025-06-22T15:32Z 147K followers, [----] engagements "Why Men Hide Their Fetishes Ft. The Pink Parley A lot of men are scared to share their fetishes with their partners.Why Fear of being judged. Fear of rejection. Fear their desires wont be met. From ass worship to pegging The Pink Parley shares what men are really craving but keeping quiet about. Would you rather your partner hide their desires or bring them to you honestly #LoversByShan #ThePinkParley #ModernLove #RelationshipTruths #HiddenDesires #BedroomTalk #Intimacy ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=2KrCv5e72KI) 2025-08-21T19:45Z 159K followers, [----] engagements "Inside the Male Fantasy: The Surprising Request Men Keep Paying For ft. @thepinkparley This week on Lovers Shan sits down with The Pink Parley a sex worker pulling back the curtain on what men secretly crave but rarely admiteven to their wives. With 98% of her clients being married men who have no desire to leave their marriages Parley reveals the surprising request that keeps them coming back: ass worship. Yes you read that right. These men dont just want to eat the groceriesthey want to be consumed by suffocated by and utterly surrounded by the booty. For them its not just an act of" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=2NMQXWFRxxk) 2025-08-20T09:00Z 160K followers, 35.2K engagements "Casual Sex But Can We Cuddle After Ft. @DecisionsPod How is it sexual liberation if you're still accepting crumbs What if you want casual sex and a little intimacy.like [--] minutes of cuddling after Is that asking too much Curious where yall land on this. Drop your take in the comments ✨ #LoversByShan #RelationshipTruths #ModernDating #LoversPodcast #Situationships #HookingUp" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=2siwoTvFCQk) 2025-07-11T19:24Z 151K followers, [----] engagements "Polyamory Boundaries and Healthy Love Ft. Alyson Stoner Is it still polyamory if only one person has other lovers This weeks guest is Alyson Stoner a multi-disciplinary entertainer author and founder of Movement Genius who joins us to share their experience in their polyamorous journey. We dive into the importance of knowing your own capacity for connection and Alysons go-to communication tool: Frequency Duration and Intensity. Whether youre curious about polyamory or simply want tools for building healthier more intentional partnerships this episode will leave you thinking about love in a" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=4JJnhuf1umA) 2025-08-13T18:38Z 161K followers, [----] engagements "What Sexual Freedom Really Means Ft. Blair Imani Freedom in sex isnt just about saying yes. Its freedom to love who you want how you want. Freedom from the scripts and conditioning about what your body should do. And freedom not to because real agency means saying no just as often as you say yes. #LoversByShan #SexPositive #SexualFreedom #BodyAutonomy #LoversPodcast #Agency #ConsentCulture #ModernLove ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=4Ste2Bv43MQ) 2025-09-05T20:46Z 160K followers, [----] engagements "Biblical Rules Vs. The Modern World I said it when you think about biblical rules like no sex before marriage they were designed to protect people and ensure their health in a time when there were no healthcare systems birth control or protection from things like child abuse. I honestly cant think of a better rule for that time it probably saved lives and prevented so much trauma. But in [----] with all the advancements we have I cant help but wonder: is that rule still as relevant B. Simone respected my opinion but the bigger question is are old rules still serving us today Do you think rules" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=5Lv_i3IYhWo) 2025-04-22T17:00Z 122K followers, [----] engagements "Have you ever believed you had to hurt to create Alessia Cara grew up believing what so many artists do: that pain was the price of great art. That to feel deeply you had to suffer deeply. And since sadness was familiar it became the creative comfort zone. But now Shes in a good place. In love. Healthy. Happy. And as she started writing her new album she asked herself: Can I still make something powerful without breaking myself to do it Spoiler: you can. You dont have to self-destruct to be inspired. You can be soft whole joyful and still create from depth. So heres the question: Have you" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=5vy2bn6LWZI) 2025-05-21T00:00Z 140K followers, [----] engagements "What holds a relationship together when life falls apart ft @DrLauraBermanOfficial What holds a relationship together when life falls apart Most of us picture the happiest moments when we think about our partner but what happens when tragedy hits In this intimate conversation Dr. Laura Berman shares how she and her husband weathered some of lifes hardest storms together. From dating him while she was caring for her young son with cancer to the unimaginable loss of their son Sammy during the pandemic Laura takes us inside the moments that tested their love and the choices that kept them" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=62i3euUW5ek) 2025-08-27T17:00Z 160K followers, [----] engagements "What is So Special About ShxtsNGigs Lovers and Friends Ep. [--] James and Fuhad the dynamic duo behind the top [--] Spotify podcast ShxtsNGigs stop by to talk about dominating the sex/ relationship podcast game and how their show has transformed their own sex lives. Known for their unapologetically honest and often hilarious takes these best friends have become a sensation among Gen Z audiences in the UK. Today we talk about what makes them different in a world of podcast about Sex/Relationships. Follow ShxtsNGigs : https://www.instagram.com/shxtsngigs/ Follow ShxtNGigs:" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=68BwB8pbwkA) 2023-11-17T00:40Z 79.6K followers, 234K engagements "That's What Good Sex Is Supposed To Be Ft. @TheeJessieWoo Im still learning and finding myself sexually Im just glad I dont have to do it alone. This episode with @thejessiewoo she opens up about her journey what shes been through where she is now and the future shes building with the love of her life and she can take her time. Thats what good sex is supposed to be. A safe space. A shared space. A place to heal grow and take your time. Full episode out now" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=74f-Wx6_TjA) 2025-05-24T22:00Z 141K followers, [----] engagements "Are You A Super Flop In Love Ft. Xosha Roquemore You are a superhero. At work. As a mom. As a friend. Cape on saving the day in every role. But when it comes to love Xosha said she feels like a super flop. I would challenge that because honestly showing up feeling deeply and being brave enough to try again Thats superhero energy too. Real talk: when do you feel like a super flop and what would it look like to reframe that as a superpower #SuperheroEnergy #SoftnessIsStrength #RealTalkMoments #LoveOutLoud #EmotionalBravery #EverydaySuperheroes #FeelYourFeels #IntimacyIsPower #ReframeTheFlop" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=7JA9y05gGa4) 2025-05-29T17:30Z 143K followers, [----] engagements "Healing Growth & Safe Love Ft. Raven & Miranda To create a relationship that is safe for your nervous system takes strength. So the work is to create a better you through the trials and grow up again. @ravensymone Thanks to #ravensymone and @mirandamaday for being incredible guests on @loversbyshan this week. Been a DIS 👏🏽CUS👏🏽SION 👏🏽 in the chat" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=7OVc8gLOxMk) 2025-05-13T18:25Z 138K followers, [----] engagements "If Your Partner Isnt Celebrating Your Body in Bed Ft. The Pink Parley Every body deserves to be worshipped. In the words of The Pink Parley if your partner isnt celebrating you like that why are you with them Confidence isnt about perfection its about knowing youre already enough. What helps you feel proud and ready in the bedroom #LoversByShan #ThePinkParley #LoversPodcast #BodyConfidence #BedroomConfidence #SelfLove #SexualEmpowerment #CelebrateYourBody ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=7TwerTXPCvc) 2025-08-23T17:46Z 159K followers, [----] engagements "Breaking Free From Old Gender Roles Ft. Rosa Acosta Women cant demand freedom from old roles while boxing men into theirs. Pay all the bills sounds good until it becomes stay in the kitchen. As Rosa Acosta puts it dignity lives in both giving and receiving. Because intimacy thrives when love flows both ways not when one side carries the weight. #LoversByShan #RosaAcosta #ModernLove #GenderRoles #RelationshipAdvice #EqualityInLove #Intimacy #LoversPodcast ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=7yMJdVnzRDo) 2025-09-19T22:19Z 163K followers, [----] engagements "Love Loss and Grieving Whats Still Alive featuring Alessia Cara Nothing good lasts. Right In this deeply moving episode Canadian singer-songwriter Alessia Cara joins Shan Boodram to explore the connection between intimacy loss and the fear of death (thanatophobia). Inspired by her song "Sublime" from Love and Hyperbole Alessia opens up about her personal journey with grief and how it shapes the way she loves and creates. Together they dive into universal questions: How do we hold on to love while letting go of control How does the fear of loss impact our relationships intimacy and even our" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=8RruYCWJ6sU) 2025-05-14T17:00Z 138K followers, [----] engagements "The Seasons of Sex and Intimacy Ft. Shan & Jared Parenthood can turn intimacy into survival mode. It starts to feel like the gym. You know it will feel good once youre in it but the constant thought of I need to go makes it heavy. Then one day the season changes and sex feels fresh again. Where is your intimacy at in this season of life #LoversByShan #MarriageTips #RelationshipAdvice #SexualDesire #Parenthood #Intimacy #ModernLove #LoversPodcast #SexEducation ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=8VXQ8lvnqmA) 2025-09-13T19:38Z 162K followers, [----] engagements "When Life Falls Apart Can Love Survive Ft. Dr. Laura Berman What holds a relationship together when life falls apart Most of us picture the happiest moments when we think about our partner but what happens when tragedy hits In this intimate conversation Dr. Laura Berman shares how she and her husband weathered some of lifes hardest storms together. From dating him while she was caring for her young son with cancer to the unimaginable loss of their son Sammy during the pandemic Laura takes us inside the moments that tested their love and the choices that kept them connected. The episode is out" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=8i22fPhE8DY) 2025-08-27T17:51Z 160K followers, [----] engagements "💐Congrats to Our Muse and Musician @JessieReyez I'm so proud of you for birthing Paid in Memories to the world TDAY Listen everywhere you stream music and watch this interview on @loversbyshan YT" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=8m36tfHBOvI) 2025-03-28T23:40Z 116K followers, [----] engagements "Whats one thing aging has helped you release in your relationship with sex Ft. Cree Summers Cree said something that landed deep: the gift of getting older is knowing your body your wants your nos and your hell yess. Age doesnt dim desire it softens the shame sharpens the knowing. Whats one thing aging has helped you release in your relationship with sex" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=91G9IQqL-0E) 2025-05-01T17:30Z 129K followers, [----] engagements "Sex. Intention. Legacy. What Would You Teach Your Kids About Sex We don't talk about this as much as we should: I asked Xosha what story she would proudly tell her daughter about of her sex life. Her answer was beautiful. About the one night stand she had on purpose.She did it not to feel wanted. Not to chase connection. But because I wanted pleasure and she owned it.She didnt betray herself. She didnt over-give. She didnt perform. She chose herself. And it was fun. And she felt alive.Because its not about the sex its about the intention. And that was the first time she was a selfish lover." [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=9fuxWgmwygk) 2025-05-31T19:30Z 143K followers, [---] engagements "How to Show Up for Love Through Unimaginable Loss Ft. Dr. Laura Berman When the unthinkable happens love looks different. Dr. Laura Berman shares how its not about promises or forever. Its about presence. About asking How can I support you right now And being willing to let someone else step in if you cant. And above all remembering not to take any of it personally. #LoversByShan #DrLauraBerman #LoversPodcast #LoveAndLoss #RelationshipTruths #MarriageJourney #HealingTogether #RelationshipSupport #GriefAndLove ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=A56opqvJVFk) 2025-08-31T15:51Z 160K followers, [----] engagements "How Im Learning to Love My Inner Child Ft. Lilly Singh We all have that younger version of us who just wanted to feel safe. For Lilly Singh it took years of giving too much settling and self-abandoning to finally realize that protection had to come from her. Now every choice comes back to one promise: Im choosing you now and I wont stop. What would little you say if they saw how far youve come #LoversByShan #LillySingh #InnerChildHealing #SelfWorth #HealingJourney #EmotionalGrowth #SelfLove #Boundaries #LoversPodcast ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=B7rBtcMAin0) 2025-10-07T18:18Z 165K followers, [----] engagements "How Do You Balance Giving Someone Your Time While Still Protecting Your Boundaries How do you balance giving someone your time while still protecting your boundaries Wheres the line between being open and overextending yourself" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=C4TwOu0l5is) 2025-03-30T18:30Z 117K followers, [----] engagements "The Silent Struggle: Anhedonia in High-Functioning Depression Ft. Dr. Judith Joseph What if numbness is the hidden wound of high-functioning depression Our guest this week is Dr. Judith Jospeh a board-certified psychiatrist clinical researcher and internationally recognized mental health advocate. We dive deep into anhedonia the loss of pleasure or interest in things that once brought you joy and how it shows up especially for those living with high-functioning depression. Topics we unpack include: ✨ How high-functioning depression operates ✨ Why anhedonia is so often overlooked ✨ The 3-part" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=CEkYA833eeY) 2025-07-02T17:49Z 149K followers, [----] engagements "Shan vs The View - Longing for Raven-Symone To me the opposite of a pleasure BASED relationship is a sacrifice based relationship. For some reason many people correlate pleasure with insatiable hedonic desires but theres a reason why people often say my pleasure after helping someone who shows gratitude. It feels good to be good to those who are good to us. Candace didnt agree with my relationship style (open) and then automatically assumed we must have nothing else in common but as we discussed on this episode of @lovers with @ravensymone and @miranda most of us want the same thing - to" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=CN39wUqk5KE) 2025-05-12T17:30Z 138K followers, [----] engagements "I Know I Deserve the Best. In Love In sex In Life. Just Because I Exist. Ft. @TheeJessieWoo So many of us were handed a script where pleasure was taboo or transactional or just not meant for us at all. @TheeJessieWoo said she didnt grow up with messaging that told her she deserved pleasure. And yet here she is rewriting the story. I know I deserve the best. In love in sex in life. Just because I exist. Say. 👏🏽 That. 👏🏽 Again. 👏🏽 That kind of clarity Thats liberation. Thats healing. Thats self-worth finally speaking louder than the shame. When did you first realize you were allowed to" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=CqFKs2wJHPc) 2025-05-23T17:30Z 140K followers, [---] engagements "Sexual Rhythm Not Performance Ft. Seema Anand" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=DpgR7iP6sRI) 2025-07-01T19:27Z 149K followers, [----] engagements "The Powerful Role of Single People in Society Ft. Dr. Bella DePaulo Do you think we undervalue the role single people play in community life In early societies some people didnt have children of their own so they could help care for others in the village. That same energy exists today. Studies show people who live alone are more likely to join civic groups take classes and go out more. Being single doesnt mean being isolated. It can mean being deeply connected. #LoversByShan #SingleAtHeart #SingleByChoice #EmpoweredSingle #ModernLove #CommunityMatters #LoversPodcast #SingleLife" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=DzpAw9Nibdc) 2025-08-07T14:36Z 157K followers, [----] engagements "Our Legacy to Ry & Zy Here comes the water work. Honestly this conversation with Jared was just so beautiful. Jared said something that hit me hard If we were to go. what would our kids hold onto Not the stuff. But the moments. The inside jokes. The way we greet them in the morning. The little rituals. The laughter. The love we put in everyday. He said I parent with the motivation of death. like someone who knows life is short And honestly I do. Not from fear but from intention. Because the memories we make now Those stay. Thats the legacy. So heres the question: How do you leave the people" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=E2D4QOBYH24) 2025-05-16T21:00Z 139K followers, [----] engagements "For Women Terrified of Being 30+ Single and Career-Driven featuring @deepica In this episode of Lovers and Friends Shan Boodram sits down with Deepica Mutyala founder of Live Tinted and a trailblazing entrepreneur for an honest and empowering conversation about being single thriving in your 30s and preparing for the love and family you deserve. Deepica shares her journey of building a successful career while staying true to her dreams of finding the right partner and creating a family. Together Shan and Deepica discuss the challenges of dating when youre successful the importance of not" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=EUonFknsFzk) 2025-03-19T17:00Z 114K followers, 14.5K engagements "Do Couples Really Have Better Sex Than Single People Ft. Dr. Bella DePaulo Theres this assumption that single people must want to be in a relationship and that being coupled automatically means a more fulfilling sex life. What people often picture is the magical mythical partner who always wants the same kind of sex you do at the same time in the same way never strays and never wishes they were with someone else. For most people thats just not reality. Why do you think we still believe couples are having better sex than singles #LoversByShan #BellaDePaulo #SingleAtHeart #SingleLife" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=EZjKwdfKib0) 2025-08-11T14:42Z 158K followers, [---] engagements "Partnership Over Pride: Khadeen and Devale Ellis on Defying Gender to Save Their Marriage Are You Loyal to Your Gender or Your Relationship Shan Boodram sits down with Khadeen and Devale Ellis the dynamic married duo known for their raw honesty humor and insights on love and relationships. Together they share how they saved their marriage by breaking free from traditional gender roles and prioritizing their partnership above all else. Khadeen and Devale Ellis are actors content creators and authors of the best-selling book We Over Me: The Counterintuitive Approach to Getting Everything You" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=Ex4l-05k8T4) 2025-04-02T17:00Z 121K followers, 103.4K engagements "You Deserve to Feel Safe in Love Ft. Anwar White Can you really date men if you're scared of themor if deep down you don't even like them This weeks guest is Anwar White a dating and relationship coach for Black and Brown women better known as the Dating Fairy Godbrother. Whether you're recovering from toxic relationships navigating dating anxiety or looking to build confidence and emotional security in love this episode will give you the tools to understand and honor your safety needs" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=FiO57QN0JQQ) 2025-07-16T17:15Z 153K followers, [----] engagements "You Are Never Single If You Are Hot 🔥 FT. Xosha Xosha said you are never single if you are hot. and I LOVE THAT 🔥 Confidence looks good on Xosha Shes embracing her single status with a fierce attitude reminding us that self-love is the best love. Are you living your best life too Share how youre thriving in the comments below" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=FknVvfY9lY4) 2025-05-28T19:24Z 142K followers, [----] engagements "Could You Let Your Partner Explore with Someone Else Ft. Alyson Stoner Would you let your partner get something they want from someone else Alyson Stoner shared how being in a polyamorous relationship gave space to say That sounds amazing just not with me. No resentment no pressure to be everything to one person. Instead of seeing it as a threat it was a way to celebrate their partners desires while honoring their own boundaries. Is that freedom or a dealbreaker for you #LoversByShan #Polyamory #OpenRelationships #ModernLove #RelationshipDynamics #AlysonStoner #HealthyLove #LoversPodcast" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=FwLrJsl0A8A) 2025-08-15T19:38Z 158K followers, [----] engagements "Unlearning the Love Story You Were Promised Ft. Miranda Rae Mayo What did you grow up believing love was supposed to feel like For Miranda Rae Mayo it meant being pursued financially supported and constantly feeling the spark were shown in movies. She reflects on the difference between what she was taught to want and what she actually saw growing up and how that shaped her view of love. What messages did you grow up with about love #LoversByShan #RelationshipBeliefs #ModernLove #SelfAwareness #LoversPodcast #LoveLessons" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=G0-HCsMJcAQ) 2025-07-24T18:46Z 155K followers, [----] engagements "Deepica Left Me Speechless 🎤 Drop Speechless. What else is there to say 🎤 drop Thank you @deepica for an incredible episode of @loversbyshan for women who are 30+ and single" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=GJ4EcCx42L8) 2025-03-24T23:21Z 115K followers, [----] engagements "Letting Go of the Fantasy of Love Ft. Miranda Rae Mayo What if the love story you were chasing was never really yours Our guest on this weeks episode is Miranda Rae Mayo actress and creator best known for her role on Chicago Fire. We explore the journey of finding love by letting go of perfection releasing the fantasy and how non-monogamy reshaped her understanding of safety connection and choice in partnership. The full episode is out now on YouTube and wherever you listen 🎧 #LoversByShan #NonMonogamy #DatingAdvice #ModernLove #RelationshipAdvice #LoversPodcast" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=GKUQ9NI63So) 2025-07-23T17:01Z 155K followers, [----] engagements "How Insecurities Follow Us Into Love Ft. Miranda Rae Mayo I dont want my insecurities to come with me into my dream come true. Theres this idea that love should wash away our flaws that well finally become our best selves once someone chooses us. And yet a quiet fear follows: if my partner accepts me exactly as I am maybe Ill never grow. What do you think does acceptance fuel growth or does it make us settle #LoversByShan #ModernLove #RelationshipGrowth #SelfWorth #LoversPodcast #LoveAndHealing #EmotionalIntimacy #PersonalGrowth #RelationshipAdvice #DatingAdvice #DatingTips" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=GZwqgBOVqrU) 2025-07-29T15:56Z 156K followers, [----] engagements "Where do you feel most safe to be emotionally open And where do you still hold back So many of us crave intimacy but dont realize how much our pastour trauma upbringing and sense of safetyshapes how we show up in those moments. On the podcast @loversbyshan @karamo shared how real intimacy starts with feeling safe in yourself first. When youre disconnected from you its hard to fully connect with someone else. Its not about perfection its about awareness and honestyfirst with you then with your partner. Where do you feel most safe to be emotionally open And where do you still hold back Lets" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=Gft6SPwLc34) 2025-04-11T20:04Z 120K followers, [----] engagements "I'm Not Betraying Myself To Be The Version Of Me You Like FT. Xosha From [--] to [--] Xosha was all about finding the relationship or gripping tight to the one she was in even when it was killing her. Now She just doesnt care. 👉🏾 Yeah maybe theres a boyfriend or two in the future. 👉🏾 But if marriage or a forever partner never shows up Shell still be good. Thats the difference between living for others and living for yourself. Thats what it means to divorce yourself from the expectations. From the pressure. From the performance. "Im not betraying myself just to become the version of me that" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=GiC57SsTmJE) 2025-06-03T18:00Z 144K followers, [----] engagements "Making Sex Education Real Raw and Honest Lovers by Shan Books TV shows and movies make sex look glamorous. But they rarely tell the truth: the fears the insecurities the sexual health clinic visits. Thats why Shan chose to tell her own story. Raw vulnerable and real. Want to hear how her parents reacted Like for part [--] #LoversByShan #SexEducation #ModernLove #OpenConversations #IntimacyEducation #RelationshipTalk #LoversPodcast ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=HGrq0TQESIc) 2025-09-08T18:42Z 161K followers, [----] engagements "That Rush You Feel It Might Not Be Chemistry Ft. Miranda Rae Mayo "Was it butterflies or was it a panic attack" That rush you feel around someone new It might not be chemistry. It might be your body on high alert. Its called arousal confusion like in the swinging bridge experiment where people mistook fear for a romantic spark. So is it chemistry or is it chaos How do you tell the difference #LoversByShan #ArousalConfusion #LoversPodcast #ModernLove #Situationships #DatingAdvice #EmotionalClarity #DatingTips #SelfAwareness" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=I82kNcMWwx8) 2025-07-26T18:32Z 156K followers, [----] engagements "When Love Feels Like Something You Have to Earn Ft. Andr Holland When love feels like something you have to earn safety starts to look like control. Andre shared how years of overperforming in relationships came from trying to protect himselffrom the fear that who he was might not be enough. Therapy helped him trace that pattern back to childhood when love first became something he had to work for. Have you ever caught yourself performing for love #LoversByShan #AndreHolland #EmotionalSafety #AttachmentStyles #HealingJourney #SelfWorth #InnerChildHealing #RelationshipPatterns #LoversPodcast" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=IglI3EZLw88) 2025-10-14T22:53Z 166K followers, [----] engagements "Are You Chasing Love That Feels Familiar or Healthy Ft. Miranda Rae Mayo Reframe your to-have list into a to-feel list. Instead of asking what they bring to the table ask how you want to feel in the relationship. Safe Playful Desired Then get curious: Is that feeling healthy or just familiar Whats a feeling youve been chasing that might not be serving you #LoversByShan #SelfWorth #RelationshipPatterns #LoversPodcast #EmotionalSafety #DatingAdvice #DatingTips #EmotionalIntelligence #AttachmentHealing #DatingWithIntention" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=IvlHivnter4) 2025-07-27T15:57Z 156K followers, [----] engagements "Karamo Brown on Real Intimacy Growth and the Truth About Love Lovers by Shan Karamo Brown came ready to talk about real intimacythe kind that requires courage. The kind that demands you ask has anything changed And the kind that invites growth and curiosity not just comfort. This episode is a mirror. A challenge. And a must listen. * Whens the last time you checked in with your partner With yourself * What does intimacy look like for you todayand has that changed * Can you handle the truth about what your partner really needs * Has your definition of intimacy evolved over time * Whats one" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=KRf4sk4Cmm8) 2025-04-09T17:57Z 119K followers, [----] engagements "@TheeJessieWoo Opens Up About Healthy Love After Sexual Assault Reclaiming Intimacy: Jessie Woos Journey Beyond Trauma. Comedian and media personality Jessie Woo joins Shan for a powerful conversation about healing love and rediscovering sexual joy after surviving sexual assault. Jessie shares her painful story of her assault and her joyful story of her relationship with Jay Allen aka Mr Easter. Now Jessie is on the path to reclaiming pleasure and building healthy relationships offering hope and practical insights for anyone on their own journey of recovery. This episode explores the" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=KU4BBjYwBkU) 2025-05-21T15:03Z 155K followers, 115.4K engagements "The Lie Women Are Taught About Sex Ft. @DecisionsPod Why were we taught that sex makes him like us more We were sold the lie that giving him something would make him want us more. But heres the truth: sex might get you more time but he already picked the shelf. And if its not a shelf you want to be on staying longer isnt the win you think it is. #LoversByShan #RelationshipTruths #ModernDating ##LoversPodcast #Situationships #HookingUp" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=KZTgJR4ENdc) 2025-07-10T17:23Z 151K followers, [----] engagements "Go Where you are Celebrated Not Just Tolerated Ft. Kennedy Ryan Have you ever been made to feel like you're asking for too much Our guest on this weeks episode is Kennedy Ryan a New York Times and USA Today bestselling romance author whos known for centering the stories of women who are often underrepresentedBlack Brown fat old disabled neurodiverse and chronically ill. We talk radical self-worth rewriting the narrative and why romance should always center womens pleasure. The full conversation is out now" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=K_-dsT4BD4E) 2025-06-04T17:44Z 144K followers, [----] engagements "Partnership Over Pride: Khadeen and Devale Ellis on Defying Gender to Save Their Marriage Khadeen and Devale Ellis on Defying Gender to Save Their Marriage" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=KfvD56864R0) 2025-04-02T17:45Z 118K followers, [----] engagements "When Casual Sex Starts to Feel Empty Ft. @DecisionsPod You can want affection without asking for forever. Sometimes youre not looking for commitmentbut that doesnt mean you only want sex. You might want closeness. To be held. To feel cared for even if its casual. Casual sex might seem like freedom but if it starts to feel disconnected thats worth listening to. Youre allowed to want more even if youre not looking for a commitment. #LoversByShan #Situationships #ModernDating #FemaleDesire #FriendsWithBenefits #LoversPodcast #EmotionalClarity #datingadvice" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=LcRKV157wt0) 2025-07-15T15:43Z 152K followers, [---] engagements "How Shans Parents Reacted to Her Talking About Sex Part [--] PART [--] - Shan remembers being crushed by her moms reaction. The words stung: do you realize boys are going to be in circles laughing and mast*rbating But today Shan can see the truth underneath. It wasnt judgment. It was fear. #LoversByShan #SexEducation #OpenConversations #IntimacyEducation #RelationshipTalk #LoversPodcast ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=LlgnwvdXwqk) 2025-09-09T21:02Z 161K followers, [----] engagements "Would You Do a Relationship Performance Review Ft. Shan & Jared Whens the last time you checked in with your partner This week Shan and Jared share their quarterly relationship review asking the tough questions couples usually avoid: Am I still who you want Are you becoming who I need Want to try it yourself Watch the full episode and download the free Relationship Check-In Guide linked in my bio. #LoversByShan #RelationshipAdvice #MarriageTips #LoveLessons #LoversPodcast #RelationshipCheckIn ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=LtkgkKLYWRs) 2025-09-10T18:44Z 161K followers, [----] engagements "My Mom Talked to Me About Sex And It Made Me Rebel ft. @blairimani What does it mean to be ready for motherhood How do love faith and our relationship with our maternal figures shape our parenting In this honest and grounded conversation educator author and activist Blair Imani shares her perspective on family planning pregnancy loss and the role of sexual education in real life. She opens up about having conversations with her partner around abortion as part of sexual health and how her conversion to Islam continues to guide her through questions of timing family and faith. We also dive into" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=M3ikFrBvWts) 2025-09-03T06:34Z 160K followers, 10.7K engagements "The Fear of Repeating His Fathers Mistakes Ft. Duckwrth Whats there to be afraid of when youre the villain For Duckwrth the fear is becoming his father repeating the same pain he witnessed growing up. He sees the resemblance in his face in his expressions and he wants to run from it. So when Shan asks If youre so afraid of becoming him why do you still do it He explains what it feels like to disconnect. To move through life like an avatar but detached like someone else is in control. Because fear doesnt always stop the cycle. Sometimes it feeds it. #LoversByShan #Duckwrth #FatherWounds" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=MIhdB0JjwEE) 2025-06-24T16:11Z 147K followers, [----] engagements "Why Some People Date Married Partners Ft. Alyson Stoner Why would someone want to date a married person For some its the perfect setup: freedom connection no pressure and no extra responsibilities. Alyson shared how their own poly experience was one built on a proactive approach with ongoing check-ins with their partner. Could that ever work for you #LoversByShan #Polyamory #ModernLove #LoversPodcast #NonMonogamy #RelationshipTalk #DatingAndRelationships #IntentionalLove #PolyamorousLife ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=MNNo2e0jRzI) 2025-08-19T14:33Z 159K followers, [----] engagements "CONFESSIONS FROM A SEX COACH FOR MEN ft. @Alex.Grendi Heres what men don't tell you about how to be a better intimate partnerHow do you get your man to go from bland to blazing in bed Why should men stop watching porn How do you encourage your man to ask for what he wants in bed Are you missing out on pleasure by not using breathwork Alex Grendi is a certified mens sex coach who specializes in performance anxiety and erectile dysfunction. Hes here to talk about the importance of asking for what you want in the bedroom AND the struggle (especially for men) of figuring out what that REALLY is." [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=MSoLmWxyhgU) 2023-09-22T19:00Z 107K followers, 45.8K engagements "Making Sex Conversations Less Awkward (and More Fun) Ft. Tamsen Fadal Why does talking about sex feel so serious sometimes @tamsenfadal shares how she went from holding backworried her honesty might make her partner feel not enoughto having open convos that brought laughter instead of tension. No more walking on eggshells. Just deeper connection mutual understanding and more fun in the bedroom. 👀 #LoversByShan #Relationships #Communication #LoversPodcast" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=MnbVpfvku60) 2025-06-14T15:48Z 145K followers, [----] engagements "Doing the Inner Work to Break Old Patterns Ft. Lilly Singh Our guest this week is Lilly Singh actor and history-making content creator with a new movie RIGHT up our alley: Doin It (yes its a movie about sex specifically what happens when a South Asian virgin is assigned to teach sex ed). In this episode Lilly opens up about growing up in a world where emotional chaos felt familiar why she kept gravitating toward toxic partners who gave her the bare minimum and how shes now doing the inner work (therapy inner child healing setting boundaries) to protect little Lilly. 🎙 The full episode is out" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=N2nx4CFWLlU) 2025-10-01T19:08Z 165K followers, [----] engagements "The Marriage Pact After Show Finding the one is a life quest one that many people never complete. Some people dont pick anyone some people pick the wrong one and some give up hope looking for the one and start considering the two three four or five Theres no shame in this especially when you both acknowledge this choice not to settle but to secure the future you want by selecting a partner who may not tick all of your boxes but you know that in time and when youre both ready to make a mutual commitment - you just might be able make it work with them. This acknowledgement that Im talking about" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=N349igTkf1Q) 2023-08-24T18:11Z 107K followers, 59.2K engagements "The Desires Men Keep Hidden From Their Wives Ft. The Pink Parley These men dont just want to eat the groceries they want to be consumed by suffocated by and utterly surrounded by the booty. This weeks guest is The Pink Parley a sex worker whos pulling back the curtain on what men secretly crave but rarely admit even to their wives 👀 This conversation is provocative eye-opening and an important reminder that what we dont say in the bedroom can be just as impactful as what we do. The episode is out now on YouTube and wherever you listen 🎧 #LoversByShan #ThePinkParley #ModernLove" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=OFRJkqICZOg) 2025-08-20T18:06Z 159K followers, [----] engagements "Shut Up with the "Too Feminine or Too Masculine" Rhetoric feat. Mal Wright Are you ready to break free from outdated social norms and discover the real power of being true to yourself Mal Wright from Netflix's The Ultimatum is here to share her story of why she chose to end her engagement why gender has no place in sex and the one thing her next partner must have. Don't miss this inspiring story and get ready to experience the liberating effects of embracing your true self Follow Mal https://www.instagram.com/igobymal/ https://malwright.komi.io/ Thanks to Our Sponsors Dipsea Dipsea is" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=P1HtvmPUk7o) 2023-12-15T16:18Z 107K followers, 115K engagements "What It Means to Accept Your Fate in Love Ft. @DecisionsPod I just started to accept my fate. Not that love wont happen. But that it doesnt have to happen with him. What would it look like to accept your fate without giving up on what you deserve #LoversByShan #ModernDating #Situationships #FemaleDesire #LoversPodcast #datingadvice #EmotionalClarity #SelfWorth #Fate" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=PKVr5SjHHT8) 2025-07-16T01:22Z 153K followers, [----] engagements "F*ck Buddy Cuddle Buddy Husband Ft. @DecisionsPod Why are we expected to get all our needs met by one person before we even know what we want Sometimes a cuddle buddy is what feels right. Sometimes its sex. Sometimes its just walking a really fine mans dog. You get to explore what feels good to you. And you dont owe anyone an explanation. #LoversByShan #ModernLove #Situationships #DatingWhileHealing #FemaleDesire #EmotionalClarity #LoversPodcast #HookingUp" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=PO4e-WLSJ50) 2025-07-14T15:58Z 152K followers, [----] engagements "Grateful for This Deep Talk with Karamo Brown Intimacy Healing & Self-Awareness Oh my goodness I'm just so grateful to have had this conversation with @karamoshow What a gift. Episode is out link in bio to watch ❤" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=Pn5HE61P2I4) 2025-04-12T17:00Z 120K followers, [----] engagements "Letting Go Without Forgetting Ft. Andr Holland Theres a line in Andres new movie Love Brooklyn that says When you cant hold in your hands the things you love most you take the memories. Andre shared how he used to punish himself for wanting to hold on believing that moving forward meant letting go. But over time hes learned that peace comes from allowing those memories to exist not erase. What memories have you learned to live alongside instead of letting go #LoversByShan #AndreHolland #LoveBrooklyn #HealingJourney #EmotionalHealing #SelfReflection #PersonalGrowth #LoversPodcast" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=PqX3OMadcxI) 2025-10-13T19:13Z 166K followers, [----] engagements "What if we stopped demanding men prove themselves and instead got curious about whats underneath Theres a rigidity built into heterosexuality that no one really talks about. Straight men are constantly trying to qualify themselvesto be enough to be man enough. And as @karamo said so beautifully: when he looks at straight men he often sees little boys. Boys who still need to be held loved and seen. Its heartbreaking. and also an invitation. What if we stopped demanding men prove themselves and instead got curious about whats underneath Where do you think that pressure to "be a man" actually" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=PvnRqIWVSJw) 2025-04-15T17:00Z 121K followers, [----] engagements "Is Compromise Necessary in Love Ft. Dr. Bella DePaulo What is compromising Compromising for what Eartha Kitt said it best. Being true to yourself isnt up for negotiation. For some that means not searching for someone at all. For others it means finding a partner who meets them exactly where they are. What do you think Is compromise necessary in love or does it get in the way of being true to yourself #LoversByShan #SingleAtHeart #SingleLife #SingleByChoice #RedefiningLove #LoversPodcast #ModernLove ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=Q9uHqPfNlIE) 2025-08-09T17:06Z 158K followers, 10.4K engagements "Which Season of Intimacy Are You in Right Now And What Is It Teaching You Intimacy evolves and so do we.✨ On this weeks episode Karamo opened up about his journey through different seasons of intimacy: the early years of going along to get along the shift in his 30s to owning his desires and now in his 40s embracing full authenticity. No apologies. No compromises. Just truth. Which season of intimacy are you in right nowand what is it teaching you" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=QZ9OAY6jg8c) 2025-04-10T23:45Z 119K followers, [----] engagements "Conversations on Motherhood Faith and Timing Ft. Blair Imani What does it really mean to be ready for motherhood This weeks guest is Blair Imani an educator author and activist who shares her perspective on family planning pregnancy loss and the role of sexual education in real life. She opens up about the conversations shes had with her partner around abortion as part of sexual health and how her faith continues to guide her choices about timing family and love. The episode is out now on YouTube and wherever you listen 🎧 #LoversByShan #BlairImani #MotherhoodJourney #FamilyPlanning" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=QZWj8DzSMHA) 2025-09-03T17:58Z 160K followers, [----] engagements "My Marriage Was Eating Away at Me so Here's What I Did feat. Nina Westbrook Have you ever been told that relationships require hard work Well it's time for a reality check with therapist Nina Westbrook who is married to NBA All Star Russel Westbrook Nina shares their experiences and insights on relationships and even addresses people who say that Russel could do better than her- her response will inspire you. Follow Nina Westbrook https://www.instagram.com/ninawestbrook https://www.youtube.com/@TheRelationshipChronicles" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=QfddWBz3Ff0) 2023-09-29T19:00Z 107K followers, 48.3K engagements "Joy Isnt a Luxury Its Survival Ft. Dr. Judith Joseph Dr. Judith Joseph believes joy is necessary for survival not just to thrive but to make it through. Shes seen it around the world: people living with so little still finding ways to smile. Kids playing in the street. Elders laughing. Music rising out of hardship. Even in struggle joy lives. Joy is part of your story not just your healing. #LoversByShan #DrJudithJoseph #JoyAsResistance #MentalHealthAwareness #HighFunctioningDepression #Depression #EmotionalHealing #LoversPodcast #BlackJoy #YouDeserveJoy" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=QggEt8s_6Xg) 2025-07-05T21:13Z 149K followers, [----] engagements "Whats A Hidden Agreement Youre Ready To Give Up Ft. @TheeJessieWoo Listen this one hit deep. Because sometimes its not laziness. Or avoidance. Or sabotage. Sometimes your body is holding onto a quiet contract that says: Survival is GREATER THAN Pleasure. Comfort is GREATER THAN Change. Familiar pain is GREATER THAN Unfamiliar possibility. We call these hidden competing agreements the subconscious stories that keep us in cycles we logically want out of but emotionally still feel safe in. So before we beat ourselves up for not doing the thing (learning your body changing your habits setting" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=QzcpT8R_aTo) 2025-05-24T19:00Z 141K followers, [----] engagements "Why Planning Sex Is Actually Sexy Ft. Jemele Hill We think sex has to be spontaneous to be hot. But Jemele Hill says planning it is just as sexy. Knowing its going down tonight gives you time to build anticipation declutter your mind get your body right and let the foreplay start long before you touch. Because planning doesnt kill the spark its what makes the spark last. Do you think scheduling sex can actually be sexy #LoversByShan #JemeleHill #SexualDesire #Foreplay #Intimacy #MarriageAdvice #ModernLove #RelationshipAdvice #KeepItHot #SexyMarriage #LoversPodcast ________________________" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=R8o8FzxmXWY) 2025-09-26T19:11Z 164K followers, [----] engagements "Breaking the Stereotype: Choosing Single Life Ft. Dr. Bella DePaulo Who would ever want to be single and stay single Many people do. Society still struggles to believe someone can be happy without a partner. Even when you say you love single life youll hear You just havent met the right person or Wait until youre older. Why do you think its so hard to accept that some people truly dont want a partner #LoversByShan #SingleAtHeart #SingleLife #SingleByChoice #EmpoweredSingle #ModernLove #RelationshipMyths #RedefiningLove #LoversPodcast ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries:" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=R9wtNOp9Kgs) 2025-08-10T17:31Z 158K followers, [----] engagements "Heartbreak Is Not a Failure Ft. Alyson Stoner What if heartbreak isnt something to avoid but something to honor Alyson shared how meaningful connections can come with grief. Just because something ends doesnt mean it failed. It might have simply run its course. We dont need to avoid intimacy just to protect ourselves from the ache. Sometimes the ache is proof that it mattered. Are you willing to open your heart even if it might hurt #LoversByShan #Polyamory #RelationshipGrowth #ConsciousLove #EmotionalIntelligence #HeartbreakHealing #ModernLove #AlysonStoner #RelationshipWisdom" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=Rf54asewWv4) 2025-08-17T18:34Z 159K followers, [----] engagements "You Dont Have to Feel Sad to Be Depressed Ft. Dr. Judith Joseph Did you know you dont have to feel sad to be depressed Thats what makes depression so sneaky. You might not be crying or hopeless you might just feel nothing. That numbness Thats called anhedonia a loss of pleasure a quiet flatness where joy used to live. And its just as real as any other symptom of depression. We all carry the DNA for joy. If its gone let this be your sign to take that first step towards feeling again 🤍 #LoversByShan #Anhedonia #HighFunctioningDepression #DrJudithJoseph #MentalHealthEducation" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=RvCzUxrTjJQ) 2025-07-03T16:48Z 149K followers, [----] engagements "Think of Pom as a co-creator in your pleasure practice Ft. Dame Think of Pom as a co-creator in your pleasure practice. What helps you feel the most in tune with your body during solo play" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=SSeujY495GQ) 2025-05-16T19:00Z 138K followers, [---] engagements "Where Do You Put That Thing Ft. Dame Where Do You Put That Thing Lets kick off this self-love celebration month aka Masturbation May with a series created in collaboration with @dameproducts 💙. And let me tell you this one is the Aer head you do want 😮💨. This month (and every month) you deserve to feel alllll the pleasure" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=THMHyLf71UI) 2025-05-13T19:00Z 138K followers, [----] engagements "What If Happily Ever After Means Staying Single Ft. Dr. Bella DePaulo What if happily ever after starts and ends with just you This weeks guest is Dr. Bella DePaulo a renowned a social psychologist and author of Single at Heart who joins us to unpack why some of the must fulfilled people are not in romantic relationships and never want to be. Whether you're single by choice rethinking long-term relationships or simply seeking permission to define love your waythis episode is your affirmation. The episode is out now on YouTube and wherever you listen 🎧 #LoversByShan #SingleAtHeart #SingleLife" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=U-qnaYslJPI) 2025-08-06T17:00Z 157K followers, [----] engagements "Safe Sex Is Always Political Ft. Blair Imani Safe sex isnt just personal. Its political. In college Blair Imani had to tell partners if she got pregnant they were driving to Florida because abortion care wasnt available in Louisiana. Even now life-saving care like ectopic pregnancy treatment is blocked in some states. And as Blairs mom puts it your safest partner is always yourself but please wash your hands 😊 #LoversByShan #BlairImani #LoversPodcast #SafeSex #SexualHealth #ReproductiveRights #ModernLove #RelationshipTruths #RealConversations #PleasureAndPolitics ________________________" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=UOxZRHh7CaQ) 2025-09-04T20:11Z 160K followers, [----] engagements "Does Casual Sex No Longer Serve You B. Simone got real about why casual sex no longer serves her. Its not about shame its about alignment. Shes choosing clarity over chemistry intention over impulse. We dont talk enough about the emotional spiritual and physical weight that can come with casual sex. This conversation is a powerful reminder to check in with yourself: Is this aligned with what you truly want" #KnowYourWorth #RespectMyBody #BoundariesAreBeautiful #PowerInChoice #ProtectYourPeace #IntentionalLiving #SelfAwareness #MindfulDating #HonorYourself #EmotionalWellness #loverspodcast" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=USAy1U-mLuY) 2025-04-22T01:30Z 122K followers, [---] engagements "Is Vacation Sex at Home Even Possible @jemelehill weighs in Thank you to Ro for sponsoring this video. Connect with a provider at https://ro.co/lovers to find out if prescription Ro Sparks are right for you. ----- What happens when you realize the best sex of your marriage only shows up on vacation Award-winning journalist author and podcaster Jemele Hill joins Shan for a conversation about how she uncovered the connection between stress rest and desire in her own marriage. She shares why her husband seems to get luckier when theyre away how that awareness has deepened their relationship and" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=V1QTuGPRZsA) 2025-09-24T15:17Z 164K followers, 13.3K engagements "Struggling to Make New Friends Youre Not Alone Ft. Krista & Tabia How the hell do I make friends Its a question so many of us are asking. Nearly half of Americans say theyre not fully satisfied with the number of friendships they have and according to research it can take [---] hours before someone becomes a close friend. This weeks rerun dives into the reality of adult friendships the time the effort and the moments that make it all worth it. Whats been the hardest part of making new friends as an adult for you #LoversByShan #FriendshipGoals #AdultFriendships #MakingFriends #FriendshipAdvice" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=V6bWh3m6Jqg) 2025-07-30T17:22Z 156K followers, [----] engagements "I'm Not Designed to Meet Your Every Need Ft. Kennedy Ryan Why does it feel like a failure when your partner isnt meeting every one of your needs Kennedy Ryan shares how we can create overdependence on one person and have unrealistic expectations in our relationships. Because we often place too much emphasis on romance other areas of our life can go underdeveloped. Dont forget that romance isnt the only thing. Its a yes ✨and ✨" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=V9Nq6Zp0TxY) 2025-06-06T15:24Z 144K followers, [----] engagements "Being Valued for Who You Are Not What You Do Ft. Lilly Singh Most of us learned to earn love through achievement. We were praised for what we did not for who we were. As Lilly Singh's therapist told her youre not what you do. And the hardest part isnt hearing that its believing it. Do you know who you are outside of what you accomplish #LoversByShan #LillySingh #SelfWorth #InnerHealing #TherapyJourney #EmotionalGrowth #SelfLove #HealingJourney #LoversPodcast ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=VmLL2fuB0II) 2025-10-05T19:35Z 165K followers, 10.3K engagements "How Jewelry Can Change the Way You Have Sex Ft. Seema Anand 🔥Try these [--] positions with your Five String Necklaces from our Kma line: [--]. Woman Above - sway side to side so it hits the nips [--]. Lotus - feel the warmth of the metal between you as you wrap five layers of you around your partner (arms legs head) [--]. Congress of Cow - tell them to put the chain right back if things get wild ☺ Want to see the full Seema x Shan line with Surmeyi Go to Surmeyi.com/Kama" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=VoWF_hpUESo) 2025-06-27T22:12Z 148K followers, [----] engagements "Whats Your Relationship With Your Spirituality And Your Body Ft. @TheBSimone B. Simone shared an emotional story about questioning her faith when a stranger at the airport pointed out her Bible and reminded her to keep the word of God close. She wept realizing she wanted to get closer to God. Later B. Simone got real about her own journey never having an orgasm or masturbating thinking having sex with people she liked was enough. She had a list of experiences and realized it was time for all those spirits to go. Its a reminder that our spiritual journey and self-discovery can often go hand in" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=Wc45YXFWAH0) 2025-04-21T18:36Z 122K followers, [---] engagements "Too Many of Us Are Living with High Functioning Depression ft. @drjudithjoseph What if numbness is the hidden wound of high-functioning depression In this episode Shan sits down with Dr. Judith Joseph a board-certified psychiatrist clinical researcher and internationally recognized mental health advocate. They dive deep into anhedonia the loss of pleasure or interest in things that once brought you joy and how it shows up especially for those living with high-functioning depression. Dr. Joseph expands on how joy is our birthright and how it connects to our biopsychosocial blueprint. Expect" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=Wra_S0bizpM) 2025-07-02T17:00Z 150K followers, 17.9K engagements "I Wanted My Man Not the Sex: Tamsen Fadal on Losing Her Libido At the Worst Possible Time Have you ever wondered where your libido went In this episode we do a deep dive on sexual slumps low libido and lack of sexual desire that is frustrating (lack of desire that is not frustrating is not a problem). We get to have this conversation first from the lens of Emmy-winning journalist Tamsen Fadal whose journey with low libido started in perimenopause and peaked on her honeymoon From hot flashes and brain fog in the newsroom to bedroom low sex drive Tamsen has become treasured for pulling back the" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=X63FXK1_O68) 2025-06-11T17:30Z 145K followers, [----] engagements "Would you consider a sleep divorce from your lover Ft. Raven x Miranda Would you consider a sleep divorce from your lover @ravensymone and @mirandamaday are the guests on @loversbyshan this week. Could you see yourself having a different bed than your lover" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=X9OpqCNrHMU) 2025-05-07T23:27Z 136K followers, 15.3K engagements "Respect First: The Key to Finding Your Person Respect First: The Key to Finding Your Person Whats on your list for the right partner As a career-driven woman have you ever downplayed your success to make a man feel more comfortable Do you feel the pressure to soften your ambition or lean more into your femininity just to be less intimidating Lets talk about it. 👀 #DatingWithIntention #RespectOverEverything" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=YcZCe3L2T70) 2025-03-28T22:00Z 115K followers, [----] engagements "Rape Is Not Sex Ft. Jimanekia Eborn RAPE IS A COMMUNITY ISSUE 🗣 Rape is not sex. Sexual assault is not sex. Its harm. Its abuse.In this necessary conversation we break down the truth: its not about intimacy its about power. We need to shift the narrative. We need to believe survivors first. Because while everyone has an opinion people are being harmed and theres evidence.Lets stop overlooking the real issue. Lets talk about consent accountability and healing" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=Yipa4Z-t-W0) 2025-05-27T17:00Z 141K followers, [---] engagements "Will an Open Marriage Save Us feat. Bayleigh and Swaggy C Lovers and Friends Ep. [--] Lonely during the pandemic Bayleigh came to her partner with a question: can I get a girlfriend Years later they are still trying to answer that question. Open relationships. Now you can clutch them pearls and raise those eyebrows all you want to but this conversation is not going away - especially not in America. Using two separate samples based on the U.S. Census researchers found that one-fifth of the population in the United States has engaged in consensual non-monogamy at some point in their lives and if" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=Yjuyibcs_gk) 2023-03-24T20:11Z 111K followers, 64.6K engagements "The Miscarriage Broke Me feat. Mike Johnson Lovers and Friends Ep. [--] Up to [--] in [--] known pregnancies may end in miscarriage. For many of us this stat is old news - but as we continue to have this conversation aloud after generations of keeping this pain private - what I do think is new is considering how the father feels about the loss. It seems like a no-brainer but speaking from personal experience it hadnt really crossed my mind until recently. So lets talk about it with our special guest Mike Johnson on this episode of Lovers and Friends Thanks to the sponsors of this episode. Hungryroot" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=YlsxIuFLjwI) 2023-04-06T16:00Z 107K followers, 13.5K engagements "Soul Ties and Seeking Sacred Love: B. Simone on Chastity and Demisexuality Are you ready to dive deep into the complexities of love faith and identity In this thought-provoking episode Shan Boodram sits down with B. Simone to discuss the transformative journey of embracing chastity understanding soul ties and exploring the nuances of identity and connection. While B. Simone does not identify as demisexual Shan suggests the possibility during their candid conversation sparking an insightful dialogue about emotional intimacy and sexual attraction. This episode unpacks key topics like: ✨ What" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=Z67njODvf24) 2025-04-16T17:00Z 123K followers, 95.8K engagements "@TheeJessieWoo Opens Up: Life Love & Sex After Assault This is a community issue that needs your attention. Sexual assault is a community issue. Thank you @thejessiewoo for sharing and leading this hard conversation on @loversbyshan It Doesnt End with Him: Love and Pursuing Great Sex After Sexual Assault out now 🌺💐" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=ZWLzRXFNrDs) 2025-05-21T18:17Z 140K followers, [---] engagements "Safe vs. Sexy: The Dating Dilemma Ft. Lilly Singh Weve all been therewaiting on that reply that never comes. The silence makes us obsess while the person whos clear and direct gets left on read. So is it really the behavior that turns us off or is it that were just not attracted to the person who makes us feel safe #LoversByShan #LillySingh #ModernDating #DatingApps #MixedSignals #Situationships #RelationshipAdvice #LoversPodcast ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=_4HlnnBAiAE) 2025-10-03T20:28Z 165K followers, 36.9K engagements "What Has Grief Shown You Ft. @alessiacara Alessia didnt expect grief to shift her relationship with herself. But in a way it became her greatest teacher. Shes hesitant to call it beautiful because it was also the worst pain shes ever felt. And yet both can be true. For years she felt disconnected from her body from who she was. Like she wanted to unzip her skin and escape. But in that grief something changed. It brought her back to herself. More connected. More alive. Isnt it strange how pain can sometimes bring you home Has grief ever shown you something you didnt expect to see" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=_BRxGESdyh0) 2025-05-19T17:30Z 139K followers, [----] engagements "Kids Are Reflections Of Ourselves Ft. Xosha Ever notice how kids have a way of reflecting our true selves Its like having a little mirror in the house that shows both our strengths and our areas for growth. Xosha finds herself constantly striving to be the best role model not just for them to follow but for her own journey of self-improvement. Remember in every giggle and every moment of curiosity there's an opportunity to learn and grow together. Let's celebrate the beautiful chaos and the lessons it brings. Tag someone who's embracing this incredible journey #Loverspodcast" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=_KvWOgyfUeE) 2025-05-30T19:00Z 143K followers, [---] engagements "Balancing Love Family and Success Ft. Shan & Jared Were taught that success means constant growth. Every year more money more projects more upgrades. And if youre not climbing youre falling behind. But what if the truest success isnt financial growth but fulfillment What if slowing down actually brings you closer to the life you want Where do you feel more pressure: to grow on paper or to feel full in reality #LoversByShan #ModernLove #Success #Fulfillment #MarriageTips #RelationshipAdvice #Parenthood #LoversPodcast #MoneyAndLove #LifeBalance ________________________ Advertising & Other" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=_MTw8m8rwaY) 2025-09-16T13:47Z 162K followers, [----] engagements "Rewriting the Rules of Love: Raven-Symon & Miranda on Creating a Safe Relationship Raven talks about how both her and her wife Miranda didnt grow up with the best views on relationships. Creating a love that feels safe to your nervous system isnt just sweet its radical. It means unlearning reimagining and sometimes standing toe-to-toe with everything you were taught about how love should look. Raven & Miranda got real about what it takes to build a partnership that heals instead of harms. So let me ask you: What did you not see growing up that you now know is essential in your relationships" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=_vfhxVe8f0s) 2025-05-11T22:00Z 138K followers, [----] engagements "A love like this for all of us please A love like this for all of us please The amount of things that have changed in @khadeeniam and @iamdevale life since they fell in love is remarkable - but one thing has not. For anyone who wants the blueprint on how to keep the burning [--] kids multiple cities and tax brackets later - this episode of @loversbyshan is a must" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=a3SD54_gCbk) 2025-04-03T21:33Z 118K followers, [----] engagements "The Heartbreak No Couple Can Escape Ft. Dr. Laura Berman Why think about the future you never want to imagine Because its the one most guaranteed to happen. Heartbreak is part of love not always from each other but from life itself. Illness grief change they come for us all. Have you and your partner ever talked about how youd get through tragedy together #LoversByShan #DrLauraBerman #LoversPodcast #LoveAndLoss #RelationshipTruths #MarriageJourney #HardConversations #HealingTogether ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=a9Tu81wR5Xo) 2025-08-29T18:36Z 160K followers, [----] engagements "You Say You Just Want Sex But Is That All You Want Ft. @DecisionsPod You say you just want sex but is that really all you want Sometimes we call it sexual freedom but what were really craving is connection. Other times we want the pleasure with no expectation. Thats the thing about liberation its not one-size-fits-all. Its knowing what feels good to you and not judging anyone else's path. So the real question is: do you know what you want #LoversByShan #ModernDating #HookupCulture #FemaleDesire #EmotionalClarity #LoversPodcast #Situationships #SelfAwareness" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=aGRlaW6wzs0) 2025-07-13T18:13Z 151K followers, [----] engagements "Have Mind-Blowing Casual Sex Now AND a Husband Later Ft. Decisions Decisions What is the emotional tax on casual sex This weeks guests are New York Times bestselling authors Mandii and Weezy the brilliant unfiltered voices behind the hit podcast Decisions Decisions. We talk about what it means to shed the pressure to find the one and start prioritizing what actually feels good emotionally sexually and spiritually. From sexual freedom to the emotional complexity of casual sex to surviving sexual assault and learning how to feel safe again this conversation goes deep. Its raw. Its personal. And" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=amsJ_VpBtlE) 2025-07-09T18:49Z 151K followers, [----] engagements "Being Loved Outrageously Ft. Kennedy Ryan Kennedy Ryan writes from the margins to the center meaning she centers her novels around women who arent typically celebratedBlack Brown fat old disabled neurodiverse and chronically ill. She writes stories of women who are loved outrageously which means what To Kennedy it means having a partner who respects your dreams goals and ambitions as equal to theirs. What does being loved outrageously look like in your life #LoversPodcast #Relationships #SelfLove #SelfWorth #Romance #LoversByShan #relationshipadvice #OutrageousLove #PartnershipGoals" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=cVJDu6O10Gk) 2025-06-10T15:58Z 145K followers, [----] engagements "When Grief Rearranges Everything Ft. Dr. Laura Berman After losing her 16-year-old son Dr. Laura says nothing looked the same. Grief stripped her life down to survival. Her ego burned away what once mattered didnt and even her relationships shifted. Some people she expected faded to the background while others she never anticipated became her greatest support. How do you think grief reshapes the way we love #LoversByShan #DrLauraBerman #LoversPodcast #LoveAndLoss #RelationshipTruths #GriefAndLove #MarriageJourney #HealingTogether #LifeAfterLoss ________________________ Advertising & Other" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=caSIw6bZOwQ) 2025-08-31T19:00Z 160K followers, [----] engagements "Stop Waiting Ask Them Out A Message for Cree (and You) Here's to Cree and ANYONE this resonates with to ask that person out on a date. Don't wait for them to ask you. I'll be here waiting for an update. 👀" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=cjazyBbMsag) 2025-05-06T23:00Z 135K followers, [----] engagements "Jewelry That Transforms Sex Into Sensory Theater Ft. Seema Anand Its not just saying I want to make love to you. Youre saying Ive come prepared to make love to you. - Seema Anand This is sensory theater. The jewelry becomes part of the performance a clear signal that pleasure is being approached with intention. Check out the full collection at surmeyi.com/kama #LoversByShan #SeemaAnand #LoversPodcast #KamaJewelry #KamaSutra #FemininePower #Intimacy #AncestralHealing #EroticWisdom #Sensuality" [YouTube Link](https://youtube.com/watch?v=d7Hdq0AfHIM) 2025-06-29T16:22Z 148K followers, [---] engagements Limited data mode. Full metrics available with subscription: lunarcrush.com/pricing
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"What Men Risk When They Stay Quiet ft. Kier Gaines Thank you to Arya for sponsoring this episode Interested in getting expert help spicing up your Valentines Day Learn more about Arya the couple's membership service that helps you make breaking the routine your new and exciting routine. Just go to https://www.arya.fyi/vdayshan. In this episode of Lovers therapist Kier Gaines shares a personal and professional reflection on how resentment builds when men are taught to silence their emotional truth. Kier opens up about a pivotal moment in his own relationship when he realized that his partners"
YouTube Link 2026-02-04T05:52Z 187K followers, 67.9K engagements
"Someone Out There Is Praying for What You Already Have Ft. Chy Theres someone out there with everything you want and they're praying for what you already have. Two truths can exist:You can be grateful and still ache for more.You can have peace and still want partnership.You can love your life and still long for whats missing. That longing doesnt make you ungrateful it just makes you human. Were all reaching for wholeness just from different directions. But while youre reaching for whats next dont forget to celebrate the dreams youve already made real. Whats one dream youve already made real"
YouTube Link 2025-10-28T18:57Z 187K followers, 11.8K engagements
"Cree Summer on the Relationship Between Safety and Sex Drive In this weeks episode I sit down with the legendary Cree Summer to talk about her journey through love loss and rediscovery in her 50s. Cree opens up about losing her sex drive during her marriage due to a lack of emotional shelter and the importance of finding a partner who provides safety and calm during lifes storms. We also dive into how her sex drive has improved post-menopause and what shes looking forward to as she explores love again in her senior years. Whether youre navigating relationships rethinking intimacy or seeking"
YouTube Link 2025-04-30T18:50Z 187K followers, 364.7K engagements
"Relationship Standards That Matter Most Ft. Abby De La Rosa Communication. Honesty. S*xual health transparency. These are Abbys non-negotiables. She explains why having the full truth mattersso she can make informed intentional choices in her life. What are your top non-negotiables 🎙The full episode is out now on YouTube and wherever you listen to your podcasts. ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com"
YouTube Link 2026-02-13T15:00Z 187K followers, [----] engagements
"Not Every Autistic Person Looks the Same Ft. Chrisette Michele After Chrisette told the man she was dating that shes autistic he said I have a nephew whos autistic and he doesnt act like you. It was heartbreaking but also revealing. What he saw as simple preferencesearplugs quiet rooms dim lightswere actually the ways she keeps herself regulated. Autism doesnt have one look one sound or one story. #LoversByShan #ChrisetteMichele #AutismAwareness #Neurodivergence #AutismAcceptance #LoversPodcast ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com"
YouTube Link 2025-10-31T18:30Z 187K followers, 1.2M engagements
"Should Relationships be THIS Hard ft. Beleaf & Yvette Henry Are relationships supposed to be THIS Hard This week on LOVERS Shan sits down with Glen and Yvette Henry the couple behind the viral family brand Beleaf in Fatherhood. Glen known as Beleaf has a new book coming out titled Father Yourself First which challenges men to approach fatherhood as a path of healing self-awareness and personal accountability. In this conversation Glen and Yvette open up about how hard marriage can be especially after kids success and faith transitions. From getting married young to raising four children and"
YouTube Link 2025-10-15T00:56Z 187K followers, 63K engagements
"When Ego Gets in the Way of Co-Parenting Ft. Abby De La Rosa If everyone consented to the dynamic why is cordial co-parenting still so hard Abbys answer is: ego. She says she really tried the kumbaya and sisterhood approach and it just didnt work. So now she focuses on her family and her peace. 🎙The full episode is out now on YouTube and wherever you listen to your podcasts. ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com"
YouTube Link 2026-02-12T22:46Z 187K followers, [----] engagements
"An Uncommon Guide to the Kama Sutra (You'll Be Shocked By What We Found) feat. Seema Anand Get Seema and Shans jewelry line Kama HTTP://surmeyi.com/kama The Kama Sutra a renowned ancient Indian Sanskrit text often perceived as a guide to sexual positions and techniques is in fact a comprehensive guide to virtuous and gracious living. Written between [---] BCE and [---] CE by a sage named Vatsyayana this text covers various aspects of life including family relationships and personal conduct amongst others. The Kama Sutra is a profound ancient text that offers wisdom not only on intimacy but on"
YouTube Link 2023-09-15T18:57Z 187K followers, 518.6K engagements
"The Kama Sutra Secret @SeemaAnandStoryTelling Wants the World to Know About In this intimate London-based episode of LOVERS Shan sits down with the legendary storyteller and pleasure educator Seema Anand the woman who transformed shame into sacred power. From being judged and silenced for her fascination with the Kama Sutra to becoming its most celebrated modern interpreter Seema shares how self-love became her act of rebellion. Together we talk about: ✨ Growing up rebelling against libertine attitudes and then discovering Tantra ✨ The link between shame sensuality and self-expression ✨ Why"
YouTube Link 2025-11-12T10:31Z 187K followers, 30.1K engagements
"The Real Reason We Started An Open Relationship ft. My Husband Jared In this episode of Lovers Im joined by my husband Jared Brady to tell the story of the exact day we decided to call our relationship an open relationship. Want to take the Relationship Style quiz I mentioned in the episode Click HERE https://www.loversbyshan.com/quizzes In this episode Shan Boodram and Jared Brady share intimate details from the early days of their relationship that led to them choosing to label their love as an open relationship. If your first reaction to open relationship is so cheating youre not alone and"
YouTube Link 2026-01-21T19:53Z 187K followers, 113K engagements
"Kama Sutra Secrets Every Woman Deserves to Know ft. @SeemaAnandStoryTelling What if the key to better sex isnt new but rooted in ancestral knowledge In this episode Shan sits down with storyteller mythologist and ancient erotica expert Seema Anand to explore the rich and yes deeply sexy history of sexual liberation and why it's never really been a modern idea. Together they unpack what it means to reconnect with your desire through ancestry ritual and unapologetic self-expression. We talk sex positions (yes the Kama Sutra makes an appearance) the role of storytelling in the bedroom and how"
YouTube Link 2025-06-25T15:53Z 187K followers, 267.5K engagements
"Why Nick Cannon Rejects Relationship Labels Ft. Abby De La Rosa Is it polyamory or just a lot of love Abby De La Rosa opens up about why Nick Cannon doesnt identify as polyamorous even though he loves multiple partners. If you label me you disable me. Thats how he sees it. Abby shares that she understands where hes coming from even if shes had her own perspective on it. And when it comes to their children She keeps it simple: Daddy loves many people. He just has a lot of love to give. Do you think labels create clarity in relationships or limit how people love ________________________"
YouTube Link 2026-02-13T00:04Z 187K followers, 13.2K engagements
"Are They Your Type or Your Trauma Response ft. @DatingCoachAnwar What does it mean to date and be in relationships in a trauma-informed way Are you dating from a place of fear instead of self-worth In this powerful episode certified dating and relationship coach Anwar White opens up about his personal journey and why emotional safety is the foundation of any healthy relationship. We explore the crucial question: Can you really date men if you're scared of them or if deep down you don't even like them Whether you're recovering from toxic relationships navigating dating anxiety or looking to"
YouTube Link 2025-07-16T17:00Z 187K followers, 130.9K engagements
"Why Lilly Singh was Drawn to Chaos and Drama To get 10% off your first month of therapy with BetterHelp visit http://betterhelp.com/loversbyshan. Thanks to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode This week I interview Lilly Singh actor and history-making content creator with a new movie RIGHT up our alley: Doin It (yes its a movie about sex specifically what happens when a South Asian virgin is assigned to teach sex ed). In this episode Lilly opens up about growing up in a world where emotional chaos felt familiar why she kept gravitating toward toxic partners who gave her the bare minimum and"
YouTube Link 2025-10-01T02:06Z 187K followers, 71.6K engagements
"What Time Has Proven Abby De La Rosa Returns to Clarify Her Current Relationship with Nick Cannon Thank you to our sponsor Evvy https://evvy.yt.link/SVTTsvO and use code LOVERSBYSHAN10 for 10% off your first purchase (up to $25) In this episode of Lovers Abby De La Rosa returns three years after our first conversation to reflect on what time motherhood and public scrutiny have actually taught her. When Abby first joined the show she was pregnant and navigating intense speculation about her relationship with Nick Cannon who now has [--] children with multiple partners. That episode sparked"
YouTube Link 2026-02-10T23:27Z 187K followers, 53.6K engagements
"If They Dont Give You THIS Its a No. Kennedy Ryan says ALL Women Must Raise Their Standards Now From fatphobia to racism to ageism and ableism Kennedy challenges the norms around love desirability and who gets to be the main character. This ones for anyone who's ever felt left out of the story and is ready to take the pen back. Bestselling romance author Kennedy Ryan (Before I Let Go Reel) sits down with Shan to talk about what happens when women stop shrinking themselves to be chosen. From rewriting the stories weve inherited about sex love and partnership to questioning why women with"
YouTube Link 2025-06-04T17:00Z 187K followers, 84.4K engagements
"My Breakup Broke Me Open. Heres Whats Inside ft Chy Fontenette Thank you to Function Health for sponsoring this video Visit https://functionhealth.yt.link/Eug9eKx or use code LOVERS100 at sign-up to own your health. The first [----] get a $100 credit toward their membership. In her mid-30s Chy Fontenette from Behind the Likes podcast finds herself facing what feels like a full-life reset: a breakup she didnt choose friendships shifting as she starts setting boundaries and a growing awareness of the pain shes carried for years. Through tears honesty and reflection Chy admits she doesnt know"
YouTube Link 2025-10-22T17:00Z 187K followers, 74.4K engagements
"@TheRealAlysonStoner On Their Introduction to Polyamory What does it really mean to build a relationship outside the rules you were taught Is it still polyamory if only one person has other lovers And most importantly what happens when that dynamic actually works for you In this honest and eye-opening conversation multi-disciplinary entertainer author and founder of Movement Genius Alyson Stoner shares their experience in their polyamorous journey. We dive into the importance of knowing your own capacity for connection and Alysons go-to communication tool: Frequency Duration and Intensity."
YouTube Link 2025-08-13T17:00Z 187K followers, 65.1K engagements
"Am I Still Who You Want Are You Becoming Who I Need A Relationship Check In ft @MusicMondayEnjoy Watch what happens when you ask for a performance review in your relationship. Do the hard and awkward questions lead to more intimacy or new resentments In this weeks episode of Lovers Shan sits down with her husband Jared Brady for their quarterly relationship check-in on camera. Together they ask the tough but necessary questions: Am I still who you want Are you becoming who I need This raw and real conversation reveals how couples can stay aligned navigate change and keep intimacy thriving"
YouTube Link 2025-09-10T17:00Z 187K followers, 86.2K engagements
"Im Afraid Im Not Wife Material ft. Miranda Rae Mayo What if the love story you were chasing was never really yours In this episode actress Miranda Rae Mayo joins Shan to explore the journey of finding love by letting go of the fantasy. Known for her role on Chicago Fire Miranda opens up about her current relationship and how she had to release the pressure to be perfect to experience a real connection. Together they explore how love doesnt always look the way we expected and why exploring non-monogamy through an open relationship challenged (and expanded) her thoughts around love security and"
YouTube Link 2025-07-22T23:55Z 187K followers, 47.5K engagements
"Polyamory Isnt About Indulging Every Desire Ft. Alyson Stoner Some people hear polyamory and imagine a life of constant indulgence. Always chasing the next high. But Alyson says its not about acting out every desire. Its about choosing which highs and lows are actually worth experiencing. Its about staying present not getting hijacked by your nervous system. What does mindful exploration look like to you #LoversByShan #Polyamory #IntentionalRelationships #ConsciousConnection #ModernLove #HealthyLove #DatingWithIntention #AlysonStoner #RelationshipWisdom #NonMonogamy #EmotionalIntelligence"
YouTube Link 2025-08-16T19:05Z 181K followers, [----] engagements
"What Parenting Taught Me About Letting Go Ft. Glen & Yvette Henry Parenthood is a constant lesson in surrender. Balancing preparation with flexibility effort with ease and learning not to take it personal when things dont go as planned. Its messy magical and the most permanent love youll ever know. Whats something parenting taught you that nothing else could #LoversByShan #ParentingJourney #Motherhood #Fatherhood #ParentingLessons #FamilyLife #EmotionalGrowth #LoversPodcast ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com"
YouTube Link 2025-10-21T16:28Z 167K followers, [----] engagements
"Understanding Intuition Through a Neurodivergent Lens Ft. Chrisette Michele He texted Do you still love me Chrisette didnt overthink explain or soften. She just said No. She says some people might call that their gutand she relates to that even if she doesnt fully understand the science of it. It was a moment where her body and her truth finally spoke the same language. #LoversByShan #ChrisetteMichele #AutismAwareness #Neurodivergence #HealingJourney #SelfDiscovery #EmotionalFreedom #Authenticity #Intuition #LoversPodcast ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries:"
YouTube Link 2025-11-03T19:51Z 177K followers, 29.9K engagements
"Is Marriage Supposed to Be This Hard Ft. Glen & Yvette Henry Have you ever wondered Is marriage supposed to be this hard Our guests this week are Glen and Yvette Henry the couple behind the viral family brand Beleaf in Fatherhood. In this conversation Glen and Yvette open up about how hard marriage can be especially after kids success and faith transitions. From getting married young to raising four children and growing a public platform together theyve faced nearly every challenge that tests a couples foundation. This episode is a raw and honest reminder that struggle doesnt mean failure it"
YouTube Link 2025-10-15T19:57Z 183K followers, 23.2K engagements
"When Conflict Turns Lovers Into Exes ft. Tour Neblett Conflict is inevitable in long-term relationships. Damage doesnt have to be. In this episode we explore what actually separates fights that bring couples closer from fights that quietly turn lovers into enemies. We talk about the moment arguments go sideways why so many conflicts feel bigger than the issue at hand and how couples can stay on the same team even when they fundamentally disagree. Our guest Tour Neblett draws on decades of navigating high-stakes contentious conversations both publicly and privately to share what hes learned"
YouTube Link 2025-12-17T17:11Z 181K followers, [---] engagements
"Why Swinger Parties Can Be Amazing for Couples Ft. The Pink Parley Would you ever explore a swinger party with your partner Its a space full of curiosity and respect where couples can watch learn play together or simply connect in whatever way feels right. For many its thrilling to meet fascinating people and discover new sides of their relationship. At the core its about the freedom to choose to explore or to draw boundaries. What kind of freedom would you want to explore together #LoversByShan #ThePinkParley #LoversPodcast #SwingerLife #ExploreIntimacy #RelationshipFreedom"
YouTube Link 2025-08-24T20:15Z 182K followers, [----] engagements
"The Truth About Living With HIV Today Ft. Jonathan Van Ness So many people still carry misconceptions about what it means to live with HIV today. Jonathan Van Ness opened up about his diagnosis and shared how thanks to modern treatment and real information his life health and joy didnt disappear. And part of reducing stigma is understanding the tools we have including PrEP which protects people of all genders and has transformed what HIV prevention looks like today. Talking about HIV openly is how we reduce stigma and increase understanding ❤ #LoversByShan #JonathanVanNess #JVN #HIVAwareness"
YouTube Link 2025-12-09T19:34Z 181K followers, [----] engagements
"Why Being Real Beats Being Perfect Ft. Chy Fontenette Chy realized shes the she might say something crazy aunt and honestly thats the energy we love. Because showing up as your real self will always be louder freer and more meaningful than pretending to be your best self. How often do you let people see the unfiltered you #LoversByShan #Authenticity #SelfAcceptance #HealingJourney #PersonalGrowth #LoversPodcast ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com"
YouTube Link 2025-10-23T20:12Z 180K followers, 24.7K engagements
"Friendship Has Given Me What They Haven't ft Sabrina Claudio In this episode of LOVERS Shan sits down with singer and songwriter Sabrina Claudio for a conversation about heartbreak loneliness friendship and the lessons that shaped her new album. Sabrina talks openly about how loneliness can quietly influence decisions including staying in relationships that feel draining. She shares what it was like to feel isolated even while partnered why she struggled to speak up about what she was going through and how she eventually chose to walk away. We also explore the idea of emotional detox the"
YouTube Link 2025-11-19T18:00Z 181K followers, 24K engagements
"Living With HIV: Jonathan Van Ness Shares His Story Ft. JVN Did you know in [----] more than [-----] people were diagnosed with HIV in the United States and six territories with Hispanic and Black individuals each accounting for more than a third* In this weeks @loversbyshan episode Jonathan Van Ness joins us for a deeply personal conversation about receiving an HIV diagnosis living with the fear of being misunderstood and what finally allowed him to share his story publicly. We also talk about the realities of HIV today why knowing your status matters and how tools like PrEP fit into the larger"
YouTube Link 2025-12-01T19:26Z 181K followers, [----] engagements
"Tika Sumpter On Being a Late Bloomer Inner Child Meets Modern Parent: Tika Sumpter on Doing Sex Ed Different What kind of relationship with sex do we want young people to have In this episode myself and Tika Sumpter known for her multifaceted career as an actor and creator explore this question as parents and as people reparenting themselves. In this episode Tika shares her compelling personal story that shaped her approach to intimacy and education. Growing up in a Christian household discussions about sex were often avoided or framed solely around negative consequences. This instilled fear"
YouTube Link 2025-03-05T18:00Z 183K followers, 112K engagements
"Sometimes your soulmate becomes your ex full episode out now"
YouTube Link 2023-02-22T19:55Z 183K followers, 190.6K engagements
"Whats the Emotional Tax on Casual Sex ft. @DecisionsPod In this episode Weezy and Mandii B get real about shedding the pressure to find the one and embracing what feels good instead of what looks good on paper how we need to reverse engineer the way we have casual sex and how to set yourself up for success while dating and having casual sex. WeezyWTF expands on how sexual liberation goes hand in hand with how you approach and manifest casual sex. Mandii B & Binx open up about surviving sexual assault and how that experience reshaped their relationships with men in their community. Follow"
YouTube Link 2025-07-08T02:00Z 179K followers, 94.8K engagements
"Kama Sutra Techniques for Better Pleasure Ft. Seema Anand Lets talk about f*ngering. According to the Kama Sutra using just the index finger can actually agitate more than it pleases the magic is in the combination of fingers. Seema showed us a few techniques that bring way more sensation. Do you have a favorite #LoversByShan #SeemaAnand #KamaSutra #PleasurePositive #SexualWellness #ConsciousIntimacy #FemaleDesire #SacredSexuality #LoversPodcast ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com"
YouTube Link 2025-11-18T17:36Z 180K followers, [----] engagements
"Discovering Autism as an Adult Ft. Chrisette Michele So many of us spend years trying to understand why we are the way we are. For Grammy-winning artist Chrisette Michele that clarity came later in life through an autism diagnosisand it changed everything. In this weeks episode Chrisette opens up about what that revelation taught her about rhythm relationships and what safety really means for her. Then were joined by therapist and Autism in Black Inc. founder Maria Davis-Pierre LMHC for a deeper conversation on autism neurodivergence intimacy and how we show up for those we love. Whether"
YouTube Link 2025-10-29T17:49Z 176K followers, 65.9K engagements
"Queer Eyes @jvn on Ending Secrecy in His Relationships Thank you ViiV Healthcare for sponsoring this episode. To learn more about PrEp visit https://hivpreventionforus.com/ Did you know in [----] more than [-----] people were diagnosed with HIV in the United States and six territories with Hispanic and Black individuals each accounting for more than a third Source. CDC In this episode of LOVERS Shan sits down with Jonathan Van Ness for a conversation about receiving an HIV diagnosis the years he kept it private and the moment he decided he wanted the story to come from him. Jonathan shares what"
YouTube Link 2025-12-01T14:57Z 181K followers, [----] engagements
"Forget What You Thought You Knew About Good Sex and Start HERE Sex is at the intersection of life and humanity. For the majority of us its how we got here and for parents its how we will continue on after we are gone. We often hear the term better sex which begs two questions: what does that mean And why is the sex we are currently having not good enough In this episode we will define the goal of sex - regardless of the stage of the relationship and we will also discuss what prevents us from having sex that lives up to our desired potential. Im going to take you on a journey as we explore the"
YouTube Link 2025-02-21T14:16Z 109K followers, [----] engagements
"When Everything Falls Apart Start Here Ft. Chy Fontenette Breakups. Boundaries. The version of you thats learning to rebuild. In this weeks episode Chy Fontenette from Behind the Likes podcast opens up about what it feels like to lose everything familiar and still choose yourself. If youve ever felt like youre living in the fog this one will remind you that you dont have to have it all figured out. The full episode is out now on YouTube and wherever you listen to podcasts. #LoversByShan #BreakupHealing #Boundaries #LifeReset #EmotionalHealing #SelfDiscovery #HealingJourney #LoversPodcast"
YouTube Link 2025-10-23T20:04Z 183K followers, [----] engagements
"How Self-Love Became Her Act of Rebellion Ft. Seema Anand From being judged and silenced for her fascination with the Kama Sutra to becoming its most celebrated modern interpreter our guest Seema Anand shares how self-love became her act of rebellion. In this weeks episode we discuss: ✨ The link between shame sensuality and self-expression ✨ Why women still feel guilt for wanting pleasure ✨ The truth behind the Kama Sutras ancient wisdom ✨ How to fall in love with yourself unapologetically in your sixties or at any age This episode was inspired by our collaboration jewelry line KAMA created"
YouTube Link 2025-11-12T18:10Z 178K followers, [----] engagements
"Desire Ritual and the Kama Sutra Ft. Seema Anand What if the key to better sex isnt new but rooted in ancestral knowledge This weeks guest is storyteller mythologist and ancient erotica expert @seemaanandstorytelling who joins us to explore the rich history of sexual liberation. We unpack what it means to reconnect with your desire through ancestry ritual and unapologetic self-expression. We talk sex positions (yes the Kama Sutra makes an appearance) the role of storytelling in the bedroom and how wearing your desire literally can be one of the boldest most freeing things you do. The episode"
YouTube Link 2025-06-25T18:22Z 166K followers, [----] engagements
"What the Kama Sutra Says About Cowgirl Ft. Seema Anand Cowgirl is what its called in the West. But in the Kma Sutra the translation is the woman above and that name tells a different story. Its not about riding hard or bouncing high. Its about stillness. Control. Decadence. A throne you take not a role you play. Because when youre the woman above youre not performing. Youre leading. How would it feel to move like that #LoversByShan #SeemaAnand #Intimacy #FeminineEnergy #Cowgirl #Surmeyi #LoversPodcast"
YouTube Link 2025-06-28T22:20Z 182K followers, 14K engagements
"Five years of Parenting You Has Taught Us This Thank you to Function Health for sponsoring this video Visit https://functionhealth.yt.link/2k5HaJx or use code LOVERS100 at sign-up to own your health. The first [----] get a $100 credit toward their membership. ---- HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY RYU our little munchkin just turned FIVE And while Thanksgiving week is here Jared and I felt like it was the perfect moment to sit together and talk about being parents. Somewhere between the sleepless nights tiny victories meltdown moments and unexpected laughter Ryu taught us something surprising: sometimes"
YouTube Link 2025-11-26T00:52Z 181K followers, 27.5K engagements
"Questioning the Rules Were Taught Ft. Chrisette Michele Chrisettes parents never told her she was different. They didnt teach her to fit in they taught her to ask why. Why cant women do that Why are there rules for how were supposed to be That freedom shaped how she sees everything now. #LoversByShan #ChrisetteMichele #Neurodivergence #AutismAwareness #Authenticity #SelfDiscovery #HealingJourney #Empowerment #BreakingNorms #LoversPodcast ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com"
YouTube Link 2025-11-05T18:59Z 176K followers, 16.1K engagements
"How an Autism Diagnosis Changed Her Relationship with Herself Ft. Chrisette Michele After her autism diagnosis Chrisette started giving herself permission to do what she wantedstarting with dyeing her hair blue. She performed on stage met her fans and waited for something bad to happen but it didnt. Thats when she realized her joy her choices her self-expressionwerent offensive. She could be fully herself and still be loved. #LoversByShan #ChrisetteMichele #Neurodivergence #AutismAwareness #HealingJourney #SelfAcceptance #Authenticity #SelfExpression #LoversPodcast ________________________"
YouTube Link 2025-11-05T22:00Z 178K followers, 23.6K engagements
"Could a Single Moment Be Controlling Your Love Story Ft Andr Holland Trigger Warning: This conversation includes a deeply personal story shared by Andr Holland including a moment when someone he had affections for used a racial slur toward him. Listener discretion is advised. What happens when a core memory rewrites the story of how we see ourselves in love In this weeks LOVERS episode Shan sits down with actor Andr Holland to explore the pivotal memory that shaped his belief that he was never good enough as himselfand that he had to become someone better to be loved. They unpack how these"
YouTube Link 2025-10-08T23:15Z 180K followers, 22.1K engagements
"When You Tell Your Therapist Im Good (and Youre Not) Ft. Chy Fontenette You ever tell your therapist I think Im good and then life says actually no youre not Chy thought she could drop to twice a month but quickly realized therapy might need to be a daily subscription. Healing is humbling but at least it comes with good stories. #LoversByShan #HealingJourney #SelfAwareness #EmotionalHealth #GrowthSeason #LoversPodcast ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com"
YouTube Link 2025-10-25T18:33Z 180K followers, 13.5K engagements
"Why Parenting Is the Opportunity of a Lifetime Ft. Glen Henry Being a parent is the opportunity of a lifetime. Glen shared that no matter how many people you reach the way you raise your children is what echoes through time. That belief inspired his new book Father Your-Self First available for preorder now. #LoversByShan #BeleafInFatherhood #Parenting #Fatherhood #FamilyLegacy #ParentingAdvice #LoversPodcast ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com"
YouTube Link 2025-10-19T14:07Z 167K followers, [----] engagements
"Sharing His HIV Story on His Own Terms Ft. Jonathan Van Ness Before Jonathan Van Ness published his book everyone around him had the same fear: If you say this publicly you cant take it back. His mom felt it. His team felt it. The worry was real not because they doubted him but because HIV stigma is still real too. They didnt want anything to limit his opportunities or change the way the world saw him. For Jonathan choosing to share was about something deeper: wanting this part of his life to be told on his own terms in his own time. #LoversByShan #JonathanVanNess #JVN #HIVAwareness"
YouTube Link 2025-12-06T19:02Z 181K followers, [----] engagements
"Redefining Love and Intimacy Through Autism Ft. Chrisette Michele Chrisettes story is such a reminder that not everyone experiences love or attraction in the same way. For some touch isnt comforting its overwhelming. For some intimacy doesnt start with the body it starts with safety. And that doesnt make your experience any less real. It just means your love language speaks a different dialect. ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com"
YouTube Link 2025-11-03T19:33Z 176K followers, 14.8K engagements
"When You Learn Youre Autistic as an Adult Ft. Chrisette Michele Imagine finding out as an adult that your brain has been running on overdrive your whole life. When Chrisettes neurologist told her she was autistic her first thought wasnt denial it was what part of me responds to this news Its a moment that changed how she saw herself her rhythm and her capacity for peace. #LoversByShan #ChrisetteMichele #AutismAwareness #Neurodivergence #SelfDiscovery #LoversPodcast ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com"
YouTube Link 2025-10-30T17:02Z 178K followers, 77.2K engagements
"He Was Never Going To Commit And Here's Why ft @duckwrth Why do fuckboys fuckboy In this episode we dig into the root of it. Just ahead of the release of his new single out now Permanent Vacation genre-bending artist Duckwrth joins Shan for a raw and revealing conversation on why some men detach ghost and repeat the cycle. Together they unpack how fear of commitment cultural conditioning and childhood wounds can all contribute to the Certified Loverboy identity. Duckwrth opens up about his own evolutionfrom polyamory and emotional avoidance to developing a deeper sense of self-awareness and"
YouTube Link 2025-06-18T17:00Z 184K followers, 124.7K engagements
"I'm Not Betraying Myself to Be Desired. Xosha on Rejecting Desperation in Dating What kind of stories do we pass down through the way we love Actor and mom Xosha Roquemore sits down with Shan to talk about sex self-worth and how becoming a mother shifted everything. It starts with one question she asked that stopped us both: Have the kind of sex youd be proud to tell your daughter about. We talk about the early messages she got about sex how sexual coercion showed up in her past and why that experience still needs more language. She shares a fun one-night stand story and how even casual sex"
YouTube Link 2025-05-28T08:20Z 182K followers, 101.5K engagements
"I Didnt Fully Understand Sacred Intimacy Until This Conversation Thank you to Ro for sponsoring this video. Connect with a provider at https://ro.co/lovers to find out if prescription Ro Sparks are right for you. In collaboration with Seema Anand and Surmeyi our Kma collection celebrates womens bodies as inseparable from nature and pleasure as the invisible force balancing the universe. Get your jewelry today: https://surmeyi.com/collections/kama ----- Sacred spicy and still timeless we had to bring this one back. Shan sat down with artist Tanerlle to dive deep into the world of sacred"
YouTube Link 2025-11-05T18:00Z 178K followers, 18.1K engagements
"What It Means to Be in Tune With Your Partner Ft. Glen & Yvette Henry Love wont always be the loudest emotion in your homebut it can always be the foundation. Glen shared that his marriage is his greatest asset and that what he gives to his wife always comes back to him. He shared a story from their first home birth: when the house went quiet and even the birds outside stopped singing. In that stillness he heard God whisper it can be like this all the time. It taught him that intimacy is built in everyday alignment not just big moments. #LoversByShan #BeleafInFatherhood #MarriageAdvice"
YouTube Link 2025-10-16T19:05Z 166K followers, 14.8K engagements
"Parenting Changed Us in Surprising Ways Ft. Shan & Jared Jared and I were talking about how five years of parenting has shaped us. He said the qualities he loved in me before becoming parents didnt change they just grew. He also said something that stayed with me: that becoming a mom has made me more gentle. Not different just softer in places that were already there. If youre a parent how has it changed the way you show up #LoversByShan #Parenthood #ModernParenting #MarriageAndFamily #Partnership #RaisingKids #LoversPodcast ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries:"
YouTube Link 2025-12-01T18:00Z 183K followers, [----] engagements
"The Kind of Love That Begins With Safety Ft. Chrisette Michele For Chrisette safety has always come through understanding and being understood. Her therapist calls that demisexuality: connection that begins with emotional safety before anything else. Even as a child she didnt think about love in rules or labels. She just knew what felt warm kind and real. #LoversByShan #ChrisetteMichele #Demisexual #Neurodivergence #Authenticity #Intimacy #EmotionalSafety #SelfDiscovery #LoversPodcast ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com"
YouTube Link 2025-11-05T20:30Z 176K followers, 10.8K engagements
"No One Actually Wants the Truth Ft. Chy Fontenette Chy learned a hard truth that day: people love authenticityuntil its inconvenient. She walked into an audition told the truth about her horrible day and thought she was vibing until her agent called saying she was unprofessional. Apparently no one actually wants to know how youre really doing. #LoversByShan #Authenticity #EmotionalHonesty #SelfExpression #LoversPodcast ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com"
YouTube Link 2025-10-28T18:50Z 183K followers, 21.5K engagements
"Learning to Find Her Own Voice Ft. Chrisette Michele When Chrisette feels overwhelmed her first instinct is still to reach for her mom. As a child her mom was always thereshowing up protecting her speaking up when words wouldnt come easily. Now shes learning what it means to find and use her own voice. #LoversByShan #ChrisetteMichele #AutismAwareness #SelfDiscovery #LoversPodcast ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com"
YouTube Link 2025-11-01T20:09Z 176K followers, 35.4K engagements
"The Power of Natural Sensual Energy Ft. Seema Anand Seema says pleasure isnt something she does its something that lives in her body. She moves with excitement without trying without performing without choosing it. And sometimes that kind of natural sensuality can make others uncomfortable. Do you think people project their own discomfort onto others confidence #LoversByShan #SeemaAnand #Sensuality #PleasurePositive #ConsciousIntimacy #LoversPodcast ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com"
YouTube Link 2025-11-24T21:06Z 180K followers, [----] engagements
"Masculinity and Emotional Intelligence in Men Ft. Tour Who decides whats masculine Because if masculinity is something thats constantly being policed it raises a bigger question about how men are allowed to develop emotionally. So where does the responsibility actually live Are men discouraged from emotional intelligence or just never taught how to build it Let me know what you think in the comments. 🗣👇🏼 ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com"
YouTube Link 2025-12-22T20:20Z 182K followers, [----] engagements
"Why He Ghosted You Even When It Felt Real Ft. Duckwrth You communicated. You were intentional. You didnt play games. And he still ghosted you leaving you wondering what you did wrong. Duckwrth opens up about the fear underneath it all.He shares how love can feel good even right but when it finally shows up it scares him. #LoversByShan #Intimacy #Ghosting #Love #Masculinity #Situationships #Vulnerability #ToxicMasculinity #Duckwrth #LoversPodcast"
YouTube Link 2025-06-23T16:45Z 182K followers, 11.9K engagements
"How Self-Affirmations Helped Her Heal Ft. Tanerlle Tanerlles reminder to herself and to all of us: You can decide to be whoever you want to be. You have that power. When she wasnt sure shed make it through she recorded a message from her future self a voice saying Youre loved. Youre doing it. You got you. God got you. The universe got you. #LoversByShan #Tanerelle #SelfAffirmations #HealingJourney #SelfLove #InnerHealing #Manifestation #LoversPodcast ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com"
YouTube Link 2025-11-11T19:00Z 178K followers, [----] engagements
"Singer Mario Shares How Mother Wounds Impacted His Love Life In this deeply personal and transformative episode singer Mario opens up about the profound impact of unresolved trauma stemming from his relationship with his mother. He candidly shares how this pain influenced his early behavior towards women leading to patterns of manipulation and broken connections. Mario reflects on his journey of self-awareness healing and embracing his inner feminine energya transformative process that reshaped his relationships elevated his personal growth and profoundly influenced his artistry. As Mario"
YouTube Link 2025-02-26T18:00Z 175K followers, 100K engagements
"Fighting Doesnt Have to Mean Damage Ft. Tour Conflict is inevitable in long-term relationships. Damage doesnt have to be. In this weeks episode we break down what separates the type of fights that actually build intimacy from the ones that slowly turn partners into adversaries. Tour Neblett joins me drawing on decades of navigating high-stakes conversations in his personal life and public work to share what hes learned about emotional regulation repair and conflict in long-term marriage. 🎙The full episode is out now wherever you listen to podcasts. ________________________ Advertising &"
YouTube Link 2025-12-17T18:19Z 182K followers, [----] engagements
"THIS Is How Women Are Held Back Why are women expected to be desirable in private but silent in public Seema Anand speaks about the identity split many women are forced to hold expected to be expressive at home yet modest in public confident but not too much sexy but never for themselves. 👉 Watch the full episode: https://youtu.be/HfrQynAqKjo -- 💎 The entire KAMA jewelry line is now back in stock for the holidays.Shop the collection: https://surmeyi.com/kama Also Seemas brand new book Speak Easy is now available for"
YouTube Link 2025-11-16T15:01Z 179K followers, [----] engagements
"Why People Are Happily Choosing to Be Single for Life ft. Dr @BellaDePaulo What if happily ever after starts and ends with just you In this bold and expansive episode Shan dives into The Eartha Kitt Effecta cultural and emotional awakening inspired by the legendary performer Eartha Kitt whose unapologetic views on love compromise and individuality continue to resonate decades later. This effect refers to the growing movement of people especially women who are choosing the single life on purpose not by default. Joining Shan is Dr. Bella DePaulo renowned social psychologist and author of Single"
YouTube Link 2025-08-06T17:00Z 180K followers, 42.4K engagements
"The Kama Sutra on Movement and Pleasure Ft. Seema Anand Stillness can limit sensation. Seema explains that during sex micro-movements a soft rock a small arch a tiny adjustment keep pleasure flowing. And in positions like Splitting Bamboo the Kma anklet adds a rhythm that makes those movements even more delicious. Do you notice how much the small movements change things #LoversByShan #SeemaAnand #KamaSutra #PleasureEducation #ConsciousIntimacy #SexualWellness #FemaleDesire #LoversPodcast ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com"
YouTube Link 2025-11-18T19:15Z 179K followers, [----] engagements
"Not Monsters. Humans. And Thats the Scary Part of Sean Combs Reckoning Solo Episode In this episode I share the deeper psychological lessons inside the new Diddy documentary not to debate guilt or innocence but to understand the human systems that create cycles of power harm silence and attachment. This isnt a Hollywood story or an industry story. Its a human story. The documentary made Diddy feel more human rather than less and thats what makes it so unsettling. When you look closely at the incentives the grooming the rewards the fear the validation and the primal drives behind the behavior"
YouTube Link 2025-12-10T18:00Z 181K followers, [----] engagements
"What Our Daughter Taught Us About Love Ft. Ryu HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY RYU our little munchkin just turned FIVE And while Thanksgiving week is here Jared and I felt like it was the perfect moment to sit together and talk about being parents. Somewhere between the sleepless nights tiny victories meltdown moments and unexpected laughter Ryu taught us something surprising: sometimes love is giving someone your dirty socks. (Its her quote and honestly shes not wrong.) ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com"
YouTube Link 2025-11-26T18:31Z 180K followers, [----] engagements
"What is love at first sight Is it real or just a romantic fantasy What is love at first sight Is it real or just a romantic fantasy On the latest episode of @loversandfriendspodcast we explore this phenomenon and its role in modern dating. Check out the full episode on our bio now"
YouTube Link 2023-05-06T18:00Z 185K followers, 22K engagements
"Can you be vulnerable around your partner #vulnerability #relationship"
YouTube Link 2023-06-01T18:33Z 186K followers, 32.6K engagements
"Rachel Lindsays Shocking Discovery About Intimacy After Divorce MasterClass Have you taken my MasterClass yet New subscribers get access to my class and hundreds of others starting at $10 per month. Right now our listeners get an additional 15% off any MasterClass annual membership at masterclass.com/lovers. In this episode of Lovers Higher Learning host and former Bachelorette Rachel Lindsay shares the deeply personal story of what it was like to experience intimacy both sexually and emotionally for the first time after divorce. After nearly a decade of being with only one partner that she"
YouTube Link 2026-01-28T21:15Z 185K followers, 49.5K engagements
"The Truth About Getting the Man I THOUGHT I Always Wanted ft. @rosaacosta Thank you to Function Health for sponsoring this episode Visit https://functionhealth.yt.link/prMboMD or use code LOVERS100 at sign-up to own your health. The first [----] get a $100 credit toward their membership. ----- What does it mean to choose love on your own terms How do our values self-worth and cultural expectations shape the way we show up in relationships In this conversation entrepreneur fitness model and actress Rosa Acosta shares her perspective on redefining what relationships can look like when you step"
YouTube Link 2025-09-17T17:00Z 186K followers, 33.5K engagements
"What is the formula for success in marriages Lovers and Friends Ep. [--] out now"
YouTube Link 2023-04-22T04:38Z 184K followers, 18.5K engagements
"@JessieReyez on Why Boundaries Are a Form of Love Jessie Reyez joins the podcast to celebrate her new album Paid in Memories and to dive into the complexities of boundaries and self-respect. Together we unpack what it means to be labeled a "villain" (by both yourself and others) for setting boundaries and standing firm in your self-worth. Jessie shares her personal journey of choosing to stay single rather than settling for less in love reflecting on the regret of taking too much accountability in her past relationship and embracing her love languagehaving her alone time respected. We also"
YouTube Link 2025-03-26T17:00Z 185K followers, 130K engagements
"What One Valentine Taught Andr Holland About Self-Worth Award-winning actor Andr Holland shares the childhood story that changed everything. When he gave a Valentine to a girl he liked her response seemed innocent until he turned the card over. What he read next shattered his sense of love safety and belonging. In this powerful conversation Andr and Shan discuss how these deeply rooted emotional imprints steer our relationships sometimes helping us but often holding us back. Whether youre single partnered or somewhere in between this episode is a powerful guide to: - Uncovering the underlying"
YouTube Link 2025-10-12T07:31Z 184K followers, [----] engagements
"When Your Soulmate Becomes Your Ex Lovers and Friends Ep. [--] In this episode I talk about the [--] soulmates we may encounter over the span of our lives. Thanks for being patient with me this week on this episode. Promise to do better Here are the [--] types of soulmates. The Stranger Soul Mate - unrequited love is still love. We needed them we loved them we were certain we were destined to marry them and they barely remember our last name. The black hole Soul Mate - the person that we lost ourselves and our sensibilities to (usually our first requited soul mate experience) The Almost doesnt"
YouTube Link 2023-02-20T22:59Z 185K followers, 140.8K engagements
"Why Love Without Depth Cant Last Ft. Chy Fontenette She loved him and thought that would be enough. Six years together and not one serious conversation. He looked perfect on paper but love without depth eventually runs out of air. When a man broke into her home and his response was youll figure it out she realized love couldnt survive where depth was missing. #LoversByShan #RelationshipTruths #SelfWorth #EmotionalSafety #HealingJourney #Boundaries #LoversPodcast ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com"
YouTube Link 2025-10-27T15:53Z 185K followers, 19.6K engagements
"When Your Life Becomes a Headline Ft. Abby De La Rosa If youve ever wondered what comes after the internet forms an opinion this conversation answers that. In this episode I sat down again with Abby De La Rosa three years after our first conversation to reflect on what time motherhood and public scrutiny have actually taught her. This episode isnt about defending a headline or convincing anyone of a particular relationship model. Its about autonomy growth and what happens when a woman is given time to actually live inside the decisions she once had to justify. 🎙The full episode is out now on"
YouTube Link 2026-02-11T17:55Z 186K followers, [----] engagements
"What My Autism Diagnosis Taught Me About Love and Feeling Safe ft. Chrisette Michele Calm your mind. Change your life. Try Calm by heading to https://calm.yt.link/2lLJh1b. This week Shan sits down with Grammy-winning artist Chrisette Michele opens up about being diagnosed with autism as an adult and the way that revelation helped her understand her rhythm her relationships and what safety really means for her. She shares how music became one of the few places that always made sense how her mom stood by her through the unknown and how she finally began to remove the mask and meet herself."
YouTube Link 2025-10-29T17:00Z 186K followers, 137.5K engagements
"Who Is Lingerie Actually For Ft. Rachel Lindsay Wearing lingerie isnt always about your partner seeing it. 😏 As Esther Perel says a womans greatest turn-on is herself. Sometimes its just about feeling like a bad b*tch 💅 So what about you Is lingerie your thing or nah ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com"
YouTube Link 2026-02-02T22:55Z 185K followers, [----] engagements
"How Parenting Reshapes Who You Are Ft. Shan & Jared Parenthood is beautiful but its also identity loss. To give your kids what they need you mold who you are. You adapt you shrink you edit your joy. But when does molding stop and freedom to be yourself begin #LoversByShan #Parenthood #Identity #ModernLove #Intimacy #ParentingTruths #Motherhood #Fatherhood #LoversPodcast ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com"
YouTube Link 2025-09-14T15:50Z 186K followers, [----] engagements
"You Dont Have to Be Perfect to Be Loved Ft. Miranda Rae Mayo I dont fit inside the Disney princess box. Miranda opens up about the realization that love didnt transform her into some neat polished version of herself. Shes still wild. Still emotional. Still human. And shes learning that love doesnt mean changing who you are it means being embraced for it. What expectations did you carry into love that you had to let go of #LoversByShan #SelfAcceptance #EmotionalIntimacy #MessyLove #ModernLove #DatingAdvice #RelationshipAdvice #LoversPodcast #RelationshipHealing"
YouTube Link 2025-07-25T16:48Z 155K followers, [----] engagements
"A Woman's Sexual Desire Deserves Respect Not Shame Ft. Seema Anand If you have sex with a woman and afterwards you look at her as dirty the next place you should look is your own hands. Weve been taught false narratives that sex makes women dirty and pleasure is shameful. But that story is over. A womans desire isnt something to fear or shame. Its beautiful and something to be honored. #LoversByShan #WomensPleasure #LoversPodcast #SeemaAnand #SacredFemininity #KamaSutra #Intimacy #AncestralHealing #EroticWisdom #FemininePower #Sensuality"
YouTube Link 2025-06-30T17:31Z 148K followers, [----] engagements
"Anhedonia and Depression: When Joy Disappears Ft. Dr. Judith Joseph You were built for joy. So what happens when it disappears When your favorite meal doesnt taste like anything. When intimacy with your partner feels empty. When laughter just doesnt land the way it used to. Thats called anhedonia a lack of joy and pleasure a sense of disconnection from the things that once lit you up. Its more common than you think and it has nothing to do with strength or willpower. Youre not broken. Your joy is worth reclaiming 🤍 #LoversByShan #DrJudithJoseph #Anhedonia #HighFunctioningDepression"
YouTube Link 2025-07-07T14:51Z 150K followers, [----] engagements
"Dark Days May Happen. But You Hold The Pen. ✍🏽 Some days can feel heavy. Some seasons may feel impossible. And while we cant always erase the dark moments we can write over them. We can choose how the story continues"
YouTube Link 2025-03-31T18:07Z 116K followers, [----] engagements
"Straight Men Often Dont Get Another Season How Can We Change This Straight men often dont get another season. No space to evolve no grace to shift no permission to even ask for something different. How many desires have gone unspoken because someones afraid of not being man enough Have you ever held back in love because of who you thought you were supposed to be"
YouTube Link 2025-04-14T19:00Z 121K followers, [----] engagements
"The [--] Words That Can Transform Any Relationship Ft. Alyson Stoner Frequency. Duration. Intensity. Three simple words that can change the way you connect. How often are we checking in How much time are we giving each other And how deep are we going when we do #LoversByShan #Polyamory #HealthyRelationships #IntentionalLove #RelationshipAdvice #EmotionalConnection #RelationshipTools #AlysonStoner #ModernLove #ConsciousRelationships ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com"
YouTube Link 2025-08-14T17:59Z 158K followers, [----] engagements
"Stop Asking Women What They Bring to the Table Ft. Rosa Acosta First of all do you even have a table Rosa laughs at the classic question of what women bring. Because not every table is the same. Some need money some need care some need joy. You dont always bring the same thing to every table. As Shan points out assumptions about what each gender should provide create awkward joyless exchanges. Isnt love about giving whats needed not proving your worth #LoversByShan #RosaAcosta #ModernLove #RelationshipAdvice #DatingCulture #WhatDoYouBringToTheTable #GenderRoles #Partnership #LoversPodcast"
YouTube Link 2025-09-23T18:50Z 163K followers, [----] engagements
""Damn Im Tooted" and Suddenly Too Exposed Ft. Duckwrth Duckwrth says the hetero male experience can be boxed in and hes too colorful to fit inside it. For many men even intimate moments can trigger discomfort.Because being physically vulnerable in front of a woman can feel like giving up power. Its wild how deep that fear runs.Even when men feel safe seen and wanted vulnerability still feels like a risk. Why is that #LoversByShan #Duckwrth #Masculinity #Vulnerability #PowerDynamics #LoversPodcast #Intimacy"
YouTube Link 2025-06-22T15:32Z 147K followers, [----] engagements
"Why Men Hide Their Fetishes Ft. The Pink Parley A lot of men are scared to share their fetishes with their partners.Why Fear of being judged. Fear of rejection. Fear their desires wont be met. From ass worship to pegging The Pink Parley shares what men are really craving but keeping quiet about. Would you rather your partner hide their desires or bring them to you honestly #LoversByShan #ThePinkParley #ModernLove #RelationshipTruths #HiddenDesires #BedroomTalk #Intimacy ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com"
YouTube Link 2025-08-21T19:45Z 159K followers, [----] engagements
"Inside the Male Fantasy: The Surprising Request Men Keep Paying For ft. @thepinkparley This week on Lovers Shan sits down with The Pink Parley a sex worker pulling back the curtain on what men secretly crave but rarely admiteven to their wives. With 98% of her clients being married men who have no desire to leave their marriages Parley reveals the surprising request that keeps them coming back: ass worship. Yes you read that right. These men dont just want to eat the groceriesthey want to be consumed by suffocated by and utterly surrounded by the booty. For them its not just an act of"
YouTube Link 2025-08-20T09:00Z 160K followers, 35.2K engagements
"Casual Sex But Can We Cuddle After Ft. @DecisionsPod How is it sexual liberation if you're still accepting crumbs What if you want casual sex and a little intimacy.like [--] minutes of cuddling after Is that asking too much Curious where yall land on this. Drop your take in the comments ✨ #LoversByShan #RelationshipTruths #ModernDating #LoversPodcast #Situationships #HookingUp"
YouTube Link 2025-07-11T19:24Z 151K followers, [----] engagements
"Polyamory Boundaries and Healthy Love Ft. Alyson Stoner Is it still polyamory if only one person has other lovers This weeks guest is Alyson Stoner a multi-disciplinary entertainer author and founder of Movement Genius who joins us to share their experience in their polyamorous journey. We dive into the importance of knowing your own capacity for connection and Alysons go-to communication tool: Frequency Duration and Intensity. Whether youre curious about polyamory or simply want tools for building healthier more intentional partnerships this episode will leave you thinking about love in a"
YouTube Link 2025-08-13T18:38Z 161K followers, [----] engagements
"What Sexual Freedom Really Means Ft. Blair Imani Freedom in sex isnt just about saying yes. Its freedom to love who you want how you want. Freedom from the scripts and conditioning about what your body should do. And freedom not to because real agency means saying no just as often as you say yes. #LoversByShan #SexPositive #SexualFreedom #BodyAutonomy #LoversPodcast #Agency #ConsentCulture #ModernLove ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com"
YouTube Link 2025-09-05T20:46Z 160K followers, [----] engagements
"Biblical Rules Vs. The Modern World I said it when you think about biblical rules like no sex before marriage they were designed to protect people and ensure their health in a time when there were no healthcare systems birth control or protection from things like child abuse. I honestly cant think of a better rule for that time it probably saved lives and prevented so much trauma. But in [----] with all the advancements we have I cant help but wonder: is that rule still as relevant B. Simone respected my opinion but the bigger question is are old rules still serving us today Do you think rules"
YouTube Link 2025-04-22T17:00Z 122K followers, [----] engagements
"Have you ever believed you had to hurt to create Alessia Cara grew up believing what so many artists do: that pain was the price of great art. That to feel deeply you had to suffer deeply. And since sadness was familiar it became the creative comfort zone. But now Shes in a good place. In love. Healthy. Happy. And as she started writing her new album she asked herself: Can I still make something powerful without breaking myself to do it Spoiler: you can. You dont have to self-destruct to be inspired. You can be soft whole joyful and still create from depth. So heres the question: Have you"
YouTube Link 2025-05-21T00:00Z 140K followers, [----] engagements
"What holds a relationship together when life falls apart ft @DrLauraBermanOfficial What holds a relationship together when life falls apart Most of us picture the happiest moments when we think about our partner but what happens when tragedy hits In this intimate conversation Dr. Laura Berman shares how she and her husband weathered some of lifes hardest storms together. From dating him while she was caring for her young son with cancer to the unimaginable loss of their son Sammy during the pandemic Laura takes us inside the moments that tested their love and the choices that kept them"
YouTube Link 2025-08-27T17:00Z 160K followers, [----] engagements
"What is So Special About ShxtsNGigs Lovers and Friends Ep. [--] James and Fuhad the dynamic duo behind the top [--] Spotify podcast ShxtsNGigs stop by to talk about dominating the sex/ relationship podcast game and how their show has transformed their own sex lives. Known for their unapologetically honest and often hilarious takes these best friends have become a sensation among Gen Z audiences in the UK. Today we talk about what makes them different in a world of podcast about Sex/Relationships. Follow ShxtsNGigs : https://www.instagram.com/shxtsngigs/ Follow ShxtNGigs:"
YouTube Link 2023-11-17T00:40Z 79.6K followers, 234K engagements
"That's What Good Sex Is Supposed To Be Ft. @TheeJessieWoo Im still learning and finding myself sexually Im just glad I dont have to do it alone. This episode with @thejessiewoo she opens up about her journey what shes been through where she is now and the future shes building with the love of her life and she can take her time. Thats what good sex is supposed to be. A safe space. A shared space. A place to heal grow and take your time. Full episode out now"
YouTube Link 2025-05-24T22:00Z 141K followers, [----] engagements
"Are You A Super Flop In Love Ft. Xosha Roquemore You are a superhero. At work. As a mom. As a friend. Cape on saving the day in every role. But when it comes to love Xosha said she feels like a super flop. I would challenge that because honestly showing up feeling deeply and being brave enough to try again Thats superhero energy too. Real talk: when do you feel like a super flop and what would it look like to reframe that as a superpower #SuperheroEnergy #SoftnessIsStrength #RealTalkMoments #LoveOutLoud #EmotionalBravery #EverydaySuperheroes #FeelYourFeels #IntimacyIsPower #ReframeTheFlop"
YouTube Link 2025-05-29T17:30Z 143K followers, [----] engagements
"Healing Growth & Safe Love Ft. Raven & Miranda To create a relationship that is safe for your nervous system takes strength. So the work is to create a better you through the trials and grow up again. @ravensymone Thanks to #ravensymone and @mirandamaday for being incredible guests on @loversbyshan this week. Been a DIS 👏🏽CUS👏🏽SION 👏🏽 in the chat"
YouTube Link 2025-05-13T18:25Z 138K followers, [----] engagements
"If Your Partner Isnt Celebrating Your Body in Bed Ft. The Pink Parley Every body deserves to be worshipped. In the words of The Pink Parley if your partner isnt celebrating you like that why are you with them Confidence isnt about perfection its about knowing youre already enough. What helps you feel proud and ready in the bedroom #LoversByShan #ThePinkParley #LoversPodcast #BodyConfidence #BedroomConfidence #SelfLove #SexualEmpowerment #CelebrateYourBody ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com"
YouTube Link 2025-08-23T17:46Z 159K followers, [----] engagements
"Breaking Free From Old Gender Roles Ft. Rosa Acosta Women cant demand freedom from old roles while boxing men into theirs. Pay all the bills sounds good until it becomes stay in the kitchen. As Rosa Acosta puts it dignity lives in both giving and receiving. Because intimacy thrives when love flows both ways not when one side carries the weight. #LoversByShan #RosaAcosta #ModernLove #GenderRoles #RelationshipAdvice #EqualityInLove #Intimacy #LoversPodcast ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com"
YouTube Link 2025-09-19T22:19Z 163K followers, [----] engagements
"Love Loss and Grieving Whats Still Alive featuring Alessia Cara Nothing good lasts. Right In this deeply moving episode Canadian singer-songwriter Alessia Cara joins Shan Boodram to explore the connection between intimacy loss and the fear of death (thanatophobia). Inspired by her song "Sublime" from Love and Hyperbole Alessia opens up about her personal journey with grief and how it shapes the way she loves and creates. Together they dive into universal questions: How do we hold on to love while letting go of control How does the fear of loss impact our relationships intimacy and even our"
YouTube Link 2025-05-14T17:00Z 138K followers, [----] engagements
"The Seasons of Sex and Intimacy Ft. Shan & Jared Parenthood can turn intimacy into survival mode. It starts to feel like the gym. You know it will feel good once youre in it but the constant thought of I need to go makes it heavy. Then one day the season changes and sex feels fresh again. Where is your intimacy at in this season of life #LoversByShan #MarriageTips #RelationshipAdvice #SexualDesire #Parenthood #Intimacy #ModernLove #LoversPodcast #SexEducation ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com"
YouTube Link 2025-09-13T19:38Z 162K followers, [----] engagements
"When Life Falls Apart Can Love Survive Ft. Dr. Laura Berman What holds a relationship together when life falls apart Most of us picture the happiest moments when we think about our partner but what happens when tragedy hits In this intimate conversation Dr. Laura Berman shares how she and her husband weathered some of lifes hardest storms together. From dating him while she was caring for her young son with cancer to the unimaginable loss of their son Sammy during the pandemic Laura takes us inside the moments that tested their love and the choices that kept them connected. The episode is out"
YouTube Link 2025-08-27T17:51Z 160K followers, [----] engagements
"💐Congrats to Our Muse and Musician @JessieReyez I'm so proud of you for birthing Paid in Memories to the world TDAY Listen everywhere you stream music and watch this interview on @loversbyshan YT"
YouTube Link 2025-03-28T23:40Z 116K followers, [----] engagements
"Whats one thing aging has helped you release in your relationship with sex Ft. Cree Summers Cree said something that landed deep: the gift of getting older is knowing your body your wants your nos and your hell yess. Age doesnt dim desire it softens the shame sharpens the knowing. Whats one thing aging has helped you release in your relationship with sex"
YouTube Link 2025-05-01T17:30Z 129K followers, [----] engagements
"Sex. Intention. Legacy. What Would You Teach Your Kids About Sex We don't talk about this as much as we should: I asked Xosha what story she would proudly tell her daughter about of her sex life. Her answer was beautiful. About the one night stand she had on purpose.She did it not to feel wanted. Not to chase connection. But because I wanted pleasure and she owned it.She didnt betray herself. She didnt over-give. She didnt perform. She chose herself. And it was fun. And she felt alive.Because its not about the sex its about the intention. And that was the first time she was a selfish lover."
YouTube Link 2025-05-31T19:30Z 143K followers, [---] engagements
"How to Show Up for Love Through Unimaginable Loss Ft. Dr. Laura Berman When the unthinkable happens love looks different. Dr. Laura Berman shares how its not about promises or forever. Its about presence. About asking How can I support you right now And being willing to let someone else step in if you cant. And above all remembering not to take any of it personally. #LoversByShan #DrLauraBerman #LoversPodcast #LoveAndLoss #RelationshipTruths #MarriageJourney #HealingTogether #RelationshipSupport #GriefAndLove ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com"
YouTube Link 2025-08-31T15:51Z 160K followers, [----] engagements
"How Im Learning to Love My Inner Child Ft. Lilly Singh We all have that younger version of us who just wanted to feel safe. For Lilly Singh it took years of giving too much settling and self-abandoning to finally realize that protection had to come from her. Now every choice comes back to one promise: Im choosing you now and I wont stop. What would little you say if they saw how far youve come #LoversByShan #LillySingh #InnerChildHealing #SelfWorth #HealingJourney #EmotionalGrowth #SelfLove #Boundaries #LoversPodcast ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com"
YouTube Link 2025-10-07T18:18Z 165K followers, [----] engagements
"How Do You Balance Giving Someone Your Time While Still Protecting Your Boundaries How do you balance giving someone your time while still protecting your boundaries Wheres the line between being open and overextending yourself"
YouTube Link 2025-03-30T18:30Z 117K followers, [----] engagements
"The Silent Struggle: Anhedonia in High-Functioning Depression Ft. Dr. Judith Joseph What if numbness is the hidden wound of high-functioning depression Our guest this week is Dr. Judith Jospeh a board-certified psychiatrist clinical researcher and internationally recognized mental health advocate. We dive deep into anhedonia the loss of pleasure or interest in things that once brought you joy and how it shows up especially for those living with high-functioning depression. Topics we unpack include: ✨ How high-functioning depression operates ✨ Why anhedonia is so often overlooked ✨ The 3-part"
YouTube Link 2025-07-02T17:49Z 149K followers, [----] engagements
"Shan vs The View - Longing for Raven-Symone To me the opposite of a pleasure BASED relationship is a sacrifice based relationship. For some reason many people correlate pleasure with insatiable hedonic desires but theres a reason why people often say my pleasure after helping someone who shows gratitude. It feels good to be good to those who are good to us. Candace didnt agree with my relationship style (open) and then automatically assumed we must have nothing else in common but as we discussed on this episode of @lovers with @ravensymone and @miranda most of us want the same thing - to"
YouTube Link 2025-05-12T17:30Z 138K followers, [----] engagements
"I Know I Deserve the Best. In Love In sex In Life. Just Because I Exist. Ft. @TheeJessieWoo So many of us were handed a script where pleasure was taboo or transactional or just not meant for us at all. @TheeJessieWoo said she didnt grow up with messaging that told her she deserved pleasure. And yet here she is rewriting the story. I know I deserve the best. In love in sex in life. Just because I exist. Say. 👏🏽 That. 👏🏽 Again. 👏🏽 That kind of clarity Thats liberation. Thats healing. Thats self-worth finally speaking louder than the shame. When did you first realize you were allowed to"
YouTube Link 2025-05-23T17:30Z 140K followers, [---] engagements
"Sexual Rhythm Not Performance Ft. Seema Anand"
YouTube Link 2025-07-01T19:27Z 149K followers, [----] engagements
"The Powerful Role of Single People in Society Ft. Dr. Bella DePaulo Do you think we undervalue the role single people play in community life In early societies some people didnt have children of their own so they could help care for others in the village. That same energy exists today. Studies show people who live alone are more likely to join civic groups take classes and go out more. Being single doesnt mean being isolated. It can mean being deeply connected. #LoversByShan #SingleAtHeart #SingleByChoice #EmpoweredSingle #ModernLove #CommunityMatters #LoversPodcast #SingleLife"
YouTube Link 2025-08-07T14:36Z 157K followers, [----] engagements
"Our Legacy to Ry & Zy Here comes the water work. Honestly this conversation with Jared was just so beautiful. Jared said something that hit me hard If we were to go. what would our kids hold onto Not the stuff. But the moments. The inside jokes. The way we greet them in the morning. The little rituals. The laughter. The love we put in everyday. He said I parent with the motivation of death. like someone who knows life is short And honestly I do. Not from fear but from intention. Because the memories we make now Those stay. Thats the legacy. So heres the question: How do you leave the people"
YouTube Link 2025-05-16T21:00Z 139K followers, [----] engagements
"For Women Terrified of Being 30+ Single and Career-Driven featuring @deepica In this episode of Lovers and Friends Shan Boodram sits down with Deepica Mutyala founder of Live Tinted and a trailblazing entrepreneur for an honest and empowering conversation about being single thriving in your 30s and preparing for the love and family you deserve. Deepica shares her journey of building a successful career while staying true to her dreams of finding the right partner and creating a family. Together Shan and Deepica discuss the challenges of dating when youre successful the importance of not"
YouTube Link 2025-03-19T17:00Z 114K followers, 14.5K engagements
"Do Couples Really Have Better Sex Than Single People Ft. Dr. Bella DePaulo Theres this assumption that single people must want to be in a relationship and that being coupled automatically means a more fulfilling sex life. What people often picture is the magical mythical partner who always wants the same kind of sex you do at the same time in the same way never strays and never wishes they were with someone else. For most people thats just not reality. Why do you think we still believe couples are having better sex than singles #LoversByShan #BellaDePaulo #SingleAtHeart #SingleLife"
YouTube Link 2025-08-11T14:42Z 158K followers, [---] engagements
"Partnership Over Pride: Khadeen and Devale Ellis on Defying Gender to Save Their Marriage Are You Loyal to Your Gender or Your Relationship Shan Boodram sits down with Khadeen and Devale Ellis the dynamic married duo known for their raw honesty humor and insights on love and relationships. Together they share how they saved their marriage by breaking free from traditional gender roles and prioritizing their partnership above all else. Khadeen and Devale Ellis are actors content creators and authors of the best-selling book We Over Me: The Counterintuitive Approach to Getting Everything You"
YouTube Link 2025-04-02T17:00Z 121K followers, 103.4K engagements
"You Deserve to Feel Safe in Love Ft. Anwar White Can you really date men if you're scared of themor if deep down you don't even like them This weeks guest is Anwar White a dating and relationship coach for Black and Brown women better known as the Dating Fairy Godbrother. Whether you're recovering from toxic relationships navigating dating anxiety or looking to build confidence and emotional security in love this episode will give you the tools to understand and honor your safety needs"
YouTube Link 2025-07-16T17:15Z 153K followers, [----] engagements
"You Are Never Single If You Are Hot 🔥 FT. Xosha Xosha said you are never single if you are hot. and I LOVE THAT 🔥 Confidence looks good on Xosha Shes embracing her single status with a fierce attitude reminding us that self-love is the best love. Are you living your best life too Share how youre thriving in the comments below"
YouTube Link 2025-05-28T19:24Z 142K followers, [----] engagements
"Could You Let Your Partner Explore with Someone Else Ft. Alyson Stoner Would you let your partner get something they want from someone else Alyson Stoner shared how being in a polyamorous relationship gave space to say That sounds amazing just not with me. No resentment no pressure to be everything to one person. Instead of seeing it as a threat it was a way to celebrate their partners desires while honoring their own boundaries. Is that freedom or a dealbreaker for you #LoversByShan #Polyamory #OpenRelationships #ModernLove #RelationshipDynamics #AlysonStoner #HealthyLove #LoversPodcast"
YouTube Link 2025-08-15T19:38Z 158K followers, [----] engagements
"Unlearning the Love Story You Were Promised Ft. Miranda Rae Mayo What did you grow up believing love was supposed to feel like For Miranda Rae Mayo it meant being pursued financially supported and constantly feeling the spark were shown in movies. She reflects on the difference between what she was taught to want and what she actually saw growing up and how that shaped her view of love. What messages did you grow up with about love #LoversByShan #RelationshipBeliefs #ModernLove #SelfAwareness #LoversPodcast #LoveLessons"
YouTube Link 2025-07-24T18:46Z 155K followers, [----] engagements
"Deepica Left Me Speechless 🎤 Drop Speechless. What else is there to say 🎤 drop Thank you @deepica for an incredible episode of @loversbyshan for women who are 30+ and single"
YouTube Link 2025-03-24T23:21Z 115K followers, [----] engagements
"Letting Go of the Fantasy of Love Ft. Miranda Rae Mayo What if the love story you were chasing was never really yours Our guest on this weeks episode is Miranda Rae Mayo actress and creator best known for her role on Chicago Fire. We explore the journey of finding love by letting go of perfection releasing the fantasy and how non-monogamy reshaped her understanding of safety connection and choice in partnership. The full episode is out now on YouTube and wherever you listen 🎧 #LoversByShan #NonMonogamy #DatingAdvice #ModernLove #RelationshipAdvice #LoversPodcast"
YouTube Link 2025-07-23T17:01Z 155K followers, [----] engagements
"How Insecurities Follow Us Into Love Ft. Miranda Rae Mayo I dont want my insecurities to come with me into my dream come true. Theres this idea that love should wash away our flaws that well finally become our best selves once someone chooses us. And yet a quiet fear follows: if my partner accepts me exactly as I am maybe Ill never grow. What do you think does acceptance fuel growth or does it make us settle #LoversByShan #ModernLove #RelationshipGrowth #SelfWorth #LoversPodcast #LoveAndHealing #EmotionalIntimacy #PersonalGrowth #RelationshipAdvice #DatingAdvice #DatingTips"
YouTube Link 2025-07-29T15:56Z 156K followers, [----] engagements
"Where do you feel most safe to be emotionally open And where do you still hold back So many of us crave intimacy but dont realize how much our pastour trauma upbringing and sense of safetyshapes how we show up in those moments. On the podcast @loversbyshan @karamo shared how real intimacy starts with feeling safe in yourself first. When youre disconnected from you its hard to fully connect with someone else. Its not about perfection its about awareness and honestyfirst with you then with your partner. Where do you feel most safe to be emotionally open And where do you still hold back Lets"
YouTube Link 2025-04-11T20:04Z 120K followers, [----] engagements
"I'm Not Betraying Myself To Be The Version Of Me You Like FT. Xosha From [--] to [--] Xosha was all about finding the relationship or gripping tight to the one she was in even when it was killing her. Now She just doesnt care. 👉🏾 Yeah maybe theres a boyfriend or two in the future. 👉🏾 But if marriage or a forever partner never shows up Shell still be good. Thats the difference between living for others and living for yourself. Thats what it means to divorce yourself from the expectations. From the pressure. From the performance. "Im not betraying myself just to become the version of me that"
YouTube Link 2025-06-03T18:00Z 144K followers, [----] engagements
"Making Sex Education Real Raw and Honest Lovers by Shan Books TV shows and movies make sex look glamorous. But they rarely tell the truth: the fears the insecurities the sexual health clinic visits. Thats why Shan chose to tell her own story. Raw vulnerable and real. Want to hear how her parents reacted Like for part [--] #LoversByShan #SexEducation #ModernLove #OpenConversations #IntimacyEducation #RelationshipTalk #LoversPodcast ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com"
YouTube Link 2025-09-08T18:42Z 161K followers, [----] engagements
"That Rush You Feel It Might Not Be Chemistry Ft. Miranda Rae Mayo "Was it butterflies or was it a panic attack" That rush you feel around someone new It might not be chemistry. It might be your body on high alert. Its called arousal confusion like in the swinging bridge experiment where people mistook fear for a romantic spark. So is it chemistry or is it chaos How do you tell the difference #LoversByShan #ArousalConfusion #LoversPodcast #ModernLove #Situationships #DatingAdvice #EmotionalClarity #DatingTips #SelfAwareness"
YouTube Link 2025-07-26T18:32Z 156K followers, [----] engagements
"When Love Feels Like Something You Have to Earn Ft. Andr Holland When love feels like something you have to earn safety starts to look like control. Andre shared how years of overperforming in relationships came from trying to protect himselffrom the fear that who he was might not be enough. Therapy helped him trace that pattern back to childhood when love first became something he had to work for. Have you ever caught yourself performing for love #LoversByShan #AndreHolland #EmotionalSafety #AttachmentStyles #HealingJourney #SelfWorth #InnerChildHealing #RelationshipPatterns #LoversPodcast"
YouTube Link 2025-10-14T22:53Z 166K followers, [----] engagements
"Are You Chasing Love That Feels Familiar or Healthy Ft. Miranda Rae Mayo Reframe your to-have list into a to-feel list. Instead of asking what they bring to the table ask how you want to feel in the relationship. Safe Playful Desired Then get curious: Is that feeling healthy or just familiar Whats a feeling youve been chasing that might not be serving you #LoversByShan #SelfWorth #RelationshipPatterns #LoversPodcast #EmotionalSafety #DatingAdvice #DatingTips #EmotionalIntelligence #AttachmentHealing #DatingWithIntention"
YouTube Link 2025-07-27T15:57Z 156K followers, [----] engagements
"Karamo Brown on Real Intimacy Growth and the Truth About Love Lovers by Shan Karamo Brown came ready to talk about real intimacythe kind that requires courage. The kind that demands you ask has anything changed And the kind that invites growth and curiosity not just comfort. This episode is a mirror. A challenge. And a must listen. * Whens the last time you checked in with your partner With yourself * What does intimacy look like for you todayand has that changed * Can you handle the truth about what your partner really needs * Has your definition of intimacy evolved over time * Whats one"
YouTube Link 2025-04-09T17:57Z 119K followers, [----] engagements
"@TheeJessieWoo Opens Up About Healthy Love After Sexual Assault Reclaiming Intimacy: Jessie Woos Journey Beyond Trauma. Comedian and media personality Jessie Woo joins Shan for a powerful conversation about healing love and rediscovering sexual joy after surviving sexual assault. Jessie shares her painful story of her assault and her joyful story of her relationship with Jay Allen aka Mr Easter. Now Jessie is on the path to reclaiming pleasure and building healthy relationships offering hope and practical insights for anyone on their own journey of recovery. This episode explores the"
YouTube Link 2025-05-21T15:03Z 155K followers, 115.4K engagements
"The Lie Women Are Taught About Sex Ft. @DecisionsPod Why were we taught that sex makes him like us more We were sold the lie that giving him something would make him want us more. But heres the truth: sex might get you more time but he already picked the shelf. And if its not a shelf you want to be on staying longer isnt the win you think it is. #LoversByShan #RelationshipTruths #ModernDating ##LoversPodcast #Situationships #HookingUp"
YouTube Link 2025-07-10T17:23Z 151K followers, [----] engagements
"Go Where you are Celebrated Not Just Tolerated Ft. Kennedy Ryan Have you ever been made to feel like you're asking for too much Our guest on this weeks episode is Kennedy Ryan a New York Times and USA Today bestselling romance author whos known for centering the stories of women who are often underrepresentedBlack Brown fat old disabled neurodiverse and chronically ill. We talk radical self-worth rewriting the narrative and why romance should always center womens pleasure. The full conversation is out now"
YouTube Link 2025-06-04T17:44Z 144K followers, [----] engagements
"Partnership Over Pride: Khadeen and Devale Ellis on Defying Gender to Save Their Marriage Khadeen and Devale Ellis on Defying Gender to Save Their Marriage"
YouTube Link 2025-04-02T17:45Z 118K followers, [----] engagements
"When Casual Sex Starts to Feel Empty Ft. @DecisionsPod You can want affection without asking for forever. Sometimes youre not looking for commitmentbut that doesnt mean you only want sex. You might want closeness. To be held. To feel cared for even if its casual. Casual sex might seem like freedom but if it starts to feel disconnected thats worth listening to. Youre allowed to want more even if youre not looking for a commitment. #LoversByShan #Situationships #ModernDating #FemaleDesire #FriendsWithBenefits #LoversPodcast #EmotionalClarity #datingadvice"
YouTube Link 2025-07-15T15:43Z 152K followers, [---] engagements
"How Shans Parents Reacted to Her Talking About Sex Part [--] PART [--] - Shan remembers being crushed by her moms reaction. The words stung: do you realize boys are going to be in circles laughing and mast*rbating But today Shan can see the truth underneath. It wasnt judgment. It was fear. #LoversByShan #SexEducation #OpenConversations #IntimacyEducation #RelationshipTalk #LoversPodcast ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com"
YouTube Link 2025-09-09T21:02Z 161K followers, [----] engagements
"Would You Do a Relationship Performance Review Ft. Shan & Jared Whens the last time you checked in with your partner This week Shan and Jared share their quarterly relationship review asking the tough questions couples usually avoid: Am I still who you want Are you becoming who I need Want to try it yourself Watch the full episode and download the free Relationship Check-In Guide linked in my bio. #LoversByShan #RelationshipAdvice #MarriageTips #LoveLessons #LoversPodcast #RelationshipCheckIn ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com"
YouTube Link 2025-09-10T18:44Z 161K followers, [----] engagements
"My Mom Talked to Me About Sex And It Made Me Rebel ft. @blairimani What does it mean to be ready for motherhood How do love faith and our relationship with our maternal figures shape our parenting In this honest and grounded conversation educator author and activist Blair Imani shares her perspective on family planning pregnancy loss and the role of sexual education in real life. She opens up about having conversations with her partner around abortion as part of sexual health and how her conversion to Islam continues to guide her through questions of timing family and faith. We also dive into"
YouTube Link 2025-09-03T06:34Z 160K followers, 10.7K engagements
"The Fear of Repeating His Fathers Mistakes Ft. Duckwrth Whats there to be afraid of when youre the villain For Duckwrth the fear is becoming his father repeating the same pain he witnessed growing up. He sees the resemblance in his face in his expressions and he wants to run from it. So when Shan asks If youre so afraid of becoming him why do you still do it He explains what it feels like to disconnect. To move through life like an avatar but detached like someone else is in control. Because fear doesnt always stop the cycle. Sometimes it feeds it. #LoversByShan #Duckwrth #FatherWounds"
YouTube Link 2025-06-24T16:11Z 147K followers, [----] engagements
"Why Some People Date Married Partners Ft. Alyson Stoner Why would someone want to date a married person For some its the perfect setup: freedom connection no pressure and no extra responsibilities. Alyson shared how their own poly experience was one built on a proactive approach with ongoing check-ins with their partner. Could that ever work for you #LoversByShan #Polyamory #ModernLove #LoversPodcast #NonMonogamy #RelationshipTalk #DatingAndRelationships #IntentionalLove #PolyamorousLife ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com"
YouTube Link 2025-08-19T14:33Z 159K followers, [----] engagements
"CONFESSIONS FROM A SEX COACH FOR MEN ft. @Alex.Grendi Heres what men don't tell you about how to be a better intimate partnerHow do you get your man to go from bland to blazing in bed Why should men stop watching porn How do you encourage your man to ask for what he wants in bed Are you missing out on pleasure by not using breathwork Alex Grendi is a certified mens sex coach who specializes in performance anxiety and erectile dysfunction. Hes here to talk about the importance of asking for what you want in the bedroom AND the struggle (especially for men) of figuring out what that REALLY is."
YouTube Link 2023-09-22T19:00Z 107K followers, 45.8K engagements
"Making Sex Conversations Less Awkward (and More Fun) Ft. Tamsen Fadal Why does talking about sex feel so serious sometimes @tamsenfadal shares how she went from holding backworried her honesty might make her partner feel not enoughto having open convos that brought laughter instead of tension. No more walking on eggshells. Just deeper connection mutual understanding and more fun in the bedroom. 👀 #LoversByShan #Relationships #Communication #LoversPodcast"
YouTube Link 2025-06-14T15:48Z 145K followers, [----] engagements
"Doing the Inner Work to Break Old Patterns Ft. Lilly Singh Our guest this week is Lilly Singh actor and history-making content creator with a new movie RIGHT up our alley: Doin It (yes its a movie about sex specifically what happens when a South Asian virgin is assigned to teach sex ed). In this episode Lilly opens up about growing up in a world where emotional chaos felt familiar why she kept gravitating toward toxic partners who gave her the bare minimum and how shes now doing the inner work (therapy inner child healing setting boundaries) to protect little Lilly. 🎙 The full episode is out"
YouTube Link 2025-10-01T19:08Z 165K followers, [----] engagements
"The Marriage Pact After Show Finding the one is a life quest one that many people never complete. Some people dont pick anyone some people pick the wrong one and some give up hope looking for the one and start considering the two three four or five Theres no shame in this especially when you both acknowledge this choice not to settle but to secure the future you want by selecting a partner who may not tick all of your boxes but you know that in time and when youre both ready to make a mutual commitment - you just might be able make it work with them. This acknowledgement that Im talking about"
YouTube Link 2023-08-24T18:11Z 107K followers, 59.2K engagements
"The Desires Men Keep Hidden From Their Wives Ft. The Pink Parley These men dont just want to eat the groceries they want to be consumed by suffocated by and utterly surrounded by the booty. This weeks guest is The Pink Parley a sex worker whos pulling back the curtain on what men secretly crave but rarely admit even to their wives 👀 This conversation is provocative eye-opening and an important reminder that what we dont say in the bedroom can be just as impactful as what we do. The episode is out now on YouTube and wherever you listen 🎧 #LoversByShan #ThePinkParley #ModernLove"
YouTube Link 2025-08-20T18:06Z 159K followers, [----] engagements
"Shut Up with the "Too Feminine or Too Masculine" Rhetoric feat. Mal Wright Are you ready to break free from outdated social norms and discover the real power of being true to yourself Mal Wright from Netflix's The Ultimatum is here to share her story of why she chose to end her engagement why gender has no place in sex and the one thing her next partner must have. Don't miss this inspiring story and get ready to experience the liberating effects of embracing your true self Follow Mal https://www.instagram.com/igobymal/ https://malwright.komi.io/ Thanks to Our Sponsors Dipsea Dipsea is"
YouTube Link 2023-12-15T16:18Z 107K followers, 115K engagements
"What It Means to Accept Your Fate in Love Ft. @DecisionsPod I just started to accept my fate. Not that love wont happen. But that it doesnt have to happen with him. What would it look like to accept your fate without giving up on what you deserve #LoversByShan #ModernDating #Situationships #FemaleDesire #LoversPodcast #datingadvice #EmotionalClarity #SelfWorth #Fate"
YouTube Link 2025-07-16T01:22Z 153K followers, [----] engagements
"F*ck Buddy Cuddle Buddy Husband Ft. @DecisionsPod Why are we expected to get all our needs met by one person before we even know what we want Sometimes a cuddle buddy is what feels right. Sometimes its sex. Sometimes its just walking a really fine mans dog. You get to explore what feels good to you. And you dont owe anyone an explanation. #LoversByShan #ModernLove #Situationships #DatingWhileHealing #FemaleDesire #EmotionalClarity #LoversPodcast #HookingUp"
YouTube Link 2025-07-14T15:58Z 152K followers, [----] engagements
"Grateful for This Deep Talk with Karamo Brown Intimacy Healing & Self-Awareness Oh my goodness I'm just so grateful to have had this conversation with @karamoshow What a gift. Episode is out link in bio to watch ❤"
YouTube Link 2025-04-12T17:00Z 120K followers, [----] engagements
"Letting Go Without Forgetting Ft. Andr Holland Theres a line in Andres new movie Love Brooklyn that says When you cant hold in your hands the things you love most you take the memories. Andre shared how he used to punish himself for wanting to hold on believing that moving forward meant letting go. But over time hes learned that peace comes from allowing those memories to exist not erase. What memories have you learned to live alongside instead of letting go #LoversByShan #AndreHolland #LoveBrooklyn #HealingJourney #EmotionalHealing #SelfReflection #PersonalGrowth #LoversPodcast"
YouTube Link 2025-10-13T19:13Z 166K followers, [----] engagements
"What if we stopped demanding men prove themselves and instead got curious about whats underneath Theres a rigidity built into heterosexuality that no one really talks about. Straight men are constantly trying to qualify themselvesto be enough to be man enough. And as @karamo said so beautifully: when he looks at straight men he often sees little boys. Boys who still need to be held loved and seen. Its heartbreaking. and also an invitation. What if we stopped demanding men prove themselves and instead got curious about whats underneath Where do you think that pressure to "be a man" actually"
YouTube Link 2025-04-15T17:00Z 121K followers, [----] engagements
"Is Compromise Necessary in Love Ft. Dr. Bella DePaulo What is compromising Compromising for what Eartha Kitt said it best. Being true to yourself isnt up for negotiation. For some that means not searching for someone at all. For others it means finding a partner who meets them exactly where they are. What do you think Is compromise necessary in love or does it get in the way of being true to yourself #LoversByShan #SingleAtHeart #SingleLife #SingleByChoice #RedefiningLove #LoversPodcast #ModernLove ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com"
YouTube Link 2025-08-09T17:06Z 158K followers, 10.4K engagements
"Which Season of Intimacy Are You in Right Now And What Is It Teaching You Intimacy evolves and so do we.✨ On this weeks episode Karamo opened up about his journey through different seasons of intimacy: the early years of going along to get along the shift in his 30s to owning his desires and now in his 40s embracing full authenticity. No apologies. No compromises. Just truth. Which season of intimacy are you in right nowand what is it teaching you"
YouTube Link 2025-04-10T23:45Z 119K followers, [----] engagements
"Conversations on Motherhood Faith and Timing Ft. Blair Imani What does it really mean to be ready for motherhood This weeks guest is Blair Imani an educator author and activist who shares her perspective on family planning pregnancy loss and the role of sexual education in real life. She opens up about the conversations shes had with her partner around abortion as part of sexual health and how her faith continues to guide her choices about timing family and love. The episode is out now on YouTube and wherever you listen 🎧 #LoversByShan #BlairImani #MotherhoodJourney #FamilyPlanning"
YouTube Link 2025-09-03T17:58Z 160K followers, [----] engagements
"My Marriage Was Eating Away at Me so Here's What I Did feat. Nina Westbrook Have you ever been told that relationships require hard work Well it's time for a reality check with therapist Nina Westbrook who is married to NBA All Star Russel Westbrook Nina shares their experiences and insights on relationships and even addresses people who say that Russel could do better than her- her response will inspire you. Follow Nina Westbrook https://www.instagram.com/ninawestbrook https://www.youtube.com/@TheRelationshipChronicles"
YouTube Link 2023-09-29T19:00Z 107K followers, 48.3K engagements
"Joy Isnt a Luxury Its Survival Ft. Dr. Judith Joseph Dr. Judith Joseph believes joy is necessary for survival not just to thrive but to make it through. Shes seen it around the world: people living with so little still finding ways to smile. Kids playing in the street. Elders laughing. Music rising out of hardship. Even in struggle joy lives. Joy is part of your story not just your healing. #LoversByShan #DrJudithJoseph #JoyAsResistance #MentalHealthAwareness #HighFunctioningDepression #Depression #EmotionalHealing #LoversPodcast #BlackJoy #YouDeserveJoy"
YouTube Link 2025-07-05T21:13Z 149K followers, [----] engagements
"Whats A Hidden Agreement Youre Ready To Give Up Ft. @TheeJessieWoo Listen this one hit deep. Because sometimes its not laziness. Or avoidance. Or sabotage. Sometimes your body is holding onto a quiet contract that says: Survival is GREATER THAN Pleasure. Comfort is GREATER THAN Change. Familiar pain is GREATER THAN Unfamiliar possibility. We call these hidden competing agreements the subconscious stories that keep us in cycles we logically want out of but emotionally still feel safe in. So before we beat ourselves up for not doing the thing (learning your body changing your habits setting"
YouTube Link 2025-05-24T19:00Z 141K followers, [----] engagements
"Why Planning Sex Is Actually Sexy Ft. Jemele Hill We think sex has to be spontaneous to be hot. But Jemele Hill says planning it is just as sexy. Knowing its going down tonight gives you time to build anticipation declutter your mind get your body right and let the foreplay start long before you touch. Because planning doesnt kill the spark its what makes the spark last. Do you think scheduling sex can actually be sexy #LoversByShan #JemeleHill #SexualDesire #Foreplay #Intimacy #MarriageAdvice #ModernLove #RelationshipAdvice #KeepItHot #SexyMarriage #LoversPodcast ________________________"
YouTube Link 2025-09-26T19:11Z 164K followers, [----] engagements
"Breaking the Stereotype: Choosing Single Life Ft. Dr. Bella DePaulo Who would ever want to be single and stay single Many people do. Society still struggles to believe someone can be happy without a partner. Even when you say you love single life youll hear You just havent met the right person or Wait until youre older. Why do you think its so hard to accept that some people truly dont want a partner #LoversByShan #SingleAtHeart #SingleLife #SingleByChoice #EmpoweredSingle #ModernLove #RelationshipMyths #RedefiningLove #LoversPodcast ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries:"
YouTube Link 2025-08-10T17:31Z 158K followers, [----] engagements
"Heartbreak Is Not a Failure Ft. Alyson Stoner What if heartbreak isnt something to avoid but something to honor Alyson shared how meaningful connections can come with grief. Just because something ends doesnt mean it failed. It might have simply run its course. We dont need to avoid intimacy just to protect ourselves from the ache. Sometimes the ache is proof that it mattered. Are you willing to open your heart even if it might hurt #LoversByShan #Polyamory #RelationshipGrowth #ConsciousLove #EmotionalIntelligence #HeartbreakHealing #ModernLove #AlysonStoner #RelationshipWisdom"
YouTube Link 2025-08-17T18:34Z 159K followers, [----] engagements
"You Dont Have to Feel Sad to Be Depressed Ft. Dr. Judith Joseph Did you know you dont have to feel sad to be depressed Thats what makes depression so sneaky. You might not be crying or hopeless you might just feel nothing. That numbness Thats called anhedonia a loss of pleasure a quiet flatness where joy used to live. And its just as real as any other symptom of depression. We all carry the DNA for joy. If its gone let this be your sign to take that first step towards feeling again 🤍 #LoversByShan #Anhedonia #HighFunctioningDepression #DrJudithJoseph #MentalHealthEducation"
YouTube Link 2025-07-03T16:48Z 149K followers, [----] engagements
"Think of Pom as a co-creator in your pleasure practice Ft. Dame Think of Pom as a co-creator in your pleasure practice. What helps you feel the most in tune with your body during solo play"
YouTube Link 2025-05-16T19:00Z 138K followers, [---] engagements
"Where Do You Put That Thing Ft. Dame Where Do You Put That Thing Lets kick off this self-love celebration month aka Masturbation May with a series created in collaboration with @dameproducts 💙. And let me tell you this one is the Aer head you do want 😮💨. This month (and every month) you deserve to feel alllll the pleasure"
YouTube Link 2025-05-13T19:00Z 138K followers, [----] engagements
"What If Happily Ever After Means Staying Single Ft. Dr. Bella DePaulo What if happily ever after starts and ends with just you This weeks guest is Dr. Bella DePaulo a renowned a social psychologist and author of Single at Heart who joins us to unpack why some of the must fulfilled people are not in romantic relationships and never want to be. Whether you're single by choice rethinking long-term relationships or simply seeking permission to define love your waythis episode is your affirmation. The episode is out now on YouTube and wherever you listen 🎧 #LoversByShan #SingleAtHeart #SingleLife"
YouTube Link 2025-08-06T17:00Z 157K followers, [----] engagements
"Safe Sex Is Always Political Ft. Blair Imani Safe sex isnt just personal. Its political. In college Blair Imani had to tell partners if she got pregnant they were driving to Florida because abortion care wasnt available in Louisiana. Even now life-saving care like ectopic pregnancy treatment is blocked in some states. And as Blairs mom puts it your safest partner is always yourself but please wash your hands 😊 #LoversByShan #BlairImani #LoversPodcast #SafeSex #SexualHealth #ReproductiveRights #ModernLove #RelationshipTruths #RealConversations #PleasureAndPolitics ________________________"
YouTube Link 2025-09-04T20:11Z 160K followers, [----] engagements
"Does Casual Sex No Longer Serve You B. Simone got real about why casual sex no longer serves her. Its not about shame its about alignment. Shes choosing clarity over chemistry intention over impulse. We dont talk enough about the emotional spiritual and physical weight that can come with casual sex. This conversation is a powerful reminder to check in with yourself: Is this aligned with what you truly want" #KnowYourWorth #RespectMyBody #BoundariesAreBeautiful #PowerInChoice #ProtectYourPeace #IntentionalLiving #SelfAwareness #MindfulDating #HonorYourself #EmotionalWellness #loverspodcast"
YouTube Link 2025-04-22T01:30Z 122K followers, [---] engagements
"Is Vacation Sex at Home Even Possible @jemelehill weighs in Thank you to Ro for sponsoring this video. Connect with a provider at https://ro.co/lovers to find out if prescription Ro Sparks are right for you. ----- What happens when you realize the best sex of your marriage only shows up on vacation Award-winning journalist author and podcaster Jemele Hill joins Shan for a conversation about how she uncovered the connection between stress rest and desire in her own marriage. She shares why her husband seems to get luckier when theyre away how that awareness has deepened their relationship and"
YouTube Link 2025-09-24T15:17Z 164K followers, 13.3K engagements
"Struggling to Make New Friends Youre Not Alone Ft. Krista & Tabia How the hell do I make friends Its a question so many of us are asking. Nearly half of Americans say theyre not fully satisfied with the number of friendships they have and according to research it can take [---] hours before someone becomes a close friend. This weeks rerun dives into the reality of adult friendships the time the effort and the moments that make it all worth it. Whats been the hardest part of making new friends as an adult for you #LoversByShan #FriendshipGoals #AdultFriendships #MakingFriends #FriendshipAdvice"
YouTube Link 2025-07-30T17:22Z 156K followers, [----] engagements
"I'm Not Designed to Meet Your Every Need Ft. Kennedy Ryan Why does it feel like a failure when your partner isnt meeting every one of your needs Kennedy Ryan shares how we can create overdependence on one person and have unrealistic expectations in our relationships. Because we often place too much emphasis on romance other areas of our life can go underdeveloped. Dont forget that romance isnt the only thing. Its a yes ✨and ✨"
YouTube Link 2025-06-06T15:24Z 144K followers, [----] engagements
"Being Valued for Who You Are Not What You Do Ft. Lilly Singh Most of us learned to earn love through achievement. We were praised for what we did not for who we were. As Lilly Singh's therapist told her youre not what you do. And the hardest part isnt hearing that its believing it. Do you know who you are outside of what you accomplish #LoversByShan #LillySingh #SelfWorth #InnerHealing #TherapyJourney #EmotionalGrowth #SelfLove #HealingJourney #LoversPodcast ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com"
YouTube Link 2025-10-05T19:35Z 165K followers, 10.3K engagements
"How Jewelry Can Change the Way You Have Sex Ft. Seema Anand 🔥Try these [--] positions with your Five String Necklaces from our Kma line: [--]. Woman Above - sway side to side so it hits the nips [--]. Lotus - feel the warmth of the metal between you as you wrap five layers of you around your partner (arms legs head) [--]. Congress of Cow - tell them to put the chain right back if things get wild ☺ Want to see the full Seema x Shan line with Surmeyi Go to Surmeyi.com/Kama"
YouTube Link 2025-06-27T22:12Z 148K followers, [----] engagements
"Whats Your Relationship With Your Spirituality And Your Body Ft. @TheBSimone B. Simone shared an emotional story about questioning her faith when a stranger at the airport pointed out her Bible and reminded her to keep the word of God close. She wept realizing she wanted to get closer to God. Later B. Simone got real about her own journey never having an orgasm or masturbating thinking having sex with people she liked was enough. She had a list of experiences and realized it was time for all those spirits to go. Its a reminder that our spiritual journey and self-discovery can often go hand in"
YouTube Link 2025-04-21T18:36Z 122K followers, [---] engagements
"Too Many of Us Are Living with High Functioning Depression ft. @drjudithjoseph What if numbness is the hidden wound of high-functioning depression In this episode Shan sits down with Dr. Judith Joseph a board-certified psychiatrist clinical researcher and internationally recognized mental health advocate. They dive deep into anhedonia the loss of pleasure or interest in things that once brought you joy and how it shows up especially for those living with high-functioning depression. Dr. Joseph expands on how joy is our birthright and how it connects to our biopsychosocial blueprint. Expect"
YouTube Link 2025-07-02T17:00Z 150K followers, 17.9K engagements
"I Wanted My Man Not the Sex: Tamsen Fadal on Losing Her Libido At the Worst Possible Time Have you ever wondered where your libido went In this episode we do a deep dive on sexual slumps low libido and lack of sexual desire that is frustrating (lack of desire that is not frustrating is not a problem). We get to have this conversation first from the lens of Emmy-winning journalist Tamsen Fadal whose journey with low libido started in perimenopause and peaked on her honeymoon From hot flashes and brain fog in the newsroom to bedroom low sex drive Tamsen has become treasured for pulling back the"
YouTube Link 2025-06-11T17:30Z 145K followers, [----] engagements
"Would you consider a sleep divorce from your lover Ft. Raven x Miranda Would you consider a sleep divorce from your lover @ravensymone and @mirandamaday are the guests on @loversbyshan this week. Could you see yourself having a different bed than your lover"
YouTube Link 2025-05-07T23:27Z 136K followers, 15.3K engagements
"Respect First: The Key to Finding Your Person Respect First: The Key to Finding Your Person Whats on your list for the right partner As a career-driven woman have you ever downplayed your success to make a man feel more comfortable Do you feel the pressure to soften your ambition or lean more into your femininity just to be less intimidating Lets talk about it. 👀 #DatingWithIntention #RespectOverEverything"
YouTube Link 2025-03-28T22:00Z 115K followers, [----] engagements
"Rape Is Not Sex Ft. Jimanekia Eborn RAPE IS A COMMUNITY ISSUE 🗣 Rape is not sex. Sexual assault is not sex. Its harm. Its abuse.In this necessary conversation we break down the truth: its not about intimacy its about power. We need to shift the narrative. We need to believe survivors first. Because while everyone has an opinion people are being harmed and theres evidence.Lets stop overlooking the real issue. Lets talk about consent accountability and healing"
YouTube Link 2025-05-27T17:00Z 141K followers, [---] engagements
"Will an Open Marriage Save Us feat. Bayleigh and Swaggy C Lovers and Friends Ep. [--] Lonely during the pandemic Bayleigh came to her partner with a question: can I get a girlfriend Years later they are still trying to answer that question. Open relationships. Now you can clutch them pearls and raise those eyebrows all you want to but this conversation is not going away - especially not in America. Using two separate samples based on the U.S. Census researchers found that one-fifth of the population in the United States has engaged in consensual non-monogamy at some point in their lives and if"
YouTube Link 2023-03-24T20:11Z 111K followers, 64.6K engagements
"The Miscarriage Broke Me feat. Mike Johnson Lovers and Friends Ep. [--] Up to [--] in [--] known pregnancies may end in miscarriage. For many of us this stat is old news - but as we continue to have this conversation aloud after generations of keeping this pain private - what I do think is new is considering how the father feels about the loss. It seems like a no-brainer but speaking from personal experience it hadnt really crossed my mind until recently. So lets talk about it with our special guest Mike Johnson on this episode of Lovers and Friends Thanks to the sponsors of this episode. Hungryroot"
YouTube Link 2023-04-06T16:00Z 107K followers, 13.5K engagements
"Soul Ties and Seeking Sacred Love: B. Simone on Chastity and Demisexuality Are you ready to dive deep into the complexities of love faith and identity In this thought-provoking episode Shan Boodram sits down with B. Simone to discuss the transformative journey of embracing chastity understanding soul ties and exploring the nuances of identity and connection. While B. Simone does not identify as demisexual Shan suggests the possibility during their candid conversation sparking an insightful dialogue about emotional intimacy and sexual attraction. This episode unpacks key topics like: ✨ What"
YouTube Link 2025-04-16T17:00Z 123K followers, 95.8K engagements
"@TheeJessieWoo Opens Up: Life Love & Sex After Assault This is a community issue that needs your attention. Sexual assault is a community issue. Thank you @thejessiewoo for sharing and leading this hard conversation on @loversbyshan It Doesnt End with Him: Love and Pursuing Great Sex After Sexual Assault out now 🌺💐"
YouTube Link 2025-05-21T18:17Z 140K followers, [---] engagements
"Safe vs. Sexy: The Dating Dilemma Ft. Lilly Singh Weve all been therewaiting on that reply that never comes. The silence makes us obsess while the person whos clear and direct gets left on read. So is it really the behavior that turns us off or is it that were just not attracted to the person who makes us feel safe #LoversByShan #LillySingh #ModernDating #DatingApps #MixedSignals #Situationships #RelationshipAdvice #LoversPodcast ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com"
YouTube Link 2025-10-03T20:28Z 165K followers, 36.9K engagements
"What Has Grief Shown You Ft. @alessiacara Alessia didnt expect grief to shift her relationship with herself. But in a way it became her greatest teacher. Shes hesitant to call it beautiful because it was also the worst pain shes ever felt. And yet both can be true. For years she felt disconnected from her body from who she was. Like she wanted to unzip her skin and escape. But in that grief something changed. It brought her back to herself. More connected. More alive. Isnt it strange how pain can sometimes bring you home Has grief ever shown you something you didnt expect to see"
YouTube Link 2025-05-19T17:30Z 139K followers, [----] engagements
"Kids Are Reflections Of Ourselves Ft. Xosha Ever notice how kids have a way of reflecting our true selves Its like having a little mirror in the house that shows both our strengths and our areas for growth. Xosha finds herself constantly striving to be the best role model not just for them to follow but for her own journey of self-improvement. Remember in every giggle and every moment of curiosity there's an opportunity to learn and grow together. Let's celebrate the beautiful chaos and the lessons it brings. Tag someone who's embracing this incredible journey #Loverspodcast"
YouTube Link 2025-05-30T19:00Z 143K followers, [---] engagements
"Balancing Love Family and Success Ft. Shan & Jared Were taught that success means constant growth. Every year more money more projects more upgrades. And if youre not climbing youre falling behind. But what if the truest success isnt financial growth but fulfillment What if slowing down actually brings you closer to the life you want Where do you feel more pressure: to grow on paper or to feel full in reality #LoversByShan #ModernLove #Success #Fulfillment #MarriageTips #RelationshipAdvice #Parenthood #LoversPodcast #MoneyAndLove #LifeBalance ________________________ Advertising & Other"
YouTube Link 2025-09-16T13:47Z 162K followers, [----] engagements
"Rewriting the Rules of Love: Raven-Symon & Miranda on Creating a Safe Relationship Raven talks about how both her and her wife Miranda didnt grow up with the best views on relationships. Creating a love that feels safe to your nervous system isnt just sweet its radical. It means unlearning reimagining and sometimes standing toe-to-toe with everything you were taught about how love should look. Raven & Miranda got real about what it takes to build a partnership that heals instead of harms. So let me ask you: What did you not see growing up that you now know is essential in your relationships"
YouTube Link 2025-05-11T22:00Z 138K followers, [----] engagements
"A love like this for all of us please A love like this for all of us please The amount of things that have changed in @khadeeniam and @iamdevale life since they fell in love is remarkable - but one thing has not. For anyone who wants the blueprint on how to keep the burning [--] kids multiple cities and tax brackets later - this episode of @loversbyshan is a must"
YouTube Link 2025-04-03T21:33Z 118K followers, [----] engagements
"The Heartbreak No Couple Can Escape Ft. Dr. Laura Berman Why think about the future you never want to imagine Because its the one most guaranteed to happen. Heartbreak is part of love not always from each other but from life itself. Illness grief change they come for us all. Have you and your partner ever talked about how youd get through tragedy together #LoversByShan #DrLauraBerman #LoversPodcast #LoveAndLoss #RelationshipTruths #MarriageJourney #HardConversations #HealingTogether ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com"
YouTube Link 2025-08-29T18:36Z 160K followers, [----] engagements
"You Say You Just Want Sex But Is That All You Want Ft. @DecisionsPod You say you just want sex but is that really all you want Sometimes we call it sexual freedom but what were really craving is connection. Other times we want the pleasure with no expectation. Thats the thing about liberation its not one-size-fits-all. Its knowing what feels good to you and not judging anyone else's path. So the real question is: do you know what you want #LoversByShan #ModernDating #HookupCulture #FemaleDesire #EmotionalClarity #LoversPodcast #Situationships #SelfAwareness"
YouTube Link 2025-07-13T18:13Z 151K followers, [----] engagements
"Have Mind-Blowing Casual Sex Now AND a Husband Later Ft. Decisions Decisions What is the emotional tax on casual sex This weeks guests are New York Times bestselling authors Mandii and Weezy the brilliant unfiltered voices behind the hit podcast Decisions Decisions. We talk about what it means to shed the pressure to find the one and start prioritizing what actually feels good emotionally sexually and spiritually. From sexual freedom to the emotional complexity of casual sex to surviving sexual assault and learning how to feel safe again this conversation goes deep. Its raw. Its personal. And"
YouTube Link 2025-07-09T18:49Z 151K followers, [----] engagements
"Being Loved Outrageously Ft. Kennedy Ryan Kennedy Ryan writes from the margins to the center meaning she centers her novels around women who arent typically celebratedBlack Brown fat old disabled neurodiverse and chronically ill. She writes stories of women who are loved outrageously which means what To Kennedy it means having a partner who respects your dreams goals and ambitions as equal to theirs. What does being loved outrageously look like in your life #LoversPodcast #Relationships #SelfLove #SelfWorth #Romance #LoversByShan #relationshipadvice #OutrageousLove #PartnershipGoals"
YouTube Link 2025-06-10T15:58Z 145K followers, [----] engagements
"When Grief Rearranges Everything Ft. Dr. Laura Berman After losing her 16-year-old son Dr. Laura says nothing looked the same. Grief stripped her life down to survival. Her ego burned away what once mattered didnt and even her relationships shifted. Some people she expected faded to the background while others she never anticipated became her greatest support. How do you think grief reshapes the way we love #LoversByShan #DrLauraBerman #LoversPodcast #LoveAndLoss #RelationshipTruths #GriefAndLove #MarriageJourney #HealingTogether #LifeAfterLoss ________________________ Advertising & Other"
YouTube Link 2025-08-31T19:00Z 160K followers, [----] engagements
"Stop Waiting Ask Them Out A Message for Cree (and You) Here's to Cree and ANYONE this resonates with to ask that person out on a date. Don't wait for them to ask you. I'll be here waiting for an update. 👀"
YouTube Link 2025-05-06T23:00Z 135K followers, [----] engagements
"Jewelry That Transforms Sex Into Sensory Theater Ft. Seema Anand Its not just saying I want to make love to you. Youre saying Ive come prepared to make love to you. - Seema Anand This is sensory theater. The jewelry becomes part of the performance a clear signal that pleasure is being approached with intention. Check out the full collection at surmeyi.com/kama #LoversByShan #SeemaAnand #LoversPodcast #KamaJewelry #KamaSutra #FemininePower #Intimacy #AncestralHealing #EroticWisdom #Sensuality"
YouTube Link 2025-06-29T16:22Z 148K followers, [---] engagements
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