#  @kafkaex K. K. posts on X about instagram, if you, relationships, in the the most. They currently have [------] followers and [---] posts still getting attention that total [-------] engagements in the last [--] hours. ### Engagements: [-------] [#](/creator/twitter::1586110181309554689/interactions)  - [--] Week [---------] -90% - [--] Month [----------] +63% - [--] Months [----------] +74,177% - [--] Year [----------] +150,317% ### Mentions: [--] [#](/creator/twitter::1586110181309554689/posts_active)  - [--] Month [--] -33% - [--] Months [---] +275% - [--] Year [---] +1,220% ### Followers: [------] [#](/creator/twitter::1586110181309554689/followers)  - [--] Week [-----] +1.20% - [--] Month [-----] +17% - [--] Months [-----] +661% - [--] Year [-----] +4,602% ### CreatorRank: [------] [#](/creator/twitter::1586110181309554689/influencer_rank)  ### Social Influence **Social category influence** [social networks](/list/social-networks) [technology brands](/list/technology-brands) [countries](/list/countries) [travel destinations](/list/travel-destinations) [finance](/list/finance) [stocks](/list/stocks) [celebrities](/list/celebrities) [fashion brands](/list/fashion-brands) [musicians](/list/musicians) [automotive brands](/list/automotive-brands) **Social topic influence** [instagram](/topic/instagram), [if you](/topic/if-you), [relationships](/topic/relationships) #46, [in the](/topic/in-the), [feels](/topic/feels), [attention](/topic/attention) #370, [status](/topic/status), [the world](/topic/the-world), [to the](/topic/to-the), [future](/topic/future) **Top assets mentioned** [Uber Technologies, Inc. (UBER)](/topic/$uber) ### Top Social Posts Top posts by engagements in the last [--] hours "@NostalgiaFolder Honestly this is one of my favorite songs from Michael Jackson" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1712560034947981595) 2023-10-12T20:05Z [---] followers, [----] engagements "@CultureCrave There is no talk of mental health in South Korea. And the industry is hellish on celebrities and musicians. No wonder the suicide rate is high there even for regular citizens" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1739872841909076309) 2023-12-27T04:56Z [--] followers, [--] engagements "@whalegambit Didn't the stock price tank after the last earnings call" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1753157369335284136) 2024-02-01T20:44Z [---] followers, [--] engagements "@gurgavin I just sent some money to a Ukranian girlfriend in Germany through PayPal and paid a few dollars in fees. Couldn't have done it that easily with any other app since she's in Europe. $PYPL" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1755034044213944370) 2024-02-07T01:01Z [---] followers, [----] engagements "@levelsio Get a countertop reverse osmosis water purifier use a stainless steel water bottle and kettle glass containers cotton underwear and ask for mugs at a caf if they have them. Try to avoid paper cups and cans when you can. And you'll be good" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1849850464600502640) 2024-10-25T16:28Z [----] followers, [---] engagements "Last night the girl I was out with told me she posted on her close friends story on ig about how I called her an Uber to our date. She said the bar for men is so incredibly low. I joked What are men going halfsies on dates now and she goes Yes. Whats stopping you from going on a date with someone different every day of the week 🌹 https://t.co/LHJW2jAyfh Whats stopping you from going on a date with someone different every day of the week 🌹 https://t.co/LHJW2jAyfh" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1861019600831295897) 2024-11-25T12:10Z [---] followers, [---] engagements "I always offer to call my date an Uber to the restaurant. And then I drive us back to my place in my Tesla and show off FSD" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1861021950102962598) 2024-11-25T12:19Z [---] followers, [--] engagements "@levelsio Whats the best area in Brazil to digital nomad in" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1861181157447963116) 2024-11-25T22:52Z [---] followers, [--] engagements "OF models promoting black friday deals is crazy" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1861990954716037472) 2024-11-28T04:30Z [---] followers, [--] engagements "@GarrettPetersen As someone who has a lot of optionality when it comes dating this is true. Its like walking into a casino filled with opportunities. The hardest thing to do is walk away" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1862606009551749446) 2024-11-29T21:14Z [---] followers, [---] engagements "@AutismCapital Were giving this show so much relevance by posting all the clips here on x. Its brain rot. Let the view fade away" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1863632481892659265) 2024-12-02T17:13Z [---] followers, [---] engagements "@squawksquare @YahooNews Do they often put the brand car names in vehicle accident headlines like this" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1863643514032005531) 2024-12-02T17:56Z [---] followers, [----] engagements "@PaulSkallas Japan and South Korea will cease to exist soon. There's no turning it around. It'll be like visiting Disneyland in a zombie film" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1874899458707931142) 2025-01-02T19:23Z [---] followers, [---] engagements "@zarathustra5150 @HarmlessYardDog Pay per meeting. Women will expect a gift when you take her out usually money. Usually a one off thing or a few. Unlike a sugar relationship where it goes on for a while. Seeking is also promoted on Snapchat and targets the younger demographic" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1909665464482931062) 2025-04-08T17:51Z [---] followers, [---] engagements "Heres some Hinge advice: after a few exchanges always ask for her ig and number and get off the app immediately" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1938247118231060535) 2025-06-26T14:44Z [---] followers, [---] engagements "Never give up" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1938249208387289112) 2025-06-26T14:53Z [---] followers, [----] engagements "Signal humor without trying too hard. Funny pics are risky. But a self-aware prompt Thats something. Be witty be clever. It says you dont take yourself too seriously. Thats attractive" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1938269368183365655) 2025-06-26T16:13Z [---] followers, [--] engagements "Hinge removed Instagram linking. But that doesnt mean youre out of luck. Your IG is an extension of your dating profile. Your IG should tell a story of who you are what you love how you live then drop the handle in your profile. Let her explore" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1938269369550938461) 2025-06-26T16:13Z [---] followers, [--] engagements "Was on a date last night ranting about modern dating and how women chase careers and then face a shrinking pool. Then pivoted to Greece how stepping outside the charming parts felt like entering a third-world country. Shes Greek. She smiled and said she liked how bold I was" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1940558072839303615) 2025-07-02T23:47Z [---] followers, [---] engagements "Heres what your interaction on Hinge should look like after you get a match" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1941166185107869914) 2025-07-04T16:04Z [---] followers, [----] engagements "@human_clickbait Heres what your interaction on Hinge should look like after you get a match" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1941166272282239058) 2025-07-04T16:04Z [---] followers, [----] engagements "@dup_stan Im actually launching a mini course soon one on optimizing Hinge profiles (photos+prompts) and another on using Instagram as a dating tool. The key Evoke emotion and showcase a compelling lifestyle. Travel capture moments and curate your feed to pull people into your world" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1941352608733745230) 2025-07-05T04:25Z [---] followers, [---] engagements "The woman whos been beautiful her whole life grows up never hearing no. Only yeses flattery and sweet lies meant to please. No one tells her the truth and so she never learns it If youre dating or thinking about dating someone attractive make sure they were either ugly fat or short at some point. A lifetime hot person is dangerous no personality no empathy and theyve never saw the other side. Go for the glow-up. They had to build character. If youre dating or thinking about dating someone attractive make sure they were either ugly fat or short at some point. A lifetime hot person is dangerous" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1944874443735753221) 2025-07-14T21:39Z [---] followers, [----] engagements "Im always reminded of that line in The Little Prince: Youre beautiful but youre empty. No one could die for you" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1944874850738114730) 2025-07-14T21:41Z [---] followers, [--] engagements "@rivenoyr Its pretty aesthetic - think Pinterest. Your Instagram is arguably even more important than your dating profile. Without a clear vibe across both you're losing out on matches. Im working on a short course that dives deeper with plenty of examples. Ill post snippets here" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1944884083269726682) 2025-07-14T22:17Z [---] followers, [----] engagements "Its why Don Draper cheats on his beautiful wife Betty. It was never about what he lacked. It was about what status gave him access to. And it was never enough. @PopBase Not excusing cheating but people keep asking why powerful men do it. Maybe start with why men chase status in the first place - it's not just ambition. Its because status brings access to women. @PopBase Not excusing cheating but people keep asking why powerful men do it. Maybe start with why men chase status in the first place - it's not just ambition. Its because status brings access to women" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1945878429569519684) 2025-07-17T16:09Z [---] followers, [---] engagements "@asimbawe This isnt just dating. It mirrors a bigger trend: young men checking out of colleges careers society itself" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1947791291867414603) 2025-07-22T22:50Z [---] followers, [----] engagements "Look at the replies. So many men are opting out of modern dating. No apps no Instagram no presence. Putting yourself out there feels like a humiliation ritual. I get it. But if you wont play youve already lost. Most men never even try. So for the few who learn to signal their value and show up with intention the odds are in your favor. Not just in dating but in life. Were all in sales. @asimbawe Hate to break it to you but thats exactly you need to have an Instagram and dating app. Youre playing on hard mode for no reason. Everyone else on the field instantly has better odds more" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1947993689696977041) 2025-07-23T12:14Z [---] followers, [----] engagements "@Jason Taquera Orinoco the tourist-famous taco spot (worth it) Contramar seafood iconic lunch spot Pujol world-renowned book early Panadera Rosetta best guava pastry in town Ling Ling amazing views + nightlife energy" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1952502904553709657) 2025-08-04T22:52Z [---] followers, [---] engagements "just wrapped up a few in-depth hinge profile reviews - prompts photos overall vibe everything. i go hard on these. real feedback strategy and recs you can actually use. ive got time to take on [--] more. just added a bundle: full review + course. https://datingbyk.gumroad.com/l/hingeplaybook https://datingbyk.gumroad.com/l/hingeplaybook" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1952537603129106523) 2025-08-05T01:10Z [---] followers, [---] engagements "@blissfilmy @Jason Yeah youre paying for the view and ig photo at Ling Ling" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1952689129675751542) 2025-08-05T11:12Z [---] followers, [--] engagements "@MurrayHillGuy1 the concept of being alpha widowed is brutal a woman dates a man far above her - status lifestyle presence he was never serious just passing through but that experience rewires her expectations her baseline changed and most men can't reach it so she stays single forever" [X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1952701841734594853) 2025-08-05T12:02Z [----] followers, [----] engagements "Ill call you an Uber might be my most used line this year Turns out making a chick pay for her own Uber is disrespectful https://t.co/rfNnzlRZur Turns out making a chick pay for her own Uber is disrespectful https://t.co/rfNnzlRZur" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1953479030348333203) 2025-08-07T15:31Z [---] followers, [----] engagements "@zarathustra5150 this is why you have to take matters into your own hands step away from the screen make plans put yourself in new rooms new places stack experiences until life feels lived see feel and do more ah whats that saying most men live lives of quiet something" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1954517524541817063) 2025-08-10T12:17Z [---] followers, [--] engagements "This is why I tell men to surround themselves with beauty - art film music places people. Tap into the emotional and spiritual side youve been taught to ignore. Its yin and yang - one side black the other white each carrying a small circle of the other inside it. Men need that same balance. Strength with a thread of softness. Presence with a hint of mystery. Thats what makes you magnetic. In order to become genuinely attractive as a man you must have an awareness of spirituality and in my opinion try to consciously cultivate this. Attraction for high quality women unlike men is a formula of" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1954522485308719595) 2025-08-10T12:37Z [---] followers, [--] engagements "Ive spent a lot of time in Prague. My last birthday found me just down the street at the James Dean restaurant" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1954744864601686504) 2025-08-11T03:21Z [---] followers, [----] engagements "If youre not throwing yourself into new ambitious challenges life shrinks. The small stuff takes over. And before you know it all your energys going to things that dont matter. So in a few weeks Im flying to Portugal to spend sometime with the girl I met in Paris" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1954886144996372694) 2025-08-11T12:42Z [---] followers, [---] engagements "@reddit_lies More for me" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1955030584423817725) 2025-08-11T22:16Z [---] followers, [---] engagements "@pli_cachete and that's why you have to have a good looking instagram" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1955379924459814919) 2025-08-12T21:24Z [---] followers, [--] engagements "As your outlook sharpens your taste refines your skills grow and your presence settles in you start to feel like a citadel. Fully autonomous detached. Most people are such thoughtless conformists that you end up in ideological isolation. As you keep chiseling yourself with relentless effort and high standards you value time with yourself and the rare few you have real bonds with. Almost nothing else appeals. Once you've felt the energy of the right rooms the wrong ones drain you. So you guard your environment. You protect your energy you lift heavy you dress well you smile at beautiful women." [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1955636224439513118) 2025-08-13T14:23Z [---] followers, [----] engagements "If you want to speak better you have to write better. If you want to write better you have to read. Words are tools and most men never sharpen them. They never practice. Then they wonder why in front of a woman they have nothing to say. Conversation is a craft. It isnt about lines or tricks its about rhythm cadence and flow. Its about saying something in a way that feels good to say and good to hear. People wont always remember your exact words but theyll always remember how you made them feel. When I used to write daily Id play with alliteration. Id read sentences out loud: does it land Does" [X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1957786118000148625) 2025-08-19T12:45Z [----] followers, 19.2K engagements "@iamgingertrash Look at how men and women have been pitted against each other in South Korea Now look at their birth rates This is what happens when mutual resentment replaces connection Its already starting here in the West I could never hate women She is like a child" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1958595698934567197) 2025-08-21T18:22Z [---] followers, [---] engagements "@sarahcstock Prague. It's lovely during the winter time" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1959715105488379968) 2025-08-24T20:31Z [---] followers, [----] engagements "If you want to be more charismatic more compelling more magnetic to women or to anyone at all you need a devil-may-care attitude. Carefree light unbothered. Because the truth is none of this really matters. Everything passes life is short and when you live like you know that you radiate abundance instead of scarcity. Most people are buried in the mundane the boring the heavy grind of existence. To meet someone who feels like a breath of fresh air even for a moment thats rare. Thats irresistible. You lift them out of their ordinary life without even trying" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1960350243809050993) 2025-08-26T14:34Z [---] followers, [----] engagements "You ever wonder if I get tired of this Hinge shit" [X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1963017470555385902) 2025-09-02T23:13Z [----] followers, 69.8K engagements "Your instagram is not decoration its architecture. The grid is the mood the highlights are the proof the photos are the story. You dont need [---] posts. You need [--] sharp ones that tell a story. A few strong carousels to set tone. Highlights trimmed to only what matters. Captions that feel alive not filler. Girls dont stalk you for facts. They stalk to feel. Tagged photos comments old posts. Shes not just looking at you shes imagining what it feels like to step into your life. If your page feels empty off outdated the spell collapses. No clever opener can save it. But when its curated with" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1965399411355517030) 2025-09-09T12:58Z [----] followers, [---] engagements "When it comes to dating everyone online says the same thing: dont chase. Men are told not to chase women. Women are told not to chase men. If both sides sit still who moves first Stalemate. But theres a reason the advice exists. The one being chased holds the power. Power always tilts the negotiation with dating jobs anything. The pursued sets the terms. So why not just wait Because waiting only works if youre attractive enough to pull pursuit out of someone else. Attraction is the engine of the chase. Truly attractive people dont need to be told not to chase. Theyre already surrounded by" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1966547983568158773) 2025-09-12T17:02Z [----] followers, [----] engagements "@Icarus_Flies yeah pretty much. dating profiles + instagram make it easier to curate your first impression & tell a story. in person all you've got is your style & the way you carry yourself before you speak any words. guys should be intentional about their online + offline presence" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1966951830921113771) 2025-09-13T19:47Z [----] followers, [---] engagements "If youre just starting to upgrade your style think of it in [--] tiers: [--]. UNIQLO Affordable basics that fit well + great collabs with real designers. [--]. COS Elevated basics minimal + fashion-forward. [--]. SSENSE Start layering in designer pieces. Everything here is quality" [X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1969153538480656599) 2025-09-19T21:36Z [----] followers, 47.9K engagements "My space. The lamps are Noguchi the side tables Eames and the seatings a Modernica Case Study Daybed. Off to the side is a Herman Miller Embody chair" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1969162738363515207) 2025-09-19T22:12Z [----] followers, [----] engagements "Just worked with a client getting back on dating apps after [--] years. He was confused why his conversations kept dying before becoming dates. Here's what I had to explain: Women aren't just judging your Hinge profile anymore. They're investigating your entire digital presence before they even swipe. Your Instagram has become your real dating profile and Hinge is just the referral system. Once you understand this shift everything about modern dating makes more sense. Most guys are still optimizing their prompts while women are already three steps ahead scrolling through Instagram to see if this" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1969544030557258059) 2025-09-20T23:27Z [----] followers, [----] engagements "Start posting stories on Instagram in this format. Thank me later" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1969835141360173453) 2025-09-21T18:44Z [----] followers, [--] engagements "Most men live in her frame without realizing it. Weekends revolve around her schedule social life tied to her friends free time filled with her priorities. Whens the last time you asked what you want not what avoids conflict or makes her happy but what you actually want" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1971562375242555861) 2025-09-26T13:07Z [----] followers, [---] engagements "Why does every girl ask me if Im MAGA only after I hit" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1974131360575975848) 2025-10-03T15:16Z [----] followers, [--] engagements "I live in a very liberal city. Most of the women I date are liberal. Im more moderate even conservative in some ways. And heres what Ive noticed: even the ones with the loudest takes about AI war Trump Elon the world ending still date me still enjoy my company still sleep with me. They almost never ask about my politics until after. Attraction comes first. Ideology later. Why Because I dont fight them. When a woman parrots TikTok talking points I dont roll my eyes. I tease I smirk I ask questions. Not to win but to dance. Thats how Ive even shifted a few minds because its playful not hostile." [X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1974485679959691596) 2025-10-04T14:44Z [----] followers, 135.5K engagements "Heartbreak feels like loss. You gave everything and still didnt get the outcome you wanted. Afterward you replay the moments like film. What if Id said this done that stayed calmer cared less You search for reasons. One difficult truth is that love isnt always enough. Most people arent married to the ones they loved most or to the ones who loved them most. Relationships happen for many reasons such as timing security practicality. If people always ended up with whoever loved them most dating would look very different" [X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1974560967959703887) 2025-10-04T19:43Z [----] followers, 13.7K engagements "Theres a Dave Chappelle bit about Anthony Bourdain I think about a lot. He said he once knew a guy who got divorced lost everything ended up working at Foot Locker and it never occurred to him to kill himself. Meanwhile Anthony Bourdain seemingly had it all" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1977078146160902182) 2025-10-11T18:25Z [----] followers, [----] engagements "When I was younger and living in New York I had a manager who was witty clever and effortlessly likable. He treated everyone he met the same way- clients executives strangers. That stuck with me. The man who treats strangers like they're sacred is performing a kind of magic nobody believes in anymore but everyone responds to instinctively. he is actually the most dangerous person and people feel it without knowing why they just know they want to be near him want to help The man who treats strangers like they're sacred is performing a kind of magic nobody believes in anymore but everyone" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1977107025902682308) 2025-10-11T20:20Z [----] followers, [----] engagements "Back in the day before tiktok and all that I used to take texting seriously. Every word mattered. Id craft messages that were actually interesting. And it worked people responded to effort. Now No one has the attention span. Texting feels flat everyones half scrolling half talking to ten people at once. Thats why I barely text anymore. Id rather just get on FaceTime or send a voice note meet in person" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1979667395686834375) 2025-10-18T21:54Z [----] followers, [--] engagements "@DiscussingFilm They're going to transition into an AI company where you can learn any skill" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1889376802776424547) 2025-02-11T18:11Z [---] followers, 21.2K engagements "I met a girl in Montreal five years ago. She went to U of T. Pretty sweet a little lost. A few years later she moved to South Korea for online classes. Got a ton of cosmetic surgery. Changed her whole face. Now shes always in Dubai posting five star hotels fancy dinners and designer bags. Still in school. Thats when it hit me how deep this thing goes. Other girls have told me about Seeking. It used to be Seeking Arrangements. They rebranded as a dating site but their ads target young women on snapchat promising luxury for time and attention. Its still a sugar babysugar daddy site just with" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1976629244487717206) 2025-10-10T12:41Z [----] followers, 11.7K engagements "What do women want The same thing theyve always wanted: what other women want. Not what they say they want but what they see other women doing. In the 1950s it was marriage. Today its freedom travel skincare a soft life in Paris. The desire shifts with the instagram feed. Its not that women want everything. Its that theyre terrified of missing anything. And the pressure isnt to be happy its to keep up" [X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1977082041570316713) 2025-10-11T18:41Z [----] followers, 13.9K engagements "Dating today will drive you insane if you dont learn to walk the razors edge. No past no future just the moment. Most people go on dates wanting something. Sex connection a relationship. But the second you project that onto the person in front of you it slips away. People can feel when you want something from them instead of with them. It creates pressure. You have to stay present enough to enjoy the moment while wanting nothing from it. Whatever happens happen" [X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1978436570383282404) 2025-10-15T12:23Z [----] followers, 49.5K engagements "match with a girl on hinge ask if shes free tonight get her number and plan date no conversation at all" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1979660036331982899) 2025-10-18T21:25Z [----] followers, 105.3K engagements "Breakups hit men harder. Not at first but later. When its over she cries talks to friends feels it all at once. You You pretend youre fine. You hit the gym scroll keep moving. Then weeks pass and the silence hits like a brick. Thats when it lands. The mistake most men make is trying to think their way out of heartbreak. But the mind just loops. Healing has to be physical. Block her. Delete the photos. Burn what reminds you. Dont keep little digital shrines to something thats gone. Then move. Literally. Train travel exhaust yourself. Fill your days so your body stops expecting her. You cant" [X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1982914551646675250) 2025-10-27T20:57Z [----] followers, 109.4K engagements "@Polymarket BlackRock will then scoop up NYC real estate all according to plan" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1986047085855273471) 2025-11-05T12:24Z [----] followers, [----] engagements "Travel is wonderful in your twenties but past a certain point Ive met too many people who were running away from something or chasing the fleeting attention they got elsewhere. Stability routine and meaningful relationships matter deeply. Still switch it up once in a while. Take that trip. its incredible how much people today use traveling as a substitute for finding any real meaning or purpose in life. its incredible how much people today use traveling as a substitute for finding any real meaning or purpose in life" [X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1987292005966221341) 2025-11-08T22:51Z [----] followers, 82.1K engagements "The problem with Texas is its too hot to dress cool. In New York or London its fashion. In Texas its shorts and sneakers so everyone looks like a tall toddler. Americas Shenzhen will be built here. https://t.co/UCZ2uSTUDd Americas Shenzhen will be built here. https://t.co/UCZ2uSTUDd" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1987670587637178500) 2025-11-09T23:56Z [----] followers, [---] engagements "Its how Mamdani won. Capture them on Instagram and TikTok through delightful visuals. why do so many young women just hate technology for no reason where does this impulse come from why do so many young women just hate technology for no reason where does this impulse come from" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1988607971576979501) 2025-11-12T14:01Z [----] followers, [--] engagements "I've dated a lot over the years. And after enough first first dates situationships almost-relationships there are a few qualities that stand out. Not things I look for but things I notice when something actually feels long-term viable. [--]. Low social media presence. Not no Instagram. Im not asking anyone to go off grid. Just a woman who isnt living online. Not posting every dinner every outfit every random thought. Someone who isnt chasing validation. A girl who uses her phone but still has an inner world. They exist but they're not on your feed. [--]. She genuinely adores you. Theres always an" [X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1989316777386332424) 2025-11-14T12:57Z [----] followers, 297K engagements "One of the easiest ways to build confidence is to ditch headphones in public get off your phone and look up. Talk to the cashier the barista your uber driver. Say something. Thats why New Yorkers are so socially skilled. They interact with tons of strangers every day" [X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1989845338925199651) 2025-11-15T23:57Z [----] followers, 144.9K engagements "Going to Buenos Aires for the first time next week. The women Im seeing on Hinge and Raya are beautiful. Recommendations are welcome 🌹" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1990220929881026678) 2025-11-17T00:50Z [----] followers, [---] engagements "Heres how meeting women in public actually works from someone whos done it a lot: [--]. Fix your body language. This is [--] percent of the game. If you walk up stiff upright shoulders squared she reads you as stranger danger. Relax your frame. Lean on something rest your arm keep your hands busy tilt your head slightly. Move slow. You want to look like a guy whos already comfortable in the room. [--]. Skip the formalities and drop into conversation mid-stream. Never open with Hi may I meet you or anything that announces what youre doing. Just talk like you already know her like youve already been in" [X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1990480894327406652) 2025-11-17T18:03Z [----] followers, 48.9K engagements "Reverse osmosis countertop water purifier steel water bottle and kettle portable ceramic mug for coffee cotton boxers from uniqlo linen in the summer cotton tees for working out sauna on the weekends avoid hot food in takeout packaging steel dinnerware from muji etc. ngl the research on microplastics isnt looking good guys like its really bad ngl the research on microplastics isnt looking good guys like its really bad" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1990553655528042881) 2025-11-17T22:52Z [----] followers, [---] engagements "If you want to know your future with her ask about her past. People dont reinvent themselves. They repeat themselves. Men fall into relationships by accident. A few good dates some chemistry and suddenly youre invested without ever vetting the person youre giving your time energy and emotional bandwidth to. One of the most important things a man can do is pay attention to how she left her last relationship. Did she ghost Did she blow up Did she cheat Did she slowly check out for months Was she always the one ending things These patterns dont magically disappear because you showed up. Were all" [X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1990819455044038995) 2025-11-18T16:28Z [----] followers, 12.5K engagements "Eating alone is only sad when nothings happening in your life. But when you are actively the protagonist of your own life a table for one hits different. Its grounding. Its peaceful. It feels like a little breath before the next chapter kicks in. This young man went out for a meal by himself. He said: You dont know lonely until you have to take yourself for that meal alone because sitting in a room with strangers is better than sitting in your own thoughts in an empty room 😔 Would you go to a restaurant by yourself https://t.co/Q0kAEKxRlN This young man went out for a meal by himself. He" [X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1990834698155667475) 2025-11-18T17:29Z [----] followers, 16.9K engagements "Nothing you did for a woman in the past matters. Not the effort not the sacrifices not the but I did all this for you. Attraction is emotional and lives in the present moment. If she doesnt feel it now she doesnt feel it. Accept that and you move differently. I saw a post that said: Men really think if you liked them once youll like them forever. Baby I dont even like the version of me that liked you. Listen. YES. This https://t.co/6SqQXZSV9P I saw a post that said: Men really think if you liked them once youll like them forever. Baby I dont even like the version of me that liked you. Listen." [X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1990875281784033449) 2025-11-18T20:10Z [----] followers, 182.1K engagements "Dating today forces you to face something most men avoid. You have to bring value into someones life. You cannot be boring. There was a time when being a man automatically meant offering something useful. Protection stability resources a path forward. That world is gone. Women can get all of that on their own now and many do. So what do you actually add If her life feels the same with or without you she has no reason to choose you. The only men who stand out now are the ones who make life feel richer. More interesting more alive. Its not about being flashy its about being someone who creates" [X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1991129361722831345) 2025-11-19T13:00Z [----] followers, 101.4K engagements "When someone leaves its rarely about you being not enough. Its about needs no longer being met or the dynamic no longer compensating the cost of staying. Humans operate on exchange even when they pretend its love. The moment the exchange flatlines the story ends" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1991199363805098371) 2025-11-19T17:38Z [----] followers, [----] engagements "A while ago I was stuck on this girl. The ending was messy and it got in my head way more than I wanted to admit. I kept replaying everything analyzing every moment trying to solve it somehow. And then out of nowhere I just thought shes literally just a girl. She was just a girl moving through life trying to figure herself out dealing with her own fear and confusion and childhood scars. A girl who didnt have all the answers who probably didnt even know what she wanted. And once that hit I strangely felt empathy instead of all the other stuff. And that was the first time it actually felt easy" [X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1991320899782340983) 2025-11-20T01:41Z [----] followers, 528.3K engagements "When someone says Ive had my fun now Im settling for you what theyre really confessing is not preference its depletion. You werent chosen at the height of desire. You were chosen at the point of emotional fatigue when novelty no longer excites and chaos has become too expensive to sustain. Its risk management. A controlled downgrade from dopamine to stability. And they expect you to inherit the version of them that emerges only after the hunger is gone. Her: "'I've had my fun now I'm settling for you" Him: Leaves This is the most controversial thread of the week on Reddit." [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1991937639705145445) 2025-11-21T18:31Z [----] followers, 235.4K engagements "If you give people what they want or need they will no longer want or need you. We enter relationships because we want or need something but once we finally get it we often dont need the relationship the same way anymore. People believe that meeting someones wants or needs even at a real cost to themselves will guarantee the relationship later. Nothing guarantees it. One controversial relationship/marriage opinion that would have you like this https://t.co/iLtxFyzBEJ One controversial relationship/marriage opinion that would have you like this https://t.co/iLtxFyzBEJ" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1992982130708603264) 2025-11-24T15:42Z [----] followers, 103.2K engagements "The goal is to make her feel something. Comfort ease warmth curiosity. A sense that she already knows you and that you already know her. Most guys show up to a date like theyre interviewing a stranger. The trick is to enter the date like youre stepping back into a middle of a conversation not the start of one. Talk to her like the familiarity is already there like youve met in another life and youre just continuing the thread. And because of that I avoid school and work conversations entirely. Theyre autopilot topics. They dont reveal anything and they just make you sound like everyone else" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1993075940134629668) 2025-11-24T21:55Z [----] followers, 181.2K engagements "Hair maketh man. @bryan_johnson" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1994084660062630301) 2025-11-27T16:43Z [----] followers, [---] engagements "@bryan_johnson site note - I use a whoop with a 95%+ sleep score exercise daily vitamin d creatine evoo sunlight in the am ro water etc. skincare routine with retinol sunscreen etc. I love blueprint products and the mission" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1994086751984316688) 2025-11-27T16:51Z [----] followers, [--] engagements "@bryan_johnson side note - I use a whoop with a 95%+ sleep score exercise daily vitamin d creatine evoo sunlight in the am ro water etc. skincare routine with retinol sunscreen etc. I love blueprint products and the mission" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1994086936454005123) 2025-11-27T16:52Z [----] followers, [--] engagements "Women often mistake sexual access for long-term interest not because men lie but because women project their own psychology onto men. If they need connection to have sex they assume men do too. But for men sex is cheap and commitment is expensive. A man's willingness to sleep with you reveals desire not intention. This is why so many women think they were "misled" when in reality they misread the signal. Men treat sex as the audition not the offer; they decide about commitment after not before. Women feel closer and assume it's mutual but the meaning isn't shared. Most "mixed signals" come" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1995144533500203344) 2025-11-30T14:54Z [----] followers, 35.4K engagements "Women love saying they want a man with low social media or no online presence. It sounds wholesome it sounds grounded but stated preferences rarely match revealed preferences. What people say they want often collapses under what they actually choose. Women want men with status and today status is often visible. It shows up through presence charisma lifestyle reputation aesthetic and yes sometimes through a social media following. Most women dont want the guy no one notices; they want the guy others notice but who chooses them. The no social media preference only applies if shes already" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1995265038794256612) 2025-11-30T22:53Z [----] followers, 5.6M engagements "Im spending my days in Buenos Aires training walking around and eating steak" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1995345857558790164) 2025-12-01T04:14Z [----] followers, [----] engagements "Most men radically overestimate their attractiveness because they confuse internal value with perceived value. They assume a good job stable income or a few accomplishments should automatically translate into desirability. Attraction doesnt work that way. Value isnt what you think you have its what others are willing to acknowledge in you. When a man becomes hyperfocused in one domain usually career or income he becomes exceptional there and zeroed-out everywhere else. And women dont date resumes. They date experiences. Charisma aesthetic sensibility emotional calibration social fluency the" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1995501229053444540) 2025-12-01T14:32Z [----] followers, 461.3K engagements "Situationships emerged because the incentives changed. Back then commitment came before sex. Women carried enormous reproductive risk men had limited access to intimacy and the entire culture funneled relationships toward marriage. If a man wanted sex he had to offer commitment. Now its flipped. Sex comes first and commitment comes later - if it comes at all. Marriage rates are down and men can access intimacy without investing much. When sex becomes cheap and commitment becomes expensive a lot of men take the path of least resistance. On the female side situationships happen because many" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1996036474651713586) 2025-12-03T01:59Z [----] followers, 327.1K engagements "Date a beautiful mid. Not the girl whos so attractive she lives in a different universe. You get used to how someone looks. Even the most stunning face becomes normal when you see it every day. But the attention she gets from the world never goes away. Women who are extremely attractive live with constant options constant DMs constant invites. Not because theyre doing anything wrong it's just the environment theyre in. And that environment makes long-term stability harder. Theres always noise always interference always someone trying to pull her attention. A beautiful mid operates in a" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/1996269556709339647) 2025-12-03T17:25Z [----] followers, 165.3K engagements "No phones on the table. No sense that the moment might be captured replayed judged later. You could drift. Say the wrong thing. Laugh too loud. Sit there doing nothing. Now everyones slightly braced. Slightly performing. Even when were relaxed were not really loose. Theres always a small part of us watching ourselves. As time goes on I find it harder and harder to suppress the pain I feel when I think of how much better things used to be. https://t.co/fxc9OBQ00z As time goes on I find it harder and harder to suppress the pain I feel when I think of how much better things used to be." [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/2000720158000599050) 2025-12-16T00:10Z [----] followers, 429.5K engagements "If you want to understand someone dont focus on how they begin relationships. Focus on how they end them. Beginnings are cheap. Everyone is attentive generous and optimistic when novelty is doing the work. Endings are different. Endings reveal how a person handles discomfort accountability and emotional responsibility once attraction alone is no longer enough. This is why the manner of someones exit matters. The slow fade the sudden silence the vague explanations these arent accidents or one-off reactions. Theyre behavioral strategies. People default to the same exit patterns because those" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/2001011874536550459) 2025-12-16T19:29Z [----] followers, 68.6K engagements "This is why I always recommend dinner or drinks as a first date ideally sitting across from each other. You want face to face interaction. Eye contact. Facial expressions. Reactions in real time. A walk in the park doesnt give you that. Youre side by side looking ahead missing half the information. When you sit across from someone you learn far more about who they are and how they make you feel. the intimacy of sitting across the table https://t.co/qeBjnP1Run the intimacy of sitting across the table https://t.co/qeBjnP1Run" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/2001380552704954668) 2025-12-17T19:54Z [----] followers, 663.4K engagements "When youre face-to-face you cant coast. As a man you actually have to converse. You have to express yourself ask good questions read reactions hold eye contact and create rhythm through words. Thats where real attraction starts - in her mind. Its more demanding and thats exactly why its revealing. Side-by-side works better once theres familiarity. Once some comfort is already there closeness can deepen intimacy. But on a first date you want a bit of tension. You want her to really see you take you in and feel something. Thats harder to create when youre both oriented in the same direction." [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/2001491721385906312) 2025-12-18T03:16Z [----] followers, 30.2K engagements "After a breakup hope often becomes a survival strategy. Intellectually you know the relationship is over. Emotionally you keep a small candle lit for reconciliation. You replay memories you ruminate. You cant move on not because you want the pain but because the pain is the only remaining connection. Letting go feels like erasing the relationship entirely. And that feels worse than suffering. The illusion is that you believe hope is preserving something meaningful when in reality its corroding you. Hope keeps the internal version of your ex alive the fantasy the imagined future the emotional" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/2002829130757292356) 2025-12-21T19:50Z [----] followers, 92K engagements "One of the great illusions of modern life is that freedom comes from having more options. Psychologically the opposite is often true. Too much optionality erodes identity. When nothing constrains you nothing organizes you. Human beings need limits. Restraint is a container. Boundaries give shape to behavior and direction to effort. And in a world with few external limits that means you have to learn to impose them yourself. Choosing what you wont pursue so what remains can actually matter. You dont find yourself by keeping every door open. You find yourself by committing by narrowing your" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/2002837113025298607) 2025-12-21T20:22Z [----] followers, [---] engagements "After a breakup men dont need closure. They need structure. Most men try to solve the wrong problem. They focus on replacing the person instead of rebuilding what the relationship was quietly providing: routine emotional regulation future orientation and stability. A relationship organizes a mans life. When it ends theres a vacuum. Dating again too quickly doesnt fill it. It distracts from it. The instability remains just masked by novelty. What actually helps is rebuilding independent structure. Fixed routines. Physical training. Work with clear goals. Social contact that isnt romantic. A" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/2003112814320230524) 2025-12-22T14:38Z [----] followers, 82.6K engagements "The answer isnt to perform forever and it isnt to stop being fun. Its to stay in motion. Attraction fades when the relationship becomes the mans whole world. Men stay interesting when they keep building a life outside it" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/2004569839579660420) 2025-12-26T15:07Z [----] followers, 38.4K engagements "Success can make men worse at relationships not better. Some men spend their entire youth heads down on work money status. They win. And suddenly they have optionality and attention. Women everywhere. The problem is they never learned how to tell the difference. Attraction without experience is dangerous. Status substitutes for skill. Money masks naivety. These men confuse access with understanding and end up shocked when theyre manipulated drained or valued only for what they represent. Success doesnt teach you discernment. It just increases the number of people who want something from you." [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/2005086731574386992) 2025-12-28T01:21Z [----] followers, 91.4K engagements "We tell girls they are already enough and we build schools workplaces and social narratives around helping them express that. We tell boys they must earn their worth but were vague about what earns it and suspicious when they pursue it for themselves. When one group is validated by default and the other only conditionally the result is quiet resentment and slow disengagement. For perhaps the first time in humanitys long history in many parts of the world it is boys who are increasingly seen as a burden and girls who are a boon https://t.co/8Oqd5ibAKz Illustration: Alva Skog" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/2005269585491001806) 2025-12-28T13:28Z [----] followers, 911K engagements "Bryan Johnson is the most measured human alive. Every variable tracked. Every routine dialed in. Men tend to make women the organizing principle of their lives. Once a man commits he quietly restructures everything around the bond. Emotion routine future orientation. So when a relationship ends men dont just lose the woman. They lose the structure that was holding their life together. Thats why breakups destabilize men so deeply. Its architectural collapse. Its been two weeks since Ive felt Kates warm embrace. Shes been traveling. I miss her so much. Its been two weeks since Ive felt Kates" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/2005365111603802115) 2025-12-28T19:47Z [----] followers, 19.6K engagements "One of the most destabilizing changes in modern dating is that attention has become detached from earning it. Attention used to mean something. It signaled interest effort risk. It was given selectively because it cost something to give. Now its infinite. A woman can post a photo and receive hundreds of micro-validations from men who get nothing in return. No date no intimacy. Not even a conversation. Just free reinforcement on demand. And when one side of a market can get what it wants without paying a cost incentives shift. Men think theyre being kind or supportive but at scale theyre" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/2006117338001625380) 2025-12-30T21:36Z [----] followers, [----] engagements "On dating apps men pay to be seen. Thats the whole business model. Men compete in an environment where attention is limited and selection is asymmetric so they buy boosts likes and subscriptions to force visibility through the filter. Women by contrast dont need exposure. They start with inbound attention. Their bottleneck isnt visibility its selection. Thats why spending means different things depending on whos paying. When a man pays hes trying to overcome selectiveness. When a woman pays shes usually trying to overcome lack of demand. Attractive women dont need to advertise. They filter." [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/2006432014224764972) 2025-12-31T18:27Z [----] followers, 183K engagements "Dating apps feel tragic because they punish men who try to be understood instead of felt. Apps compress judgment into seconds. Theres no time for context nuance or explanation. Under time pressure the brain doesnt look for depth. It looks for signal. Salience beats clarity. So men do the wrong thing. They add more information more photos more prompts more explanation. They assume being understood will make them attractive. It doesnt. Neutral photos fail not because theyre ugly although they probably are but because they dont provoke anything. They document instead of create contrast. The" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/2007081100514857001) 2026-01-02T13:26Z [----] followers, 263.8K engagements "Dating apps dont reveal whos attractive. They reveal how far men will lower their standards for access. Women filter abundance. Men swipe down to survive it. 2nd day on hinge as a girl in sf https://t.co/Va33eK9tOe 2nd day on hinge as a girl in sf https://t.co/Va33eK9tOe" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/2008567761228992637) 2026-01-06T15:54Z [----] followers, 73.2K engagements "You can delete the dating apps. You can swear them off. You can say youre done with modern dating. None of that makes the game disappear. The market keeps moving. The incentives keep shaping behavior. The people still playing keep setting the terms. Opting out just makes you irrelevant to a system that continues without you. Dating apps reveal who understands attention who knows how to package themselves who understands asymmetry who realizes that abundance changes behavior and scarcity distorts it. A lot of people get stuck moralizing a market problem. They complain about outcomes while" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/2008653587061104748) 2026-01-06T21:35Z [----] followers, 1.3M engagements "@greghunkins IRL works precisely because its become rare. My point isnt dont approach. Its that opting out of apps doesnt erase the incentives shaping behavior everywhere else" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/2008729680011231430) 2026-01-07T02:37Z [----] followers, 22.8K engagements "Your Instagram decides whether attraction lives or dies. Women scroll your page to understand your life. Theyre asking whether your world feels current social and worth stepping into. A dead or outdated page kills momentum before you ever say the wrong thing" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/2008741068754588128) 2026-01-07T03:22Z [----] followers, [--] engagements "Most men lose momentum because they dont realize where the decision is being made. The match on the dating app opens the door. Instagram confirms the frame. If she cant quickly picture herself inside your world attraction fades. No rejection no closure. Just silence" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/2008741762693743071) 2026-01-07T03:25Z [----] followers, [--] engagements "Most men dont realize when attraction actually dies in a relationship. One of the biggest mistakes people make is believing attraction has an endpoint. That once commitment is secured the job is done. It isnt. Courtship is effortful and uncertain. It costs energy. So most people try to skip it and move straight into the maintenance phase where things feel safe predictable and low effort. But your partner didnt choose you to escape attraction. They chose you because of it. The behaviors that created desire were the price of entry. When those behaviors disappear the reason for choosing you" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/2008889035356283045) 2026-01-07T13:10Z [----] followers, 42.5K engagements "Men are drawn to younger women in part because women are drawn to older men. That sounds backward to most people but it explains far more than the usual biology-only argument ever does. Yes men are visually oriented. Beauty correlates with youth and fertility. Everyone already knows that. Its obvious and incomplete. Whats rarely said is that this preference only works because its reciprocated on the other side of the market. Across cultures and throughout history women tend to choose men who are older than them. First marriages follow this pattern almost everywhere. Women dont primarily sort" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/2009062709413765211) 2026-01-08T00:40Z [----] followers, 357.8K engagements "You dont have days to build chemistry. You barely have a few messages before attention drifts and momentum dies. You want to cut through the noise and create a feeling before the moment passes. Say something that makes her feel something immediately build rapport just long enough to feel familiar and then you move it off the app before it all collapses into white noise. https://twitter.com/i/web/status/2009259668003061848 https://twitter.com/i/web/status/2009259668003061848" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/2009259668003061848) 2026-01-08T13:43Z [----] followers, 35.3K engagements "@mylifeisaplague @real_Col_ this frames the issue as extremes - 'young girls vs old men. most age gap relationships dont look like that. not everyone is leonardo dicaprio" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/2009286374617129079) 2026-01-08T15:29Z [----] followers, [---] engagements "That sweater isnt really about men. Its about women enforcing rules on other women. A lot of modern female dating advice isnt optimized for attracting or keeping the kind of man you actually want. Its optimized for preserving status inside female social hierarchies. Behaviors that reliably increase a womans leverage with men such as patience flexibility making his life easier often work. But they come with a cost. Among other women those behaviors read as submission as betrayal. So they get policed. They threaten other womens relative standing in the same mating market. If one woman gains an" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/2009679983845822897) 2026-01-09T17:33Z [----] followers, 445.4K engagements "Dating apps create a very specific illusion. Infinite options and no visible competition. On the apps women dont really see other women. Its just her and an endless stream of men. That makes it feel like a sellers market. No urgency. No pressure. Ask for more. Take your time. Assume something better is always one swipe away. Then you walk into Equinox and the illusion breaks. Suddenly youre not alone in the market anymore. You see the other women who live where you live look how you look want what you want. Nothing about men changed. What changed was what you could see. Dating apps hide the" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/2009993036776792427) 2026-01-10T14:17Z [----] followers, 628.9K engagements "Dating apps hide competition and delay consequence. When you dont see your alternatives embodied in real people you dont calibrate urgency. You overestimate time and leverage. You assume you can always come back later and choose again. Choice has friction in physical spaces. You feel the cost of waiting. You notice who pairs off. You sense when youre being passed by. Apps remove that feedback. Everyone feels temporarily above the market until the market reappears all at once. https://twitter.com/i/web/status/2009993761309212913 https://twitter.com/i/web/status/2009993761309212913" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/2009993761309212913) 2026-01-10T14:20Z [----] followers, 29.1K engagements "When women talk about what they want in men theres usually one condition left unstated. They want it from men theyre already attracted to. Kindness communication consistency emotional availability etc. These traits sound universal but in practice they only matter once attraction exists. Without attraction they barely register and sometimes they even repel. This is where a lot of men get stuck. They hear the list and try to become it. More agreeable more accommodating. Then they wonder why nothing changes. And its because these traits are being offered without leverage. Attraction is the" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/2011089644641726624) 2026-01-13T14:55Z [----] followers, 57.5K engagements "I almost always prefer dinner or drinks as a first date especially in the evening and sitting across from each other. It forces presence eye contact facial expressions. You can feel how someone reacts to you in real time not just what they say. Walk dates miss a lot of that early on. Youre side by side looking ahead filling the space with motion. Its pleasant but it hides information. You can talk for an hour and still not know how you feel sitting with the person. Eventually every relationship reduces to the same thing: sitting across from each other and talking. First dates that avoid that" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/2011248551289110642) 2026-01-14T01:26Z [----] followers, [---] engagements "One of the most overlooked drivers of attraction is indifference. A take it or leave it attitude. Whatever happens happens. Nonchalance. People can feel when you want something from them. When your sense of direction depends on how they respond. That pressure leaks through your tone your pacing your attention. Indifference removes that weight. It keeps the interaction light. You already know this works because youve seen it from the other side. Think of someone you werent that into. You were relaxed unbothered. You didnt overthink your words. And somehow they became more interested. The" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/2011801331208765840) 2026-01-15T14:03Z [----] followers, 164.6K engagements "Women love saying they want a man with low social media or no online presence. It sounds wholesome it sounds grounded but stated preferences rarely match revealed preferences. What people say they want often collapses under what they actually choose. Women want men with status and today status is often visible. It shows up through presence charisma lifestyle reputation aesthetic and yes sometimes through a social media following. Most women dont want the guy no one notices; they want the guy others notice but who chooses them. The no social media preference only applies if shes already" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/2011835146840973717) 2026-01-15T16:17Z [----] followers, 1.6M engagements "@eric23332 Most people are boring. Men just pay a higher penalty for it" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/2011864481849360436) 2026-01-15T18:14Z [----] followers, [----] engagements "@DukeHerndon Instagram serves as two functions: social proof and attraction amplification. You want a tight well curated instragram that tells a story the moment a woman lands on your profile. Less is more" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/2011889016527069403) 2026-01-15T19:51Z [----] followers, [----] engagements "Getting ghosted after sex isnt always about men being cruel. Sometimes its about cost. Men disengage when continuing the interaction starts to feel costly. Cost isnt just money. Its friction. The sense that time together requires negotiating managing feelings or navigating uncertainty that doesnt feel worth it. When access was made to feel hard earned or tense some men unconsciously treat the encounter as something already completed rather than something to build on. Once the initial goal is reached the motivation to stay engaged fades. This dynamic is sharper with attractive or high status" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/2012277241888039297) 2026-01-16T21:34Z [----] followers, [----] engagements "The freedom to follow your passion is largely a function of insulation from risk. When failure doesnt threaten survival creativity stops being a gamble and becomes a form of signaling proof of depth authenticity and self actualization. Reinvention in this context is optional. Its a way to convert existing wealth or status into cultural legitimacy without meaningful downside. For most people pursuing passion carries real consequences; for the already secure its a low cost performance that reads as courage to those who dont share the same safety net. Kai Cenat says that he doesnt care if people" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/2012316040688988320) 2026-01-17T00:08Z [----] followers, [----] engagements "@yesadok You ever watch that one interview with Jordan Peterson I miss Jordan Peterson. Where has he gone" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/2013097395714691147) 2026-01-19T03:53Z [----] followers, 30.5K engagements "Men don't commit to the hottest woman. They commit to whoever's easiest to be with. She's not constantly testing you picking fights for no reason or turning the relationship into some power struggle she needs to win. A lot of women figure out there's no consequence for being difficult. So they chip away at you. And then wonder why he's gone. I've dated many women in my life and the best women the women that I've had the longest relationships with weren't the hottest or smartest but the most inoffensive. They were easy to get along with didn't create problems laughed easily and smiled at" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/2013239794659160474) 2026-01-19T13:19Z [----] followers, 42.1K engagements "Men and women grew apart because they live in different digital worlds. Theyre on different platforms. Following different people. Absorbing different incentives. What feels normal to one side starts to feel foreign to the other. Men spend time in spaces that push self reliance and status. Where youre expected to compete take hits and figure it out. Women spend time in spaces that revolve around social dynamics emotional language and keeping the group intact. Neither side feels extreme to itself. Everything feels reasonable from the inside. So when they meet it doesnt feel like disagreement." [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/2014694574808002746) 2026-01-23T13:39Z [----] followers, [---] engagements "A highly optimized physique often signals continued mate competition. Time discipline and attention still pointed outward. Optionality still very much in play. A dad bod can signal something else. A man whos shifted his energy. Less focused on being chosen. More focused on building a life. Short-term attraction and long-term selection dont run on the same logic. Women who want stability often down-select away from men who still look like theyre optimizing for the market. Homens com corpo de pai de famlia so considerados mais atraentes por mulheres aponta estudo. https://t.co/pKNnQgR2LC Homens" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/2015917122569044049) 2026-01-26T22:37Z [----] followers, 22K engagements "The flight attendant role selects for traits that are rewarded in short-term social environments but penalized in long-term pair bonding for straight men. Its high visibility transient novelty-heavy service-oriented and status-adjacent without being status-owning. Youre constantly around new people new cities new micro-social hierarchies but you dont control the frame. Youre inside someone elses schedule someone elses authority and system. For women and gay men those traits dont clash as much with attraction dynamics. For women mobility sociability and presentation can increase desirability." [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/2016224358872526924) 2026-01-27T18:58Z [----] followers, [----] engagements "I've watched Lost in Translation more times than I can count and it still gets me every single time. Charlotte is newly married. Her husband is busy distracted always somewhere else even when he's right there. He's not cruel. He's just boring. Absent in the way that people become absent when they stop trying to be interesting to you. And then she meets Bob. Older. Married. An actor with nothing left to prove and nothing left to lose. And suddenly everything is alive again. They're singing karaoke at [--] AM. They're running through Tokyo like the city belongs to them. They're laughing at things" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/2018078277618094552) 2026-02-01T21:45Z [----] followers, 568.2K engagements "80% of single men arent giving up Theyre opting out of a transaction that no longer makes sense. Most people dont actually want relationships. They want what relationships used to provide. Men want sex intimacy validation. Porn gives them a low risk low cost simulation of it. Women want attention resources reassurance desirability. Social media gives them a low risk scalable version of it. When you can get a diluted version of what you want more cheaply and more safely elsewhere you stop entering the higher risk exchange. So relationships decline. We replaced real transactions with digital" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/2023033076624863572) 2026-02-15T13:54Z [----] followers, 181.7K engagements "Breakups often hit men harder than women. Men tend to bond later and deeper. Early in a relationship men often remain relatively independent while women integrate emotionally and socially sooner. But once a man commits he reorganizes his life around that bond. His partner becomes his primary source of emotional intimacy identity stability and future orientation which allows him to narrow his focus elsewhere often toward work or mission. Women by contrast usually maintain broader emotional networks and rehearse separation psychologically long before the relationship formally ends. By the time" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/2002876278634893446) 2025-12-21T22:58Z [----] followers, 1.7M engagements "Alright real advice for anyone setting up a dating app profile. You get [--] photos [--] prompts and less than [--] seconds before she swipes. If youre not getting matches its not a personality problem. Its a presentation problem. Modern dating is marketing and most men were never taught how to present themselves. Theres no playbook for how to be seen felt chosen. So most profiles quietly disqualify themselves. Stop optimizing for good photos and start auditing for coherence. If your photos all feel like the same moment or the same version of you cut half of them. Your profile should feel like" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/2009258838742999539) 2026-01-08T13:40Z [----] followers, 886.8K engagements "A lot of modern anti-love/anti-men content isnt about men at all. Its about women enforcing norms on other women. Cynicism is socially safe. Investment isnt. And advice that wins group approval often quietly loses the relationship. The amount of casual anti-love anti-male anti-romance content being thrust at young women is utterly insane It's like there's some giant conspiracy to make women picky misandrist off-putting and alone https://t.co/DQE35SBZkL The amount of casual anti-love anti-male anti-romance content being thrust at young women is utterly insane It's like there's some giant" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/2010335436783358241) 2026-01-11T12:58Z [----] followers, 30.2K engagements "A lot of men think women are boring because theyre asking one person to do the job of an entire social ecosystem. Historically men didnt get everything from their partner. They had friends for ideas debate risk taking and humor. Community for meaning. Work for purpose. A woman for intimacy and companionship. Strip all that away and suddenly shes expected to be your lover best friend and intellectual sparring partner. When everything gets funneled into one person disappointment is inevitable. So many girls are so boring to talk to. No idea about anything going on in the world no tech politics" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/2011816565025751465) 2026-01-15T15:03Z [----] followers, 250.2K engagements "I've dated many women in my life and the best women the women that I've had the longest relationships with weren't the hottest or smartest but the most inoffensive. They were easy to get along with didn't create problems laughed easily and smiled at whatever I said" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/2013049791802933624) 2026-01-19T00:44Z [----] followers, 891.7K engagements "@jimbo68589146 You want me to unpack that here right now Should I dive into a vulnerable monologue about all the almosts maybes and women whove slipped through my fingers like sand The ones who came so close only to be lost to hesitation timing and moments I never stepped into" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/2013096731760566520) 2026-01-19T03:50Z [----] followers, 28.2K engagements "Ive known a few women in their early 30s who were genuinely attractive smart socially polished the kind of women men are happy to date sleep with be seen with. And yet year after year the same pattern kept showing up. The men stuck around casually but when it came time to commit they chose someone else. Sexual interest and long term selection are not the same filter. For many desirable men sleeping with a woman and choosing her as a partner are governed by different incentives. Optionality changes behavior. When a man has a lot of options he can afford to be selective about the future in a" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/2014514750864945446) 2026-01-23T01:45Z [----] followers, 180.9K engagements "The real tragedy of relationships is that if you give people everything they want and need then they will no longer want to need you. Relationships dont run on gratitude. They run on desire utility and unmet tension. We enter them because we want or need something from the other person. But once those needs are fully satisfied the bond weakens. The very act of solving the problem can dissolve the reason the relationship existed in the first place. Thats why sacrifice isnt a guarantee of longevity. You can give endlessly at real personal cost and still be left. Nothing absolutely nothing" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/2016222891679862848) 2026-01-27T18:52Z [----] followers, 114.1K engagements "Its almost always better to be the one whos adored than the one doing the adoring. Every relationship has an asymmetry. Someone leans a little more someone cares a little deeper. And that imbalance quietly sets the tone for everything that follows. The adorer adjusts waits explains hopes. The adored relaxes. They move at their own pace. They dont need to chase certainty because they already have it. People like to pretend love is equal but attraction rarely is. Desire flows downhill. And the person who wants less has more room to breathe more leverage and more say in how the relationship" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/2016223410448179549) 2026-01-27T18:54Z [----] followers, 13.7K engagements "Most women aren't getting flown out or becoming influencers. This is about access. For most of human history women selected from a small local pool. Constraints forced trade-offs. Compatibility mattered because optionality was limited. Technology removed those constraints psychologically before it removed them materially. Even a small following a few DMs or occasional outside attention is enough to distort perception. You dont need infinite options. You just need to feel like better ones are always one swipe one message one trip away. In any system where potential feels limitless commitment" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/2016870633318060376) 2026-01-29T13:46Z [----] followers, 15K engagements "People will tell you that your early twenties are the best years of your life. They will say it like a warning like a kindness. Like they're handing you something precious and fragile and asking you not to waste it. And to the extent that you believe them you will feel the pressure tightening around your chest the FOMO the manic need to squeeze every drop of joy out of these years before the crushing descent into real adulthood begins. The people who say this the ones who romanticize their youth like a country they were exiled from are almost always people who feel trapped now. Their choices" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/2018062093501522248) 2026-02-01T20:41Z [----] followers, 13.3K engagements "Men select differently for fun than they do for forever. A man will sleep with a woman he'd never commit to. He'll take her on dates text her back make her feel chosen and mean none of it beyond the moment. It's not deception not exactly. It's just a different filter. Short-term selection is about attraction availability ease. Long-term selection is about everything else. The problem is when women confuse access for interest. If he's sleeping with me he must want me. If he's choosing me on Saturday nights I must be his caliber. But being chosen in the dark doesn't mean you'll be chosen in the" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/2018737505298751489) 2026-02-03T17:25Z [----] followers, 22.8K engagements "Two things can be true at once. Keeping a relationship private can be reasonable. Parasocial attention is real. People project speculate cross boundaries. Not everyone wants that inside their personal life. At the same time visibility changes incentives. When someone builds an audience around attention and intimacy a faint sense of availability becomes part of what sustains engagement. Not because viewers are entitled but because fantasy and projection are how attention markets work. This isnt about blaming women or demanding access or denying anyone the right to privacy. Its about" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/2018823635042013202) 2026-02-03T23:07Z [----] followers, 194.6K engagements "Modern dating forces men into a strange role. Women want to have fun. They want to feel entertained stimulated alive. So as a man you cant be boring. You have to bring energy humor momentum. You become the jester. Thats how attraction starts. But the paradox is that the relationships that actually last are boring. Not dramatic. Not thrilling. Not emotionally chaotic. Theyre calm consistent predictable. They run so smoothly you barely notice them. And nothing feels more boring than stability when youve been conditioned to chase stimulation. The problem is that early entertainment sets an" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/2004540599458840974) 2025-12-26T13:11Z [----] followers, 877.7K engagements "This breakup is a case study in how men and women experience relationship momentum differently. And it's worth paying attention to. They moved in at [--]. By [--] it was all they knew. Six years that felt like thirty. He stayed by her side through cancer through the worst of it. Through the kind of thing that's supposed to bond people forever. And still at some point the relationship stopped moving forward. And she left. No one wants to hear this but past sacrifices don't bank. What you did last year doesn't carry forward. What you survived together doesn't guarantee anything. The ledger resets" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/2020507185533391205) 2026-02-08T14:37Z [----] followers, 4.1M engagements "There's an unspoken rule for women who build audiences online. Whether she's on Instagram Twitch OnlyFans it doesn't matter. The rule is the same. Never let them know you're taken. It's not about lying really. It's about omission. It's about maintaining the faint flickering illusion of availability the unspoken maybe that keeps men watching subscribing donating commenting hoping. The moment she's visibly partnered the fantasy collapses. The engagement dips. The men find someone else to project onto. Accessibility is the product. A boyfriend ruins the packaging. She'll call it privacy." [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/2018733815095603501) 2026-02-03T17:10Z [----] followers, 6.3M engagements "No one knows you. No one has a story about who you are. No one is waiting for you to be the person you were yesterday. You're just a stranger in a chair by the window watching a city that doesn't need anything from you. It's the feeling that anything could happen. That the world is bigger than the walls you built around yourself back home. That the life you've been living is just one version of a life and there are others and they're not as far away as you thought. At home you're fixed. Known. You fit into a shape that other people recognize and after a while you forget you're even in a shape" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/2020279300692262915) 2026-02-07T23:31Z [----] followers, 5M engagements "College is the easiest dating market youll ever have access to. Same age. Same stage. Built-in proximity. Endless social overlap. The environment does most of the work. Thats also why so many relationships there are chosen out of convenience not conviction. For a guy it solves sex and companionship. For a girl it solves loneliness and social stability. Then graduation happens. The structure disappears. Geography shifts. Ambition diverges. Trajectories become visible. Status gaps open; direction momentum perceived upside. You didnt really choose the person youd build with. You chose the person" [X Link](https://x.com/kafkaex/status/2023123415020769696) 2026-02-15T19:53Z [----] followers, 2M engagements "You know that thing Dostoevsky wrote about gambling Its like that. When youre surrounded by endless possibilities one of the hardest things to do is pass them up" [X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1620760305067507712) 2023-02-01T12:25Z [----] followers, 118.3K engagements "@PopBase Its quite common for men to have this issue. They seek a woman who is attractive or with status and it eventually becomes the thing they despise. Theyll ignore everything in the beginning just to get the girl" [X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1681083072802947073) 2023-07-17T23:26Z [----] followers, 370K engagements "One of the easiest ways to build confidence is to ditch headphones in public get off your phone and look up. Talk to the cashier the barista your uber driver. Say something. Thats why New Yorkers are so socially skilled. They interact with tons of strangers every day" [X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1989845338925199651) 2025-11-15T23:57Z [----] followers, 144.9K engagements "Nothing you did for a woman in the past matters. Not the effort not the sacrifices not the but I did all this for you. Attraction is emotional and lives in the present moment. If she doesnt feel it now she doesnt feel it. Accept that and you move differently. I saw a post that said: Men really think if you liked them once youll like them forever. Baby I dont even like the version of me that liked you. Listen. YES. This https://t.co/6SqQXZSV9P I saw a post that said: Men really think if you liked them once youll like them forever. Baby I dont even like the version of me that liked you. Listen." [X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1990875281784033449) 2025-11-18T20:10Z [----] followers, 182.1K engagements "I saw a post that said: Men really think if you liked them once youll like them forever. Baby I dont even like the version of me that liked you. Listen. YES. This" [X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1990401208259862734) 2025-11-17T12:46Z [----] followers, 1.7M engagements "@PopBase Mans gotta bring home the bacon and be a provider" [X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1682429024054784000) 2023-07-21T16:35Z [----] followers, 251.5K engagements "I've dated a lot over the years. And after enough first first dates situationships almost-relationships there are a few qualities that stand out. Not things I look for but things I notice when something actually feels long-term viable. [--]. Low social media presence. Not no Instagram. Im not asking anyone to go off grid. Just a woman who isnt living online. Not posting every dinner every outfit every random thought. Someone who isnt chasing validation. A girl who uses her phone but still has an inner world. They exist but they're not on your feed. [--]. She genuinely adores you. Theres always an" [X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1989316777386332424) 2025-11-14T12:57Z [----] followers, 297K engagements "@PopBase BIG BANG faded away. YG cant afford to lose BLACKPINK. I wouldnt be surprised if they go off and focus on their solo careers music and acting" [X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1683888996424855562) 2023-07-25T17:16Z [----] followers, 295.5K engagements "Breakups hit men harder. Not at first but later. When its over she cries talks to friends feels it all at once. You You pretend youre fine. You hit the gym scroll keep moving. Then weeks pass and the silence hits like a brick. Thats when it lands. The mistake most men make is trying to think their way out of heartbreak. But the mind just loops. Healing has to be physical. Block her. Delete the photos. Burn what reminds you. Dont keep little digital shrines to something thats gone. Then move. Literally. Train travel exhaust yourself. Fill your days so your body stops expecting her. You cant" [X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1982914551646675250) 2025-10-27T20:57Z [----] followers, 109.4K engagements "A while ago I was stuck on this girl. The ending was messy and it got in my head way more than I wanted to admit. I kept replaying everything analyzing every moment trying to solve it somehow. And then out of nowhere I just thought shes literally just a girl. She was just a girl moving through life trying to figure herself out dealing with her own fear and confusion and childhood scars. A girl who didnt have all the answers who probably didnt even know what she wanted. And once that hit I strangely felt empathy instead of all the other stuff. And that was the first time it actually felt easy" [X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1991320899782340983) 2025-11-20T01:41Z [----] followers, 528.3K engagements "I live in a very liberal city. Most of the women I date are liberal. Im more moderate even conservative in some ways. And heres what Ive noticed: even the ones with the loudest takes about AI war Trump Elon the world ending still date me still enjoy my company still sleep with me. They almost never ask about my politics until after. Attraction comes first. Ideology later. Why Because I dont fight them. When a woman parrots TikTok talking points I dont roll my eyes. I tease I smirk I ask questions. Not to win but to dance. Thats how Ive even shifted a few minds because its playful not hostile." [X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1974485679959691596) 2025-10-04T14:44Z [----] followers, 135.5K engagements "I talk to every woman the same way - light playful a touch flirtatious. Some say it risks overstepping. It hasnt. On a date flirt lightly with the hostess or the waitress. Not because you want them but because it shows ease charm play. Everyone wants to feel something. How to gain love & respect from the world https://t.co/js0XVFKGql How to gain love & respect from the world https://t.co/js0XVFKGql" [X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1974239536029761708) 2025-10-03T22:25Z [----] followers, 73.1K engagements "How to gain love & respect from the world" [X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1973470642608677095) 2025-10-01T19:30Z 117.5K followers, 677.2K engagements "Find women who want you. Men should do as little as possible early on because it helps identify women actually attracted to you rather than what she can get from you. You want someone who finds being with you valuable enough. Attraction is personal. Not being funny I feel like men exaggerate this. I honestly dont think the girlies are out here being beggy like you claim they are😂 Not being funny I feel like men exaggerate this. I honestly dont think the girlies are out here being beggy like you claim they are😂" [X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1984662971193127238) 2025-11-01T16:45Z [----] followers, 68.4K engagements "Not being funny I feel like men exaggerate this. I honestly dont think the girlies are out here being beggy like you claim they are😂 Bruh the amount of black British women dating transactionally these days is crazy Bruh the amount of black British women dating transactionally these days is crazy" [X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1983184680636776572) 2025-10-28T14:50Z [----] followers, 59.4M engagements "Travel is wonderful in your twenties but past a certain point Ive met too many people who were running away from something or chasing the fleeting attention they got elsewhere. Stability routine and meaningful relationships matter deeply. Still switch it up once in a while. Take that trip. its incredible how much people today use traveling as a substitute for finding any real meaning or purpose in life. its incredible how much people today use traveling as a substitute for finding any real meaning or purpose in life" [X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1987292005966221341) 2025-11-08T22:51Z [----] followers, 82.1K engagements "its incredible how much people today use traveling as a substitute for finding any real meaning or purpose in life. If you're a woman in your 30s unmarried and still obsessed with traveling it's time for a reality check. No amount of traveling if going to fill your soul. You deep down inside know what you need: a loving husband and children. Traveling is nothing but procrastination and If you're a woman in your 30s unmarried and still obsessed with traveling it's time for a reality check. No amount of traveling if going to fill your soul. You deep down inside know what you need: a loving" [X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1987279333640057274) 2025-11-08T22:01Z 165.1K followers, 1.5M engagements "Dating today forces you to face something most men avoid. You have to bring value into someones life. You cannot be boring. There was a time when being a man automatically meant offering something useful. Protection stability resources a path forward. That world is gone. Women can get all of that on their own now and many do. So what do you actually add If her life feels the same with or without you she has no reason to choose you. The only men who stand out now are the ones who make life feel richer. More interesting more alive. Its not about being flashy its about being someone who creates" [X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1991129361722831345) 2025-11-19T13:00Z [----] followers, 101.4K engagements "One thing Ive learned the hard way: people dont come into your life because youre nice or virtuous. They come because in that moment you feel like the answer to something they cant get on their own. Thats what actually pulls people together. It's this quiet you give me something Im missing. And the part no one warns you about is that its always happening in the present tense. The moment you stop being that answer the connection shifts. History doesnt save it. Old effort doesnt save it. Affection is always about who you are right now not who you were" [X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1991201661533233651) 2025-11-19T17:47Z [----] followers, 39.9K engagements "If youre just starting to upgrade your style think of it in [--] tiers: [--]. UNIQLO Affordable basics that fit well + great collabs with real designers. [--]. COS Elevated basics minimal + fashion-forward. [--]. SSENSE Start layering in designer pieces. Everything here is quality" [X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1969153538480656599) 2025-09-19T21:36Z [----] followers, 47.9K engagements "Dating today will drive you insane if you dont learn to walk the razors edge. No past no future just the moment. Most people go on dates wanting something. Sex connection a relationship. But the second you project that onto the person in front of you it slips away. People can feel when you want something from them instead of with them. It creates pressure. You have to stay present enough to enjoy the moment while wanting nothing from it. Whatever happens happen" [X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1978436570383282404) 2025-10-15T12:23Z [----] followers, 49.5K engagements "Heres how meeting women in public actually works from someone whos done it a lot: [--]. Fix your body language. This is [--] percent of the game. If you walk up stiff upright shoulders squared she reads you as stranger danger. Relax your frame. Lean on something rest your arm keep your hands busy tilt your head slightly. Move slow. You want to look like a guy whos already comfortable in the room. [--]. Skip the formalities and drop into conversation mid-stream. Never open with Hi may I meet you or anything that announces what youre doing. Just talk like you already know her like youve already been in" [X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1990480894327406652) 2025-11-17T18:03Z [----] followers, 48.9K engagements "Its why social proof works so well. When women see other women choosing you it signals safety and value. Someone already vetted you. A woman explains why they dont tell us what they want. https://t.co/4f4oZMiWke A woman explains why they dont tell us what they want. https://t.co/4f4oZMiWke" [X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1986943886309167294) 2025-11-07T23:48Z [----] followers, 33.8K engagements "A woman explains why they dont tell us what they want" [X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1984976432100200590) 2025-11-02T13:30Z 13.2K followers, 567.4K engagements "@PopBase Damn. He's going to do the low deep voice jazz rainy day slow dance type songs huh" [X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1688718961968340992) 2023-08-08T01:09Z [----] followers, 27.7K engagements "Something Jordan Peterson said once really stuck with me: if you treat others as short term partners youre also treating yourself that way. I think about that a lot with dating. Its easy to tell yourself youre just having fun keeping it light not settling down. But once you start moving through people like that it starts to shape you too. And its hard to turn that around" [X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1979672091877142714) 2025-10-18T22:13Z [----] followers, 24.5K engagements "One of the easiest ways men ruin early dating is by killing the mystery too soon. You meet someone things feel good youre excited and then you overplay your hand. You confess too much too early before any real tension has built. What most men dont realize is that anxiety uncertainty that bit of instability those are your allies. They create space for her to wonder about you to miss you to reach out. If you dont give her that space she wont feel it" [X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1982137073797640425) 2025-10-25T17:27Z [----] followers, 25.7K engagements "You ever wonder if I get tired of this Hinge shit" [X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1963017470555385902) 2025-09-02T23:13Z [----] followers, 69.8K engagements "Eating alone is only sad when nothings happening in your life. But when you are actively the protagonist of your own life a table for one hits different. Its grounding. Its peaceful. It feels like a little breath before the next chapter kicks in. This young man went out for a meal by himself. He said: You dont know lonely until you have to take yourself for that meal alone because sitting in a room with strangers is better than sitting in your own thoughts in an empty room 😔 Would you go to a restaurant by yourself https://t.co/Q0kAEKxRlN This young man went out for a meal by himself. He" [X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1990834698155667475) 2025-11-18T17:29Z [----] followers, 16.9K engagements "This young man went out for a meal by himself. He said: You dont know lonely until you have to take yourself for that meal alone because sitting in a room with strangers is better than sitting in your own thoughts in an empty room 😔 Would you go to a restaurant by yourself" [X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1990400031271100875) 2025-11-17T12:42Z 217.5K followers, 12.1M engagements "@historyinmemes I do love a walkable city. Its good for the soul" [X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1636092157038567431) 2023-03-15T19:49Z [----] followers, 22.2K engagements "What do women want The same thing theyve always wanted: what other women want. Not what they say they want but what they see other women doing. In the 1950s it was marriage. Today its freedom travel skincare a soft life in Paris. The desire shifts with the instagram feed. Its not that women want everything. Its that theyre terrified of missing anything. And the pressure isnt to be happy its to keep up" [X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1977082041570316713) 2025-10-11T18:41Z [----] followers, 13.9K engagements "Yesterdays matches. Hows my opener" [X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1966604218665521443) 2025-09-12T20:45Z [----] followers, 78.8K engagements "@ItIsHoeMath the best mindset a man can have in relationships treat her like shes a child not in a condescending way but in how you lead how you hold frame how you stay grounded when she tests when you stop reacting to the chaos you stop feeding it and everything gets easier" [X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1953443590941687937) 2025-08-07T13:10Z [----] followers, [----] engagements "I need to speak to the Hinge engineer who decided [--] active chats was enough" [X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1964674753765220860) 2025-09-07T12:58Z [----] followers, 73.1K engagements "Once that truth settles in your mind everything shifts. You stop keeping score because you realize no one is tracking points but you. You stop reminding her of what you did because if she doesn't feel it now the past won't save you. Instead show up with presence" [X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1990876682647966093) 2025-11-18T20:16Z [----] followers, 10.4K engagements "If youre seeking a long term relationship the optimal strategy is to show her the boring parts of your everyday life. The problem is most men lead with that and wonder why nothing sticks. So be bold and compelling first. Then shell slip into a relationship expecting that to continue. Its a paradox. One problem of modern dating. Women just want to have fun. They want to be entertained. But there isn't enough of a supply of "fun" guys out there to entertain them. Careers grind down their sense of lightness. So women stay single or get a dog and all the dog wants to do is One problem of modern" [X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1979703550155325498) 2025-10-19T00:18Z [----] followers, 43.6K engagements "One problem of modern dating. Women just want to have fun. They want to be entertained. But there isn't enough of a supply of "fun" guys out there to entertain them. Careers grind down their sense of lightness. So women stay single or get a dog and all the dog wants to do is have fun. I once told a guy I couldnt be romantically involved with him because his voice was too monotonous and his demeanor just generally wasnt animated enough and he reached out to me after a long time to tell me he never stopped thinking about it I once told a guy I couldnt be romantically involved with him because" [X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1979288913429541100) 2025-10-17T20:50Z 170.4K followers, 1.6M engagements "Most men blow the first date. Getting it isnt the finish line its just the first filter. If she shows up shes more yes than no. That means shes interested. Not in you but in her idea of you. Most men destroy that illusion. Heres how not to:" [X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1960713096164503912) 2025-08-27T14:36Z [----] followers, 26.1K engagements "@PopBase Celebrities lives are not real life" [X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1680970608249585664) 2023-07-17T15:59Z [----] followers, 64.9K engagements "If you want to know your future with her ask about her past. People dont reinvent themselves. They repeat themselves. Men fall into relationships by accident. A few good dates some chemistry and suddenly youre invested without ever vetting the person youre giving your time energy and emotional bandwidth to. One of the most important things a man can do is pay attention to how she left her last relationship. Did she ghost Did she blow up Did she cheat Did she slowly check out for months Was she always the one ending things These patterns dont magically disappear because you showed up. Were all" [X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1990819455044038995) 2025-11-18T16:28Z [----] followers, 12.5K engagements "Most men ruin dates by gripping too tightly to the outcome. If youre thinking about taking her home youre not present youre trapped in your own agenda. Attraction isnt built in the future. Its built in the moment. Relax be here. Shell feel it" [X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1973412769769607458) 2025-10-01T15:40Z [----] followers, [----] engagements "If you want to speak better you have to write better. If you want to write better you have to read. Words are tools and most men never sharpen them. They never practice. Then they wonder why in front of a woman they have nothing to say. Conversation is a craft. It isnt about lines or tricks its about rhythm cadence and flow. Its about saying something in a way that feels good to say and good to hear. People wont always remember your exact words but theyll always remember how you made them feel. When I used to write daily Id play with alliteration. Id read sentences out loud: does it land Does" [X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1957786118000148625) 2025-08-19T12:45Z [----] followers, 19.2K engagements "@sanpellyenjoyer Social medias got us all chasing everything now every trip every luxury every experience. I see women pulled into that pressure heavy. Some work full-time and still crave constant travel. Others get flown out without a job at all. Its wild. I get it though" [X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1945574749150597559) 2025-07-16T20:02Z [----] followers, 29.2K engagements "@melissa Just dont date a girl who always posts a photo to her instagram story that shes at pilates" [X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1950907973577949693) 2025-07-31T13:14Z [----] followers, 24.2K engagements "@thedimitri i have a terrible habit of imagining asian women without hair because then they look like an asian dude" [X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1957904371712421988) 2025-08-19T20:35Z [----] followers, 14.8K engagements "The guy whos been on [---] dinner/drink dates at night will always have better social instincts than the one whos been on [---] coffee dates on a park bench watching squirrels in the daytime" [X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1976030912392593417) 2025-10-08T21:04Z [----] followers, 12.3K engagements "Most men dont realize the sheer volume of attention women get online. If youre talking to her dozens of others are too. Now imagine being bombarded with hey how was your weekend whats up It all blends into static. Thats why your opener matters. Its not enough to be polite - you have to be compelling. You dont need to be negative or gimmicky. You just need to cut through. wed look good together at dinner we should get together Decisive. Leading. Moving fast. It works because it feels different. Its a plan not small talk. Most guys waste time playing text ping-pong until the conversation dies." [X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1966948992958468237) 2025-09-13T19:35Z [----] followers, 22.2K engagements "@asimbawe Hate to break it to you but thats exactly you need to have an Instagram and dating app. Youre playing on hard mode for no reason. Everyone else on the field instantly has better odds more opportunities more experience" [X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1947790746318475327) 2025-07-22T22:47Z [----] followers, 79.4K engagements Limited data mode. Full metrics available with subscription: lunarcrush.com/pricing
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Social Influence
Social category influence social networks technology brands countries travel destinations finance stocks celebrities fashion brands musicians automotive brands
Social topic influence instagram, if you, relationships #46, in the, feels, attention #370, status, the world, to the, future
Top assets mentioned Uber Technologies, Inc. (UBER)
Top Social Posts
Top posts by engagements in the last [--] hours
"@NostalgiaFolder Honestly this is one of my favorite songs from Michael Jackson"
X Link 2023-10-12T20:05Z [---] followers, [----] engagements
"@CultureCrave There is no talk of mental health in South Korea. And the industry is hellish on celebrities and musicians. No wonder the suicide rate is high there even for regular citizens"
X Link 2023-12-27T04:56Z [--] followers, [--] engagements
"@whalegambit Didn't the stock price tank after the last earnings call"
X Link 2024-02-01T20:44Z [---] followers, [--] engagements
"@gurgavin I just sent some money to a Ukranian girlfriend in Germany through PayPal and paid a few dollars in fees. Couldn't have done it that easily with any other app since she's in Europe. $PYPL"
X Link 2024-02-07T01:01Z [---] followers, [----] engagements
"@levelsio Get a countertop reverse osmosis water purifier use a stainless steel water bottle and kettle glass containers cotton underwear and ask for mugs at a caf if they have them. Try to avoid paper cups and cans when you can. And you'll be good"
X Link 2024-10-25T16:28Z [----] followers, [---] engagements
"Last night the girl I was out with told me she posted on her close friends story on ig about how I called her an Uber to our date. She said the bar for men is so incredibly low. I joked What are men going halfsies on dates now and she goes Yes. Whats stopping you from going on a date with someone different every day of the week 🌹 https://t.co/LHJW2jAyfh Whats stopping you from going on a date with someone different every day of the week 🌹 https://t.co/LHJW2jAyfh"
X Link 2024-11-25T12:10Z [---] followers, [---] engagements
"I always offer to call my date an Uber to the restaurant. And then I drive us back to my place in my Tesla and show off FSD"
X Link 2024-11-25T12:19Z [---] followers, [--] engagements
"@levelsio Whats the best area in Brazil to digital nomad in"
X Link 2024-11-25T22:52Z [---] followers, [--] engagements
"OF models promoting black friday deals is crazy"
X Link 2024-11-28T04:30Z [---] followers, [--] engagements
"@GarrettPetersen As someone who has a lot of optionality when it comes dating this is true. Its like walking into a casino filled with opportunities. The hardest thing to do is walk away"
X Link 2024-11-29T21:14Z [---] followers, [---] engagements
"@AutismCapital Were giving this show so much relevance by posting all the clips here on x. Its brain rot. Let the view fade away"
X Link 2024-12-02T17:13Z [---] followers, [---] engagements
"@squawksquare @YahooNews Do they often put the brand car names in vehicle accident headlines like this"
X Link 2024-12-02T17:56Z [---] followers, [----] engagements
"@PaulSkallas Japan and South Korea will cease to exist soon. There's no turning it around. It'll be like visiting Disneyland in a zombie film"
X Link 2025-01-02T19:23Z [---] followers, [---] engagements
"@zarathustra5150 @HarmlessYardDog Pay per meeting. Women will expect a gift when you take her out usually money. Usually a one off thing or a few. Unlike a sugar relationship where it goes on for a while. Seeking is also promoted on Snapchat and targets the younger demographic"
X Link 2025-04-08T17:51Z [---] followers, [---] engagements
"Heres some Hinge advice: after a few exchanges always ask for her ig and number and get off the app immediately"
X Link 2025-06-26T14:44Z [---] followers, [---] engagements
"Never give up"
X Link 2025-06-26T14:53Z [---] followers, [----] engagements
"Signal humor without trying too hard. Funny pics are risky. But a self-aware prompt Thats something. Be witty be clever. It says you dont take yourself too seriously. Thats attractive"
X Link 2025-06-26T16:13Z [---] followers, [--] engagements
"Hinge removed Instagram linking. But that doesnt mean youre out of luck. Your IG is an extension of your dating profile. Your IG should tell a story of who you are what you love how you live then drop the handle in your profile. Let her explore"
X Link 2025-06-26T16:13Z [---] followers, [--] engagements
"Was on a date last night ranting about modern dating and how women chase careers and then face a shrinking pool. Then pivoted to Greece how stepping outside the charming parts felt like entering a third-world country. Shes Greek. She smiled and said she liked how bold I was"
X Link 2025-07-02T23:47Z [---] followers, [---] engagements
"Heres what your interaction on Hinge should look like after you get a match"
X Link 2025-07-04T16:04Z [---] followers, [----] engagements
"@human_clickbait Heres what your interaction on Hinge should look like after you get a match"
X Link 2025-07-04T16:04Z [---] followers, [----] engagements
"@dup_stan Im actually launching a mini course soon one on optimizing Hinge profiles (photos+prompts) and another on using Instagram as a dating tool. The key Evoke emotion and showcase a compelling lifestyle. Travel capture moments and curate your feed to pull people into your world"
X Link 2025-07-05T04:25Z [---] followers, [---] engagements
"The woman whos been beautiful her whole life grows up never hearing no. Only yeses flattery and sweet lies meant to please. No one tells her the truth and so she never learns it If youre dating or thinking about dating someone attractive make sure they were either ugly fat or short at some point. A lifetime hot person is dangerous no personality no empathy and theyve never saw the other side. Go for the glow-up. They had to build character. If youre dating or thinking about dating someone attractive make sure they were either ugly fat or short at some point. A lifetime hot person is dangerous"
X Link 2025-07-14T21:39Z [---] followers, [----] engagements
"Im always reminded of that line in The Little Prince: Youre beautiful but youre empty. No one could die for you"
X Link 2025-07-14T21:41Z [---] followers, [--] engagements
"@rivenoyr Its pretty aesthetic - think Pinterest. Your Instagram is arguably even more important than your dating profile. Without a clear vibe across both you're losing out on matches. Im working on a short course that dives deeper with plenty of examples. Ill post snippets here"
X Link 2025-07-14T22:17Z [---] followers, [----] engagements
"Its why Don Draper cheats on his beautiful wife Betty. It was never about what he lacked. It was about what status gave him access to. And it was never enough. @PopBase Not excusing cheating but people keep asking why powerful men do it. Maybe start with why men chase status in the first place - it's not just ambition. Its because status brings access to women. @PopBase Not excusing cheating but people keep asking why powerful men do it. Maybe start with why men chase status in the first place - it's not just ambition. Its because status brings access to women"
X Link 2025-07-17T16:09Z [---] followers, [---] engagements
"@asimbawe This isnt just dating. It mirrors a bigger trend: young men checking out of colleges careers society itself"
X Link 2025-07-22T22:50Z [---] followers, [----] engagements
"Look at the replies. So many men are opting out of modern dating. No apps no Instagram no presence. Putting yourself out there feels like a humiliation ritual. I get it. But if you wont play youve already lost. Most men never even try. So for the few who learn to signal their value and show up with intention the odds are in your favor. Not just in dating but in life. Were all in sales. @asimbawe Hate to break it to you but thats exactly you need to have an Instagram and dating app. Youre playing on hard mode for no reason. Everyone else on the field instantly has better odds more"
X Link 2025-07-23T12:14Z [---] followers, [----] engagements
"@Jason Taquera Orinoco the tourist-famous taco spot (worth it) Contramar seafood iconic lunch spot Pujol world-renowned book early Panadera Rosetta best guava pastry in town Ling Ling amazing views + nightlife energy"
X Link 2025-08-04T22:52Z [---] followers, [---] engagements
"just wrapped up a few in-depth hinge profile reviews - prompts photos overall vibe everything. i go hard on these. real feedback strategy and recs you can actually use. ive got time to take on [--] more. just added a bundle: full review + course. https://datingbyk.gumroad.com/l/hingeplaybook https://datingbyk.gumroad.com/l/hingeplaybook"
X Link 2025-08-05T01:10Z [---] followers, [---] engagements
"@blissfilmy @Jason Yeah youre paying for the view and ig photo at Ling Ling"
X Link 2025-08-05T11:12Z [---] followers, [--] engagements
"@MurrayHillGuy1 the concept of being alpha widowed is brutal a woman dates a man far above her - status lifestyle presence he was never serious just passing through but that experience rewires her expectations her baseline changed and most men can't reach it so she stays single forever"
X Link 2025-08-05T12:02Z [----] followers, [----] engagements
"Ill call you an Uber might be my most used line this year Turns out making a chick pay for her own Uber is disrespectful https://t.co/rfNnzlRZur Turns out making a chick pay for her own Uber is disrespectful https://t.co/rfNnzlRZur"
X Link 2025-08-07T15:31Z [---] followers, [----] engagements
"@zarathustra5150 this is why you have to take matters into your own hands step away from the screen make plans put yourself in new rooms new places stack experiences until life feels lived see feel and do more ah whats that saying most men live lives of quiet something"
X Link 2025-08-10T12:17Z [---] followers, [--] engagements
"This is why I tell men to surround themselves with beauty - art film music places people. Tap into the emotional and spiritual side youve been taught to ignore. Its yin and yang - one side black the other white each carrying a small circle of the other inside it. Men need that same balance. Strength with a thread of softness. Presence with a hint of mystery. Thats what makes you magnetic. In order to become genuinely attractive as a man you must have an awareness of spirituality and in my opinion try to consciously cultivate this. Attraction for high quality women unlike men is a formula of"
X Link 2025-08-10T12:37Z [---] followers, [--] engagements
"Ive spent a lot of time in Prague. My last birthday found me just down the street at the James Dean restaurant"
X Link 2025-08-11T03:21Z [---] followers, [----] engagements
"If youre not throwing yourself into new ambitious challenges life shrinks. The small stuff takes over. And before you know it all your energys going to things that dont matter. So in a few weeks Im flying to Portugal to spend sometime with the girl I met in Paris"
X Link 2025-08-11T12:42Z [---] followers, [---] engagements
"@reddit_lies More for me"
X Link 2025-08-11T22:16Z [---] followers, [---] engagements
"@pli_cachete and that's why you have to have a good looking instagram"
X Link 2025-08-12T21:24Z [---] followers, [--] engagements
"As your outlook sharpens your taste refines your skills grow and your presence settles in you start to feel like a citadel. Fully autonomous detached. Most people are such thoughtless conformists that you end up in ideological isolation. As you keep chiseling yourself with relentless effort and high standards you value time with yourself and the rare few you have real bonds with. Almost nothing else appeals. Once you've felt the energy of the right rooms the wrong ones drain you. So you guard your environment. You protect your energy you lift heavy you dress well you smile at beautiful women."
X Link 2025-08-13T14:23Z [---] followers, [----] engagements
"If you want to speak better you have to write better. If you want to write better you have to read. Words are tools and most men never sharpen them. They never practice. Then they wonder why in front of a woman they have nothing to say. Conversation is a craft. It isnt about lines or tricks its about rhythm cadence and flow. Its about saying something in a way that feels good to say and good to hear. People wont always remember your exact words but theyll always remember how you made them feel. When I used to write daily Id play with alliteration. Id read sentences out loud: does it land Does"
X Link 2025-08-19T12:45Z [----] followers, 19.2K engagements
"@iamgingertrash Look at how men and women have been pitted against each other in South Korea Now look at their birth rates This is what happens when mutual resentment replaces connection Its already starting here in the West I could never hate women She is like a child"
X Link 2025-08-21T18:22Z [---] followers, [---] engagements
"@sarahcstock Prague. It's lovely during the winter time"
X Link 2025-08-24T20:31Z [---] followers, [----] engagements
"If you want to be more charismatic more compelling more magnetic to women or to anyone at all you need a devil-may-care attitude. Carefree light unbothered. Because the truth is none of this really matters. Everything passes life is short and when you live like you know that you radiate abundance instead of scarcity. Most people are buried in the mundane the boring the heavy grind of existence. To meet someone who feels like a breath of fresh air even for a moment thats rare. Thats irresistible. You lift them out of their ordinary life without even trying"
X Link 2025-08-26T14:34Z [---] followers, [----] engagements
"You ever wonder if I get tired of this Hinge shit"
X Link 2025-09-02T23:13Z [----] followers, 69.8K engagements
"Your instagram is not decoration its architecture. The grid is the mood the highlights are the proof the photos are the story. You dont need [---] posts. You need [--] sharp ones that tell a story. A few strong carousels to set tone. Highlights trimmed to only what matters. Captions that feel alive not filler. Girls dont stalk you for facts. They stalk to feel. Tagged photos comments old posts. Shes not just looking at you shes imagining what it feels like to step into your life. If your page feels empty off outdated the spell collapses. No clever opener can save it. But when its curated with"
X Link 2025-09-09T12:58Z [----] followers, [---] engagements
"When it comes to dating everyone online says the same thing: dont chase. Men are told not to chase women. Women are told not to chase men. If both sides sit still who moves first Stalemate. But theres a reason the advice exists. The one being chased holds the power. Power always tilts the negotiation with dating jobs anything. The pursued sets the terms. So why not just wait Because waiting only works if youre attractive enough to pull pursuit out of someone else. Attraction is the engine of the chase. Truly attractive people dont need to be told not to chase. Theyre already surrounded by"
X Link 2025-09-12T17:02Z [----] followers, [----] engagements
"@Icarus_Flies yeah pretty much. dating profiles + instagram make it easier to curate your first impression & tell a story. in person all you've got is your style & the way you carry yourself before you speak any words. guys should be intentional about their online + offline presence"
X Link 2025-09-13T19:47Z [----] followers, [---] engagements
"If youre just starting to upgrade your style think of it in [--] tiers: [--]. UNIQLO Affordable basics that fit well + great collabs with real designers. [--]. COS Elevated basics minimal + fashion-forward. [--]. SSENSE Start layering in designer pieces. Everything here is quality"
X Link 2025-09-19T21:36Z [----] followers, 47.9K engagements
"My space. The lamps are Noguchi the side tables Eames and the seatings a Modernica Case Study Daybed. Off to the side is a Herman Miller Embody chair"
X Link 2025-09-19T22:12Z [----] followers, [----] engagements
"Just worked with a client getting back on dating apps after [--] years. He was confused why his conversations kept dying before becoming dates. Here's what I had to explain: Women aren't just judging your Hinge profile anymore. They're investigating your entire digital presence before they even swipe. Your Instagram has become your real dating profile and Hinge is just the referral system. Once you understand this shift everything about modern dating makes more sense. Most guys are still optimizing their prompts while women are already three steps ahead scrolling through Instagram to see if this"
X Link 2025-09-20T23:27Z [----] followers, [----] engagements
"Start posting stories on Instagram in this format. Thank me later"
X Link 2025-09-21T18:44Z [----] followers, [--] engagements
"Most men live in her frame without realizing it. Weekends revolve around her schedule social life tied to her friends free time filled with her priorities. Whens the last time you asked what you want not what avoids conflict or makes her happy but what you actually want"
X Link 2025-09-26T13:07Z [----] followers, [---] engagements
"Why does every girl ask me if Im MAGA only after I hit"
X Link 2025-10-03T15:16Z [----] followers, [--] engagements
"I live in a very liberal city. Most of the women I date are liberal. Im more moderate even conservative in some ways. And heres what Ive noticed: even the ones with the loudest takes about AI war Trump Elon the world ending still date me still enjoy my company still sleep with me. They almost never ask about my politics until after. Attraction comes first. Ideology later. Why Because I dont fight them. When a woman parrots TikTok talking points I dont roll my eyes. I tease I smirk I ask questions. Not to win but to dance. Thats how Ive even shifted a few minds because its playful not hostile."
X Link 2025-10-04T14:44Z [----] followers, 135.5K engagements
"Heartbreak feels like loss. You gave everything and still didnt get the outcome you wanted. Afterward you replay the moments like film. What if Id said this done that stayed calmer cared less You search for reasons. One difficult truth is that love isnt always enough. Most people arent married to the ones they loved most or to the ones who loved them most. Relationships happen for many reasons such as timing security practicality. If people always ended up with whoever loved them most dating would look very different"
X Link 2025-10-04T19:43Z [----] followers, 13.7K engagements
"Theres a Dave Chappelle bit about Anthony Bourdain I think about a lot. He said he once knew a guy who got divorced lost everything ended up working at Foot Locker and it never occurred to him to kill himself. Meanwhile Anthony Bourdain seemingly had it all"
X Link 2025-10-11T18:25Z [----] followers, [----] engagements
"When I was younger and living in New York I had a manager who was witty clever and effortlessly likable. He treated everyone he met the same way- clients executives strangers. That stuck with me. The man who treats strangers like they're sacred is performing a kind of magic nobody believes in anymore but everyone responds to instinctively. he is actually the most dangerous person and people feel it without knowing why they just know they want to be near him want to help The man who treats strangers like they're sacred is performing a kind of magic nobody believes in anymore but everyone"
X Link 2025-10-11T20:20Z [----] followers, [----] engagements
"Back in the day before tiktok and all that I used to take texting seriously. Every word mattered. Id craft messages that were actually interesting. And it worked people responded to effort. Now No one has the attention span. Texting feels flat everyones half scrolling half talking to ten people at once. Thats why I barely text anymore. Id rather just get on FaceTime or send a voice note meet in person"
X Link 2025-10-18T21:54Z [----] followers, [--] engagements
"@DiscussingFilm They're going to transition into an AI company where you can learn any skill"
X Link 2025-02-11T18:11Z [---] followers, 21.2K engagements
"I met a girl in Montreal five years ago. She went to U of T. Pretty sweet a little lost. A few years later she moved to South Korea for online classes. Got a ton of cosmetic surgery. Changed her whole face. Now shes always in Dubai posting five star hotels fancy dinners and designer bags. Still in school. Thats when it hit me how deep this thing goes. Other girls have told me about Seeking. It used to be Seeking Arrangements. They rebranded as a dating site but their ads target young women on snapchat promising luxury for time and attention. Its still a sugar babysugar daddy site just with"
X Link 2025-10-10T12:41Z [----] followers, 11.7K engagements
"What do women want The same thing theyve always wanted: what other women want. Not what they say they want but what they see other women doing. In the 1950s it was marriage. Today its freedom travel skincare a soft life in Paris. The desire shifts with the instagram feed. Its not that women want everything. Its that theyre terrified of missing anything. And the pressure isnt to be happy its to keep up"
X Link 2025-10-11T18:41Z [----] followers, 13.9K engagements
"Dating today will drive you insane if you dont learn to walk the razors edge. No past no future just the moment. Most people go on dates wanting something. Sex connection a relationship. But the second you project that onto the person in front of you it slips away. People can feel when you want something from them instead of with them. It creates pressure. You have to stay present enough to enjoy the moment while wanting nothing from it. Whatever happens happen"
X Link 2025-10-15T12:23Z [----] followers, 49.5K engagements
"match with a girl on hinge ask if shes free tonight get her number and plan date no conversation at all"
X Link 2025-10-18T21:25Z [----] followers, 105.3K engagements
"Breakups hit men harder. Not at first but later. When its over she cries talks to friends feels it all at once. You You pretend youre fine. You hit the gym scroll keep moving. Then weeks pass and the silence hits like a brick. Thats when it lands. The mistake most men make is trying to think their way out of heartbreak. But the mind just loops. Healing has to be physical. Block her. Delete the photos. Burn what reminds you. Dont keep little digital shrines to something thats gone. Then move. Literally. Train travel exhaust yourself. Fill your days so your body stops expecting her. You cant"
X Link 2025-10-27T20:57Z [----] followers, 109.4K engagements
"@Polymarket BlackRock will then scoop up NYC real estate all according to plan"
X Link 2025-11-05T12:24Z [----] followers, [----] engagements
"Travel is wonderful in your twenties but past a certain point Ive met too many people who were running away from something or chasing the fleeting attention they got elsewhere. Stability routine and meaningful relationships matter deeply. Still switch it up once in a while. Take that trip. its incredible how much people today use traveling as a substitute for finding any real meaning or purpose in life. its incredible how much people today use traveling as a substitute for finding any real meaning or purpose in life"
X Link 2025-11-08T22:51Z [----] followers, 82.1K engagements
"The problem with Texas is its too hot to dress cool. In New York or London its fashion. In Texas its shorts and sneakers so everyone looks like a tall toddler. Americas Shenzhen will be built here. https://t.co/UCZ2uSTUDd Americas Shenzhen will be built here. https://t.co/UCZ2uSTUDd"
X Link 2025-11-09T23:56Z [----] followers, [---] engagements
"Its how Mamdani won. Capture them on Instagram and TikTok through delightful visuals. why do so many young women just hate technology for no reason where does this impulse come from why do so many young women just hate technology for no reason where does this impulse come from"
X Link 2025-11-12T14:01Z [----] followers, [--] engagements
"I've dated a lot over the years. And after enough first first dates situationships almost-relationships there are a few qualities that stand out. Not things I look for but things I notice when something actually feels long-term viable. [--]. Low social media presence. Not no Instagram. Im not asking anyone to go off grid. Just a woman who isnt living online. Not posting every dinner every outfit every random thought. Someone who isnt chasing validation. A girl who uses her phone but still has an inner world. They exist but they're not on your feed. [--]. She genuinely adores you. Theres always an"
X Link 2025-11-14T12:57Z [----] followers, 297K engagements
"One of the easiest ways to build confidence is to ditch headphones in public get off your phone and look up. Talk to the cashier the barista your uber driver. Say something. Thats why New Yorkers are so socially skilled. They interact with tons of strangers every day"
X Link 2025-11-15T23:57Z [----] followers, 144.9K engagements
"Going to Buenos Aires for the first time next week. The women Im seeing on Hinge and Raya are beautiful. Recommendations are welcome 🌹"
X Link 2025-11-17T00:50Z [----] followers, [---] engagements
"Heres how meeting women in public actually works from someone whos done it a lot: [--]. Fix your body language. This is [--] percent of the game. If you walk up stiff upright shoulders squared she reads you as stranger danger. Relax your frame. Lean on something rest your arm keep your hands busy tilt your head slightly. Move slow. You want to look like a guy whos already comfortable in the room. [--]. Skip the formalities and drop into conversation mid-stream. Never open with Hi may I meet you or anything that announces what youre doing. Just talk like you already know her like youve already been in"
X Link 2025-11-17T18:03Z [----] followers, 48.9K engagements
"Reverse osmosis countertop water purifier steel water bottle and kettle portable ceramic mug for coffee cotton boxers from uniqlo linen in the summer cotton tees for working out sauna on the weekends avoid hot food in takeout packaging steel dinnerware from muji etc. ngl the research on microplastics isnt looking good guys like its really bad ngl the research on microplastics isnt looking good guys like its really bad"
X Link 2025-11-17T22:52Z [----] followers, [---] engagements
"If you want to know your future with her ask about her past. People dont reinvent themselves. They repeat themselves. Men fall into relationships by accident. A few good dates some chemistry and suddenly youre invested without ever vetting the person youre giving your time energy and emotional bandwidth to. One of the most important things a man can do is pay attention to how she left her last relationship. Did she ghost Did she blow up Did she cheat Did she slowly check out for months Was she always the one ending things These patterns dont magically disappear because you showed up. Were all"
X Link 2025-11-18T16:28Z [----] followers, 12.5K engagements
"Eating alone is only sad when nothings happening in your life. But when you are actively the protagonist of your own life a table for one hits different. Its grounding. Its peaceful. It feels like a little breath before the next chapter kicks in. This young man went out for a meal by himself. He said: You dont know lonely until you have to take yourself for that meal alone because sitting in a room with strangers is better than sitting in your own thoughts in an empty room 😔 Would you go to a restaurant by yourself https://t.co/Q0kAEKxRlN This young man went out for a meal by himself. He"
X Link 2025-11-18T17:29Z [----] followers, 16.9K engagements
"Nothing you did for a woman in the past matters. Not the effort not the sacrifices not the but I did all this for you. Attraction is emotional and lives in the present moment. If she doesnt feel it now she doesnt feel it. Accept that and you move differently. I saw a post that said: Men really think if you liked them once youll like them forever. Baby I dont even like the version of me that liked you. Listen. YES. This https://t.co/6SqQXZSV9P I saw a post that said: Men really think if you liked them once youll like them forever. Baby I dont even like the version of me that liked you. Listen."
X Link 2025-11-18T20:10Z [----] followers, 182.1K engagements
"Dating today forces you to face something most men avoid. You have to bring value into someones life. You cannot be boring. There was a time when being a man automatically meant offering something useful. Protection stability resources a path forward. That world is gone. Women can get all of that on their own now and many do. So what do you actually add If her life feels the same with or without you she has no reason to choose you. The only men who stand out now are the ones who make life feel richer. More interesting more alive. Its not about being flashy its about being someone who creates"
X Link 2025-11-19T13:00Z [----] followers, 101.4K engagements
"When someone leaves its rarely about you being not enough. Its about needs no longer being met or the dynamic no longer compensating the cost of staying. Humans operate on exchange even when they pretend its love. The moment the exchange flatlines the story ends"
X Link 2025-11-19T17:38Z [----] followers, [----] engagements
"A while ago I was stuck on this girl. The ending was messy and it got in my head way more than I wanted to admit. I kept replaying everything analyzing every moment trying to solve it somehow. And then out of nowhere I just thought shes literally just a girl. She was just a girl moving through life trying to figure herself out dealing with her own fear and confusion and childhood scars. A girl who didnt have all the answers who probably didnt even know what she wanted. And once that hit I strangely felt empathy instead of all the other stuff. And that was the first time it actually felt easy"
X Link 2025-11-20T01:41Z [----] followers, 528.3K engagements
"When someone says Ive had my fun now Im settling for you what theyre really confessing is not preference its depletion. You werent chosen at the height of desire. You were chosen at the point of emotional fatigue when novelty no longer excites and chaos has become too expensive to sustain. Its risk management. A controlled downgrade from dopamine to stability. And they expect you to inherit the version of them that emerges only after the hunger is gone. Her: "'I've had my fun now I'm settling for you" Him: Leaves This is the most controversial thread of the week on Reddit."
X Link 2025-11-21T18:31Z [----] followers, 235.4K engagements
"If you give people what they want or need they will no longer want or need you. We enter relationships because we want or need something but once we finally get it we often dont need the relationship the same way anymore. People believe that meeting someones wants or needs even at a real cost to themselves will guarantee the relationship later. Nothing guarantees it. One controversial relationship/marriage opinion that would have you like this https://t.co/iLtxFyzBEJ One controversial relationship/marriage opinion that would have you like this https://t.co/iLtxFyzBEJ"
X Link 2025-11-24T15:42Z [----] followers, 103.2K engagements
"The goal is to make her feel something. Comfort ease warmth curiosity. A sense that she already knows you and that you already know her. Most guys show up to a date like theyre interviewing a stranger. The trick is to enter the date like youre stepping back into a middle of a conversation not the start of one. Talk to her like the familiarity is already there like youve met in another life and youre just continuing the thread. And because of that I avoid school and work conversations entirely. Theyre autopilot topics. They dont reveal anything and they just make you sound like everyone else"
X Link 2025-11-24T21:55Z [----] followers, 181.2K engagements
"Hair maketh man. @bryan_johnson"
X Link 2025-11-27T16:43Z [----] followers, [---] engagements
"@bryan_johnson site note - I use a whoop with a 95%+ sleep score exercise daily vitamin d creatine evoo sunlight in the am ro water etc. skincare routine with retinol sunscreen etc. I love blueprint products and the mission"
X Link 2025-11-27T16:51Z [----] followers, [--] engagements
"@bryan_johnson side note - I use a whoop with a 95%+ sleep score exercise daily vitamin d creatine evoo sunlight in the am ro water etc. skincare routine with retinol sunscreen etc. I love blueprint products and the mission"
X Link 2025-11-27T16:52Z [----] followers, [--] engagements
"Women often mistake sexual access for long-term interest not because men lie but because women project their own psychology onto men. If they need connection to have sex they assume men do too. But for men sex is cheap and commitment is expensive. A man's willingness to sleep with you reveals desire not intention. This is why so many women think they were "misled" when in reality they misread the signal. Men treat sex as the audition not the offer; they decide about commitment after not before. Women feel closer and assume it's mutual but the meaning isn't shared. Most "mixed signals" come"
X Link 2025-11-30T14:54Z [----] followers, 35.4K engagements
"Women love saying they want a man with low social media or no online presence. It sounds wholesome it sounds grounded but stated preferences rarely match revealed preferences. What people say they want often collapses under what they actually choose. Women want men with status and today status is often visible. It shows up through presence charisma lifestyle reputation aesthetic and yes sometimes through a social media following. Most women dont want the guy no one notices; they want the guy others notice but who chooses them. The no social media preference only applies if shes already"
X Link 2025-11-30T22:53Z [----] followers, 5.6M engagements
"Im spending my days in Buenos Aires training walking around and eating steak"
X Link 2025-12-01T04:14Z [----] followers, [----] engagements
"Most men radically overestimate their attractiveness because they confuse internal value with perceived value. They assume a good job stable income or a few accomplishments should automatically translate into desirability. Attraction doesnt work that way. Value isnt what you think you have its what others are willing to acknowledge in you. When a man becomes hyperfocused in one domain usually career or income he becomes exceptional there and zeroed-out everywhere else. And women dont date resumes. They date experiences. Charisma aesthetic sensibility emotional calibration social fluency the"
X Link 2025-12-01T14:32Z [----] followers, 461.3K engagements
"Situationships emerged because the incentives changed. Back then commitment came before sex. Women carried enormous reproductive risk men had limited access to intimacy and the entire culture funneled relationships toward marriage. If a man wanted sex he had to offer commitment. Now its flipped. Sex comes first and commitment comes later - if it comes at all. Marriage rates are down and men can access intimacy without investing much. When sex becomes cheap and commitment becomes expensive a lot of men take the path of least resistance. On the female side situationships happen because many"
X Link 2025-12-03T01:59Z [----] followers, 327.1K engagements
"Date a beautiful mid. Not the girl whos so attractive she lives in a different universe. You get used to how someone looks. Even the most stunning face becomes normal when you see it every day. But the attention she gets from the world never goes away. Women who are extremely attractive live with constant options constant DMs constant invites. Not because theyre doing anything wrong it's just the environment theyre in. And that environment makes long-term stability harder. Theres always noise always interference always someone trying to pull her attention. A beautiful mid operates in a"
X Link 2025-12-03T17:25Z [----] followers, 165.3K engagements
"No phones on the table. No sense that the moment might be captured replayed judged later. You could drift. Say the wrong thing. Laugh too loud. Sit there doing nothing. Now everyones slightly braced. Slightly performing. Even when were relaxed were not really loose. Theres always a small part of us watching ourselves. As time goes on I find it harder and harder to suppress the pain I feel when I think of how much better things used to be. https://t.co/fxc9OBQ00z As time goes on I find it harder and harder to suppress the pain I feel when I think of how much better things used to be."
X Link 2025-12-16T00:10Z [----] followers, 429.5K engagements
"If you want to understand someone dont focus on how they begin relationships. Focus on how they end them. Beginnings are cheap. Everyone is attentive generous and optimistic when novelty is doing the work. Endings are different. Endings reveal how a person handles discomfort accountability and emotional responsibility once attraction alone is no longer enough. This is why the manner of someones exit matters. The slow fade the sudden silence the vague explanations these arent accidents or one-off reactions. Theyre behavioral strategies. People default to the same exit patterns because those"
X Link 2025-12-16T19:29Z [----] followers, 68.6K engagements
"This is why I always recommend dinner or drinks as a first date ideally sitting across from each other. You want face to face interaction. Eye contact. Facial expressions. Reactions in real time. A walk in the park doesnt give you that. Youre side by side looking ahead missing half the information. When you sit across from someone you learn far more about who they are and how they make you feel. the intimacy of sitting across the table https://t.co/qeBjnP1Run the intimacy of sitting across the table https://t.co/qeBjnP1Run"
X Link 2025-12-17T19:54Z [----] followers, 663.4K engagements
"When youre face-to-face you cant coast. As a man you actually have to converse. You have to express yourself ask good questions read reactions hold eye contact and create rhythm through words. Thats where real attraction starts - in her mind. Its more demanding and thats exactly why its revealing. Side-by-side works better once theres familiarity. Once some comfort is already there closeness can deepen intimacy. But on a first date you want a bit of tension. You want her to really see you take you in and feel something. Thats harder to create when youre both oriented in the same direction."
X Link 2025-12-18T03:16Z [----] followers, 30.2K engagements
"After a breakup hope often becomes a survival strategy. Intellectually you know the relationship is over. Emotionally you keep a small candle lit for reconciliation. You replay memories you ruminate. You cant move on not because you want the pain but because the pain is the only remaining connection. Letting go feels like erasing the relationship entirely. And that feels worse than suffering. The illusion is that you believe hope is preserving something meaningful when in reality its corroding you. Hope keeps the internal version of your ex alive the fantasy the imagined future the emotional"
X Link 2025-12-21T19:50Z [----] followers, 92K engagements
"One of the great illusions of modern life is that freedom comes from having more options. Psychologically the opposite is often true. Too much optionality erodes identity. When nothing constrains you nothing organizes you. Human beings need limits. Restraint is a container. Boundaries give shape to behavior and direction to effort. And in a world with few external limits that means you have to learn to impose them yourself. Choosing what you wont pursue so what remains can actually matter. You dont find yourself by keeping every door open. You find yourself by committing by narrowing your"
X Link 2025-12-21T20:22Z [----] followers, [---] engagements
"After a breakup men dont need closure. They need structure. Most men try to solve the wrong problem. They focus on replacing the person instead of rebuilding what the relationship was quietly providing: routine emotional regulation future orientation and stability. A relationship organizes a mans life. When it ends theres a vacuum. Dating again too quickly doesnt fill it. It distracts from it. The instability remains just masked by novelty. What actually helps is rebuilding independent structure. Fixed routines. Physical training. Work with clear goals. Social contact that isnt romantic. A"
X Link 2025-12-22T14:38Z [----] followers, 82.6K engagements
"The answer isnt to perform forever and it isnt to stop being fun. Its to stay in motion. Attraction fades when the relationship becomes the mans whole world. Men stay interesting when they keep building a life outside it"
X Link 2025-12-26T15:07Z [----] followers, 38.4K engagements
"Success can make men worse at relationships not better. Some men spend their entire youth heads down on work money status. They win. And suddenly they have optionality and attention. Women everywhere. The problem is they never learned how to tell the difference. Attraction without experience is dangerous. Status substitutes for skill. Money masks naivety. These men confuse access with understanding and end up shocked when theyre manipulated drained or valued only for what they represent. Success doesnt teach you discernment. It just increases the number of people who want something from you."
X Link 2025-12-28T01:21Z [----] followers, 91.4K engagements
"We tell girls they are already enough and we build schools workplaces and social narratives around helping them express that. We tell boys they must earn their worth but were vague about what earns it and suspicious when they pursue it for themselves. When one group is validated by default and the other only conditionally the result is quiet resentment and slow disengagement. For perhaps the first time in humanitys long history in many parts of the world it is boys who are increasingly seen as a burden and girls who are a boon https://t.co/8Oqd5ibAKz Illustration: Alva Skog"
X Link 2025-12-28T13:28Z [----] followers, 911K engagements
"Bryan Johnson is the most measured human alive. Every variable tracked. Every routine dialed in. Men tend to make women the organizing principle of their lives. Once a man commits he quietly restructures everything around the bond. Emotion routine future orientation. So when a relationship ends men dont just lose the woman. They lose the structure that was holding their life together. Thats why breakups destabilize men so deeply. Its architectural collapse. Its been two weeks since Ive felt Kates warm embrace. Shes been traveling. I miss her so much. Its been two weeks since Ive felt Kates"
X Link 2025-12-28T19:47Z [----] followers, 19.6K engagements
"One of the most destabilizing changes in modern dating is that attention has become detached from earning it. Attention used to mean something. It signaled interest effort risk. It was given selectively because it cost something to give. Now its infinite. A woman can post a photo and receive hundreds of micro-validations from men who get nothing in return. No date no intimacy. Not even a conversation. Just free reinforcement on demand. And when one side of a market can get what it wants without paying a cost incentives shift. Men think theyre being kind or supportive but at scale theyre"
X Link 2025-12-30T21:36Z [----] followers, [----] engagements
"On dating apps men pay to be seen. Thats the whole business model. Men compete in an environment where attention is limited and selection is asymmetric so they buy boosts likes and subscriptions to force visibility through the filter. Women by contrast dont need exposure. They start with inbound attention. Their bottleneck isnt visibility its selection. Thats why spending means different things depending on whos paying. When a man pays hes trying to overcome selectiveness. When a woman pays shes usually trying to overcome lack of demand. Attractive women dont need to advertise. They filter."
X Link 2025-12-31T18:27Z [----] followers, 183K engagements
"Dating apps feel tragic because they punish men who try to be understood instead of felt. Apps compress judgment into seconds. Theres no time for context nuance or explanation. Under time pressure the brain doesnt look for depth. It looks for signal. Salience beats clarity. So men do the wrong thing. They add more information more photos more prompts more explanation. They assume being understood will make them attractive. It doesnt. Neutral photos fail not because theyre ugly although they probably are but because they dont provoke anything. They document instead of create contrast. The"
X Link 2026-01-02T13:26Z [----] followers, 263.8K engagements
"Dating apps dont reveal whos attractive. They reveal how far men will lower their standards for access. Women filter abundance. Men swipe down to survive it. 2nd day on hinge as a girl in sf https://t.co/Va33eK9tOe 2nd day on hinge as a girl in sf https://t.co/Va33eK9tOe"
X Link 2026-01-06T15:54Z [----] followers, 73.2K engagements
"You can delete the dating apps. You can swear them off. You can say youre done with modern dating. None of that makes the game disappear. The market keeps moving. The incentives keep shaping behavior. The people still playing keep setting the terms. Opting out just makes you irrelevant to a system that continues without you. Dating apps reveal who understands attention who knows how to package themselves who understands asymmetry who realizes that abundance changes behavior and scarcity distorts it. A lot of people get stuck moralizing a market problem. They complain about outcomes while"
X Link 2026-01-06T21:35Z [----] followers, 1.3M engagements
"@greghunkins IRL works precisely because its become rare. My point isnt dont approach. Its that opting out of apps doesnt erase the incentives shaping behavior everywhere else"
X Link 2026-01-07T02:37Z [----] followers, 22.8K engagements
"Your Instagram decides whether attraction lives or dies. Women scroll your page to understand your life. Theyre asking whether your world feels current social and worth stepping into. A dead or outdated page kills momentum before you ever say the wrong thing"
X Link 2026-01-07T03:22Z [----] followers, [--] engagements
"Most men lose momentum because they dont realize where the decision is being made. The match on the dating app opens the door. Instagram confirms the frame. If she cant quickly picture herself inside your world attraction fades. No rejection no closure. Just silence"
X Link 2026-01-07T03:25Z [----] followers, [--] engagements
"Most men dont realize when attraction actually dies in a relationship. One of the biggest mistakes people make is believing attraction has an endpoint. That once commitment is secured the job is done. It isnt. Courtship is effortful and uncertain. It costs energy. So most people try to skip it and move straight into the maintenance phase where things feel safe predictable and low effort. But your partner didnt choose you to escape attraction. They chose you because of it. The behaviors that created desire were the price of entry. When those behaviors disappear the reason for choosing you"
X Link 2026-01-07T13:10Z [----] followers, 42.5K engagements
"Men are drawn to younger women in part because women are drawn to older men. That sounds backward to most people but it explains far more than the usual biology-only argument ever does. Yes men are visually oriented. Beauty correlates with youth and fertility. Everyone already knows that. Its obvious and incomplete. Whats rarely said is that this preference only works because its reciprocated on the other side of the market. Across cultures and throughout history women tend to choose men who are older than them. First marriages follow this pattern almost everywhere. Women dont primarily sort"
X Link 2026-01-08T00:40Z [----] followers, 357.8K engagements
"You dont have days to build chemistry. You barely have a few messages before attention drifts and momentum dies. You want to cut through the noise and create a feeling before the moment passes. Say something that makes her feel something immediately build rapport just long enough to feel familiar and then you move it off the app before it all collapses into white noise. https://twitter.com/i/web/status/2009259668003061848 https://twitter.com/i/web/status/2009259668003061848"
X Link 2026-01-08T13:43Z [----] followers, 35.3K engagements
"@mylifeisaplague @real_Col_ this frames the issue as extremes - 'young girls vs old men. most age gap relationships dont look like that. not everyone is leonardo dicaprio"
X Link 2026-01-08T15:29Z [----] followers, [---] engagements
"That sweater isnt really about men. Its about women enforcing rules on other women. A lot of modern female dating advice isnt optimized for attracting or keeping the kind of man you actually want. Its optimized for preserving status inside female social hierarchies. Behaviors that reliably increase a womans leverage with men such as patience flexibility making his life easier often work. But they come with a cost. Among other women those behaviors read as submission as betrayal. So they get policed. They threaten other womens relative standing in the same mating market. If one woman gains an"
X Link 2026-01-09T17:33Z [----] followers, 445.4K engagements
"Dating apps create a very specific illusion. Infinite options and no visible competition. On the apps women dont really see other women. Its just her and an endless stream of men. That makes it feel like a sellers market. No urgency. No pressure. Ask for more. Take your time. Assume something better is always one swipe away. Then you walk into Equinox and the illusion breaks. Suddenly youre not alone in the market anymore. You see the other women who live where you live look how you look want what you want. Nothing about men changed. What changed was what you could see. Dating apps hide the"
X Link 2026-01-10T14:17Z [----] followers, 628.9K engagements
"Dating apps hide competition and delay consequence. When you dont see your alternatives embodied in real people you dont calibrate urgency. You overestimate time and leverage. You assume you can always come back later and choose again. Choice has friction in physical spaces. You feel the cost of waiting. You notice who pairs off. You sense when youre being passed by. Apps remove that feedback. Everyone feels temporarily above the market until the market reappears all at once. https://twitter.com/i/web/status/2009993761309212913 https://twitter.com/i/web/status/2009993761309212913"
X Link 2026-01-10T14:20Z [----] followers, 29.1K engagements
"When women talk about what they want in men theres usually one condition left unstated. They want it from men theyre already attracted to. Kindness communication consistency emotional availability etc. These traits sound universal but in practice they only matter once attraction exists. Without attraction they barely register and sometimes they even repel. This is where a lot of men get stuck. They hear the list and try to become it. More agreeable more accommodating. Then they wonder why nothing changes. And its because these traits are being offered without leverage. Attraction is the"
X Link 2026-01-13T14:55Z [----] followers, 57.5K engagements
"I almost always prefer dinner or drinks as a first date especially in the evening and sitting across from each other. It forces presence eye contact facial expressions. You can feel how someone reacts to you in real time not just what they say. Walk dates miss a lot of that early on. Youre side by side looking ahead filling the space with motion. Its pleasant but it hides information. You can talk for an hour and still not know how you feel sitting with the person. Eventually every relationship reduces to the same thing: sitting across from each other and talking. First dates that avoid that"
X Link 2026-01-14T01:26Z [----] followers, [---] engagements
"One of the most overlooked drivers of attraction is indifference. A take it or leave it attitude. Whatever happens happens. Nonchalance. People can feel when you want something from them. When your sense of direction depends on how they respond. That pressure leaks through your tone your pacing your attention. Indifference removes that weight. It keeps the interaction light. You already know this works because youve seen it from the other side. Think of someone you werent that into. You were relaxed unbothered. You didnt overthink your words. And somehow they became more interested. The"
X Link 2026-01-15T14:03Z [----] followers, 164.6K engagements
"Women love saying they want a man with low social media or no online presence. It sounds wholesome it sounds grounded but stated preferences rarely match revealed preferences. What people say they want often collapses under what they actually choose. Women want men with status and today status is often visible. It shows up through presence charisma lifestyle reputation aesthetic and yes sometimes through a social media following. Most women dont want the guy no one notices; they want the guy others notice but who chooses them. The no social media preference only applies if shes already"
X Link 2026-01-15T16:17Z [----] followers, 1.6M engagements
"@eric23332 Most people are boring. Men just pay a higher penalty for it"
X Link 2026-01-15T18:14Z [----] followers, [----] engagements
"@DukeHerndon Instagram serves as two functions: social proof and attraction amplification. You want a tight well curated instragram that tells a story the moment a woman lands on your profile. Less is more"
X Link 2026-01-15T19:51Z [----] followers, [----] engagements
"Getting ghosted after sex isnt always about men being cruel. Sometimes its about cost. Men disengage when continuing the interaction starts to feel costly. Cost isnt just money. Its friction. The sense that time together requires negotiating managing feelings or navigating uncertainty that doesnt feel worth it. When access was made to feel hard earned or tense some men unconsciously treat the encounter as something already completed rather than something to build on. Once the initial goal is reached the motivation to stay engaged fades. This dynamic is sharper with attractive or high status"
X Link 2026-01-16T21:34Z [----] followers, [----] engagements
"The freedom to follow your passion is largely a function of insulation from risk. When failure doesnt threaten survival creativity stops being a gamble and becomes a form of signaling proof of depth authenticity and self actualization. Reinvention in this context is optional. Its a way to convert existing wealth or status into cultural legitimacy without meaningful downside. For most people pursuing passion carries real consequences; for the already secure its a low cost performance that reads as courage to those who dont share the same safety net. Kai Cenat says that he doesnt care if people"
X Link 2026-01-17T00:08Z [----] followers, [----] engagements
"@yesadok You ever watch that one interview with Jordan Peterson I miss Jordan Peterson. Where has he gone"
X Link 2026-01-19T03:53Z [----] followers, 30.5K engagements
"Men don't commit to the hottest woman. They commit to whoever's easiest to be with. She's not constantly testing you picking fights for no reason or turning the relationship into some power struggle she needs to win. A lot of women figure out there's no consequence for being difficult. So they chip away at you. And then wonder why he's gone. I've dated many women in my life and the best women the women that I've had the longest relationships with weren't the hottest or smartest but the most inoffensive. They were easy to get along with didn't create problems laughed easily and smiled at"
X Link 2026-01-19T13:19Z [----] followers, 42.1K engagements
"Men and women grew apart because they live in different digital worlds. Theyre on different platforms. Following different people. Absorbing different incentives. What feels normal to one side starts to feel foreign to the other. Men spend time in spaces that push self reliance and status. Where youre expected to compete take hits and figure it out. Women spend time in spaces that revolve around social dynamics emotional language and keeping the group intact. Neither side feels extreme to itself. Everything feels reasonable from the inside. So when they meet it doesnt feel like disagreement."
X Link 2026-01-23T13:39Z [----] followers, [---] engagements
"A highly optimized physique often signals continued mate competition. Time discipline and attention still pointed outward. Optionality still very much in play. A dad bod can signal something else. A man whos shifted his energy. Less focused on being chosen. More focused on building a life. Short-term attraction and long-term selection dont run on the same logic. Women who want stability often down-select away from men who still look like theyre optimizing for the market. Homens com corpo de pai de famlia so considerados mais atraentes por mulheres aponta estudo. https://t.co/pKNnQgR2LC Homens"
X Link 2026-01-26T22:37Z [----] followers, 22K engagements
"The flight attendant role selects for traits that are rewarded in short-term social environments but penalized in long-term pair bonding for straight men. Its high visibility transient novelty-heavy service-oriented and status-adjacent without being status-owning. Youre constantly around new people new cities new micro-social hierarchies but you dont control the frame. Youre inside someone elses schedule someone elses authority and system. For women and gay men those traits dont clash as much with attraction dynamics. For women mobility sociability and presentation can increase desirability."
X Link 2026-01-27T18:58Z [----] followers, [----] engagements
"I've watched Lost in Translation more times than I can count and it still gets me every single time. Charlotte is newly married. Her husband is busy distracted always somewhere else even when he's right there. He's not cruel. He's just boring. Absent in the way that people become absent when they stop trying to be interesting to you. And then she meets Bob. Older. Married. An actor with nothing left to prove and nothing left to lose. And suddenly everything is alive again. They're singing karaoke at [--] AM. They're running through Tokyo like the city belongs to them. They're laughing at things"
X Link 2026-02-01T21:45Z [----] followers, 568.2K engagements
"80% of single men arent giving up Theyre opting out of a transaction that no longer makes sense. Most people dont actually want relationships. They want what relationships used to provide. Men want sex intimacy validation. Porn gives them a low risk low cost simulation of it. Women want attention resources reassurance desirability. Social media gives them a low risk scalable version of it. When you can get a diluted version of what you want more cheaply and more safely elsewhere you stop entering the higher risk exchange. So relationships decline. We replaced real transactions with digital"
X Link 2026-02-15T13:54Z [----] followers, 181.7K engagements
"Breakups often hit men harder than women. Men tend to bond later and deeper. Early in a relationship men often remain relatively independent while women integrate emotionally and socially sooner. But once a man commits he reorganizes his life around that bond. His partner becomes his primary source of emotional intimacy identity stability and future orientation which allows him to narrow his focus elsewhere often toward work or mission. Women by contrast usually maintain broader emotional networks and rehearse separation psychologically long before the relationship formally ends. By the time"
X Link 2025-12-21T22:58Z [----] followers, 1.7M engagements
"Alright real advice for anyone setting up a dating app profile. You get [--] photos [--] prompts and less than [--] seconds before she swipes. If youre not getting matches its not a personality problem. Its a presentation problem. Modern dating is marketing and most men were never taught how to present themselves. Theres no playbook for how to be seen felt chosen. So most profiles quietly disqualify themselves. Stop optimizing for good photos and start auditing for coherence. If your photos all feel like the same moment or the same version of you cut half of them. Your profile should feel like"
X Link 2026-01-08T13:40Z [----] followers, 886.8K engagements
"A lot of modern anti-love/anti-men content isnt about men at all. Its about women enforcing norms on other women. Cynicism is socially safe. Investment isnt. And advice that wins group approval often quietly loses the relationship. The amount of casual anti-love anti-male anti-romance content being thrust at young women is utterly insane It's like there's some giant conspiracy to make women picky misandrist off-putting and alone https://t.co/DQE35SBZkL The amount of casual anti-love anti-male anti-romance content being thrust at young women is utterly insane It's like there's some giant"
X Link 2026-01-11T12:58Z [----] followers, 30.2K engagements
"A lot of men think women are boring because theyre asking one person to do the job of an entire social ecosystem. Historically men didnt get everything from their partner. They had friends for ideas debate risk taking and humor. Community for meaning. Work for purpose. A woman for intimacy and companionship. Strip all that away and suddenly shes expected to be your lover best friend and intellectual sparring partner. When everything gets funneled into one person disappointment is inevitable. So many girls are so boring to talk to. No idea about anything going on in the world no tech politics"
X Link 2026-01-15T15:03Z [----] followers, 250.2K engagements
"I've dated many women in my life and the best women the women that I've had the longest relationships with weren't the hottest or smartest but the most inoffensive. They were easy to get along with didn't create problems laughed easily and smiled at whatever I said"
X Link 2026-01-19T00:44Z [----] followers, 891.7K engagements
"@jimbo68589146 You want me to unpack that here right now Should I dive into a vulnerable monologue about all the almosts maybes and women whove slipped through my fingers like sand The ones who came so close only to be lost to hesitation timing and moments I never stepped into"
X Link 2026-01-19T03:50Z [----] followers, 28.2K engagements
"Ive known a few women in their early 30s who were genuinely attractive smart socially polished the kind of women men are happy to date sleep with be seen with. And yet year after year the same pattern kept showing up. The men stuck around casually but when it came time to commit they chose someone else. Sexual interest and long term selection are not the same filter. For many desirable men sleeping with a woman and choosing her as a partner are governed by different incentives. Optionality changes behavior. When a man has a lot of options he can afford to be selective about the future in a"
X Link 2026-01-23T01:45Z [----] followers, 180.9K engagements
"The real tragedy of relationships is that if you give people everything they want and need then they will no longer want to need you. Relationships dont run on gratitude. They run on desire utility and unmet tension. We enter them because we want or need something from the other person. But once those needs are fully satisfied the bond weakens. The very act of solving the problem can dissolve the reason the relationship existed in the first place. Thats why sacrifice isnt a guarantee of longevity. You can give endlessly at real personal cost and still be left. Nothing absolutely nothing"
X Link 2026-01-27T18:52Z [----] followers, 114.1K engagements
"Its almost always better to be the one whos adored than the one doing the adoring. Every relationship has an asymmetry. Someone leans a little more someone cares a little deeper. And that imbalance quietly sets the tone for everything that follows. The adorer adjusts waits explains hopes. The adored relaxes. They move at their own pace. They dont need to chase certainty because they already have it. People like to pretend love is equal but attraction rarely is. Desire flows downhill. And the person who wants less has more room to breathe more leverage and more say in how the relationship"
X Link 2026-01-27T18:54Z [----] followers, 13.7K engagements
"Most women aren't getting flown out or becoming influencers. This is about access. For most of human history women selected from a small local pool. Constraints forced trade-offs. Compatibility mattered because optionality was limited. Technology removed those constraints psychologically before it removed them materially. Even a small following a few DMs or occasional outside attention is enough to distort perception. You dont need infinite options. You just need to feel like better ones are always one swipe one message one trip away. In any system where potential feels limitless commitment"
X Link 2026-01-29T13:46Z [----] followers, 15K engagements
"People will tell you that your early twenties are the best years of your life. They will say it like a warning like a kindness. Like they're handing you something precious and fragile and asking you not to waste it. And to the extent that you believe them you will feel the pressure tightening around your chest the FOMO the manic need to squeeze every drop of joy out of these years before the crushing descent into real adulthood begins. The people who say this the ones who romanticize their youth like a country they were exiled from are almost always people who feel trapped now. Their choices"
X Link 2026-02-01T20:41Z [----] followers, 13.3K engagements
"Men select differently for fun than they do for forever. A man will sleep with a woman he'd never commit to. He'll take her on dates text her back make her feel chosen and mean none of it beyond the moment. It's not deception not exactly. It's just a different filter. Short-term selection is about attraction availability ease. Long-term selection is about everything else. The problem is when women confuse access for interest. If he's sleeping with me he must want me. If he's choosing me on Saturday nights I must be his caliber. But being chosen in the dark doesn't mean you'll be chosen in the"
X Link 2026-02-03T17:25Z [----] followers, 22.8K engagements
"Two things can be true at once. Keeping a relationship private can be reasonable. Parasocial attention is real. People project speculate cross boundaries. Not everyone wants that inside their personal life. At the same time visibility changes incentives. When someone builds an audience around attention and intimacy a faint sense of availability becomes part of what sustains engagement. Not because viewers are entitled but because fantasy and projection are how attention markets work. This isnt about blaming women or demanding access or denying anyone the right to privacy. Its about"
X Link 2026-02-03T23:07Z [----] followers, 194.6K engagements
"Modern dating forces men into a strange role. Women want to have fun. They want to feel entertained stimulated alive. So as a man you cant be boring. You have to bring energy humor momentum. You become the jester. Thats how attraction starts. But the paradox is that the relationships that actually last are boring. Not dramatic. Not thrilling. Not emotionally chaotic. Theyre calm consistent predictable. They run so smoothly you barely notice them. And nothing feels more boring than stability when youve been conditioned to chase stimulation. The problem is that early entertainment sets an"
X Link 2025-12-26T13:11Z [----] followers, 877.7K engagements
"This breakup is a case study in how men and women experience relationship momentum differently. And it's worth paying attention to. They moved in at [--]. By [--] it was all they knew. Six years that felt like thirty. He stayed by her side through cancer through the worst of it. Through the kind of thing that's supposed to bond people forever. And still at some point the relationship stopped moving forward. And she left. No one wants to hear this but past sacrifices don't bank. What you did last year doesn't carry forward. What you survived together doesn't guarantee anything. The ledger resets"
X Link 2026-02-08T14:37Z [----] followers, 4.1M engagements
"There's an unspoken rule for women who build audiences online. Whether she's on Instagram Twitch OnlyFans it doesn't matter. The rule is the same. Never let them know you're taken. It's not about lying really. It's about omission. It's about maintaining the faint flickering illusion of availability the unspoken maybe that keeps men watching subscribing donating commenting hoping. The moment she's visibly partnered the fantasy collapses. The engagement dips. The men find someone else to project onto. Accessibility is the product. A boyfriend ruins the packaging. She'll call it privacy."
X Link 2026-02-03T17:10Z [----] followers, 6.3M engagements
"No one knows you. No one has a story about who you are. No one is waiting for you to be the person you were yesterday. You're just a stranger in a chair by the window watching a city that doesn't need anything from you. It's the feeling that anything could happen. That the world is bigger than the walls you built around yourself back home. That the life you've been living is just one version of a life and there are others and they're not as far away as you thought. At home you're fixed. Known. You fit into a shape that other people recognize and after a while you forget you're even in a shape"
X Link 2026-02-07T23:31Z [----] followers, 5M engagements
"College is the easiest dating market youll ever have access to. Same age. Same stage. Built-in proximity. Endless social overlap. The environment does most of the work. Thats also why so many relationships there are chosen out of convenience not conviction. For a guy it solves sex and companionship. For a girl it solves loneliness and social stability. Then graduation happens. The structure disappears. Geography shifts. Ambition diverges. Trajectories become visible. Status gaps open; direction momentum perceived upside. You didnt really choose the person youd build with. You chose the person"
X Link 2026-02-15T19:53Z [----] followers, 2M engagements
"You know that thing Dostoevsky wrote about gambling Its like that. When youre surrounded by endless possibilities one of the hardest things to do is pass them up"
X Link 2023-02-01T12:25Z [----] followers, 118.3K engagements
"@PopBase Its quite common for men to have this issue. They seek a woman who is attractive or with status and it eventually becomes the thing they despise. Theyll ignore everything in the beginning just to get the girl"
X Link 2023-07-17T23:26Z [----] followers, 370K engagements
"One of the easiest ways to build confidence is to ditch headphones in public get off your phone and look up. Talk to the cashier the barista your uber driver. Say something. Thats why New Yorkers are so socially skilled. They interact with tons of strangers every day"
X Link 2025-11-15T23:57Z [----] followers, 144.9K engagements
"Nothing you did for a woman in the past matters. Not the effort not the sacrifices not the but I did all this for you. Attraction is emotional and lives in the present moment. If she doesnt feel it now she doesnt feel it. Accept that and you move differently. I saw a post that said: Men really think if you liked them once youll like them forever. Baby I dont even like the version of me that liked you. Listen. YES. This https://t.co/6SqQXZSV9P I saw a post that said: Men really think if you liked them once youll like them forever. Baby I dont even like the version of me that liked you. Listen."
X Link 2025-11-18T20:10Z [----] followers, 182.1K engagements
"I saw a post that said: Men really think if you liked them once youll like them forever. Baby I dont even like the version of me that liked you. Listen. YES. This"
X Link 2025-11-17T12:46Z [----] followers, 1.7M engagements
"@PopBase Mans gotta bring home the bacon and be a provider"
X Link 2023-07-21T16:35Z [----] followers, 251.5K engagements
"I've dated a lot over the years. And after enough first first dates situationships almost-relationships there are a few qualities that stand out. Not things I look for but things I notice when something actually feels long-term viable. [--]. Low social media presence. Not no Instagram. Im not asking anyone to go off grid. Just a woman who isnt living online. Not posting every dinner every outfit every random thought. Someone who isnt chasing validation. A girl who uses her phone but still has an inner world. They exist but they're not on your feed. [--]. She genuinely adores you. Theres always an"
X Link 2025-11-14T12:57Z [----] followers, 297K engagements
"@PopBase BIG BANG faded away. YG cant afford to lose BLACKPINK. I wouldnt be surprised if they go off and focus on their solo careers music and acting"
X Link 2023-07-25T17:16Z [----] followers, 295.5K engagements
"Breakups hit men harder. Not at first but later. When its over she cries talks to friends feels it all at once. You You pretend youre fine. You hit the gym scroll keep moving. Then weeks pass and the silence hits like a brick. Thats when it lands. The mistake most men make is trying to think their way out of heartbreak. But the mind just loops. Healing has to be physical. Block her. Delete the photos. Burn what reminds you. Dont keep little digital shrines to something thats gone. Then move. Literally. Train travel exhaust yourself. Fill your days so your body stops expecting her. You cant"
X Link 2025-10-27T20:57Z [----] followers, 109.4K engagements
"A while ago I was stuck on this girl. The ending was messy and it got in my head way more than I wanted to admit. I kept replaying everything analyzing every moment trying to solve it somehow. And then out of nowhere I just thought shes literally just a girl. She was just a girl moving through life trying to figure herself out dealing with her own fear and confusion and childhood scars. A girl who didnt have all the answers who probably didnt even know what she wanted. And once that hit I strangely felt empathy instead of all the other stuff. And that was the first time it actually felt easy"
X Link 2025-11-20T01:41Z [----] followers, 528.3K engagements
"I live in a very liberal city. Most of the women I date are liberal. Im more moderate even conservative in some ways. And heres what Ive noticed: even the ones with the loudest takes about AI war Trump Elon the world ending still date me still enjoy my company still sleep with me. They almost never ask about my politics until after. Attraction comes first. Ideology later. Why Because I dont fight them. When a woman parrots TikTok talking points I dont roll my eyes. I tease I smirk I ask questions. Not to win but to dance. Thats how Ive even shifted a few minds because its playful not hostile."
X Link 2025-10-04T14:44Z [----] followers, 135.5K engagements
"I talk to every woman the same way - light playful a touch flirtatious. Some say it risks overstepping. It hasnt. On a date flirt lightly with the hostess or the waitress. Not because you want them but because it shows ease charm play. Everyone wants to feel something. How to gain love & respect from the world https://t.co/js0XVFKGql How to gain love & respect from the world https://t.co/js0XVFKGql"
X Link 2025-10-03T22:25Z [----] followers, 73.1K engagements
"How to gain love & respect from the world"
X Link 2025-10-01T19:30Z 117.5K followers, 677.2K engagements
"Find women who want you. Men should do as little as possible early on because it helps identify women actually attracted to you rather than what she can get from you. You want someone who finds being with you valuable enough. Attraction is personal. Not being funny I feel like men exaggerate this. I honestly dont think the girlies are out here being beggy like you claim they are😂 Not being funny I feel like men exaggerate this. I honestly dont think the girlies are out here being beggy like you claim they are😂"
X Link 2025-11-01T16:45Z [----] followers, 68.4K engagements
"Not being funny I feel like men exaggerate this. I honestly dont think the girlies are out here being beggy like you claim they are😂 Bruh the amount of black British women dating transactionally these days is crazy Bruh the amount of black British women dating transactionally these days is crazy"
X Link 2025-10-28T14:50Z [----] followers, 59.4M engagements
"Travel is wonderful in your twenties but past a certain point Ive met too many people who were running away from something or chasing the fleeting attention they got elsewhere. Stability routine and meaningful relationships matter deeply. Still switch it up once in a while. Take that trip. its incredible how much people today use traveling as a substitute for finding any real meaning or purpose in life. its incredible how much people today use traveling as a substitute for finding any real meaning or purpose in life"
X Link 2025-11-08T22:51Z [----] followers, 82.1K engagements
"its incredible how much people today use traveling as a substitute for finding any real meaning or purpose in life. If you're a woman in your 30s unmarried and still obsessed with traveling it's time for a reality check. No amount of traveling if going to fill your soul. You deep down inside know what you need: a loving husband and children. Traveling is nothing but procrastination and If you're a woman in your 30s unmarried and still obsessed with traveling it's time for a reality check. No amount of traveling if going to fill your soul. You deep down inside know what you need: a loving"
X Link 2025-11-08T22:01Z 165.1K followers, 1.5M engagements
"Dating today forces you to face something most men avoid. You have to bring value into someones life. You cannot be boring. There was a time when being a man automatically meant offering something useful. Protection stability resources a path forward. That world is gone. Women can get all of that on their own now and many do. So what do you actually add If her life feels the same with or without you she has no reason to choose you. The only men who stand out now are the ones who make life feel richer. More interesting more alive. Its not about being flashy its about being someone who creates"
X Link 2025-11-19T13:00Z [----] followers, 101.4K engagements
"One thing Ive learned the hard way: people dont come into your life because youre nice or virtuous. They come because in that moment you feel like the answer to something they cant get on their own. Thats what actually pulls people together. It's this quiet you give me something Im missing. And the part no one warns you about is that its always happening in the present tense. The moment you stop being that answer the connection shifts. History doesnt save it. Old effort doesnt save it. Affection is always about who you are right now not who you were"
X Link 2025-11-19T17:47Z [----] followers, 39.9K engagements
"If youre just starting to upgrade your style think of it in [--] tiers: [--]. UNIQLO Affordable basics that fit well + great collabs with real designers. [--]. COS Elevated basics minimal + fashion-forward. [--]. SSENSE Start layering in designer pieces. Everything here is quality"
X Link 2025-09-19T21:36Z [----] followers, 47.9K engagements
"Dating today will drive you insane if you dont learn to walk the razors edge. No past no future just the moment. Most people go on dates wanting something. Sex connection a relationship. But the second you project that onto the person in front of you it slips away. People can feel when you want something from them instead of with them. It creates pressure. You have to stay present enough to enjoy the moment while wanting nothing from it. Whatever happens happen"
X Link 2025-10-15T12:23Z [----] followers, 49.5K engagements
"Heres how meeting women in public actually works from someone whos done it a lot: [--]. Fix your body language. This is [--] percent of the game. If you walk up stiff upright shoulders squared she reads you as stranger danger. Relax your frame. Lean on something rest your arm keep your hands busy tilt your head slightly. Move slow. You want to look like a guy whos already comfortable in the room. [--]. Skip the formalities and drop into conversation mid-stream. Never open with Hi may I meet you or anything that announces what youre doing. Just talk like you already know her like youve already been in"
X Link 2025-11-17T18:03Z [----] followers, 48.9K engagements
"Its why social proof works so well. When women see other women choosing you it signals safety and value. Someone already vetted you. A woman explains why they dont tell us what they want. https://t.co/4f4oZMiWke A woman explains why they dont tell us what they want. https://t.co/4f4oZMiWke"
X Link 2025-11-07T23:48Z [----] followers, 33.8K engagements
"A woman explains why they dont tell us what they want"
X Link 2025-11-02T13:30Z 13.2K followers, 567.4K engagements
"@PopBase Damn. He's going to do the low deep voice jazz rainy day slow dance type songs huh"
X Link 2023-08-08T01:09Z [----] followers, 27.7K engagements
"Something Jordan Peterson said once really stuck with me: if you treat others as short term partners youre also treating yourself that way. I think about that a lot with dating. Its easy to tell yourself youre just having fun keeping it light not settling down. But once you start moving through people like that it starts to shape you too. And its hard to turn that around"
X Link 2025-10-18T22:13Z [----] followers, 24.5K engagements
"One of the easiest ways men ruin early dating is by killing the mystery too soon. You meet someone things feel good youre excited and then you overplay your hand. You confess too much too early before any real tension has built. What most men dont realize is that anxiety uncertainty that bit of instability those are your allies. They create space for her to wonder about you to miss you to reach out. If you dont give her that space she wont feel it"
X Link 2025-10-25T17:27Z [----] followers, 25.7K engagements
"You ever wonder if I get tired of this Hinge shit"
X Link 2025-09-02T23:13Z [----] followers, 69.8K engagements
"Eating alone is only sad when nothings happening in your life. But when you are actively the protagonist of your own life a table for one hits different. Its grounding. Its peaceful. It feels like a little breath before the next chapter kicks in. This young man went out for a meal by himself. He said: You dont know lonely until you have to take yourself for that meal alone because sitting in a room with strangers is better than sitting in your own thoughts in an empty room 😔 Would you go to a restaurant by yourself https://t.co/Q0kAEKxRlN This young man went out for a meal by himself. He"
X Link 2025-11-18T17:29Z [----] followers, 16.9K engagements
"This young man went out for a meal by himself. He said: You dont know lonely until you have to take yourself for that meal alone because sitting in a room with strangers is better than sitting in your own thoughts in an empty room 😔 Would you go to a restaurant by yourself"
X Link 2025-11-17T12:42Z 217.5K followers, 12.1M engagements
"@historyinmemes I do love a walkable city. Its good for the soul"
X Link 2023-03-15T19:49Z [----] followers, 22.2K engagements
"What do women want The same thing theyve always wanted: what other women want. Not what they say they want but what they see other women doing. In the 1950s it was marriage. Today its freedom travel skincare a soft life in Paris. The desire shifts with the instagram feed. Its not that women want everything. Its that theyre terrified of missing anything. And the pressure isnt to be happy its to keep up"
X Link 2025-10-11T18:41Z [----] followers, 13.9K engagements
"Yesterdays matches. Hows my opener"
X Link 2025-09-12T20:45Z [----] followers, 78.8K engagements
"@ItIsHoeMath the best mindset a man can have in relationships treat her like shes a child not in a condescending way but in how you lead how you hold frame how you stay grounded when she tests when you stop reacting to the chaos you stop feeding it and everything gets easier"
X Link 2025-08-07T13:10Z [----] followers, [----] engagements
"I need to speak to the Hinge engineer who decided [--] active chats was enough"
X Link 2025-09-07T12:58Z [----] followers, 73.1K engagements
"Once that truth settles in your mind everything shifts. You stop keeping score because you realize no one is tracking points but you. You stop reminding her of what you did because if she doesn't feel it now the past won't save you. Instead show up with presence"
X Link 2025-11-18T20:16Z [----] followers, 10.4K engagements
"If youre seeking a long term relationship the optimal strategy is to show her the boring parts of your everyday life. The problem is most men lead with that and wonder why nothing sticks. So be bold and compelling first. Then shell slip into a relationship expecting that to continue. Its a paradox. One problem of modern dating. Women just want to have fun. They want to be entertained. But there isn't enough of a supply of "fun" guys out there to entertain them. Careers grind down their sense of lightness. So women stay single or get a dog and all the dog wants to do is One problem of modern"
X Link 2025-10-19T00:18Z [----] followers, 43.6K engagements
"One problem of modern dating. Women just want to have fun. They want to be entertained. But there isn't enough of a supply of "fun" guys out there to entertain them. Careers grind down their sense of lightness. So women stay single or get a dog and all the dog wants to do is have fun. I once told a guy I couldnt be romantically involved with him because his voice was too monotonous and his demeanor just generally wasnt animated enough and he reached out to me after a long time to tell me he never stopped thinking about it I once told a guy I couldnt be romantically involved with him because"
X Link 2025-10-17T20:50Z 170.4K followers, 1.6M engagements
"Most men blow the first date. Getting it isnt the finish line its just the first filter. If she shows up shes more yes than no. That means shes interested. Not in you but in her idea of you. Most men destroy that illusion. Heres how not to:"
X Link 2025-08-27T14:36Z [----] followers, 26.1K engagements
"@PopBase Celebrities lives are not real life"
X Link 2023-07-17T15:59Z [----] followers, 64.9K engagements
"If you want to know your future with her ask about her past. People dont reinvent themselves. They repeat themselves. Men fall into relationships by accident. A few good dates some chemistry and suddenly youre invested without ever vetting the person youre giving your time energy and emotional bandwidth to. One of the most important things a man can do is pay attention to how she left her last relationship. Did she ghost Did she blow up Did she cheat Did she slowly check out for months Was she always the one ending things These patterns dont magically disappear because you showed up. Were all"
X Link 2025-11-18T16:28Z [----] followers, 12.5K engagements
"Most men ruin dates by gripping too tightly to the outcome. If youre thinking about taking her home youre not present youre trapped in your own agenda. Attraction isnt built in the future. Its built in the moment. Relax be here. Shell feel it"
X Link 2025-10-01T15:40Z [----] followers, [----] engagements
"If you want to speak better you have to write better. If you want to write better you have to read. Words are tools and most men never sharpen them. They never practice. Then they wonder why in front of a woman they have nothing to say. Conversation is a craft. It isnt about lines or tricks its about rhythm cadence and flow. Its about saying something in a way that feels good to say and good to hear. People wont always remember your exact words but theyll always remember how you made them feel. When I used to write daily Id play with alliteration. Id read sentences out loud: does it land Does"
X Link 2025-08-19T12:45Z [----] followers, 19.2K engagements
"@sanpellyenjoyer Social medias got us all chasing everything now every trip every luxury every experience. I see women pulled into that pressure heavy. Some work full-time and still crave constant travel. Others get flown out without a job at all. Its wild. I get it though"
X Link 2025-07-16T20:02Z [----] followers, 29.2K engagements
"@melissa Just dont date a girl who always posts a photo to her instagram story that shes at pilates"
X Link 2025-07-31T13:14Z [----] followers, 24.2K engagements
"@thedimitri i have a terrible habit of imagining asian women without hair because then they look like an asian dude"
X Link 2025-08-19T20:35Z [----] followers, 14.8K engagements
"The guy whos been on [---] dinner/drink dates at night will always have better social instincts than the one whos been on [---] coffee dates on a park bench watching squirrels in the daytime"
X Link 2025-10-08T21:04Z [----] followers, 12.3K engagements
"Most men dont realize the sheer volume of attention women get online. If youre talking to her dozens of others are too. Now imagine being bombarded with hey how was your weekend whats up It all blends into static. Thats why your opener matters. Its not enough to be polite - you have to be compelling. You dont need to be negative or gimmicky. You just need to cut through. wed look good together at dinner we should get together Decisive. Leading. Moving fast. It works because it feels different. Its a plan not small talk. Most guys waste time playing text ping-pong until the conversation dies."
X Link 2025-09-13T19:35Z [----] followers, 22.2K engagements
"@asimbawe Hate to break it to you but thats exactly you need to have an Instagram and dating app. Youre playing on hard mode for no reason. Everyone else on the field instantly has better odds more opportunities more experience"
X Link 2025-07-22T22:47Z [----] followers, 79.4K engagements
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