# ![@Theholisticpsyc Avatar](https://lunarcrush.com/gi/w:26/cr:twitter::967864343244234758.png) @Theholisticpsyc Dr. Nicole LePera

Dr. Nicole LePera posts on X about how to, relationships, in the, the most the most. They currently have [---------] followers and [---] posts still getting attention that total [-------] engagements in the last [--] hours.

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### Social Influence

**Social topic influence**
[how to](/topic/how-to) #576, [relationships](/topic/relationships) #1658, [in the](/topic/in-the) #4646, [the most](/topic/the-most) 6.25%, [safe](/topic/safe) #1387, [if you](/topic/if-you) 5.56%, [health](/topic/health) 4.86%, [talk](/topic/talk) #1155, [the world](/topic/the-world) 2.08%, [core](/topic/core) 2.08%

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### Top Social Posts
Top posts by engagements in the last [--] hours

"Cortisol is highest the first [--] minutes of waking up. It can make you upset and grumpy and you don't even know why. Cortisol stimulates glucose production. Eat protein when waking up you'll be able to emotionally regulate much better"  
[X Link](https://x.com/Theholisticpsyc/status/2017308728920576266)  2026-01-30T18:47Z 1.1M followers, 432.8K engagements


"If we want to talk about wellness mental health and longevity we have to talk about abuse and neglect. Our government even acknowledges it as a threat to public health. But this research is held back:"  
[X Link](https://x.com/Theholisticpsyc/status/2019132188927881660)  2026-02-04T19:33Z 1.1M followers, 28.2K engagements


"True health true wellness true longevity is about relationships with people you can fully trust and depend on. People who have healed their wounds so that they are safe to be around when no one else is watching"  
[X Link](https://x.com/Theholisticpsyc/status/2019132210327220459)  2026-02-04T19:33Z 1.1M followers, [----] engagements


"No one talks about the grief that comes with watching your parents age. And the guilt about time you missed. It's one of the hardest parts of life:"  
[X Link](https://x.com/Theholisticpsyc/status/2021633588626858089)  2026-02-11T17:13Z 1.1M followers, 82K engagements


"Do you agree The comments is a space to share your experiences with this"  
[X Link](https://x.com/Theholisticpsyc/status/2021633603868950876)  2026-02-11T17:13Z 1.1M followers, [----] engagements


"The best revenge is to learn how to regulate your emotions"  
[X Link](https://x.com/Theholisticpsyc/status/2014360564219466177)  2026-01-22T15:32Z 1.1M followers, 98K engagements


"Dating people with narcissistic tendencies is one of the leading cause of almost every health issue we see. Few people connect health issues to relationships. But the connection is research based:"  
[X Link](https://x.com/Theholisticpsyc/status/2016175634406637637)  2026-01-27T15:45Z 1.1M followers, 116.3K engagements


"Red Flag: relationships with people who think it's funny to raise your cortisol"  
[X Link](https://x.com/Theholisticpsyc/status/2020583046207185214)  2026-02-08T19:38Z 1.1M followers, 121.3K engagements


"Letting someone express how they feel without interrupting them is a profound act of love"  
[X Link](https://x.com/Theholisticpsyc/status/2020999716184674411)  2026-02-09T23:14Z 1.1M followers, 58.7K engagements


"When you're around someone with low emotional regulation their mood becomes your problem and you feel chronically anxious in their presence"  
[X Link](https://x.com/Theholisticpsyc/status/2021229177786056984)  2026-02-10T14:26Z 1.1M followers, 278.7K engagements


"Addiction is an attempt to self regulate. Neurobiology shows substances mimics feelings of emotional connection romantic love and social bonding. Addicts are chasing a false form of connection"  
[X Link](https://x.com/Theholisticpsyc/status/2021749289211600922)  2026-02-12T00:52Z 1.1M followers, 232.5K engagements


"We say things like: - "I don't appreciate you talking to me that way" - "Why are you being so rude" - "You made me feel like x" - "That's actually not what I did I did x""  
[X Link](https://x.com/Theholisticpsyc/status/2021981026512404506)  2026-02-12T16:13Z 1.1M followers, 143K engagements


"This puts us in a defensive state where our nervous system goes haywire. It signals to the other person that they're powerful that their words hold extreme meaning and that they can get emotional activation from us"  
[X Link](https://x.com/Theholisticpsyc/status/2021981028202729484)  2026-02-12T16:13Z 1.1M followers, 45.9K engagements


"Quick nervous system regulation: Get a sleep mask. Put it on when you're in fight or flight. Complete darkness sends a message to your nervous system that there's no danger in the environment and it's safe to relax"  
[X Link](https://x.com/Theholisticpsyc/status/2014150406398701976)  2026-01-22T01:37Z 1.1M followers, 94.8K engagements


"A majority of people are depressed because betrayal and trauma changes how safe you feel in the world. People are grieving who they were before they knew too much and were hurt too badly. Resilience is accepting the tougher version of yourself"  
[X Link](https://x.com/Theholisticpsyc/status/2014376981467644157)  2026-01-22T16:37Z 1.1M followers, 94.7K engagements


"Behind most obsessive workaholic men is a scared little boy who never got his father's love and approval"  
[X Link](https://x.com/Theholisticpsyc/status/2014770455123787893)  2026-01-23T18:41Z 1.1M followers, 340K engagements


"People aren't judging you they're too busy judging themselves. Most people are too focused on themselves to even notice your failures and mistakes. You're too gifted to be held back by imaginary opinions"  
[X Link](https://x.com/Theholisticpsyc/status/2017333972360171670)  2026-01-30T20:27Z 1.1M followers, 65.7K engagements


"Chronic speeding or road rage is a core sign someone struggles with emotional regulation. They might also ignore your anxiety. Why Driving Shows How Safe A Person Is:"  
[X Link](https://x.com/Theholisticpsyc/status/2017695260647035323)  2026-01-31T20:23Z 1.1M followers, 74.4K engagements


"An emotionally safe person hears you feel unsafe in a car and can pause ground themselves and slow down. They can access their pre-frontal cortex and notice when their behavior is risky unnecessarily reckless or harmful"  
[X Link](https://x.com/Theholisticpsyc/status/2017695274723164478)  2026-01-31T20:23Z 1.1M followers, 14K engagements


"They take your concerns seriously and calm themselves down enough to make logical choices. They're not trying to dominate the road. They're trying to make sure the person they love can relax on that road. Do you agree Share in the comments"  
[X Link](https://x.com/Theholisticpsyc/status/2017695276140793925)  2026-01-31T20:23Z 1.1M followers, 13.4K engagements


"Men with an unhealed parent wound and a functional substance use issue are the most dangerous people in society"  
[X Link](https://x.com/Theholisticpsyc/status/2017993198975770873)  2026-02-01T16:07Z 1.1M followers, 792.6K engagements


"Normalize saying: "I'll talk about this after I take a walk." Walking is the most natural way to regulate your emotions and process rational thought. Make no decisions before walking on them"  
[X Link](https://x.com/Theholisticpsyc/status/2018055691106439380)  2026-02-01T20:15Z 1.1M followers, 184.4K engagements


"You're coming out of survival mode when you feel irrationally angry and don't know why"  
[X Link](https://x.com/Theholisticpsyc/status/2019189719205326967)  2026-02-04T23:21Z 1.1M followers, 120.3K engagements


"Marry the person who's found their calling and passion. Envy kills more marriages than infidelity does. Marry someone who loves to see you rise because they're rising too"  
[X Link](https://x.com/Theholisticpsyc/status/2020196544377680063)  2026-02-07T18:02Z 1.1M followers, 175.8K engagements


"Growing up you see your parents as invincible. They're young and you don't even think about a time when they'll be more fragile and less capable"  
[X Link](https://x.com/Theholisticpsyc/status/2021633590191341970)  2026-02-11T17:13Z 1.1M followers, 16.6K engagements


"This can be even harder if your parents haven't really taken care of themselves. Or if they've given up. You know they aren't willing to change but you're also desperate that they might"  
[X Link](https://x.com/Theholisticpsyc/status/2021633597741183108)  2026-02-11T17:13Z 1.1M followers, [----] engagements


"It's one of the hardest experiences we go through. It comes on quickly and gives us an opportunity to forgive to accept and to make peace with one of the most painful experiences we cannot control"  
[X Link](https://x.com/Theholisticpsyc/status/2021633602220654735)  2026-02-11T17:13Z 1.1M followers, [----] engagements


"Making children hug or kiss people they're not comfortable with is the beginning of people pleasing. It teaches our body is for others and that discomfort is something to endure not to address"  
[X Link](https://x.com/Theholisticpsyc/status/2021939889869320248)  2026-02-12T13:30Z 1.1M followers, 69.6K engagements


"How to immediately shut down someone who's rude or disrespectful:"  
[X Link](https://x.com/Theholisticpsyc/status/2021981023635177784)  2026-02-12T16:13Z 1.1M followers, 331.9K engagements


"Confident emotionally mature people know that when someone's rude it's not personal. Being rude comes from a person's own emotional capacity. They are usually insecure overstimulated or both"  
[X Link](https://x.com/Theholisticpsyc/status/2021981029767188762)  2026-02-12T16:13Z 1.1M followers, 44.8K engagements


"Instead pause. Then ask a direct question so they're in the position of explaining themselves. This immediately flips the dynamic and keeps you calm and within control"  
[X Link](https://x.com/Theholisticpsyc/status/2021981031465988140)  2026-02-12T16:13Z 1.1M followers, 44.1K engagements


"A person asking a calm simple question sends them immediately into fight or flight because it exposes their insecurity and removes the safety of rudeness as a shield"  
[X Link](https://x.com/Theholisticpsyc/status/2021981037891662268)  2026-02-12T16:13Z 1.1M followers, 38.8K engagements


"7 Signs You're A People Pleaser And How To Break Free:"  
[X Link](https://x.com/Theholisticpsyc/status/1618269672880893954)  2023-01-25T15:28Z 1M followers, 6M engagements


"I wonder how many autoimmune disorders are the result of having your reality denied since you were a child"  
[X Link](https://x.com/Theholisticpsyc/status/2013046715188695224)  2026-01-19T00:31Z 1M followers, 352.2K engagements


"The future of ADHD research will see it as an evolutionary adaptation. When we're in environments that force us to dissociate not focusing and zoning out is a brilliant coping strategy. If attention brought danger distraction becomes safety"  
[X Link](https://x.com/Theholisticpsyc/status/2013646085395243261)  2026-01-20T16:13Z 1M followers, 57.2K engagements


"People with pure intentions don't tell you how to behave when things don't go their way"  
[X Link](https://x.com/Theholisticpsyc/status/2013685777562009791)  2026-01-20T18:51Z 1M followers, 71.9K engagements


"Men's nervous systems are more reactive and focused. Women's nervous systems are more responsive and social. What this means in relationships:"  
[X Link](https://x.com/Theholisticpsyc/status/2013736303976947855)  2026-01-20T22:12Z 1M followers, 117.7K engagements


"The oldest child saw their parents at their most youngest and unprepared. They grow up faster and become more aware at a younger age because they had no choice"  
[X Link](https://x.com/Theholisticpsyc/status/2014135932392550788)  2026-01-22T00:40Z 1.1M followers, 51.1K engagements


"@JordanMLipsky yes the low frustration tolerance and low impulse control is deeply tied into here"  
[X Link](https://x.com/Theholisticpsyc/status/2018052807388267004)  2026-02-01T20:04Z 1M followers, 12.5K engagements


"Protecting the abusive siblings like: - "oh he doesn't mean it that's just how he is" - "your sister has always had a temper - "I don't remember that even happening you're remembering wrong" - "well why did you let that happen""  
[X Link](https://x.com/Theholisticpsyc/status/2018778230103351611)  2026-02-03T20:06Z 1M followers, [----] engagements


"Getting irritable is the first signal your nervous system sends you that it's no longer regulated and it's time to take a walk. Even if that walk is just around the house"  
[X Link](https://x.com/Theholisticpsyc/status/2012207254682947790)  2026-01-16T16:56Z 1.1M followers, 295.8K engagements


"Your nervous system will tell you when you've met your person. It won't feel like fireworks. This is what love is to your nervous system:"  
[X Link](https://x.com/Theholisticpsyc/status/2002481528065212753)  2025-12-20T20:49Z 1.1M followers, 2.6M engagements


"Wanting to spend all of your free time with your partner or family is one of the most unacknowledged accomplishments in our society"  
[X Link](https://x.com/Theholisticpsyc/status/2018083733409304639)  2026-02-01T22:07Z 1.1M followers, 180.1K engagements


"It's the elephant in the room making us collectively sick angry and disempowered. The single greatest determination of adult health and resilience is having a safe and stable adult figure in your life as a child"  
[X Link](https://x.com/Theholisticpsyc/status/2019132208892768567)  2026-02-04T19:33Z 1.1M followers, [----] engagements


"Why Ill be disappointing people in [----] and you should too:"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1609905065602740226)  2023-01-02T13:30Z 1.1M followers, 15.7M engagements


"Siblings can grow up in the same home but have completely different experiences of their childhood and their parents. Here's why:"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1611756899208429568)  2023-01-07T16:09Z 1.1M followers, 18.4M engagements


"9 Signs you were raised by emotionally mature parents:"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1612478703535296513)  2023-01-09T15:57Z 1.1M followers, 8.2M engagements


"One of the most dangerous addictions is the addiction to external validation"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1622625487444119553)  2023-02-06T15:57Z 1.1M followers, 5.8M engagements


"How to compliment someone without mentioning their appearance:"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1624474350043922433)  2023-02-11T18:24Z 1.1M followers, 7M engagements


"8 Signs You're Becoming Emotionally Healthier:"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1626019694913417217)  2023-02-16T00:44Z 1.1M followers, 8.3M engagements


"If you procrastinate it's not because you're lazy. It's because your body is in a threat state:"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1632011612973576192)  2023-03-04T13:34Z 1.1M followers, 6.5M engagements


"Not enough people talk about going from begging for your parent to see or love you to begging your partner to"  
[X Link](https://x.com/Theholisticpsyc/status/2019447734030516293)  2026-02-05T16:27Z 1.1M followers, 108K engagements


"Your ancestors lived through endless trauma heartbreak and grief. They survived so you have an opportunity to thrive. Breaking dysfunctional patterns is how you honor them"  
[X Link](https://x.com/Theholisticpsyc/status/2019939665231659170)  2026-02-07T01:01Z 1.1M followers, 63.2K engagements


"Then it's like you blink and they're visibly older. Their hands look different they're walking slower and they're repeating things or forgetting things. The illusion that they'll always be there is shattered"  
[X Link](https://x.com/Theholisticpsyc/status/2021633591957193194)  2026-02-11T17:13Z 1.1M followers, 15.9K engagements


"No one prepares you for the inner shame and guilt. That as you're living your own life you're missing precious time of theirs"  
[X Link](https://x.com/Theholisticpsyc/status/2021633600836481146)  2026-02-11T17:13Z 1.1M followers, [----] engagements


"Unconditional love of someone in active addiction doesn't mean staying with them no matter what. Compassion that keeps you in destruction is a form of self harm"  
[X Link](https://x.com/Theholisticpsyc/status/2021973095654076921)  2026-02-12T15:42Z 1.1M followers, 33.3K engagements


"Ask Them: - "Can you help me understand what you mean by that" - "Do you think that comment helps this conversation" - "I hear you're frustrated can you tell me why" - "That feels intense what's behind that comment""  
[X Link](https://x.com/Theholisticpsyc/status/2021981032938156119)  2026-02-12T16:13Z 1.1M followers, 45.9K engagements


"Instead of leaving offended you'll leave empowered. Have you ever tried this Share in the comments"  
[X Link](https://x.com/Theholisticpsyc/status/2021981039414108276)  2026-02-12T16:13Z 1.1M followers, 34.3K engagements


"We're built to move. It is no coincidence that depression has skyrocketed as we've been put in chairs for [--] hour a day. We've evolved to walk. It regulates brain activity and our nervous system. Our ancestors walked [--] miles a day or at least [--] hours"  
[X Link](https://x.com/Theholisticpsyc/status/2015829500710547615)  2026-01-26T16:49Z 1.1M followers, 100.3K engagements


"Sunlight [--] hours of sleep nutrient dense meals and a safe relationship are underestimated mental health interventions"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1605901398981300225)  2022-12-22T12:21Z 1.1M followers, 2M engagements


"Normalize disappointing people. The idea that we are going to be liked and gain approval from everyone in our lives is an illusion. Adults are capable of being disappointed"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1606037097529282560)  2022-12-22T21:20Z 1.1M followers, 5.6M engagements


"I spent years as a couples therapist and the success of any relationship comes down to:"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1608846472275165184)  2022-12-30T15:24Z 1.1M followers, 17.2M engagements


"Here's why the healing journey feels so lonely and why it's worth it anyway:"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1609591320422797312)  2023-01-01T16:44Z 1.1M followers, 5.6M engagements


"Feelings arent facts"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1613614723454636032)  2023-01-12T19:11Z 1.1M followers, 6.8M engagements


"7 Ways To Create A Healthier Relationship With Your Partner:"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1614624895387979777)  2023-01-15T14:05Z 1.1M followers, 5.9M engagements


"If you show frustration or anger through: sighing giving the silent treatment or making sarcastic comments you have a passive aggressive communication style. Here's why:"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1615181297483395072)  2023-01-17T02:56Z 1.1M followers, 8.2M engagements


"For the last [--] years Ive been researching and writing what I believe is the most important book of my career. And today Im so excited to share that its officially available for PRE-ORDER. You can pre-order here: More and more Ive been thinking about what I can put into the world that will truly help people not just now but for future generations. I wanted to create something that offers both practical tools and exercises (there are tons) and the most updated science on epigenetics human behavior and how we actually heal through the body. Reparenting the Inner Child is a masterclass on why you"  
[X Link](https://x.com/Theholisticpsyc/status/1990935194430558527)  2025-11-19T00:08Z 1.1M followers, 272K engagements


"Sometimes quitting and giving up is the biggest relief. You're not mean to stick with everything forever"  
[X Link](https://x.com/Theholisticpsyc/status/2017290784215863408)  2026-01-30T17:36Z 1.1M followers, 87.8K engagements


"Sibling abuse is so common. But we don't talk about it. When your sibling was your first bully:"  
[X Link](https://x.com/Theholisticpsyc/status/2018778218309009868)  2026-02-03T20:06Z 1.1M followers, 67.4K engagements


"If you experienced abuse or bullying by a sibling this was not a reflection of who you are. It's a reflection of their own low self worth and a lack of boundaries"  
[X Link](https://x.com/Theholisticpsyc/status/2018778231558832213)  2026-02-03T20:06Z 1.1M followers, 11.9K engagements


"When you see the inner child in your partner you see the playful excited silly younger version of themselves that they were always meant to be"  
[X Link](https://x.com/Theholisticpsyc/status/2019167430975861089)  2026-02-04T21:53Z 1.1M followers, 63.6K engagements


"No one prepares us for the reality that our parents might need help. They might lose parts of their independence. And there's a feeling of helplessness that comes up in us because we cannot control time"  
[X Link](https://x.com/Theholisticpsyc/status/2021633595480453290)  2026-02-11T17:13Z 1.1M followers, [----] engagements


"No one prepares you for the role reversal. Where one day you'll have to make decisions around their health their living situation and their care"  
[X Link](https://x.com/Theholisticpsyc/status/2021633599150469189)  2026-02-11T17:13Z 1.1M followers, [----] engagements


"When looking for a partner who provides that also means providing a peaceful home"  
[X Link](https://x.com/Theholisticpsyc/status/2022332878856896758)  2026-02-13T15:31Z 1.1M followers, 18K engagements


"Siblings can grow up in the same home but can have completely different experiences of their childhood and views of their parents. HERES WHY 🧵:"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1583838118481784832)  2022-10-22T15:10Z 1.1M followers, 386K engagements


"If youre always trying to read peoples emotions or wonder if someone is upset with you you might have an insecure attachment style. HERES WHAT THAT MEANS 🧵:"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1584207244660420613)  2022-10-23T15:36Z 1.1M followers, 103K engagements


"If you show frustration or anger through: sighing giving the silent treatment or making sarcastic commentsthis is a passive aggressive communication style. You might say Im fine when asked if youre upset. Heres why 🧵:"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1584577861305786368)  2022-10-24T16:09Z 1.1M followers, 185.2K engagements


"Trauma is stored in the body and reveals itself in relationships"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1584876997981138944)  2022-10-25T11:58Z 1.1M followers, 41.8K engagements


"Trauma is stored in the body and revealed in relationships. HERES WHAT THAT MEANS 🧵:"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1584948971512147968)  2022-10-25T16:44Z 1.1M followers, 174.4K engagements


"Many people have a consistent fawn trauma response. Fawning is: people pleasing appeasing or just going along with people to avoid conflict. HERES WHY WE DO IT AND HOW TO HEAL FROM IT: 🧵"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1584952804975996929)  2022-10-25T16:59Z 1.1M followers, 77K engagements


"Highly sensitive people need time in silence alone to disconnect and to rebalance their nervous systems. Crowds can feel overwhelming and so can social interactions know your limits and take care of your needs"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1585624729376858117)  2022-10-27T13:29Z 1.1M followers, 40.1K engagements


"If you listen closely when people give advice: theyre actually talking to younger versions of themselves"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1586421239278469120)  2022-10-29T18:14Z 1.1M followers, 42.7K engagements


"Healthy relationships dont feel like fairy tales. Theyre built through uncomfortable conversations emotional vulnerability and grace for each others humanness. Healthy relationships take work and a willingness to step outside of our ego"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1586749850623746054)  2022-10-30T16:00Z 1.1M followers, 117.7K engagements


""Good girl" conditioning is messaging we receive beginning in childhood to be: agreeable polite and nice. HERE'S WHAT IT IS:"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1587223721407700993)  2022-10-31T23:23Z 1.1M followers, 67.5K engagements


"Triggers reveal what needs healing"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1587943278527193088)  2022-11-02T23:02Z 1.1M followers, 41.4K engagements


"Childhood trauma doesnt come back as a feeling it comes back as a reaction. When people look like theyre overreacting to something: theyre not. Theyre reacting to the core wound. Ex: You didnt do the dishes again Whats wrong with you👇🏼"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1588258436264841216)  2022-11-03T19:54Z 1.1M followers, 41.6K engagements


"One of the most underrated life skills: how to be in conflict with someone and still stay connected"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1590059068231909377)  2022-11-08T19:09Z 1.1M followers, 88.7K engagements


"One of the most underrated life skills: how to be in conflict with someone and still stay connected. Here's how (🧵):"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1590378103926591491)  2022-11-09T16:17Z 1.1M followers, 57.2K engagements


"Love bombing is when someone you've just met showers you with attention and affection. It can feel intoxicating but it's actually a form of emotional manipulation. HOW TO SPOT IT (🧵):"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1590445330730201089)  2022-11-09T20:44Z 1.1M followers, 49.5K engagements


"People pleasing is exhausting and leads to resentment. It's also a coping mechanism we learned to stay safe. Here's how to stop people pleasing to become more authentic in your relationships. A THREAD 🧵:"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1590715091124883458)  2022-11-10T14:36Z 1.1M followers, 48.1K engagements


"Forgive yourself for what you did in survival mode"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1590815960227024897)  2022-11-10T21:17Z 1.1M followers, 56K engagements


"Healthy relationships don't just happen. They take work vulnerability and a willingness to get past our own ego. Many people have been sold a false romanticized version of love that we meet the "right" person and everything falls into place"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1592272001770852352)  2022-11-14T21:43Z 1.1M followers, 61K engagements


"The silent treatment is so traumatic for a child because its not only a form of emotional neglect its a targeted message: when you upset me you no longer exist. Done over and over this creates a deep abandonment wound"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1593673651072561152)  2022-11-18T18:33Z 1.1M followers, 57.2K engagements


"How your partner was loved as a child will show up in: how they react when hurt how they communicate during conflict and how they respond when you share your feelings"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1594399313970413568)  2022-11-20T18:36Z 1.1M followers, 134.7K engagements


"A love language for anyone trying to heal from trauma is: safety"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1594802388254486530)  2022-11-21T21:18Z 1.1M followers, 66.4K engagements


"In the toxic family system the healthiest person causes friction. They create resistance in the familiar dynamics and other members become uncomfortable and triggered"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1596235607734304768)  2022-11-25T20:13Z 1.1M followers, 91.3K engagements


"Childhood trauma comes back as a reaction a symptom or a core belief. A THREAD 🧵:"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1596524175346216960)  2022-11-26T15:20Z 1.1M followers, 57K engagements


"Few people talk about the impact of growing up in a home with parents who dont have friends. We dont learn: how to host people what friendship looks like & we dont learn socialization skills. Children become the sole source of emotional support"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1596575911452717058)  2022-11-26T18:45Z 1.1M followers, 76.1K engagements


"The foundation of any healthy relationship is emotional intimacy. Meaning you regularly show interest in and care about each other's internal world. HOW TO CREATE EMOTIONAL INTIMACY A THREAD 🧵:"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1596847407467180032)  2022-11-27T12:44Z 1.1M followers, 72.6K engagements


"A love language for anyone trying to heal trauma is: transparency"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1597179821981052928)  2022-11-28T10:45Z 1.1M followers, 45.1K engagements


"The partner we choose has a profound impact on every aspect of our lives. To find partner whose a match for the life we're seeking we need to understand our relationship values. A THREAD🧵"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1597634397855186944)  2022-11-29T16:51Z 1.1M followers, 51.7K engagements


"The emotionally abused or neglected adult has learned to compulsively read people. To notice every change in mood voice tone or facial expression. We subconsciously are looking for a sign we are losing connection or that weve upset someone"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1598698067955691522)  2022-12-02T15:18Z 1.1M followers, 40.9K engagements


"Why I stopped being nice so that I could be kind:"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1601200913338626055)  2022-12-09T13:03Z 1.1M followers, 128K engagements


"At [--] years old I realized I was a child in an adult body. Here's how I worked on becoming more emotionally mature:"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1602394667546443778)  2022-12-12T20:07Z 1.1M followers, 84.8K engagements


"Suicide comes from deep pain agony and despair where one knows no other way but to end their own life. The idea that it's selfish creates so much stigma. We need to stop judging and start understanding how people get to this emotional rock bottom"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1603065620458782721)  2022-12-14T16:33Z 1.1M followers, 65.8K engagements


"I used to think I was selfless until I discovered I was actually selfish:"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1604649501637197824)  2022-12-19T01:27Z 1.1M followers, 5.7M engagements


"Few people talk about the grief that comes after ending toxic relationships. Intellectually we know its for the best but we also have suffered a deep loss many dont understand"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1604984076091301888)  2022-12-19T23:36Z 1.1M followers, 4.6M engagements


"Someone needs to hear this: the perfect partner doesn't exist. The perfect relationship doesn't exist. Human beings are flawed. We're all doing the best we can. Release the illusion of perfection and embrace the messy vulnerable journey we call love"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1605719194862960642)  2022-12-22T00:17Z 1.1M followers, 3.4M engagements


"When you were raised in survival mode you see the world differently. You have different traits and skills that other people might not like:"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1606256582496358405)  2022-12-23T11:53Z 1.1M followers, 5.8M engagements


"Your developmental age is different than your actual age. Many adults are much younger emotionally because of this. Here's how to find out your developmental age:"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1607387382680289280)  2022-12-26T14:46Z 1.1M followers, 5.8M engagements


"Seeing your parents for who they are and understanding their level of maturity will allow you to stop seeking from them what they arent able to give"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1607415394389864448)  2022-12-26T16:37Z 1.1M followers, 4.6M engagements


"Are you constantly focused on what people think of you always re-playing conversations in your mind and do you notice every change in someone's emotional state This is called hypervigilance:"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1607477203159384070)  2022-12-26T20:43Z 1.1M followers, 7.8M engagements


"Loving a partner who grew up in survival mode takes a lot of patience clear boundaries and grace as they learn love beyond survival"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1607538342954176512)  2022-12-27T00:46Z 1.1M followers, 6.2M engagements


"The disease model of depression stopped making sense to me as a psychologist when I worked with so many clients who lived in poverty who could barely make ends meet and who had no time for creativity or purpose. Depression is a response"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1608194025139613696)  2022-12-28T20:11Z 1.1M followers, 3.2M engagements


"Excessive childhood criticism can create cycles of over-thinking. This is a survival mechanism the brain uses to try to think our way out of danger usually through obsessive worst case scenarios"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1608628301974896641)  2022-12-30T00:57Z 1.1M followers, 2.7M engagements


"Do you feel numb shut down disconnected from yourself and get stuck procrastinating You're not lazy. You're not unmotivated. This is a trauma or stress response:"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1609239511787245568)  2022-12-31T17:26Z 1.1M followers, 5.4M engagements


"Healthy relationships don't just happen they're built. Through: uncomfortable conversations vulnerability and a willingness to understand and work through each other's childhood trauma"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1609332325795647488)  2022-12-31T23:35Z 1.1M followers, 3.7M engagements


"As you become more authentic some people will feel uncomfortable and thats ok because your role in life isnt to be liked its to like yourself"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1609669206714494976)  2023-01-01T21:53Z 1.1M followers, 3.6M engagements


"When you commit to a partner you also commit to their past their coping mechanisms and their communicate style. Choose wisely. They will be the greatest impact on your overall mental wellness"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1611063947037409280)  2023-01-05T18:15Z 1.1M followers, 3.8M engagements


"No response is a response"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1611183736523198470)  2023-01-06T02:11Z 1.1M followers, 4.3M engagements


"The silent treatment is a normalized form of emotional abuse. Part of maturing is learning how to communicate rather than using silence as punishment"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1612134063250509824)  2023-01-08T17:08Z 1.1M followers, 3.6M engagements


"Find a partner who will give you grace and patience as you learn love beyond survival mode"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1612254554594377730)  2023-01-09T01:06Z 1.1M followers, 3.1M engagements


"If you grew up walking on eggshells someone walking into a room a door slamming or someone raising their voice can send your entire body into fight or flight. The body remembers even when the mind can't recall"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1612895868298096641)  2023-01-10T19:35Z 1.1M followers, 2.7M engagements


"Many of us are constantly looking for evidence that our partner will abandon us or hurt us in some way. Here's why:"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1613379714743439360)  2023-01-12T03:37Z 1.1M followers, 6.3M engagements


"7 Things To Know About Your Partner:"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1615019005877817351)  2023-01-16T16:11Z 1.1M followers, 7.6M engagements


"People don't actually want advice. They already know what they should be doing. They want someone to listen and support them. Here's how to stop giving unsolicited advice:"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1615745234067140609)  2023-01-18T16:17Z 1.1M followers, 6.5M engagements


"6 Things That Will Happen Even In Healthy Relationships:"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1616156183328591872)  2023-01-19T19:30Z 1.1M followers, 6.5M engagements


"In relationships we will all hurt people we love. This is why it's important to learn how to authentically apologize. How to Authentically Apologize:"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1616449865487384577)  2023-01-20T14:57Z 1.1M followers, 6.9M engagements


"How your partner was loved as a child will show up in: how they react when hurt how they communicate during conflict and how they respond when you share your feelings"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1617503745616805890)  2023-01-23T12:45Z 1.1M followers, 5.1M engagements


"Vitamin D is necessary for mental and physical health. Get into sunlight. Eat vitamin D rich foods"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1619801363659247616)  2023-01-29T20:55Z 1.1M followers, 2.8M engagements


"Hyper-independence is a trauma response where we: rarely or never ask for help believe no one cares for us and give up on making any connections at all because we believe eventually well be abandoned"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1620144859171651584)  2023-01-30T19:40Z 1.1M followers, 7M engagements


"A harsh truth: getting emotionally healthy means some relationships might end or change. And thats ok"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1620809046768103430)  2023-02-01T15:39Z 1.1M followers, 2M engagements


"Reminders If You Take Things Personally:"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1622650254511472640)  2023-02-06T17:35Z 1.1M followers, 6.5M engagements


"Maybe its not burn out. Maybe its a sign youre unappreciated and doing work that doesnt provide you with a sense of meaning or purpose. Maybe its your body saying: no more of this"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1623005973202997248)  2023-02-07T17:09Z 1.1M followers, 2.9M engagements


"I spent most of my adult life dissociated. I had almost no memories and felt like my life was a haze or not even real. Here's why:"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1624809673709981696)  2023-02-12T16:36Z 1.1M followers, 5.8M engagements


"If you know you know"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1626021854719934464)  2023-02-16T00:53Z 1.1M followers, 2.2M engagements


"When you're triggered over the dirty dishes in the sink it's not really about the dishes. It's about:"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1626244247967133696)  2023-02-16T15:36Z 1.1M followers, 9.5M engagements


"The trauma of just getting by financially is something we need to talk more about. The stress and fear is chronic"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1627056419890679814)  2023-02-18T21:24Z 1.1M followers, 3.3M engagements


"Sex isn't the most important part of a relationship or what holds a relationship together. Here's why:"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1628392886332162049)  2023-02-22T13:54Z 1.1M followers, 7.3M engagements


"We have a generation of men struggling to understand their anger who act out in dysfunctional ways. Let's talk about "Nice Guy" syndrome"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1630202919374180354)  2023-02-27T13:47Z 1.1M followers, 6.6M engagements


"Hyper-independence is a trauma response where we: rarely or never ask for help believe no one cares for us and give up on making any connections at all because we believe eventually well be abandoned"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1630555738363035650)  2023-02-28T13:09Z 1.1M followers, 2.5M engagements


"Lorelai and Rory are the classic codependent mother and daughter. Rory is parentified by her emotionally immature parent. Lorelai uses her as her sole confidant (BFF) and there are no boundaries Lorelai is over-involved in every aspect of her life. This shows up as: control manipulation and withholding. Lorelai projects her own dream of going to Harvard into Rory since childhood. When Rory applies to Yale she sulks and leaves a dinner. Rory hides things from her for fear of how shell react. They never openly communicate and often give each other the silent treatment during conflict. Their"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1636863241740775424)  2023-03-17T22:53Z 1.1M followers, 6.7M engagements


"Cuddling is healing. Cuddle skin to skin as much as you can with someone you trust. Your nervous system will thank you"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1665850036427661313)  2023-06-05T22:36Z 1.1M followers, 3.9M engagements


"The grief of watching your parents age is something no one prepares you for"  
[X Link](https://x.com/anyuser/status/1889811498719125543)  2025-02-12T22:59Z 1.1M followers, 2.3M engagements

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