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# ![@shadows_control Avatar](https://lunarcrush.com/gi/w:26/cr:twitter::1759877390182813696.png) @shadows_control Shadows of Control

Shadows of Control posts on X about harm, call me, create a, colors the most. They currently have XXXXXX followers and XXX posts still getting attention that total XXXXX engagements in the last XX hours.

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**Social category influence**
[finance](/list/finance)  XXXX%

**Social topic influence**
[harm](/topic/harm) #572, [call me](/topic/call-me) 0.47%, [create a](/topic/create-a) 0.47%, [colors](/topic/colors) 0.47%, [over the](/topic/over-the) 0.47%, [end the](/topic/end-the) 0.47%, [make a](/topic/make-a) 0.47%, [heal](/topic/heal) 0.47%, [toxic](/topic/toxic) 0.47%, [trauma](/topic/trauma) XXXX%

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Top posts by engagements in the last XX hours

"My husband would call me his "princess" and bought me romantic gifts. He arranged lovely holidays. He would gaze at me sometimes and just smile. He told me "As long as we're together everything will be fine." And I would think how lucky I was. But then there were days he'd look at me with disgust belittle dismiss threaten control demand intimidate gaslight manipulate and scare me. Thats the cruelty of the kind abuser - they use moments of affection to keep you hooked to make you question your own reality to keep you waiting and hoping for a return to the 'happy' times. I finally stopped"  
[X Link](https://x.com/shadows_control/status/1978448576666534076) [@shadows_control](/creator/x/shadows_control) 2025-10-15T13:11Z 10.1K followers, 22.9K engagements


"I didnt see it coming. Thats what so many of us say. The truth is abusers dont show their true colors from day one. They build trust create a bond and slowly they begin to reveal their darker side. They isolate you break down your confidence and before you know it youre trapped. This doesnt mean you were weak or blindit means you were human and they exploited your kindness trust and loyalty. #DomesticAbuseAwareness #CoerciveControl"  
[X Link](https://x.com/shadows_control/status/1978476461175505151) [@shadows_control](/creator/x/shadows_control) 2025-10-15T15:02Z 10.1K followers, 2707 engagements


"Real love isnt conditional or calculated. What feels like kindness can be bait in an abusive cycle. #EmotionalAbuse #GaslightingAwareness"  
[X Link](https://x.com/shadows_control/status/1978966945757077779) [@shadows_control](/creator/x/shadows_control) 2025-10-16T23:31Z 10.1K followers, 1625 engagements


"Abusers isolate you on purpose. They cut you off from friends and family. They make you feel like no one else understands or cares. They convince you theyre the only person you can rely on. Isolation is how they control you. Reconnection is how you can start to break free. #CoerciveControl"  
[X Link](https://x.com/shadows_control/status/1979563624772288985) [@shadows_control](/creator/x/shadows_control) 2025-10-18T15:02Z 10.1K followers, 2693 engagements


"Abusers use guilt to keep control making their partners feel responsible for their actions and trapping them in a cycle of self-doubt and blame. #guilttripping #manipulation #emotionalabuse"  
[X Link](https://x.com/shadows_control/status/1979231190897905820) [@shadows_control](/creator/x/shadows_control) 2025-10-17T17:01Z 10.1K followers, XXX engagements


"Abuse doesnt always leave bruises. It drains your spirit erodes your identity and traps you in silent suffering. #InvisibleAbuse #EmotionalAbuse"  
[X Link](https://x.com/shadows_control/status/1979880716864208990) [@shadows_control](/creator/x/shadows_control) 2025-10-19T12:02Z 10.1K followers, 1819 engagements


"Abusers often weaponize the children to exert control even after the relationship ends. This is one of the most dangerous and painful tactics survivors face. #PostSeparationAbuse"  
[X Link](https://x.com/shadows_control/status/1976256837428113537) [@shadows_control](/creator/x/shadows_control) 2025-10-09T12:02Z 10.1K followers, XXX engagements


"A new study of online dating behaviours reveals ghosting gaslighting and coercive control are linked to symptoms of depression and paranoia especially in young people"  
[X Link](https://x.com/shadows_control/status/1976362529891704955) [@shadows_control](/creator/x/shadows_control) 2025-10-09T19:02Z 10.1K followers, XXX engagements


"When a relationship goes wrong couples therapy can offer hope for change. But in the context of abuse this well-intentioned approach can backfire disastrously. In relationships marked by coercion or control couples therapy is not only ineffective it is dangerous"  
[X Link](https://x.com/shadows_control/status/1976563755870736603) [@shadows_control](/creator/x/shadows_control) 2025-10-10T08:21Z 10.1K followers, 2515 engagements


"At best it produces no meaningful change. At worst it strengthens the abusers power silences the victim and deepens harm. The idea of shared responsibility does not apply when one person holds power over the other"  
[X Link](https://x.com/shadows_control/status/1976563758106329495) [@shadows_control](/creator/x/shadows_control) 2025-10-10T08:21Z 10.1K followers, XXX engagements


"Leaving an abuser isnt one moment. Its a process. A terrifying untangling of everything theyve made you believeabout yourself your worth and your safety. #DomesticAbuseAwareness"  
[X Link](https://x.com/shadows_control/status/1976619225788637672) [@shadows_control](/creator/x/shadows_control) 2025-10-10T12:02Z 10.1K followers, 1286 engagements


"At least now youre stronger because of it. Abuse survivors don't need to hear this. While resilience may grow from surviving abuse no one should have to endure trauma to become stronger. Survivors didnt need to be broken down to build strengththey already had strength in surviving. Rather than framing their experience as a necessary hardship offer validation for what they went through without romanticizing the pain. #DomesticAbuseAwareness"  
[X Link](https://x.com/shadows_control/status/1976664520492753054) [@shadows_control](/creator/x/shadows_control) 2025-10-10T15:02Z 10.1K followers, XXX engagements


"Abusers often use manipulation threats or isolation to keep their partners from leaving creating fear and dependence. What tactics did they use to hold you back #CoerciveControl"  
[X Link](https://x.com/shadows_control/status/1976694473468911742) [@shadows_control](/creator/x/shadows_control) 2025-10-10T17:01Z 10.1K followers, XXX engagements


"Abuse isnt always obvious at first. It builds over time slowly dismantling your identity while convincing you its your fault. #DomesticAbuseAwareness"  
[X Link](https://x.com/shadows_control/status/1976792393614574066) [@shadows_control](/creator/x/shadows_control) 2025-10-10T23:30Z 10.1K followers, XXX engagements


"Leaving doesnt always end the abuse. Many survivors face threats financial control and even legal harassment long after separation a hidden reality called post-separation abuse. Learn the tactics and how to protect yourself in my latest piece on Shadows of Control"  
[X Link](https://x.com/shadows_control/status/1976832627324658002) [@shadows_control](/creator/x/shadows_control) 2025-10-11T02:10Z 10.1K followers, 1256 engagements


"Coercive control isnt always loud. Its a slow silencing. A steady erasure of who you are until only they remain. #CoerciveControl #DomesticAbuseAwareness"  
[X Link](https://x.com/shadows_control/status/1976981364143423529) [@shadows_control](/creator/x/shadows_control) 2025-10-11T12:01Z 10.1K followers, 2403 engagements


"Isolation is a key tactic abusers use to maintain controlcriticizing loved ones creating conflict or monopolizing your time to cut off support systems. What methods did they use to isolate you #CoerciveControl"  
[X Link](https://x.com/shadows_control/status/1977057364655165481) [@shadows_control](/creator/x/shadows_control) 2025-10-11T17:03Z 10.1K followers, 2224 engagements


"Keep quiet and carry on becomes our mantra. We learn not to make a fuss cause a scene or be overly sensitive our partner has made sure of that. We know what to do to avoid the outbursts and reactions agree comply keep quiet keep feelings to self be nice and agreeable. 🤐 Slowly we start to disappear our voice our dreams our friends our thoughts our wishes. And in losing ourselves we become trapped in a life that isnt truly our own. 💔 #CoerciveControl #BreakFree"  
[X Link](https://x.com/shadows_control/status/1977124298830557209) [@shadows_control](/creator/x/shadows_control) 2025-10-11T21:29Z 10.1K followers, 1675 engagements


"Property destruction is a form of intimidation. Its not a tantrumits calculated threatening behaviour. #DomesticViolence"  
[X Link](https://x.com/shadows_control/status/1977155021234917608) [@shadows_control](/creator/x/shadows_control) 2025-10-11T23:31Z 10.1K followers, XXX engagements


"Saying it takes two in abuse shifts blame onto the victim and lets the abuser off the hook. Abuse isnt a relationship problem its one person choosing to harm and control another"  
[X Link](https://x.com/shadows_control/status/1977200299249893388) [@shadows_control](/creator/x/shadows_control) 2025-10-12T02:31Z 10.1K followers, 2295 engagements


"Gaslighting isnt always a dramatic manipulation like hiding your keys and then denying they touched them. It can be subtle comments like Im worried youre becoming forgetful or if you call them out on their mistreatment of you they may say things like "Are you ok You don't seem yourself. I'm really worried about you. " They are feigning 'care' and 'concern' while subtly implying there's something wrong with you. Over time these comments make you doubt yourself and question your reality. They are trying to destabilize you to deflect from their own toxic behavior. Trust your gut even when it"  
[X Link](https://x.com/shadows_control/status/1977389296744071654) [@shadows_control](/creator/x/shadows_control) 2025-10-12T15:02Z 10.1K followers, 4098 engagements


"Abusers often chip away at confidence with constant criticism gaslighting or belittling remarks to make you feel small and dependent. What methods did they use to undermine you #EmotionalAbuse"  
[X Link](https://x.com/shadows_control/status/1977419499574890692) [@shadows_control](/creator/x/shadows_control) 2025-10-12T17:02Z 10.1K followers, XXX engagements


"Coercive control doesnt always show up as violence. Sometimes its the slow erasure of who you are. #CoerciveControl"  
[X Link](https://x.com/shadows_control/status/1977516892962144695) [@shadows_control](/creator/x/shadows_control) 2025-10-12T23:29Z 10.1K followers, 3594 engagements


"When people ask Why didnt you just leave they overlook the invisible prison built by an abusers threats which confine the victim in a world where every choice feels dangerous and every act of defiance carries a cost"  
[X Link](https://x.com/shadows_control/status/1977562183492935955) [@shadows_control](/creator/x/shadows_control) 2025-10-13T02:29Z 10.1K followers, 1357 engagements


"Survivors often carry guilt for not leaving sooner. But abuse is designed to confuse isolate and erode your instincts. You didnt failyou survived the best way you could. #DomesticAbuseAwareness"  
[X Link](https://x.com/shadows_control/status/1977706393218990230) [@shadows_control](/creator/x/shadows_control) 2025-10-13T12:02Z 10.1K followers, XXX engagements


"Many survivors stay because of the intermittent kindness. Hope can be a trap when used to mask cycles of abuse. #DomesticAbuseAwareness"  
[X Link](https://x.com/shadows_control/status/1977879535694598567) [@shadows_control](/creator/x/shadows_control) 2025-10-13T23:30Z 10.1K followers, 1226 engagements


"Abusers often wear a mask in public. Their charm is part of the manipulation. #CoerciveControl"  
[X Link](https://x.com/shadows_control/status/1978068777108455885) [@shadows_control](/creator/x/shadows_control) 2025-10-14T12:02Z 10.1K followers, 1645 engagements


"Abusers use a wide range of threats to maintain control from saying theyll hurt themselves to threatening to take away children or cut off financial support. These manipulative tactics are meant to instill fear and make their partners feel trapped unable to leave or stand up for themselves"  
[X Link](https://x.com/shadows_control/status/1978144277344539020) [@shadows_control](/creator/x/shadows_control) 2025-10-14T17:02Z 10.1K followers, 1635 engagements


"My husband was always quick to tell me Youre weak Youre crazy You're selfish. After I left him not only did he continue telling me that he also told our young child family friends and anyone that would listen "She's weak" "She's crazy" "She's selfish." It would send me into a pit of despair. But as I began to heal I realized that I wasn't defined by his words about me and it didn't at all describe who I really was. I knew that I wasn't weak crazy or selfish. In fact I was the complete opposite of all those words. I stopped living in the story he created for me and started writing my own. Our"  
[X Link](https://x.com/shadows_control/status/1978211965794173008) [@shadows_control](/creator/x/shadows_control) 2025-10-14T21:31Z 10.1K followers, 6273 engagements


"Control doesnt always sound like you cant. Sometimes the signs of coercive control are subtle invisible - and devastating"  
[X Link](https://x.com/shadows_control/status/1978286959387689337) [@shadows_control](/creator/x/shadows_control) 2025-10-15T02:29Z 10.1K followers, XXX engagements


"It was never about you not being good enough. It was about control blame and keeping you small so they didnt have to change. #DomesticAbuseAwareness"  
[X Link](https://x.com/shadows_control/status/1978431166752424184) [@shadows_control](/creator/x/shadows_control) 2025-10-15T12:02Z 10.1K followers, 1026 engagements


"Abusers often show entitlement by making unilateral decisions controlling resources or disregarding your boundaries"  
[X Link](https://x.com/shadows_control/status/1978506663679132126) [@shadows_control](/creator/x/shadows_control) 2025-10-15T17:02Z 10.1K followers, XXX engagements


"Protect your heart fiercely from those who dont appreciate it. 💖"  
[X Link](https://x.com/shadows_control/status/1978574107521286254) [@shadows_control](/creator/x/shadows_control) 2025-10-15T21:30Z 10.1K followers, 1188 engagements


"Just because it didnt leave a mark doesnt mean it didnt leave a wound. #EmotionalAbuse"  
[X Link](https://x.com/shadows_control/status/1978604053455089848) [@shadows_control](/creator/x/shadows_control) 2025-10-15T23:29Z 10.1K followers, XXX engagements


"Controlling partners are adept at shifting blame onto you for any issues that arise. They might manipulate you into feeling guilty for things that arent your fault making you constantly apologize to keep the peace. This can lead to a dynamic where youre always walking on eggshells. You change your behavior to avoid their anger often complying with whatever your partner demands. A healthy relationship involves mutual accountability not one-sided blame. #CoerciveControl"  
[X Link](https://x.com/shadows_control/status/1978838848013488578) [@shadows_control](/creator/x/shadows_control) 2025-10-16T15:02Z 10.1K followers, 1822 engagements


"When youre trapped in an abusive relationship sometimes the smallest coping strategies can make the biggest difference. Was there anything that helped you get through"  
[X Link](https://x.com/shadows_control/status/1978869051272102307) [@shadows_control](/creator/x/shadows_control) 2025-10-16T17:02Z 10.1K followers, 2011 engagements


"If your partner tries to create distance between you and your family by claiming they're trying to control your life what your partner might actually be worried about is that your family is making it harder for THEM to control you"  
[X Link](https://x.com/shadows_control/status/1978936237684670477) [@shadows_control](/creator/x/shadows_control) 2025-10-16T21:29Z 10.1K followers, XXX engagements


"Legal abuse is real. Abusers often weaponise the family court system to maintain control and punish survivors post-separation. #PostSeparationAbuse #CoerciveControl"  
[X Link](https://x.com/shadows_control/status/1979329097479151931) [@shadows_control](/creator/x/shadows_control) 2025-10-17T23:30Z 10.1K followers, 1596 engagements


"Abuse doesnt happen because the victim is weak. It happens because abusers are strategic manipulative and skilled at exploiting trust. #CoerciveControl"  
[X Link](https://x.com/shadows_control/status/1977344000630673632) [@shadows_control](/creator/x/shadows_control) 2025-10-12T12:02Z 10.1K followers, 1971 engagements


"Domestic abuse is not only what the abuser does to you it is also what you are not allowed to do for yourself. #CoerciveControl"  
[X Link](https://x.com/shadows_control/status/1977487190302052706) [@shadows_control](/creator/x/shadows_control) 2025-10-12T21:31Z 10.1K followers, 15.5K engagements


"When toxic people can't control you they try to control how others view you. #Manipulation 🐍"  
[X Link](https://x.com/shadows_control/status/1977751684051882184) [@shadows_control](/creator/x/shadows_control) 2025-10-13T15:02Z 10.1K followers, 1678 engagements


"A trauma bond isnt weaknessits a psychological survival response. Understanding it is key to breaking free. #TraumaBond #DomesticAbuseAwareness"  
[X Link](https://x.com/shadows_control/status/1978793553007411500) [@shadows_control](/creator/x/shadows_control) 2025-10-16T12:02Z 10.1K followers, XXX engagements


"#Financialabuse post-separation can be devastating. Abusers may block your access to joint bank accounts credit cards or refuse to pay child support. Some manipulate the system by working cash-in-hand jobs to minimize child support payments. This financial control is designed to leave you vulnerable and struggling to meet basic needs no matter the consequence for the children"  
[X Link](https://x.com/shadows_control/status/1979299129462284535) [@shadows_control](/creator/x/shadows_control) 2025-10-17T21:31Z 10.1K followers, 2353 engagements


"Abusers take from a relationship far more than they give. The more you give them the more they expect. The harder you try the higher they raise the bar. The closer you get to reaching their expectation the faster they shift the goal posts. You will never win and you will never satisfy them. You are not the problem It's time to live life for YOU. ❤ #HealingJourney"  
[X Link](https://x.com/shadows_control/status/1976302132975341802) [@shadows_control](/creator/x/shadows_control) 2025-10-09T15:02Z 10.1K followers, 4314 engagements


"Question: Why didnt you just say no to them Answer: Abusers dont respect boundaries. Saying no often leads to more manipulation guilt-tripping or even threats. It's not about simply refusingit's about survival in a situation where your choices are controlled by fear"  
[X Link](https://x.com/shadows_control/status/1977849331433537707) [@shadows_control](/creator/x/shadows_control) 2025-10-13T21:30Z 10.1K followers, 4235 engagements


"Threats are a common tactic used by abusers to instill fear and maintain control. These can include threats to harm you your pets or your possessions. Abusers may also threaten to destroy your reputation by sharing private information about you. Or they may say that they will destroy you financially. In some cases threats extend to harming themselves such as threatening suicide to manipulate you emotionally. Abusive individuals will frequently act on their threats so victims need to take everything they say very seriously. #DomesticAbuseAwareness"  
[X Link](https://x.com/shadows_control/status/1978114073175711855) [@shadows_control](/creator/x/shadows_control) 2025-10-14T15:02Z 10.1K followers, 2045 engagements


"This is how abusers keep you off-balancethrough ever-changing expectations that ensure youre always failing. #EmotionalAbuse"  
[X Link](https://x.com/shadows_control/status/1979155941716070429) [@shadows_control](/creator/x/shadows_control) 2025-10-17T12:02Z 10.1K followers, 1342 engagements


"You are not responsible for fixing others especially when it is at the expense of your own well-being. #SelfCare #HealingJourney"  
[X Link](https://x.com/shadows_control/status/1979201235950391421) [@shadows_control](/creator/x/shadows_control) 2025-10-17T15:02Z 10.1K followers, 1700 engagements


"In a healthy relationship boundaries create respect and safety. They help two people understand each others needs and individuality. But in an abusive relationship boundaries are seen as defiance"  
[X Link](https://x.com/shadows_control/status/1979834998405644502) [@shadows_control](/creator/x/shadows_control) 2025-10-19T09:00Z 10.1K followers, 1016 engagements


"Abusers weaponise your reactions to hide their abuseand make you doubt your own sanity. #Gaslighting #EmotionalAbuse"  
[X Link](https://x.com/shadows_control/status/1979518078812590457) [@shadows_control](/creator/x/shadows_control) 2025-10-18T12:01Z 10.1K followers, 1364 engagements


"Understanding domestic abuse requires breaking down harmful stereotypes that prevent people from seeing the full scope of emotional psychological and physical control. #DomesticAbuseAwareness #CoerciveControl #BreakTheSilenceinvolved"  
[X Link](https://x.com/shadows_control/status/1979594079290696142) [@shadows_control](/creator/x/shadows_control) 2025-10-18T17:03Z 10.1K followers, 1299 engagements


"Abuse isn't always about strict orders or direct commands. Many times it's about creating an illusion of choice. They manipulate you into thinking you have a say but their constant criticism and emotional attacks steer you toward doing exactly what they want. It's control without the appearance of control. Awareness is key to breaking free"  
[X Link](https://x.com/shadows_control/status/1979661013805916449) [@shadows_control](/creator/x/shadows_control) 2025-10-18T21:29Z 10.1K followers, 2668 engagements


"Abuse hides behind closed doors and perfect smiles. Dont assume someones okay because they seem fine. #DomesticAbuseAwareness"  
[X Link](https://x.com/shadows_control/status/1979691722692034702) [@shadows_control](/creator/x/shadows_control) 2025-10-18T23:31Z 10.1K followers, 1065 engagements


"Abusers slowly chip away at their partners identity and sense of self by controlling choices isolating them and belittling their individuality. #coercivecontrol"  
[X Link](https://x.com/shadows_control/status/1979956214759927890) [@shadows_control](/creator/x/shadows_control) 2025-10-19T17:02Z 10.1K followers, XXX engagements


"Theres a fine line between being attentive and being controlling. If your partner regularly makes decisions on your behalf without your input its a sign of control. They might insist on driving you everywhere schedule your time without consulting you or make choices about your social life and home environment. This behavior diminishes your autonomy and is designed to make you dependent on them. #CoerciveControl"  
[X Link](https://x.com/shadows_control/status/1980023905570955581) [@shadows_control](/creator/x/shadows_control) 2025-10-19T21:31Z 10.1K followers, 1045 engagements


"Coercive control erodes your sense of self. Youre not just surviving the abuseyoure being slowly erased by it. #CoerciveControl"  
[X Link](https://x.com/shadows_control/status/1980053613192822987) [@shadows_control](/creator/x/shadows_control) 2025-10-19T23:29Z 10.1K followers, XXX engagements