[GUEST ACCESS MODE: Data is scrambled or limited to provide examples. Make requests using your API key to unlock full data. Check https://lunarcrush.ai/auth for authentication information.] #  @vanessaandxander Vanessa + Xander Marin Vanessa + Xander Marin posts on TikTok about if you, matter, longterm, relationships the most. They currently have XXXXXXX followers and XX posts still getting attention that total XXXXXX engagements in the last XX hours. ### Engagements: XXXXXX [#](/creator/tiktok::6925546027224105989/interactions)  - X Week XXXXXXX -XX% - X Month XXXXXXXXX +653% - X Months XXXXXXXXX -XX% - X Year XXXXXXXXXX +159% ### Mentions: XX [#](/creator/tiktok::6925546027224105989/posts_active)  - X Month XX -XX% - X Months XXX +62% - X Year XXX +129% ### Followers: XXXXXXX [#](/creator/tiktok::6925546027224105989/followers)  - X Week XXXXXXX +0.24% - X Month XXXXXXX +4.70% - X Months XXXXXXX +12% - X Year XXXXXXX +34% ### CreatorRank: XXXXXXX [#](/creator/tiktok::6925546027224105989/influencer_rank)  ### Social Influence **Social topic influence** [if you](/topic/if-you) #3484, [matter](/topic/matter) 12.5%, [longterm](/topic/longterm) #18, [relationships](/topic/relationships) 8.33%, [inevitable](/topic/inevitable) 4.17%, [topics](/topic/topics) 4.17%, [to the](/topic/to-the) 4.17%, [all in](/topic/all-in) 4.17%, [skin](/topic/skin) 4.17%, [we want](/topic/we-want) XXXX% ### Top Social Posts Top posts by engagements in the last XX hours "Aging Inevitable. A fading love life Optional This week on the podcast were diving into one of our most requested topics ever: secs + aging. Were answering your biggest questions about how intimacy shifts over the years from lbdo changes to navigating menopause to keeping things hot no matter your age. 💛 In this episode we cover: How old is too old to have secs (spoiler: never)What to do if your lbdo + your partners dont matchNavigating perimenopause without your partner taking it personallyFeeling sexy in a body thats changed since your 20sManaging dryness body changes and shifting" [TikTok Link](https://www.tiktok.com/@vanessaandxander/video/7548995124777274654) 2025-09-12T00:36Z 309.5K followers, 15.5K engagements "👋 New to our content Follow along for tips to keep the spark alive in your long-term relationship. 💥Our biggest sale of the year is officially live. Use code TREATYOURSELF30 at checkout to get XX% off. If you want the biggest savings dont wait this code has limited uses. Once its gone its gone💥" [TikTok Link](https://www.tiktok.com/@vanessaandxander/video/7574545747622792479) 2025-11-19T21:06Z 309.5K followers, 2.4M engagements "Welcome to part X of our Worst Ways To Initiate series Today were talking about the notorious Slumber Stopper. Theyve had all day to make a move but for some reason they wait until youre drifting off to sleep. The way you and your partner are initiating can affect so many different areas of your relationship. If your partner is initiating poorly it can lead to low libido loss of attraction infrequent s*x a decrease in non-sexual physical intimacy and resentment All that to say initiation is much more important than most couples realize We have a very special something coming your way that" [TikTok Link](https://www.tiktok.com/@vanessaandxander/video/7246083024821964078) 2023-06-18T17:43Z 309.4K followers, 6.9M engagements "Your cheat sheet for a better secs life is officially here. 🔥 We pulled together the best of the best from hundreds of episodes the tips tools and aha moments that have completely transformed our communitys relationships. From the rule that saved our date nights to the mindset shifts that made intimacy feel fun again were revisiting the advice that started it all. 💛 In this episode youll hear: ✨ Why the F*** First Rule might be the simplest way to rekindle connection. ✨ What the Bristle Reaction really means (and how to retrain your body to crave touch again). ✨ How to figure out your" [TikTok Link](https://www.tiktok.com/@vanessaandxander/video/7569769717800422687) 2025-11-07T00:12Z 309.3K followers, 111.3K engagements "Comment if you want to hear more about what we do in our relationship to to keep intimacy a priority #forcouples #couplestherapy #relationshiptok #intimacy #grwm #marriedlife Get Ready With Me Advice For Couples Relationship Tips Relationship Therapist" [TikTok Link](https://www.tiktok.com/@vanessaandxander/video/7206335375453867306) 2023-03-03T15:01Z 309.5K followers, 9.9M engagements "The clt0rs is one of the most fascinating parts of the human body and theres way more to it than meets the eye Although most people think of the clt0rs as the visible nub of skin the clt0rs actually extends up into the body and splits into two legs. Its wishbone-shaped like you see in the video #humanantomy #healtheducation #knowyourbody #learnaboutyourbody #pleasuretips #healthclass Health Education Get To Know Your Body" [TikTok Link](https://www.tiktok.com/@vanessaandxander/video/7222297740796087598) 2023-04-15T15:24Z 309.5K followers, 40.9K engagements "We have some thoughts about the role of masturbation in long-term relationships. But first we want to hear from youwhat do you think #busted #relatable #funnycouple #coupleshumor #relationship #marriedlife #feelgood #vmtherapy #vanessaandxander Moments in married life Private moments Real relationship" [TikTok Link](https://www.tiktok.com/@vanessaandxander/video/7299114843469122859) 2023-11-08T15:33Z 309.5K followers, 24.8K engagements "Arent we supposed to just be naturally good at ntercourse" [TikTok Link](https://www.tiktok.com/@vanessaandxander/video/7312508970642492718) 2023-12-14T17:49Z X followers, 418.8K engagements "Maybe its not low libido what else could be affecting your desire for intimacy #r#relationshiptipsl#libidoboosterd#ditchthepillsw#wellnessb#betterinbedd#desirei#intimacyt#tipsforcouplesv#vmtherapy Rediscovering desire Health and wellness In the bedroom" [TikTok Link](https://www.tiktok.com/@vanessaandxander/video/7331768049680502062) 2024-02-04T15:25Z 309.5K followers, 416K engagements "Whats the equivalent of Donald Ducking but for only wearing socks during secs #inthebedroom #pillowtalks #podcast #vanessaandxander #debatable #intimatemoments #vmtherapy #desire #intimacy #funnycouple Moments in married life Questions for couples Couples Podcast" [TikTok Link](https://www.tiktok.com/@vanessaandxander/video/7343261040194456863) 2024-03-06T14:43Z 309.5K followers, 22K engagements "Why do I get sad after secs 🥺 Youre not aloneits actually a real thing called Postcoital Dysphoria (PCD) also known as the "post-secs blues." 💔 How PCD might show up: 💧 Tearfulness 😔 Sadness 💭 Anxiety & depression 😤 Irritability 😶 Feeling unsatisfied This is your reminder: its okay to feel this way. Youre normal and theres support. 💕 ♥head to our YT (Vanessa and Xander Marin) and search for why do i get sad after secs For all the details. #inthebedroom #vulnerable #forcouples #marriageadvice #couplestherapy #vmtherapy #fromatherapist" [TikTok Link](https://www.tiktok.com/@vanessaandxander/video/7419088485589470494) 2024-09-26T22:52Z 309.5K followers, 65.7K engagements "As we enter this busy holiday week that often involves travel in-laws schedule coordinating and the kiddos being out of school lets be sure to check in with our partners and talk openly about your Mental Load. If this feels like a tough topic to broach weve got just the thing for you. Our game-changing Mental Load Workbook. It includes ➡ Detailed and organized task lists to go through together to give you clarity and accountability on exactly who is doing what (and a new-found appreciation for each other) ➡ Strategies for splitting the Mental Load in a way that feels fair and balanced given" [TikTok Link](https://www.tiktok.com/@vanessaandxander/video/7448685051685899551) 2024-12-15T17:02Z X followers, 459.4K engagements "When your secs life starts out strong but slowly fizzles its easy to feel stuck wondering *What happened* 🤔 Physical connection can fade over time without an obvious why leaving you caught in what feels like an unbreakable secsless cycle. 😞 But heres the good news: its *not* impossible to fix. ❤ Thats exactly why we created Your Best Week Ever. 🌟 Heres exactly what you get: 🔥 X days of flirty playful totally approachable activities (that youll feel actually excited to do) 🔥 Conversation starters to help you get back on the same page and feel closer than ever 🔥 Insights from a licensed" [TikTok Link](https://www.tiktok.com/@vanessaandxander/video/7458059034638273822) 2025-01-09T23:18Z 309.5K followers, 660.1K engagements "We always think well follow through but lets be realafter a big meal Its a nap waiting to happen. 😴😂" [TikTok Link](https://www.tiktok.com/@vanessaandxander/video/7480333623892249887) 2025-03-10T23:55Z 309.5K followers, 76.2K engagements "👋New to our content Follow along for tips to keep the spark alive in your long-term relationship" [TikTok Link](https://www.tiktok.com/@vanessaandxander/video/7483221099367402782) 2025-03-18T18:40Z X followers, 2.1M engagements "✨ Lets talk about scheduling intimacy and no it doesnt mean your secs life is doomed and its definitely not a sign youre incompatible. Think about it: dont you schedule the things that matter most From kids recitals to summer BBQs if its important it gets on the calendar. Why should intimacy be any different And no scheduling intimacy isnt boring or clinical. Its actually an opportunity to build anticipation and excitement. 🔥 Call it Sunday Funday or Afternoon Delight. Make it a fun inside joke rather than another to-do list item. Worried youll feel pressured Try this: Plan for an Easy" [TikTok Link](https://www.tiktok.com/@vanessaandxander/video/7507818177313918254) 2025-05-24T01:29Z 309.5K followers, 922.4K engagements "Not sure if you have a responsive or spontaneous secs drive type 👀 👉 Follow us and DM us the word SEATBELT to get our FREE guide and learn your type and how to navigate it even if your partners is different" [TikTok Link](https://www.tiktok.com/@vanessaandxander/video/7571913015843409182) 2025-11-12T18:50Z 309.5K followers, 48.1K engagements "Want step-by-step directions for some techniques we actually like 🔥 DM us the word BLISS and well send you all the details on how to boost your confidence passion connection and pleasure TONIGHT 💥Our biggest sale of the year is officially live. Use code TREATYOURSELF30 at checkout to get XX% off. If you want the biggest savings dont wait this code has limited uses. Once its gone its gone💥" [TikTok Link](https://www.tiktok.com/@vanessaandxander/video/7574872633922129182) 2025-11-20T18:14Z 309.5K followers, 288.8K engagements "Secs is one of the top X reasons couples divorce 😳 We refuse to let that happen in our marriage so we practice one simple habit every day: we BOTH initiateeven when were not wildly turned on. Initiating isnt just about desire in the momentits about showing your partner they matter and that connection matters. Tiny gestures like flirting teasing dirty talk dancing or even a kiss can: ✨ Build mutual desire and vulnerability ✨ Take the pressure off one person always doing the work ✨ Keep intimacy playful and fun all day long Want more divorce-proof habits Send this reel to yourself to save for" [TikTok Link](https://www.tiktok.com/@vanessaandxander/video/7576748252960148767) 2025-11-25T19:33Z 309.5K followers, 66.2K engagements "👋 New to our content Follow along for tips to keep the spark alive in your long-term relationship" [TikTok Link](https://www.tiktok.com/@vanessaandxander/video/7579690878038576414) 2025-12-03T17:51Z 309.5K followers, 582.3K engagements
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@vanessaandxander Vanessa + Xander Marin
Vanessa + Xander Marin posts on TikTok about if you, matter, longterm, relationships the most. They currently have XXXXXXX followers and XX posts still getting attention that total XXXXXX engagements in the last XX hours.
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Social Influence
Social topic influence if you #3484, matter 12.5%, longterm #18, relationships 8.33%, inevitable 4.17%, topics 4.17%, to the 4.17%, all in 4.17%, skin 4.17%, we want XXXX%
Top Social Posts
Top posts by engagements in the last XX hours
"Aging Inevitable. A fading love life Optional This week on the podcast were diving into one of our most requested topics ever: secs + aging. Were answering your biggest questions about how intimacy shifts over the years from lbdo changes to navigating menopause to keeping things hot no matter your age. 💛 In this episode we cover: How old is too old to have secs (spoiler: never)What to do if your lbdo + your partners dont matchNavigating perimenopause without your partner taking it personallyFeeling sexy in a body thats changed since your 20sManaging dryness body changes and shifting"
TikTok Link 2025-09-12T00:36Z 309.5K followers, 15.5K engagements
"👋 New to our content Follow along for tips to keep the spark alive in your long-term relationship. 💥Our biggest sale of the year is officially live. Use code TREATYOURSELF30 at checkout to get XX% off. If you want the biggest savings dont wait this code has limited uses. Once its gone its gone💥"
TikTok Link 2025-11-19T21:06Z 309.5K followers, 2.4M engagements
"Welcome to part X of our Worst Ways To Initiate series Today were talking about the notorious Slumber Stopper. Theyve had all day to make a move but for some reason they wait until youre drifting off to sleep. The way you and your partner are initiating can affect so many different areas of your relationship. If your partner is initiating poorly it can lead to low libido loss of attraction infrequent s*x a decrease in non-sexual physical intimacy and resentment All that to say initiation is much more important than most couples realize We have a very special something coming your way that"
TikTok Link 2023-06-18T17:43Z 309.4K followers, 6.9M engagements
"Your cheat sheet for a better secs life is officially here. 🔥 We pulled together the best of the best from hundreds of episodes the tips tools and aha moments that have completely transformed our communitys relationships. From the rule that saved our date nights to the mindset shifts that made intimacy feel fun again were revisiting the advice that started it all. 💛 In this episode youll hear: ✨ Why the F*** First Rule might be the simplest way to rekindle connection. ✨ What the Bristle Reaction really means (and how to retrain your body to crave touch again). ✨ How to figure out your"
TikTok Link 2025-11-07T00:12Z 309.3K followers, 111.3K engagements
"Comment if you want to hear more about what we do in our relationship to to keep intimacy a priority #forcouples #couplestherapy #relationshiptok #intimacy #grwm #marriedlife Get Ready With Me Advice For Couples Relationship Tips Relationship Therapist"
TikTok Link 2023-03-03T15:01Z 309.5K followers, 9.9M engagements
"The clt0rs is one of the most fascinating parts of the human body and theres way more to it than meets the eye Although most people think of the clt0rs as the visible nub of skin the clt0rs actually extends up into the body and splits into two legs. Its wishbone-shaped like you see in the video #humanantomy #healtheducation #knowyourbody #learnaboutyourbody #pleasuretips #healthclass Health Education Get To Know Your Body"
TikTok Link 2023-04-15T15:24Z 309.5K followers, 40.9K engagements
"We have some thoughts about the role of masturbation in long-term relationships. But first we want to hear from youwhat do you think #busted #relatable #funnycouple #coupleshumor #relationship #marriedlife #feelgood #vmtherapy #vanessaandxander Moments in married life Private moments Real relationship"
TikTok Link 2023-11-08T15:33Z 309.5K followers, 24.8K engagements
"Arent we supposed to just be naturally good at ntercourse"
TikTok Link 2023-12-14T17:49Z X followers, 418.8K engagements
"Maybe its not low libido what else could be affecting your desire for intimacy #r#relationshiptipsl#libidoboosterd#ditchthepillsw#wellnessb#betterinbedd#desirei#intimacyt#tipsforcouplesv#vmtherapy Rediscovering desire Health and wellness In the bedroom"
TikTok Link 2024-02-04T15:25Z 309.5K followers, 416K engagements
"Whats the equivalent of Donald Ducking but for only wearing socks during secs #inthebedroom #pillowtalks #podcast #vanessaandxander #debatable #intimatemoments #vmtherapy #desire #intimacy #funnycouple Moments in married life Questions for couples Couples Podcast"
TikTok Link 2024-03-06T14:43Z 309.5K followers, 22K engagements
"Why do I get sad after secs 🥺 Youre not aloneits actually a real thing called Postcoital Dysphoria (PCD) also known as the "post-secs blues." 💔 How PCD might show up: 💧 Tearfulness 😔 Sadness 💭 Anxiety & depression 😤 Irritability 😶 Feeling unsatisfied This is your reminder: its okay to feel this way. Youre normal and theres support. 💕 ♥head to our YT (Vanessa and Xander Marin) and search for why do i get sad after secs For all the details. #inthebedroom #vulnerable #forcouples #marriageadvice #couplestherapy #vmtherapy #fromatherapist"
TikTok Link 2024-09-26T22:52Z 309.5K followers, 65.7K engagements
"As we enter this busy holiday week that often involves travel in-laws schedule coordinating and the kiddos being out of school lets be sure to check in with our partners and talk openly about your Mental Load. If this feels like a tough topic to broach weve got just the thing for you. Our game-changing Mental Load Workbook. It includes ➡ Detailed and organized task lists to go through together to give you clarity and accountability on exactly who is doing what (and a new-found appreciation for each other) ➡ Strategies for splitting the Mental Load in a way that feels fair and balanced given"
TikTok Link 2024-12-15T17:02Z X followers, 459.4K engagements
"When your secs life starts out strong but slowly fizzles its easy to feel stuck wondering What happened 🤔 Physical connection can fade over time without an obvious why leaving you caught in what feels like an unbreakable secsless cycle. 😞 But heres the good news: its not impossible to fix. ❤ Thats exactly why we created Your Best Week Ever. 🌟 Heres exactly what you get: 🔥 X days of flirty playful totally approachable activities (that youll feel actually excited to do) 🔥 Conversation starters to help you get back on the same page and feel closer than ever 🔥 Insights from a licensed"
TikTok Link 2025-01-09T23:18Z 309.5K followers, 660.1K engagements
"We always think well follow through but lets be realafter a big meal Its a nap waiting to happen. 😴😂"
TikTok Link 2025-03-10T23:55Z 309.5K followers, 76.2K engagements
"👋New to our content Follow along for tips to keep the spark alive in your long-term relationship"
TikTok Link 2025-03-18T18:40Z X followers, 2.1M engagements
"✨ Lets talk about scheduling intimacy and no it doesnt mean your secs life is doomed and its definitely not a sign youre incompatible. Think about it: dont you schedule the things that matter most From kids recitals to summer BBQs if its important it gets on the calendar. Why should intimacy be any different And no scheduling intimacy isnt boring or clinical. Its actually an opportunity to build anticipation and excitement. 🔥 Call it Sunday Funday or Afternoon Delight. Make it a fun inside joke rather than another to-do list item. Worried youll feel pressured Try this: Plan for an Easy"
TikTok Link 2025-05-24T01:29Z 309.5K followers, 922.4K engagements
"Not sure if you have a responsive or spontaneous secs drive type 👀 👉 Follow us and DM us the word SEATBELT to get our FREE guide and learn your type and how to navigate it even if your partners is different"
TikTok Link 2025-11-12T18:50Z 309.5K followers, 48.1K engagements
"Want step-by-step directions for some techniques we actually like 🔥 DM us the word BLISS and well send you all the details on how to boost your confidence passion connection and pleasure TONIGHT 💥Our biggest sale of the year is officially live. Use code TREATYOURSELF30 at checkout to get XX% off. If you want the biggest savings dont wait this code has limited uses. Once its gone its gone💥"
TikTok Link 2025-11-20T18:14Z 309.5K followers, 288.8K engagements
"Secs is one of the top X reasons couples divorce 😳 We refuse to let that happen in our marriage so we practice one simple habit every day: we BOTH initiateeven when were not wildly turned on. Initiating isnt just about desire in the momentits about showing your partner they matter and that connection matters. Tiny gestures like flirting teasing dirty talk dancing or even a kiss can: ✨ Build mutual desire and vulnerability ✨ Take the pressure off one person always doing the work ✨ Keep intimacy playful and fun all day long Want more divorce-proof habits Send this reel to yourself to save for"
TikTok Link 2025-11-25T19:33Z 309.5K followers, 66.2K engagements
"👋 New to our content Follow along for tips to keep the spark alive in your long-term relationship"
TikTok Link 2025-12-03T17:51Z 309.5K followers, 582.3K engagements