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"Im doing a dry month (bc booze was not doing my mental health any favors during covid) and Ive never been one for non alcoholic bevs but this felt too perfect not to drink while organizing the Soul Bootcamp this week"
X Link 2020-09-27T20:41Z 21.4K followers, [--] engagements
""The past is immutable but its meaning is rewritten every time it is recalled." - Patricia Crittenden"
X Link 2022-02-28T16:48Z 21.4K followers, [--] engagements
"One of my favorite things on earth to do is to experiment with different forms of learning and music is sooo its own beast. Its been a delight for my mind & body to feel my way into what works here (so far: learning a sequence consciously a few times then zoning out & flowing)"
X Link 2022-08-29T16:49Z 21.4K followers, [--] engagements
"I feel the same way about therapy as I do about romantic relationships friendships mentorships etc.: the relationship structure doesnt inherently promote healing. Deep human-to-human connection does"
X Link 2023-03-02T17:39Z 22.8K followers, [----] engagements
"Had a hell of a week last week. Yesterday got a lot of sun touched a lot of grass and submerged myself in a lot of unchlorinated water. Its wild how much this engaging with nature stuff actually works"
X Link 2023-07-11T18:12Z 14.1K followers, [----] engagements
"@TonyClancys Thank you for the warm words โค To be totally transparent I decided to take the video down because I didn't feel like I did the best job at explaining some concepts that I think are pretty important to get right. I will likely be splitting the concepts in the video into (1/2)"
X Link 2023-07-12T21:54Z 16.7K followers, [--] engagements
"@TonyClancys [--] - [--] shorter videos that go into each one in depth (likely one video about CPTSD & Boundary setting one about Fawning and one about kicking toxic shame out of the driver's seat when it comes to making relationship decisions). Apologies about the confusion (2/2)"
X Link 2023-07-12T21:54Z [--] followers, [--] engagements
"Thinking something through today: there seems to be a level of safety required for practicing humility. We have to believe that others are wise enough responsible enough intentional enough to let our egos/guards down around them and engage in the act of being taught"
X Link 2023-07-14T22:16Z 16.7K followers, [----] engagements
"If you ever feel like you ask too much of people know that I just made a Youtube video called '5 helpful steps for practicing emotional sobriety' and step [--] is to accept the existential dread that is inherent to being alive"
X Link 2023-07-30T21:09Z 16.7K followers, [----] engagements
"I'm putting together notes for a video on overthinking and looking for some examples (I have many vices but ruminating generally isn't one of them so I need some help with relatability). Anyone want to hit me with some bullet points of things they tend to overthink"
X Link 2023-08-04T17:01Z 20.5K followers, [----] engagements
"A lot of healing work is just the dispelling of illusion and illusion-popping can come with a hell of an existential hangover. Thinking a lot lately about how to flow with that hangover instead of resisting it"
X Link 2023-08-13T19:01Z 17K followers, [----] engagements
"My guess is that everybody is naturally resilient in the face of challenges they find meaningful. And that lacking perseverance is usually less about lacking mental toughness and more about lacking a driving force that makes one's instinctive toughness come online"
X Link 2023-08-14T18:57Z 16.7K followers, [----] engagements
"@AngelicaOung @sensefulronin It is if you truly/in good faith assume everyone shares or exceeds your competence level & will def choose wisely. But if its more of a getting-off-on-technicality while privately thinking those who assessed risk poorly deserve their fate its Im ok youre not ok to a T"
X Link 2023-08-15T01:42Z 14.2K followers, [--] engagements
"Thinking out loud here: I think theres often a lot of suppressed narcissism lurking beneath the Im not (good) enough wound"
X Link 2023-08-24T15:33Z 16.7K followers, [----] engagements
"Asking myself not good enough for what Over and over eventually leads to a realization of impossible standards I am holding others myself and/or the world to"
X Link 2023-08-24T15:37Z 16.7K followers, [----] engagements
"I hate the concept of applying red flags to people but I think it makes sense to look for them within relational dynamics. I.e. Rather than is this person healthy asking is the way we relate to each other healthy"
X Link 2023-09-02T19:17Z 16.7K followers, 24.9K engagements
"In relationships we often think the solution to conflict is prove to the other that I am right when it is more often prove to the other that I can treat them with dignity and respect even when I think theyre wrong"
X Link 2023-09-03T17:02Z 16.7K followers, 16.5K engagements
"@Deezy2_Blessed I also tried it out for the first time earlier this summer then abandoned it for a few months then came back and pushed through the learning curve and now I love it. But It of course depends on what kind of editing youre doing. I can only speak to long form talking head vids"
X Link 2023-09-04T17:52Z 16.7K followers, [---] engagements
"What its highly unlikely youll find a (de)activated avoidant partner doing: pressuring for intimacy & closeness. What its highly unlikely youll find an activated anxious partner doing: refusing bids for intimacy & spitting out clear accurate meta-cognitions re: the dynamic"
X Link 2023-09-09T12:48Z 16.7K followers, [----] engagements
"Thinking about how tiny and intentional (curated if you will) self-abandonments are sort of inherent to growth. Detaching from the who I am/what my comfort zone is now to step into the where Id like my comfort zone to be later and then back again until were there"
X Link 2023-09-18T17:42Z 16.7K followers, [----] engagements
"The only way Ive found to stay consistently productive in a creative/intellectual field is to bake boredom into my routine in a completely non-negotiable way"
X Link 2023-09-18T22:49Z 16.7K followers, 157.1K engagements
"I regularly say no to plans for the express purpose of making sure I have at least 15ish hours a week where I can walk aimlessly around my city or sit still in my living room with my mind off-duty. If I dont do this I can only be creative in short unsustainable bursts"
X Link 2023-09-18T22:49Z 13.9K followers, [----] engagements
"It feels very silly to consciously prioritize boredom (its not quite boredom so much as an off-duty mind) but it has become the magic sauce to everything else I do. Also worth noting it took YEARS of self-regulation work to learn to tolerate & embrace boredom"
X Link 2023-09-18T22:49Z 16.7K followers, [----] engagements
"Thinking about how much time avoiding intimacy takes when you live with toxic shame. Theres this constant emotional armouring and de-armouring routine that has to happen when switching from being alone to being in company & back. Secure people literally have way more time."
X Link 2023-10-01T16:52Z 16.7K followers, 33.3K engagements
"@ObiJuanKenobi19 I did Theres a long story but the short one is that I decided against pursuing the loopholes that would allow me to stay there for longer than [--] mo/year as a Canadian. I miss it though and you still have to let me know if you ever visit I go back periodically to hang/hike"
X Link 2023-10-03T02:35Z 16.7K followers, [--] engagements
"Power without love is reckless and abusive and love without power is sentimental and anemic. Power at its best is love implementing the demands of justice and justice at its best is power correcting everything that stands against love. - Martin Luther King Jr"
X Link 2023-10-07T14:11Z 16.7K followers, [----] engagements
"When I notice avoidant behavior patterning creeping in (forgetting to respond to certain people etc.) it usually helps me to pinpoint what state Im imagining Id have to be in in order to effectively interact with the person or situation Im neglecting"
X Link 2023-10-10T18:43Z 13.7K followers, 480.8K engagements
"Worth noting: in some cases I am right. There are indeed people and circumstances that are not equipped to handle/hold certain types of authenticity. A persona may be the only way to avoid unresolvable conflict/chaos. Those situations it kind of works to intentionally avoid"
X Link 2023-10-10T18:43Z 16.7K followers, 37.5K engagements
"I was at an event recently where we were analyzing what was preventing us from taking certain risks & I realized that my entire risk management process is actually just a shame management process (the more shame I anticipate myself encountering if I fail the less risk I assume)"
X Link 2023-10-10T19:09Z 16.7K followers, 55.9K engagements
"When we are recognized for who we uniquely are we transition seamlessly from being passive to being active in the world. - Jay Reid"
X Link 2023-10-16T18:32Z 16.7K followers, [----] engagements
"I keep thinking (after seeing a tweet about it recently) how the periods of my life where Ive been single but part of an active community have been some of the happiest times in my life & the periods where Ive been partnered but community-less have been some of the loneliest"
X Link 2023-10-19T22:00Z 13.6K followers, 28.2K engagements
"I'm trying to think of what the inverse of the 'long commute' would be - I.e. a simple thing that significantly & consistently elevates one's quality of life. My instinct is to say: Having one good reliable friend who you can be completely authentic around"
X Link 2023-10-26T19:25Z 13.7K followers, [----] engagements
"Gonna spell this out: Having a sense of meaning & purpose makes even the hardest parts of life feel bearable. Lacking a sense of meaning & purpose makes even the easiest parts of life feel unbearable"
X Link 2023-10-27T00:35Z 13.7K followers, 27.8K engagements
"I was having a convo in a womens book club yesterday about how asking for what we want in a watered-down way changes our energy. What we withhold remains present under the surface and the incongruence is uncomfortable for everyone"
X Link 2023-11-05T15:36Z 13.8K followers, 15.3K engagements
"It is rare for people to come into themselves if no one is excited and curious about their core"
X Link 2023-11-06T18:41Z 14K followers, 70.5K engagements
"Tattooing this tweet on myself"
X Link 2023-11-18T05:17Z 13.9K followers, [----] engagements
"@caffeinum Maybe wherever resentment peeks in"
X Link 2023-11-19T03:42Z 20.5K followers, [--] engagements
"Fawn: If I inhibit my anger I wont anger the other. Fight: If I make myself seem big & scary I wont be preyed upon. Flight: If I can escape the situation I will escape the feelings it elicits. Freeze: If I dont experience my wants I cant get hurt by pursuing them"
X Link 2023-11-20T00:11Z 14K followers, [----] engagements
"@gnosis_osmosis I would say that conscious patterning tracks more with avoidance than fawning With fawning it might be more similar to Oh shit theyre right/Im the bad one/I should apologize & then maybe realizing later you feel or think differently. It can come online within avoidant -"
X Link 2023-11-20T05:39Z 13.9K followers, [--] engagements
"@gnosis_osmosis - patterning the categories arent mutually exclusive. But fawning is more Ill (unconsciously) convince myself theyre right/Im wrong temporarily out of instinctive/body-based fear than it is I think theyre wrong but am deciding to deal with it at another point"
X Link 2023-11-20T05:46Z 16.7K followers, [--] engagements
"I.e. If you are avoidant don't measure your progress by how many new and fascinating ways you've found to intellectualize your feelings. Measure progress by your capacity to form maintain and remain authentic & vulnerable within intimate connections"
X Link 2023-11-20T06:03Z 14.1K followers, [----] engagements
"Romantic objectification is not love. As such it doesnt feel the way love feels. But when were told thats what were receiving it can lead to feelings of defectiveness (Why cant I just appreciate all this love Whats wrong with me). It takes time to sort out afterwards"
X Link 2023-11-23T18:12Z 14K followers, [----] engagements
"Stealing a prompt my friend @LetsGoCNote re-posted on another platform: If you had to come up with [--] "love languages" that were specific to you what would they be ๐"
X Link 2023-11-27T04:14Z 14.1K followers, 11K engagements
"Genuinely went through a phase in the attachment-healing process where I decided the solution was to only date fellow avoidants bc the worst that could happen was like wed have a minor misunderstanding & not speak for [--] months. Ideal tbh. Gave me time to catch up on work"
X Link 2023-11-28T04:44Z 14.1K followers, 23.4K engagements
"The biggest clue that youre getting in touch with your core feelings/experiences is that your life starts making sense. As Jung says (where wisdom reigns) there is no conflict between thinking and feeling"
X Link 2023-11-29T16:26Z 14.2K followers, [----] engagements
"My new favorite thing to do when I'm conflicted about a decision is to ask myself the question 'Under which conditions would this be a whole-ass embodied yes for me' Often gives me a ton of useful information that simply looking at the options as they are never could"
X Link 2023-11-30T16:38Z 14.2K followers, 25.6K engagements
"Attachment isnt just (or even primarily) about our relationships w others. Insecure styles represent distorted patterns of thinking & feeling which include distortions we make about ourselves. Ergo the act of accurately mirroring & being mirrored by others becomes difficult"
X Link 2023-12-01T21:56Z 14.2K followers, 16.9K engagements
"Every time I finish a fiction book I tell the entire plot of the book from beginning to end to my best friend and she pretends to care every time. Feels nice to have stumbled upon the purest form of love in this lifetime"
X Link 2023-12-03T18:14Z 14.2K followers, [----] engagements
"@gnosis_osmosis INFP"
X Link 2023-12-03T18:37Z 14.2K followers, [--] engagements
"Book-writing is a deeply woo-woo borderline spiritual process to me. My job is to think of an idea and start typing and inevitably the book shows up & introduces itself to me. I learn what the book wants & needs & is curious about & I act as its humble intellectual servant"
X Link 2023-12-11T16:06Z 20K followers, 13.5K engagements
"I REALLY hate the stereotype that avoidant attachment causes people to randomly lose interest in relationships by some magical attachment voodoo. There is a logic to avoidants losing interest. It goes like this:"
X Link 2023-12-12T17:33Z 15.1K followers, 366.5K engagements
"Also worth noting: The above is not the only reason an avoidant may lose interest in a relationship obviously. Just the one I see getting commonly missed/ignored/misattributed/actively villainized"
X Link 2023-12-12T17:35Z 15.1K followers, 35.1K engagements
"As I gear shift into late-December reflection mode I'm struck not only by how much my life has changed in the past year but by how steady and sustainable the changes feel"
X Link 2023-12-17T05:32Z 15.1K followers, [----] engagements
"I actually do believe that imposter syndrome is often pointing toward a skill deficit - just not in the area were consciously focusing on which is why it feels so confusing"
X Link 2023-12-25T21:49Z 21.3K followers, 285.4K engagements
"This is actually a much more useful goal-setting framework than most Ive seen. Keeping the context of our goals clearly outlined and front-of-mind can keep a lot of things from going sideways down the line. If you must play decide on three things at the start: the rules of the game the stakes and the quitting time. Chinese proverb If you must play decide on three things at the start: the rules of the game the stakes and the quitting time. Chinese proverb"
X Link 2023-12-29T06:09Z 16.7K followers, 26.2K engagements
"Sat down tonight & did several hours of journaling about the past year. I am overflowing with gratitude for all the beautiful people & things that came into my life in [----]. Lots of healthy challenge. Lots of stabilization. Only complaint was 'not enough hiking.' [----] lfgโจ"
X Link 2023-12-30T06:17Z [--] followers, [----] engagements
"One of the things I am most grateful for at this point in my life is having a few solid female friends who place a high value not just on women but on feminine/Yin energy and its myriad expressions"
X Link 2023-12-30T19:05Z [--] followers, 12.8K engagements
"January is not the month for starting a new life sorry. Youre thinking of April or September. January is a Sunday afternoon. It is for sleeping in making cinnamon rolls having sex and reading bad fiction books. Any work you get done this month is a bonus. Youre welcome"
X Link 2024-01-03T19:04Z [--] followers, 2.8M engagements
"@XLTREEE This is a valid and accurate amendment"
X Link 2024-01-03T20:02Z 16.7K followers, 53.9K engagements
"I like the conversation around this. When I was [--] I noticed that mentally/emotionally I felt like I hadnt aged much past [--]. I clocked that as a problem and started doing a lot of work around intentionally maturing. Its nice to feel [--] at [--]. When I was [--] I fell in love with someone [--] years older. He told me he felt forever [--]. It bothered me. I didnt want to be feeling [--] at [--]. Seems like a nightmare. At [--] I feel [--]. I feel every age I also feel ageless and infinite like Ive lived and died countless lives. ๐คท๐ปโ When I was [--] I fell in love with someone [--] years older. He told me he"
X Link 2024-01-06T18:46Z [--] followers, 71.5K engagements
"Ill go off about this in another thread but I think that a lot of women who grew up with internalized misogyny (๐โ) went directly from girlhood to emulating masculine qualities in adulthood. So our feminine energy feels forever young/immature until we do something about it"
X Link 2024-01-06T18:52Z [--] followers, [----] engagements
"I have never seen a clearer explanation of some of the biggest missteps I made (both professionally and personally) in my 20s. As well as the years of inhibition that followed until I properly sorted my values out. ill do it: its actually bad to have more agency than you have a clear understanding of your values. thats a recipe for being preyed on by people who want your agency to serve their agenda. refusing to cultivate agency can be a defense against this ill do it: its actually bad to have more agency than you have a clear understanding of your values. thats a recipe for being preyed on"
X Link 2024-01-08T20:30Z 16.7K followers, 27.1K engagements
"Chronic shame makes hiding out and feigning superiority seem like a better option than reaching out and forming connections. I think millennials have a shame epidemic going on and the loneliness epidemic will only shift when we acknowledge and start working on that. I cant stand the overwhelmingly millennial cultural voice that says dont just show up at my house for a visit dont call me on the phone dont ask me to drive you to the airport or help you move you murdered community spirit & then started talking about a loneliness epidemic I cant stand the overwhelmingly millennial cultural voice"
X Link 2024-01-10T16:35Z 17K followers, 53K engagements
"I am never more jumpy distracted & otherwise upregulated as I am when my system is trying to avoid feeling shame. Back when toxic shame ruled my life I would chronically experience the flight response and just assumed it was my personality (others assumed it was ADHD)"
X Link 2024-01-11T20:13Z 16.7K followers, 63.3K engagements
"It's interesting for me now to occasionally experience that physiological state but be able to name it and trace it back to its core fairly quickly. Gives me a lot of empathy for my past self who was so emotionally illiterate and lost on how to help myself"
X Link 2024-01-11T20:14Z [--] followers, [----] engagements
"@visakanv No but this is truly a god-tier skill (not sure I even imagined it as a possibility before reading this)"
X Link 2024-01-11T20:53Z 16.7K followers, [----] engagements
"My writing mantra for 2024: Less writing like a publisher is reading. More writing like someone who is trapped inside the exact same psychological hell that I was once trapped in is reading & I know every weak spot in the wall where they can start punching a hole to escape"
X Link 2024-01-13T17:38Z 16.7K followers, 14.7K engagements
"@lilosmi Oh dont worry metaphors make way more sense to me than real life ๐"
X Link 2024-01-16T19:56Z 16.7K followers, [--] engagements
"Sometimes the only options we see are: (1) Grin & bear things exactly as they are or: (2) Set a boundary that distances us from hurtful behaviour while completely bypassing the option to (3) Share how we feel & ask directly for what would make us feel more comfortable"
X Link 2024-01-20T03:53Z 16.7K followers, 10.4K engagements
"If there were a single quote that summed up not necessarily my philosophy on life but my approach to it it would probably be Paulo Coelho's: "Go and get your things. Dreams mean work.""
X Link 2024-01-22T17:40Z 16.7K followers, 17.1K engagements
"Good change is also stressful for the body. Just as adjusting to pain & distress dysregulates the system's natural functioning so does adjusting to connection & joy. It helps to be patient with yourself not only when things go wrong but when they go incredibly right"
X Link 2024-01-24T17:02Z 16.7K followers, 17.9K engagements
"I cant believe how much aesthetics matter to me at this point in my life. Its like I just woke up one morning and realized I can only think clearly in beautiful spaces"
X Link 2024-01-25T16:46Z 16.7K followers, 49.1K engagements
"Thinking about how there is not a dating game. There are two dating games: or two leagues. One is the Secure League which is subject-driven. The other is the Insecure League which is object-driven. Most dating ploys (pick-up artistry etc.) assume only the latter league exists"
X Link 2024-02-05T18:34Z 17.1K followers, 140.5K engagements
"Incoming woo: I think that to be alive is to have the intuitive knowledge that every person on earth is a partial but direct experience of God(/the universe/wholeness). Narcissism is the deep pain of being cut off from connection & trying to find the whole of God inside the self"
X Link 2024-02-10T18:25Z 17.1K followers, 23.9K engagements
"Me: I am going to make myself vulnerable (a word which literally means susceptible to hurt) and open myself up to the full range of human experience. Me encountering the hurt part of the human experience: Ow Jesus Christ What is happening I didnt sign up for this"
X Link 2024-02-12T04:03Z 17.1K followers, 10.6K engagements
"(By karma I here mean the natural consequences of our actions including/especially the ones we took largely unconsciously for long periods of time.)"
X Link 2024-02-20T00:17Z 17.1K followers, [----] engagements
"Something Ive really noticed in the past year is how much I love coming home after travelling. After spending most of my 20s as a digital nomad I didnt know Id ever get to the life I dont want to escape from stage never mind the life I actively miss when Im gone one"
X Link 2024-03-02T14:51Z 17.2K followers, 11.9K engagements
"@love_of_reason I mean I dont think there are any perfect mental health people period ๐ But that aside the DN scene when I was involved in it (which mind you was pre-covid - I think it has changed quite a bit now that way more people can work remotely) did seem largely avoidant-leaning"
X Link 2024-03-02T15:55Z 17.2K followers, [---] engagements
"This is good. A YouTube comment I semi-frequently get is Why hasnt my therapist told me this In large part because it would run counter to the intention of therapy for them to do so. Their job is to be in relationship with you. When I was in therapy my therapist Jennifer challenged me maintaining It seems like you dont want therapy to help you. Everything you do is a big fuck you to psychology. And she was spot on https://t.co/aShSlq9GD7 When I was in therapy my therapist Jennifer challenged me maintaining It seems like you dont want therapy to help you. Everything you do is a big fuck you to"
X Link 2024-03-07T19:24Z 17.4K followers, 35K engagements
"A mature adult is one who recognizes the importance of emotions & has literacy around them but also has discernment about how to handle and work with emotions (I.e. they know when it is time to be lenient and when it is time to challenge themselves - solid balance of Yin/Yang)"
X Link 2024-03-09T14:49Z 17.4K followers, [----] engagements
"When I was doing my shadow work series on YT a (fair enough) question I kept getting was: Why would I want to get in touch with my dark side The simple answer is: because you're already in touch with it. You're just currently calling it your light side. The shadow self is not of itself evil; it just allows you to do evil without recognizing it as evil. Richard Rohr The shadow self is not of itself evil; it just allows you to do evil without recognizing it as evil. Richard Rohr"
X Link 2024-03-12T17:18Z 17.4K followers, 16.3K engagements
"CPTSD is really just a term for having to bear the unbearable: that which cant be soothed or managed through socially acceptable means so must be soothed and managed through socially unacceptable means which leads to further steadily compounding problems"
X Link 2024-04-01T04:32Z 17.8K followers, 84.3K engagements
"One of the clearest principles Ive come across in life is that truth is the trump card in any game worth playing. Reliably if the only way to get what I want is to manipulate and distort its a sign that I am playing a stupid game which will only ever lead to stupid prizes"
X Link 2024-04-07T18:00Z 17.9K followers, 41.9K engagements
"@Coscorrodrift @AskYatharth I truly promise you the raw footage is not good footage. I am not being humble or coy"
X Link 2024-04-09T17:46Z 17.8K followers, [--] engagements
"Something I'm working on integrating lately is the value of hopelessness. I notice that if I don't allow myself to completely lose hope in specific areas (when hope has genuinely run its course) the resistance will morph into a depressive episode"
X Link 2024-04-17T19:45Z 18K followers, 21.5K engagements
"But it seems to me as though (my) life does not & cannot begin anew in any area until hope for the old way has been totally lost. Otherwise everything becomes a giant string of reactions to and/or bargains against the past. Nothing is seen clearly for its isolated value"
X Link 2024-04-17T19:51Z 17.9K followers, [----] engagements
"Tell me what you project onto Taylor Swift and I will tell you who you are"
X Link 2024-04-21T21:12Z 18.3K followers, 25.8K engagements
"Anyway my projection onto TTPD is that its not a sad album its a depression album (VERY different). Its about holding a trump card youre too afraid to play & then finally playing it and realizing it does not end the game. Which causes a collapse in your systems of meaning. Tell me what you project onto Taylor Swift and I will tell you who you are. Tell me what you project onto Taylor Swift and I will tell you who you are"
X Link 2024-04-22T14:57Z 18.2K followers, [----] engagements
"Wondering if this phrase is so regulating because it signals/kickstarts the death of a fantasy (that we could go on being unaffected by something when in reality we are already deeply affected by it and living out its impacts)"
X Link 2024-04-23T17:51Z 18.2K followers, [----] engagements
"The cost of intimacy is disenchantment (with whichever ideals you were holding about yourself and the other). The reward of intimacy is a new sense of enchantment with the raw gritty core of the human experience (and its inherent tenacity)"
X Link 2024-04-25T20:06Z 18.4K followers, 41K engagements
"Something that massively increases my trust in people is when I see indications that they are aware of/have done integration around their sociopathic & narcissistic parts (I.e. they are aware/not denying of their capacity to detach from empathy & can tell when its happening )"
X Link 2024-04-28T18:06Z 18.4K followers, 165.3K engagements
"One of the things that feels truly spiritual/otherworldly to me is the massive burst of creative energy that gets unleashed every time I finally align with a really hard truth Ive been avoiding. In my life creativity and truth seem to be one and the same entity"
X Link 2024-04-29T14:54Z 18.4K followers, 115.6K engagements
"I could just be projecting but: I'm at a workshop rn where the (relatively famous) workshop leader seems bored by their own presentation and it's very humbling. Like oh. Right. No matter how experienced you are there is no substitute for genuine aliveness in one's work"
X Link 2024-05-04T20:30Z 18.3K followers, [----] engagements
"Thinking vaguely (while staring at Niagara Falls) about the importance of awe in healing CPTSD. How its sort of the opposite of hopelessness. & How the #1 thing I used to joke about in my digital nomad days was how we were all broken & yet there we all were chasing awe"
X Link 2024-05-06T00:06Z 18.4K followers, 14.4K engagements
"@ObiJuanKenobi19 ๐ Ftr I welcome the waterfall puns even though theyre all pour jokes"
X Link 2024-05-06T00:36Z 18.3K followers, [---] engagements
"God dividing himself into billions of pieces in order to observe himself: haha this will be so great very insightful. I will certainly not deal with the pain of being inherently disconnected from other beings by inventing pizza delivery apps and drinking poison"
X Link 2024-05-06T03:43Z 18.4K followers, 23.5K engagements
"A German word for going through a bad experience that triggers a long-buried childhood wound so intensely that you have no choice but to revisit and integrate/grow from it and then youre conflicted about the gratitude you feel towards an objectively bad/immoral experience"
X Link 2024-05-08T14:42Z 21.3K followers, 13.8K engagements
"For some reason I've never been able to figure out one of the most consistent things that has helped me through depressive episodes is doing semi-regular 24+ hour fasts. I don't know why & I don't recommend it but it's so consistently helpful for me personally it's insane"
X Link 2024-05-09T17:20Z 21.2K followers, 22.3K engagements
"@gnosis_osmosis I can't get on board with keto for various reasons (though I recognize it does wonders for things like epilepsy/certain autoimmunes) but I have always felt best physically when eating mostly paleo"
X Link 2024-05-09T17:55Z 18.4K followers, [---] engagements
"@ChadLaney4 @gnosis_osmosis I'm not getting on board with the keto diet which is different than just entering ketosis in a fasted state"
X Link 2024-05-09T19:54Z 18.4K followers, [---] engagements
"@cygnetcommitt I appreciate the caveat & in the interest of intellectual honesty must add that fasting is precisely what helped me develop a healthy relationship with food/body image after years of neurotic struggling (realizing a little hunger wouldn't kill me rewired some stuff bigtime)"
X Link 2024-05-09T20:32Z 18.4K followers, [--] engagements
"@g5p8v8r7s7 @ChadLaney4 @gnosis_osmosis You can but dont necessarily enter ketosis when fasting. So it is not accurate to say fasting = ketosis"
X Link 2024-05-09T21:24Z 18.4K followers, [---] engagements
"Reflections after week one week of writing 1k words/day: [--]. My writing brain is coming back quickly. I am thinking in prose again. Need a strategy for switching between this type of thinking and the more organized style that I am used to for Youtube"
X Link 2024-05-11T16:32Z 18.4K followers, 17.1K engagements
"4. If I am feeling blocked and then write about feeling blocked I get unblocked. [--]. My writing is a lot more sequential detail-oriented & grounded in setting than it used to be. I imagine this is downstream of a change in the structure of my thinking over the years"
X Link 2024-05-11T16:32Z 18.4K followers, [----] engagements
"6. Challenges for the upcoming week include reintegrating other types of writing (Youtube) and playing with how personal versus universal I want my style to be. Overall great first week. Feeling a lot of self-intimacy through daily writing"
X Link 2024-05-11T16:32Z 18.4K followers, [----] engagements
"Stealing this format as a life-audit. Whats missing in my life right now: - Excitement newness & big possibility - Nature (hiking specifically) and awe - Partnership and sex/touch - Structured forms of learning - A (meaningful) professional network thinking about things that feel missing in my life now and no wonder I've not been feeling well: - daily oxytocin-producing touch - not having to worry about money - in-person events with friends - a stable sense of home - daily intimate and in-person connection thinking about things that feel missing in my life now and no wonder I've not been"
X Link 2024-05-13T15:47Z 18.5K followers, 51.3K engagements
"And strengths audit: Whats NOT missing from my life right now: - Meaningful growth-oriented community - Practical/financial security - Mental/emotional stability (despite this year being hard) - Creative discipline - Strengthening family ties - Self-respect Stealing this format as a life-audit. Whats missing in my life right now: - Excitement newness & big possibility - Nature (hiking specifically) and awe - Partnership and sex/touch - Structured forms of learning - A (meaningful) professional network Stealing this format as a life-audit. Whats missing in my life right now: - Excitement"
X Link 2024-05-13T15:53Z 18.5K followers, 10.8K engagements
"The vibe of this year for me is industriousness but I think I might set myself up for a wanderlusty winter once its over. Bookmarking the thought of a train trip across Canada & down the US west coast where I visit the warmer spots and write for fun"
X Link 2024-05-14T14:41Z 18.5K followers, [----] engagements
"This remains one of my favorite metaphors for depression. It feels so fundamentally true when depressed that our bleak perceptions are a true reflection of reality. Helpful to remember that they usually are actually. But theres also much more out there to perceive"
X Link 2024-05-15T16:14Z 18.5K followers, [----] engagements
"Reflections on [--] weeks of writing 1k words/day: [--]. I am starting to tune into what I want/like to write right now. This week I played with: essays journal articles a book outline & even fiction. Brain is feeling uber creative and flexible - like it's in warm-up mode"
X Link 2024-05-19T04:43Z 18.6K followers, 22.8K engagements
"Something I find very relationally skillful is when people know how to be the right degree of open about their problems even to relative strangers. Like theres a very specific approach to it that can foster quick but not inappropriate intimacy. I want to learn that skill"
X Link 2024-05-25T02:32Z 19.3K followers, 345.4K engagements
"@JenGalinski Ah okay yeah I think what I didn't articulate properly in my original tweet is that I see openness and vulnerability as different things so that might be the hair I'm splitting in what we're respectively talking about. Not that there's anything wrong w appropriate vulnerability-"
X Link 2024-05-25T04:12Z 18.7K followers, [--] engagements
"@JenGalinski -but the specific skill I'm circling around here is being open in service of the connection without actually needing any sort of containment from the other around what is being shared (ergo not being vulnerable though that might naturally follow as the connection builds)"
X Link 2024-05-25T04:12Z 18.7K followers, [--] engagements
"@ben_mathes @VividVoid_ My approximation is that this is likely often true AND that just as often there's a larger context this phenomenon exists within which it would be intellectually incomplete/dishonest to ignore"
X Link 2024-05-28T17:30Z 19.2K followers, [--] engagements
"Reflections on one month (so far) of writing 1k words/day: โ๐งต [--]. I've had three days of writing so far that have felt truly Fucking Magical. Today ('The Color Blue') was one. A short story idea came to me on the verge of sleep I shot up to grab my phone & 1k words poured out"
X Link 2024-06-03T17:20Z 19.3K followers, [----] engagements
"I want to start building out more of a writing community on X Who do I need to be following โ๐"
X Link 2024-06-05T02:38Z 19.3K followers, [----] engagements
"@sandra_sobanska @kellycwilde Oh wow I am actually planning to take July mostly off to focus on book-writing so am super curious about this. Is there a link to more info on this (if it's open for more members)"
X Link 2024-06-05T16:53Z 19.3K followers, [---] engagements
"The lost art of recognizing when the real problem is that you're aiming too low and in actuality way-upping the stakes might be what jogs your motivation back online"
X Link 2024-06-10T17:13Z 19.3K followers, 12.9K engagements
"NLP is such a funny field bc it's kind of just there like. hey want to hack your defense mechanisms so that you get even BETTER at using them while remaining completely unaware of the underlying suffering that drives everything you do & sometimes it's like. Yeah actually"
X Link 2024-06-11T19:34Z 19.3K followers, [----] engagements
"A good question to ask oneself is: "Do I respect this person's literal and emotional intelligence enough to allow myself to be truly challenged by them when we are in conflict Do I actually believe they are capable of seeing meaningful things I am missing - even about myself""
X Link 2024-06-21T16:44Z 19.7K followers, [----] engagements
"The opposite of being a people-pleaser is not being an asshole. Its being secure enough in what you think and feel to no longer need either the unconditional approval of or the unequivocal proving wrong of others in order to trust and feel okay about yourself"
X Link 2024-06-24T05:23Z 19.8K followers, 15K engagements
"@TylerAlterman My guess at the actual answer to this is that most assume (rightfully or wrongfully idk) that theyre at a higher level than the average person but understand that presenting it as a value tier will skew the avg person toward over-estimating their own level which will either -"
X Link 2024-06-26T22:23Z 19.8K followers, [---] engagements
"@TylerAlterman skew info about what it means to be operating from each level/stage (hence the end goal may actually be protecting the integrity of the model from predictable bias) &/or annoy the original speaker when someone they perceive to be less evolved than them tries to claim equal status"
X Link 2024-06-26T22:24Z 19.7K followers, [---] engagements
"The great question of human welfare really seems to be 'How do we help emotionally and/or practically under-resourced people not go down toxic and soul-destroying paths out of desperation/sheer lack of alternatives'"
X Link 2024-07-06T19:40Z 19.9K followers, 15.1K engagements
"@LetsGoCNote Wow are we ever on the same wavelength actually. I felt a lot of love and resonance reading this piece thank you for linking it ๐ค Echos a lot of the themes I've been sitting with/writing on lately this part in particular:"
X Link 2024-07-07T15:27Z 19.9K followers, [--] engagements
"It's strange how much humility it takes to stop hating yourself. 'I am the cause of every problem in my life' is a grandiose belief just like any other. The fall from (dis)grace hits every bit as hard"
X Link 2024-07-07T15:52Z 20K followers, [----] engagements
"@DWKPhD foreign to me at the time. But its a broad field that applies to a lot of things so if you have a narrower question about it I might be able to answer more directly"
X Link 2024-07-24T13:59Z 20K followers, [--] engagements
"@exgenesis @this_is_silvia @positive_loop @AgotaDubi @_brentbaum @emergentvibe @moissanist @rslantonie @not_a_hot_girl Not nice"
X Link 2024-08-01T00:04Z 20.1K followers, [--] engagements
"@BenDeVoe888 You got it"
X Link 2024-08-05T11:51Z 20.1K followers, [---] engagements
"@AgotaDubi @emergentvibe Wise wise wise"
X Link 2024-08-06T14:35Z 20.1K followers, [--] engagements
"The I am enough framing makes sense to me only when I think of love as interchangeable w presence. I.e. If I see myself as worthy of my own presence in any state (I dont have to earn a lack of dissociation) Im able to receive & offer love/presence to others fairly simply. there's this pop therapy trope where people discover "I was already Enough" as if simply existing makes you worthy of love. do people actually believe this I find it so hollow and unconvincing there's this pop therapy trope where people discover "I was already Enough" as if simply existing makes you worthy of love. do people"
X Link 2024-08-08T14:59Z 21.6K followers, 15.5K engagements
"But our best bet at understanding where we fit within the resource matrix at any given point requires the ability to stay associated to ourselves. For this we have to feel okay (read: worthy) enough about ourselves to not be stuck in constant shame-dissociation loops"
X Link 2024-08-08T14:59Z 21.4K followers, [----] engagements
"I think my life is at an all-time high in the realm of being stacked with incredible people who know how to love (might be loosely related to my own current capacity to love & be loved will keep an eye on the data)"
X Link 2024-08-16T05:18Z 21.4K followers, [----] engagements
"The thing about avoidance is that its not a fear of commitment point blank so much as its an emotional anesthetizing of certain parts of the self that are required for deep self knowledge & deep self knowledge is necessary for choosing compatible partners"
X Link 2024-08-21T05:50Z 21.4K followers, 42.6K engagements
"A word for periods of time where your structures of meaning feel not collapsed but sort of loosened/disoriented. Like you are existentially drunk"
X Link 2024-08-26T03:02Z 21.4K followers, 25.8K engagements
"I.e. Today is very: forgetting to put the coffee pot on. Forgetting to put the laundry in. Forgetting to go to the store for milk. Remembering it all feeling overwhelmed by putting it in order. And the feeling will pass. Dysregulation is a fog. Life has weather patterns"
X Link 2024-08-27T16:37Z 21.4K followers, [----] engagements
"Ready to get hurt again not as in ready to take a chance as in begrudgingly aware that caring about anything is inherently vulnerable & therefore guarantees pain but we sort of just choose our full aliveness or we dont. And the latter gets boring"
X Link 2024-09-02T19:35Z 21.4K followers, 20.9K engagements
"Thinking about relational conflict as a temporary recategorization of someone were close to as out-group. So to figure out what future fights with someone might look like pay close attention to how both of you currently relate to people or groups you disidentify with"
X Link 2024-09-05T17:43Z 21.4K followers, [----] engagements
"Healing is about getting in touch with your feelings & instincts. This means becoming more aware of and giving more credit to the parts of yourself that feel resistant to or avoidant of certain energies relational dynamics etc. (as well as the parts pulling you into them)"
X Link 2024-09-07T17:59Z 21.4K followers, [----] engagements
"The more aware of those parts you become the better you get at negotiating boundaries choosing compatible partners & growing up the immature parts of yourself that currently wouldn't be able to pull their weight in the types of relationships you'd naturally want to commit to"
X Link 2024-09-07T17:59Z 21.4K followers, [----] engagements
"One of my biggest takeaways from practicing radical honesty for a while was exactly this. Many things are true. We have no choice but to select which truths we are going to share in which contexts and why. Discernment has to improve alongside self-awareness. One issue with cultivating directness integrity and honesty: i contain multitudes there are like a dozen honest ways to respond to any given thing and it's hard to navigate how honestly and with integrity to choose and express one or two of those dozen honest answers One issue with cultivating directness integrity and honesty: i contain"
X Link 2024-09-10T19:51Z 21.4K followers, 16.9K engagements
"Sure idealizing people is fun but have you tried staying present with the entirety of who someone is and watched your love for them steadily deepen as they come ever more clearly into view"
X Link 2024-09-13T23:22Z 21.4K followers, 24.2K engagements
"What are your best strategies for navigating the anger stage of the grief process (Ideally less on the breathing exercises side of things and more on the I know a place in Toronto where you can smash dishes without harming anyone side of things)"
X Link 2024-09-19T19:02Z 21.4K followers, 15.9K engagements
"For me I think the biggest thing has been building a sense of trust in the feeling of despair. I.e. On a broad level: I used to have a reflexive fear that going into despair would mean Id stay stuck there forever and be perpetually unable to help myself so I would instinctively self regulate away from it. A few years ago I started practicing trying to connect with despair in time-contained periods (specifically I would listen to sad music and think about the pain I was in was going through a breakup at the time then stop at a pre-determined time and go for a hike which I knew was almost"
X Link 2024-09-21T19:07Z 21.4K followers, [----] engagements
"@celeriac Im curious what the tonality was I.e. was this said in jest or offered as a genuine reframe (or a secret third thing)"
X Link 2024-09-26T05:01Z 21.4K followers, [--] engagements
"Whats the most helpful thing youve ever been told by someone else during a hard time"
X Link 2024-09-26T05:01Z 21.4K followers, 48.4K engagements
"During the years where I was intensively unpacking my past patterns wounds etc. what always struck me was how clear it was in retrospect that there were points where all I could have reasonably done was make a mistake. (I.e. Desperate times really do require desperate measures)"
X Link 2024-09-26T16:50Z 21.4K followers, 16K engagements
"The ultimate bottleneck in my life is always always not feeling like myself. When in a present & grounded state the next right move almost always feels clear. When disconnected from myself even the simplest decisions become endlessly complicated"
X Link 2024-09-27T18:28Z 21.4K followers, 12.9K engagements
"When one of my nieces was [--] I remember her explaining to my sister (her mom) I just crying because I very little and so I scared Anyway I think thats the only reason why anybody cries"
X Link 2024-09-28T05:13Z 21.4K followers, [--] engagements
"Insecure attachment as not wanting to make waves in relationships for fear the relationship will crumble. Secure attachment as an ecosystem strong and diverse enough to withstand all weather patterns"
X Link 2024-09-29T18:58Z 21.4K followers, 17K engagements
"Depression as a reliable symptom of unexpressed agency"
X Link 2024-10-07T21:13Z 21.7K followers, 198.5K engagements
"I cant believe how long it took for me in life to recognize the relationship between (my own) sex drive and anger. I.e. in every relationship where I lost attraction I can see in retrospect that I was harbouring repressed anger towards my partner"
X Link 2024-10-23T16:49Z 23.4K followers, 74.2K engagements
"Cannot back this up hard enough. I remember someone once saying in a workshop that a lot of hard-to-vanquish anger is actually gratitude for the role someone played in our lives which we havent allowed ourselves to make fully conscious & therefore mourn the loss of. If you're still angry at an ex and can't let it go try offering compassion to the part of you that still loves them If you're still angry at an ex and can't let it go try offering compassion to the part of you that still loves them"
X Link 2024-11-01T18:59Z 21.2K followers, 276K engagements
"One of the only tangible dreams I have for the middle portion of my life is owning a big house in the mountains (probably Colorado) for my contemplative seasons and another home by the ocean (probably California) for my productive ones"
X Link 2024-11-08T01:59Z 21.3K followers, [----] engagements
"I love Toronto so much in terms of people and community. But going through a rough season right now emotionally has me hyper aware of how much connection to nature matters to me spiritually. I dont think I can do another 5ish years without mountains"
X Link 2024-11-08T02:03Z 21.3K followers, [----] engagements
"The correct way to order a bookshelf is not by genre or color/height but by which books which form unexpected cliques if they met at a party"
X Link 2024-11-12T01:15Z 21.3K followers, [----] engagements
"A fun feature of my creative brain is that it absolutely does not care if I live or die it just wants to create what it wants to create at any cost"
X Link 2024-11-12T19:06Z 21.3K followers, [----] engagements
"I have had a particular YT video cooking in my mind for weeks now and my brain just hits me with straight-up brain fog if I try to do anything other than work on it even though it is far from the most valuable use of my time atm. Have decided to just give up & surrender to it"
X Link 2024-11-12T19:06Z 21.3K followers, [----] engagements
"Catching up on the discourse around men going to sex workers for intimacy needs getting met & finding myself curious about what if any unexamined role attachment might play. I.e. A lot of avoidant-spectrum types feel more relaxed around intimacy when it's with relative strangers than with attachment figures (partners close loved ones etc.). But many avoidants also have a blind spot around the fact that they are the ones doing the pulling away/detaching in their relationships as they get closer. So I do wonder a bit about whether this phenomenon of a lot of men getting their intimacy needs"
X Link 2024-11-19T02:54Z 21.2K followers, 16.9K engagements
"Yearly reminder that avoidants are not [--] anxiously attached people in a trenchcoat. It is not that they are constantly burgeoning with unspoken feelings it's that their vulnerability is hidden from them too. The work lies in learning to sensitize/tap into it in the 1st place. The more I learn about avoidant attached people the more I feel bad for them. Imagine having so much to say to someone you love yet no way to say it because vulnerability and intimacy dont feel safe. The more I learn about avoidant attached people the more I feel bad for them. Imagine having so much to say to someone you"
X Link 2024-11-25T18:27Z 21.3K followers, 47.6K engagements
"Thinking a lot about the concept of maturity lately. I imagine for most the ages of 25-30 are illuminating for recognizing whether you're on the path to maturing naturally or whether you need to do some intentional course-correcting. ๐งต"
X Link 2024-12-03T18:09Z 21.3K followers, 43.5K engagements
"When we have our needs met well enough at each developmental stage we naturally shift out of a 'gimme' mindset as we age and into a mindset of appreciation & contribution. This is the natural maturity track"
X Link 2024-12-03T18:09Z 21.3K followers, [----] engagements
"If our developmental needs are not met in a good-enough way we stay stuck in some aspect of the 'gimme' mindset regardless of age. We have to learn to pursue healthy ways of getting our needs met as adults before we can release ourselves back to the natural maturation track"
X Link 2024-12-03T18:09Z 21.3K followers, [----] engagements
"This year I have decided to simply love winter (a season Ive historically abhorred) and its working remarkably well"
X Link 2024-12-06T18:43Z 21.3K followers, [----] engagements
"My strategy thus far: - overdressing for warmth every time I go outside - optimizing my living space to be SUPER (borderline unreasonably) cozy & comfortable & heated like the desert - using the dark evenings as an excuse to giga-prioritize rest and indulgence in comfort activities like reading taking baths & just overall slowing way down and reducing my self-expectations to get shit done (again much more than what feels reasonable). This is prbly the most impactful one"
X Link 2024-12-06T20:16Z 21.3K followers, [---] engagements
"I dont think Claude/chatGPT/LLMs are a good substitute for therapy or complex human relationships but I do think theyre a good replacement for sitting in isolation with shameful feelings & I have a feeling the latter is their true competitor much more so than the former"
X Link 2024-12-08T01:57Z 21.3K followers, 15.3K engagements
""I never got the memo that acting smart was about making people feel paralyzed. I was only ever in it to spark some hope." - Timothy Morton"
X Link 2024-12-09T23:27Z 21.3K followers, [----] engagements
"I've been thinking (quite seriously) about fucking around & starting an advice column. Have been getting chatGPT to prompt with Qs for practice but I think I need to feel the aliveness of real questions to truly dig in. Leave me yours here https://form.jotform.com/243438319360053 https://form.jotform.com/243438319360053"
X Link 2024-12-10T02:01Z 21.6K followers, 13.2K engagements
"How to be more secure and less toxic in relationships: A #threadapalooza of most of what I've learned from [--] years in the attachment healing trenches ๐งต"
X Link 2024-12-31T15:43Z 21.6K followers, 217.2K engagements
"18. The fear of commitment is usually just a fear of committing to whatever version of ourselves we think we have to be in order to stay in a relationship. If you are fixated on the question Should I stay or leave it might be more helpful to ask the question How can I express more of myself in this relationship This is especially true if you chronically fear commitment"
X Link 2024-12-31T15:43Z 21.7K followers, 12.7K engagements
"19. Pay attention to how you react to feeling disappointed betrayed abandoned ashamed or mistreated in a relationship. These are the instances where were most prone to justifying our own toxic behaviors because they started it/they deserve it"
X Link 2024-12-31T15:43Z 21.7K followers, [----] engagements
"26. It is a lot easier to get explicit about what you want and select for it in the dating process than it is to try to change someone once youve grown attached. Get clear on how you like to give and receive love and then go looking for someone who enjoys doing the same. Do not delude yourself about someones potential and then feel victimized later"
X Link 2024-12-31T16:35Z 21.7K followers, [----] engagements
"27. Have standards for how you will treat people that you uphold regardless of how you are treated. This does not mean letting people walk all over you. It means staying centered in your own integrity and drawing boundaries around situations that threaten to elicit an unhealthy response from you"
X Link 2024-12-31T16:35Z 21.7K followers, [----] engagements
"49. If you start to change for the better and it feels like people are trying to pull you back down into your old unhealthy habits dont immediately assume theyre trying to sabotage you. They might just have no idea how to connect with the new version of you so are making the same old connection bids theyre used to you responding to. Help people adjust to you changing by being explicit about the changes youre making and what you'd love to connect on them with now"
X Link 2024-12-31T20:24Z 21.7K followers, [----] engagements
"50. We teach people how to treat us yes. But even more foundationally: people intuit how to treat us based on how we treat ourselves. The way we draw boundaries advocate for and otherwise respect ourselves shows other people what matters to us and how to respect us in turn"
X Link 2024-12-31T20:24Z 21.7K followers, [----] engagements
"And I think that's all I've got for this year's #threadapalooza Didn't quite make it to [---] but felt I'd be beating a dead horse by continuing. Thanks for reading if you made it this far. I love you godspeed and happy New Years. ๐ฅโค"
X Link 2024-12-31T21:57Z 21.7K followers, [----] engagements
"@sensefulronin sighing in the direction of the cn tower"
X Link 2025-01-01T20:11Z 21.7K followers, [---] engagements
"I used to think that healing from fearful-avoidance would mean my feelings would at long last bend to the will of my reason. It turned out to be the opposite: my reason now more than ever acknowledges reveres & strives to live in alignment with the deep truths of my body"
X Link 2025-01-02T18:51Z 21.7K followers, 11.1K engagements
"First unreasonable act of the year is taking the entirety of January off and tending only to my depression which has been mounting throughout [----]. Ive been walking 2-3 hrs/day & writing 3-4 hrs/day (both voluntarily) and it feels like starting the year on a giant exhale. Ive decided my word of the year for [----] is unreasonable. Ive decided my word of the year for [----] is unreasonable"
X Link 2025-01-06T22:04Z 21.7K followers, 22.6K engagements
"I went to an event the night before I posted this where I asked people to gaslight me into thinking winter in Toronto is awesome and I got a bunch of advice on how to love it & have been implementing it all & it is still working remarkably well. This year I have decided to simply love winter (a season Ive historically abhorred) and its working remarkably well. This year I have decided to simply love winter (a season Ive historically abhorred) and its working remarkably well"
X Link 2025-01-11T18:52Z 21.7K followers, 16K engagements
"What Im surfacing this year is that I have legit learned helplessness around winter. I grew up in a town where it was regularly [---] to [---] degrees Celsius in winter & nothing helped with the cold. Didnt matter how you dressed etc. Im marveling now that winter can be enjoyed"
X Link 2025-01-11T19:24Z 21.7K followers, [----] engagements
"The whole fuck around/find out thing has a divine order embedded in it"
X Link 2025-01-17T16:44Z 21.6K followers, [----] engagements
"I always thought that being a good partner was synonymous to keeping my needs to a minimum. But something I realized through dating other avoidants is that in order to fall in love I need to feel deeply useful to someone - like they are open to me having a profound impact on them and vice versa"
X Link 2025-02-26T06:07Z 21.8K followers, 30.8K engagements
"Just got back from staying at a hotel that had such obscenely good lighting I could barely enjoy my stay. Just felt guilty for not filming any YT videos the whole time"
X Link 2025-02-27T07:53Z 23K followers, [----] engagements
"There was a year of my life where my favorite icebreaker question was 'What's your favorite thing' - a question many struggled to answer - but I once posed it to a photographer who looked me dead in the eyes and w [--] hesitation replied 'Good lighting.' [--] yrs later I understand"
X Link 2025-02-27T07:56Z 23K followers, [----] engagements
"Healing is not meant to leave us in a spot where the only skill in our arsenal is unpacking & analyzing our emotions. The idea is to develop that skill in service of becoming more flexible courageous and capable of adapting to the lives we actually want"
X Link 2025-03-02T17:44Z 23K followers, [----] engagements
"Yess I remember when I updated my partner/relationship ideal from minimal conflict relationship to relationship where we both appreciate & want to learn as much as possible from conflict. 10/10 update. Sure love is supposed to be work. But have you considered that work is supposed to be fun Sure love is supposed to be work. But have you considered that work is supposed to be fun"
X Link 2025-03-08T20:44Z 23.4K followers, 18.5K engagements
"@baoteching It feels sort of like clearing a road that I can now run down freely Does the stress for you come from now having to complete the tasks you set out or something else"
X Link 2025-04-07T13:20Z 21.8K followers, [---] engagements
"Okay but completely unironically this is what I think almost every time I hear people talk about biohacking/longevity. someone should tell the people desperate to extend their lifespans that you can do this by increasing the meaning-density of your days and the breadth of experience you're noticing someone should tell the people desperate to extend their lifespans that you can do this by increasing the meaning-density of your days and the breadth of experience you're noticing"
X Link 2025-04-13T11:40Z 22K followers, [----] engagements
"I'm running my first in-person retreat this August It's a deep-dive on attachment theory through the lens of Radical Honesty & Shadow work. It'll be near Boulder Colorado (my favorite place) co-hosted by two people whose work has personally changed my life. We're keeping the group size SMALL so I wanted to launch it here first ๐ฅฐ Early bird pricing is available for the first [--] spots. https://www.heidipriebe.com/attachment-intensive https://www.heidipriebe.com/attachment-intensive"
X Link 2025-04-29T14:34Z 22.6K followers, [---] engagements
"Um holy shit we just sold out of early bird tickets in the first [--] hours ๐ฑ๐ We have [--] tickets left at standard pricing (And I CANNOT WAIT to see so many of you at this) I'm running my first in-person retreat this August It's a deep-dive on attachment theory through the lens of Radical Honesty & Shadow work. It'll be near Boulder Colorado (my favorite place) co-hosted by two people whose work has personally changed my life. We're keeping I'm running my first in-person retreat this August It's a deep-dive on attachment theory through the lens of Radical Honesty & Shadow work. It'll be near"
X Link 2025-04-29T22:21Z 22.3K followers, [----] engagements
"One thing that I've noticed seems to unite almost all fearful-avoidants is a preoccupation with the search for meaning. When under stress this often manifests as ADHD-type symptoms: the system is desperately trying to determine where it ought to focus its attention and direct its resources. In moments of less imminent distress it can manifest as philosophical exploration (often done through writing creative work or just good old-fashioned engagement with theory). Because the unconscious mind is not cohered on what matters (the way all other attachment styles are however counter-productively"
X Link 2025-05-02T14:28Z 23.4K followers, 45K engagements
"Every once in a while I see a thread exposing how digital nomadism is ACTUALLY TERRIBLE AND V STRESSFUL and its like oh dude - did you try to do that with a nervous system that actually works Nooo no man - we just invented that to give the fearful-avoidants something to do while everyone was starting families"
X Link 2025-05-06T12:53Z 22.6K followers, 28.2K engagements
"For a period of about [--] years I made rest the main priority in my life (this was not easy to do on a practical level). My nervous system changed drastically and with that my focus discernment & execution sharpened tenfold. deeply interested in hearing from people who have made what they consider quantum leaps in personal performance and how they achieved these jumps deeply interested in hearing from people who have made what they consider quantum leaps in personal performance and how they achieved these jumps"
X Link 2025-05-07T03:30Z 22.6K followers, 406K engagements
"A lot of what people think of as anger is in fact desperation in a trenchcoat. Desperation can deploy anger in service of getting one's needs met externally. But clean anger is a different beast. It is the 'No' energy that holds boundaries in place & sets change into motion"
X Link 2025-05-07T04:17Z 22.6K followers, 10.6K engagements
"I thought the whole scarf discourse was hilarious and deeply silly and then had a full five hour argument with someone I know irl about it and am now convinced the topic has some mystical argument-inducing curse baked into it bc why are we all losing our minds including me"
X Link 2025-05-17T20:07Z 22.6K followers, 131.2K engagements
"I cannot express how excited I'm getting about this based on how many of my mutuals have signed up for it ๐ญ๐คฉ. I think I'm not going to launch it to my Youtube audience at all this round I'm sooo into the tpot vibe that's taking shape I'm running my first in-person retreat this August It's a deep-dive on attachment theory through the lens of Radical Honesty & Shadow work. It'll be near Boulder Colorado (my favorite place) co-hosted by two people whose work has personally changed my life. We're keeping I'm running my first in-person retreat this August It's a deep-dive on attachment theory"
X Link 2025-05-18T23:59Z 22.6K followers, [----] engagements
"Really teetering on the edge of becoming one of those people who falls in love with ChatGPT bc I dumped a giant amount of info about what I have to get done in the next few days + what's going on in my personal life into the chat and without missing a beat it made me a concise hour-by-hour schedule of the next [--] hours that included regular breaks for 'screaming into a pillow.'"
X Link 2025-05-19T05:58Z 22.6K followers, [----] engagements
"Something I want to work on in the next year or two is making my interpersonal needs more conscious for myself (and pursue them more intentionally). I think I've long been in denial about the amount of: friendship romance co-regulation quality time and just overall camaraderie I want/need in my day-to-day life. I don't think I can or need to fix that overnight: just going to live with it as an intention for a while and see how my life starts changing shape"
X Link 2025-05-20T03:56Z 22.6K followers, [----] engagements
"@MilanMeck Ohhhhh - okay going to sit with this one. Like its for getting the pre frontal cortex back online kinda thing - not for those of us who cling to it while dissociating from the physical body as a default trauma response ๐"
X Link 2025-06-02T18:07Z 22.6K followers, [---] engagements
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